Be an "I CAN" diabetic

By GabbyPA Latest Reply 2008-09-22 12:43:55 -0500
Started 2008-08-24 04:10:11 -0500

I was writing to one of our new members and as we spoke, I found another jewel I wanted to share. Here is what I told her:

"I guess the other thing too is to look at what we are dealing with not as a "can't have" life, but a "yes I can" life. What I mean is that if you are always telling people what you can't have, can't gets depressing for you and frustrating for them. What I try to do (not always very successful at it) is emphisise what I CAN have. What I CAN do with them. It helps eliviate the tension that can come when people just don't know what to do. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.
It's like my husband who is in a wheel chair. When he acts like a jerk because someone does something that effects him or his ability to get somewhere I try to remind him that he can be a good example of what a person with disabilities can be. Or he can be a jerk and make people stereo type all people in wheelchairs as jerks…because people do that. Maybe not intentionally, but we all do it. So I try to be the best example of a diabetic I can be."

13 replies

my2boyzdd 2008-08-29 14:05:08 -0500 Report

Awesome and very inspirational. It does get very depressing to go through and tell someone what you can't do and it;s hard for me because growing up we were not allowed to use the word "can't". To my mom everything is possible. So I share the I can attitude.


GabbyPA 2008-09-08 06:38:49 -0500 Report

That is fantastic. I know I don't always use it, but when I do, in more ways my life is richer. I am a silver lining kind of gal, and when we are that way, we can stand out, inspire and encourage...what better thing to do in life than lift someone in need? Glad you are an "I CAN" person too. Tell your mom thanks for that foundation.

Amy Tenderich
Amy Tenderich 2008-08-27 11:11:46 -0500 Report

Great wisdom, thank you!

You guys might also be interested in a new online newsletter all about "success with diabetes and life through personal motivation, self-discipline, and establishing world-class habits..."

It's called Mind Over Mellitus, and is found at


GabbyPA 2008-08-27 11:55:23 -0500 Report

What a wonderful article. So eleoquent and right on the money. I wanted to become a member, but couldn't find a way to get registered. Do you know how to do that?

Amy Tenderich
Amy Tenderich 2008-08-28 12:31:33 -0500 Report

Hmm, it's not obvious on the site, is it? I can look into it and let you know.


GabbyPA 2008-09-22 12:43:55 -0500 Report

Hey Amy,
did you ever find a way to sign up for this site? I still can't figure out how to become a member?

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-08-29 15:44:07 -0500 Report

I read the article and also waiting for a reply. I also wanted to say this article is good to distribe to new diabetics to start out with motivation.

butterfly_8 2008-08-26 13:01:16 -0500 Report

Hi Gabby,
and your are an excellent example.I do look forward to seeing your remaarks and sharing. It is always good advice.
Thanks for being you.

GabbyPA 2008-08-27 08:58:32 -0500 Report

You are so sweet to say so. I have to say that I always look for your smiling face in a discussion too. You just seem to have such a great attitude about things and it always helps me keep an eye on my not so shining moments.

DonnaAnn 2008-08-25 01:06:26 -0500 Report

how true that is. I myself just the other day was telling someone the list of can nots for me to eat. what a great attitude, thanks for the reminder.

GabbyPA 2008-08-25 11:45:26 -0500 Report

It is an easy trap to fall into, because we look at that way ourselves. Durning my 30 day veggie challenge the first days were so hard because I focused on the "NO MEAT" part instead of the wonderful veggie part. I am still looking forward to eating a nice piece of pork, but I found that I am really craving veggies. So at meal time, I don't ACT deprived because I'm NOT deprived. It helps at meal time a lot to be that way.

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