does anyone one ever feel alone/

symone-larea
By symone-larea Latest Reply 2013-01-25 18:22:52 -0600
Started 2010-06-02 14:15:34 -0500

i feel alone sometimes. like me and my friends could go out and i feel like someone is staring at me when we sit down. like they know i have it and think its contagious or something. or think i am shooting up

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22 replies

mo91108
mo91108 2013-01-25 18:22:52 -0600 Report

I have had to explain to plenty of people that I am not shooting up, but simply trying to keep myself. Don't worry so much about the other people who make judgements before they fully understand the situation. Just think to yourself, "Who cares if people stare, I am keepng myself alive!" You are never alone, ven though you may feel that way at times, this is what this website is for. So you can get help and know that you are never alone!

Gabby
GabbyPA 2013-01-25 10:01:17 -0600 Report

One thing I have learned is that the closer you are to the creation of something the more mistakes you are aware of. What I mean is this. Because you deal with it every day, you see it every day, you think others do too. You might be amazed to find out that there are a lot of people who have no clue and don't see a thing unless you allow them to see it. People are pretty oblivious in many respects.

So unless you have a big sign hanging on your neck saying I am a diabetic and I inject insulin and test my blood, many won't even know. And if they do notice, then it's an open door for you to share and educate them in what you are doing. Make them feel special by sharing your special "secret" with them.

lacat87
lacat87 2012-03-17 21:57:37 -0500 Report

I also feel alone but it's because I'm unique in the way I got type 1 diabetes. but yeah, I feel alone also when I have to check my bg and then inject my insulin when I'm out with friends/family at restaurants. Feels like I'm the only one who has to do this and feel depressed at times. But I have never had anyone say anything to me when I'm in the bathroom checking my bg or injecting my insulin. Wish I could get the pump, but can't afford it. That would relieve one trip to bathroom.

BobbieNJ1000
BobbieNJ1000 2012-03-17 20:53:13 -0500 Report

At first I felt pretty conspicuous when I went out to eat, but that feeling has passed now and I don't worry about what people think. But I still feel alone sometimes, because I'm the only one who has to be aware of the disease all the time. Even friends and family can - and do - forget about it. My head is always filled with numbers and planning.

veggieD
veggieD 2012-03-17 16:15:39 -0500 Report

not anymore. When I first got cursed with this stooopid thing, the teens in the church youth group treated me extra nice like I was going to die soon. but now, it's no big deal and people still don't understand. and offer me high sugar, high carb items. oh, come on, it's only a little piece! you can eat it! they say.
you are not alone, though, we don't go out anymore to eat, because everything has too much sugar, fat, carbs, salt. I just feel like eating out of a garden like a rabbit. to stay alive and healthy.

jigsaw
jigsaw 2012-03-17 06:41:49 -0500 Report

I am healthier then some, and not as healthy as others. No one goes through this life without ailments of some sort ! We all have something that lurks within. You are far far from being alone ! Simply put, you just don't know what the other guy has or what he might get ! If you did know, you might be very happy to be in your own shoes!!!

JSJB
JSJB 2012-03-17 02:53:49 -0500 Report

I never had that feeling that someone was staring at me because of my problem.I really don't care what people think about me. It is my life and if they don't like what they see they can move on.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-06-14 15:33:33 -0500 Report

Dealing with diabetes is never easy at first and frustrating afterwards, but some sort of communication is necessary in order to combat that feeling of loneliness and despair that accompanies it sometimes.

Keep doing what is necessary, for those who know, know you and understand, fine, for those who may be passing judgement out of ignorance, just pass them by.

~Mays~

symone-larea
symone-larea 2010-06-14 15:14:58 -0500 Report

thank you all so much it helps to know that there are people out there willing to help by listening and helping with a solution

ccritch
ccritch 2010-06-04 12:23:44 -0500 Report

I can relate to that as well. I know we feel isolated and lonely because no one understand what we diabetics go through everyday and every minute of our lives. So they look at you weird like you are a walking disease or put you down for being a diabetic. I go through this with my mom and sisters they don't understand and it hurts when they say get over it or your being a guinea pig or lose weight you will not be a diabetic anymore. It is lack of education and no knowledge of what we feel or go through. I have recently been going through a lot but thanks to Gabby, John, and all my friends here on DC they have helped me and are continuing to help me love myself more by the love and understanding they all have for diabetics, their inputs, stories, the support, emotionally and motivation is helping me each and everyday to know that I am not alone I have friends all across the world that understand what I am going through and what you are going through, so I know say I am a diabetic! and I am learning everyday. And happy to be a part of this community
of friends who I am greatful everyday!

You are not Alone, We are here with you and understand what you are going through!

Good Luck and God Bless

mamacita8724
mamacita8724 2010-06-04 11:23:34 -0500 Report

You are for sure not alone! It is very hard to deal with but its your life and health. So what let them think what they want you have to have your insulin and thats whats important. I had to accept that I may be a little different from everyone but now these days most people are aware of diabeties and care. I wouldn't worry about people staring cause its your life that you have to take care of. Be strong it gets better! Just remember you are not alone many people suffer from diabeties and its not easy.

Diane987
Diane987 2010-06-03 14:38:07 -0500 Report

Hi Symone,

You are never alone. Chances are good that no matter where you go, someone else either has diabetes or knows someone who does. I used to take insulin twice a day to control my type II diabetes. My schedule made me have to take at least one shot while I was at work. I would sit right there at the lunch table, holding a conversation, like nothing is going on while I stick a needle in my belly or arm. I never cared what people thought aout me because I knew I was doing what I had to do to survive. Those looks actually used to make me laugh, but it also gave me the opportunity to educate people about diabetes.

Each of us has to find our own way to live our life and cope with our diseases and conditions. I see in your profile you go to church. Maybe you start there with educating people in your church about diabetes. Many people don't even know that they have diabetes. You may find that by sharing what you know, you will help other people along the way and find that you really aren't alone.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-06-03 20:27:21 -0500 Report

The education class sounds like a great idea. Not just for you, but because there are so many people who don't know they are walking around diabetic. Start up a support group and before you know it, you won't be alone at all.

Harlen
Harlen 2010-06-02 20:20:28 -0500 Report

Hello
When I was on shot's I would play it up got to have my fix lol
After a short time every one caught on to what I was doing and had a great gigle over it . So if somone acts like they are put off by my shots I play it up lol
I thank this site and others and all the frends I have made that I never feel alone there is always somone to chat with
so if you feel that way please drop me a line I am on 4 to 5 times a day and I will respond.
Best wishes
Harlen

roshy
roshy 2012-03-17 21:37:36 -0500 Report

funny story that i think some shooters would get a giiggle from!! ive always been the type to shot in public, the main reason being is im too feckin lazy to go off somewhere private to do it!! but in anyways at lunch time in college i was getting ready to have lunch and took out my needle and fired away and standing beside me was 6 foot five bloke built like a tank and as he caught sight of the needle he started swaying and sure enough he colapsed at the sight !! when he came round he was completely mortified and apologised for making a scene but he happened to have a severe needle phobia!!!

so the lesson learned from that experience was a tiny pre warning to strangers who you are eating beside that you are about to pop a needle could save you some trouble!

petals
petals 2010-06-02 19:20:26 -0500 Report

Sure, I think we all have felt that way at one time or another. Just don't worry about what other people think. Just be yourself, and take care of yourself no matter where you are.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-06-02 19:01:31 -0500 Report

I think it is very natural to feel alone sometimes. Specially when we have to do things for ourselves that others notice. When I test in public it is awkward. I try to avoid it actually. Sometimes I feel like a broken spoke in a wheel, but I just have to push beyond that and know that I am still very viable and very able. I might have to do a few things differently than the people I am around, but if I don't make them feel uncomfortable, then I tend to feel comfortable as well.

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2010-06-10 10:27:22 -0500 Report

Yes it is very normal to feel alone sometimes,But as far as feeling alone because of having Diabetes is a mistake.You have an illness That effects what you eat or drink,but you are doing something about it,that should make you feel good about youself. Ther are probably people sitting at your table That don't know they have diabetes,but mabe by example You might give them the idea to get checked. You have friends here and with our help and encouragement I hope you find the strength to be proud of yourself for you accomplishment. Robert