I know this is off subject for this site but am looking for help.

nakedbaboon
By nakedbaboon Latest Reply 2010-05-23 15:39:54 -0500
Started 2010-05-20 17:50:39 -0500

My wife and I have been trying to have a kid for about 4 years now. Well we got pregnant Jan. of this year. We wound up having a miscarriage and now I think she is having post-pardom depression? She will not go to the doctor about it. I have offered to make the appointment and go with her as well.

Any one been through this and any tips on how to make it easier on her?


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Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-05-20 21:09:39 -0500 Report

My mom didn't have a miscarriage, but when my younger brother died in a horrific accident, it really changed her so much. She tried to deal with it alone for a long time. It took her almost 2 years before she finally got some help from her doctor. It is hard, because it's something that she thought she should be able to overcome. I think she felt like she failed to deal with it and felt bad for that. Getting help has to come from her. Grief is so hard of a thing to deal with. Be there for her. The time will come. Maybe she could become a part of a support group? I am sure there must be others who have endured her pain who could just be that shoulder to cry on.

nakedbaboon
nakedbaboon 2010-05-21 11:12:07 -0500 Report

It would be better I think if she had a friend that went through the same thing just to help out. She still thinks it is her fault. I keep telling her it is not. It is proven statistcally most women lose their first child. She just wants to blame herself.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-05-22 18:58:19 -0500 Report

Does the hospital have or know of a support group for women who have miscarried? I would think they would be aware of something as it is such a traumatic thing to go through.

petals
petals 2010-05-20 20:45:13 -0500 Report

I have been there, she is depressed and she needs to get help. I didn't at first, big mistake, I was very depressed for almost two years before I saw a doctor. Do what you can to encourage her to get help, there is no shame in needing the help. I am here for you if you need to talk.

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