give up??

By phatgirl Latest Reply 2011-02-17 22:36:49 -0600
Started 2010-06-17 19:14:00 -0500

Hello all!
I have told you all I have benn trying to loose weight.. I cut out my diet coke.. cut WAYYYYYYYYYYY back on sodium. cut out red meat, bread,potatoes, pasta,mayo,sugar,i started using.. stevia,raw sugar,rice dream instead of milk.alot of (rust color) sea salt when used.started VITAMINS GALORE!!!! and im NO BETTER than before!!!! I stuck with this several months and only 5 pounds lost. still no energy. still miserable feeling. I HATE IT!!!! I FEEL SOOOOOO FAT & UGLY!!!!!! Does a person just have to give up????I feel like a HUGE FAILURE!

9 replies

REH2006 2011-02-17 22:36:49 -0600 Report

Don't give up on your self! Don't compare your self to others or a younger version of you. Accept your self as you are, make small changes, then praise your self (pat your self on the back) for each small step of progress. Change takes time.

rayrivera2009 2010-07-21 11:01:52 -0500 Report

Never give up! Our bodies have been trained over years of abuse and poor eating habits. It may take a long time to get back into a good pattern of diet and exercise, and even though we are doing our best, our bodies sometimes take a bit longer to catch up. Even if you haven't lost a lot of weight yet, your body is retraining itself to heal and get better and fight off urges to eat bad foods. Keep going, you have support!!

bettymachete 2010-06-18 08:12:59 -0500 Report

OMG! Girl you are lovely, throw away the self loathing mirror you're looking into because it is obviously wrong. Set small weight/workout goals and eat yourself silly on good things like veggies, almonds, beans, fish etc. This post absolutely breaks my heart, I have felt your frustrations and these feelings of failure. I know my body isn't reflecting who I am inside. I am sure this is something you may be feeling as well. DON'T Give up! You are a beautiful lady from what I see, I wish sometimes that we could see ourselves through others eyes.

GabbyPA 2010-06-18 09:07:11 -0500 Report

I agree 100% with Betty! Sometimes we just try too hard.

Focus on your BG levels. Those are the most important thing right now. If those numbers are in a good place, then take that victory and be happy. Like Skip said. Do one thing at a time. If it doesn't work, set it aside and try another thing. We find that we are continually experimenting with our own selves. Don't give up, just look at it as an adventure. That is what I do, and it makes it more fun. It also lets me push beyond some comfort zones and that gives me great cause for celebration, even if it doesn't work, it makes me a better person for trying.

SkipT 2010-06-18 06:48:04 -0500 Report

I think you are doing too many things with your diet at one time. I follow a low carb diet created by Dr. Richard K. Bernstein. You can check out his book online at:

On his program I was able to lose over 60 lbs and have kept it off for almost three years now. I was also able to
wean myself (with doctor's approval) off both of my diabetic meds.

Don't give up!

Diane987 2010-06-17 21:26:35 -0500 Report

I can understand how you feel. I have been trying to lose weight since, well kindergarten when I realized I was much bigger than the other kids. Needless to say that was a long time ago. I consistently gained weight and then became diabetic around my 21st birthday. It has been a life long struggle and no matter what I did nothing seemed to work. But things are different now.

It wasn't until recently that I started losing weight consistently with diabetic plan. I have lost 25 pounds over the past two months. Ediets is pretty inexpensive, especially when you consider they provide a menu plan with shopping list and they have a fitness plan for you to follow. Nutritionists and trainers are available to call or email with questions. You can also change your diet plan if you wish to one of the many plans they have.

I have the same user name on ediets so when you join come find me and we will do this together.

Good luck and God Bless,


kdroberts 2010-06-17 21:18:57 -0500 Report

Do you take any medications? Have you worked out how many calories per day you eat and compared that to how many you need based on your activity level? Why did you switch to rice dream? What do you use milk for? How often do you eat?

RAYT721 2010-06-17 20:09:55 -0500 Report

I am not a doctor nor a dietitian but there are some changes that you haven't mentioned that may be at the root of the problem you've been facing. Are you eating breakfasts? Are you eating enough calories, fat, carbs and protein to give you the energy you need? Sometimes the mood is what's holding back the weight loss objectives you're seeking. Are you relaxing? Are you exercising? Are you getting support and encouragement??? It's okay to make swaps on some things but you have to do it for YOU. When cutting out and cutting back on certain things you are lacking the overall calories, fat, protein, and such that your body needs to function and the carbs your body needs for energy. Maybe you've gone too far in cutting out some things without giving yourself proper nutrition? Vitamins are great as supplements but not for meal replacements. Take an overall look at your caloric intake. If you have access to a dietitian go for it. Your body is different from my body and every other body. You'll find what works and what doesn't. So far you know what isn't working. When at first you don't succeed, try try again. You'll get there! Sometimes it helps to be your own best friend. Would you tell your best friend to just give up? Probably not. Thus, I don't think that's an option. Go for it!!! One pound at a time. Slow and steady wins the race.

MAYS 2010-06-17 19:39:04 -0500 Report

Hello !

What is your level of physical activity ?
Losing weight can be difficult for some and easier for others.
It's a combination of Exercise, Proper Nutrition, and Confidence in yourself, don't give up on yourself, you can do it, it won't happen over night, but it won't happen if you give up !


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