Support & Accountability

By ccritch Latest Reply 2010-09-20 02:19:09 -0500
Started 2010-05-19 09:33:41 -0500

Hi, all

I had a lenghtly conversation with my mom, I was to visit in June, however, I will not be able to since I am going to be getting an insulin pump and insulin pump education classes will be during the week of my vacation. I decided that my health is more important than a vacation, I can still visit during the weekends and stuff. However, my thinks I am being used as a guinea pig, that I have created all these problems myself and that I should get over it and watch Dr. Oz! I don't have anything against Dr. Oz but telling people if you lose weight you will be diabetic free is incorrect. You will curve the disease but you will have it. My mom says that I must know more than her. She knows nothing about Diabetes only what she hears and sees on TV. She made me feel really sad and I said I am a Diabetic! I live with diabtes for 9 years now, I am a Diabetic! get it! She does not understand. I thought my mom would understand and be happy that I am taking care of myself and not make me feel bad tha I can't visit her. I just visited her in March for 3 days. I now it is not enough but that is all I can do right now. Besides traveling 8 hours is a lot for me, I drive the whole way home with my daughter and dogs. It is tiring. They never visit me ever.

Not looking for pity. Just support Thanks

14 replies

Guardianstone 2010-09-20 02:11:14 -0500 Report

You are in a pickle.
My mother was a nurse for about 28 years. She worked as a ward nurse, then a cert. OR nurse. I thought she would understand when I told her what my doctor had said.
She told me it was all in my head, I didn't have anything wrong. I wanted attention.
I understand your problem, boy do I understand.
Parents can be . . . well . . . Don't need to finish that.
Patience is in great demand.
Take a few deep breaths, calm your mind, go to your safe place. When you have centered yourself call your mom.
Let her know what you are feeling, what you need from her, and what you don't want.
She may not listen. So sad for her. If she does listen, so glad for you both. It can eather greatly inhance your relationship or widen the gap/ or close it completely.
Hope you find something useful in all the rambling.
Gods love
Guardian stone

PRP 2010-05-20 06:35:18 -0500 Report

This is what I had written in another thread about coping with diabetes when I was first diagnosed. I thought it fits perfectly with this thread so I copied it .


In fact I stopped calling it a disease and now call it a genetic anomaly. I have been reading "The first Year - Type 2 Diabetes An essential guide fore the newly diagnosed." by Gretchen Becker. I like they way she puts it into perspective. After reading couple of chapters I agree with her line of thinking too. Diabetes is not my fault. It is simply one of those bad breaks. I got and it is not going away. I got to deal with this the same way I deal with not being 6 and 1/2 feet tall and will need a ladder every time I need to reach the top shelf.


Maybe when you next visit you mom you should bring the book I mentioned as a gift for her to read!!


Emma2412 2010-05-23 13:29:07 -0500 Report

Yes, I read that book, too, and in fact talked about it here on another discussion. I think Gretchen's books are great because she's diabetic and really knows what it's all about from a diabetic's standpoint. Diabetes is not something anybody does to themselves. Over the past few years, I've been hearing things like you've got to have the diabetes gene in order to get diabetes. So, I agree. It's not our fault we have the disease. I also think it's a great idea to bring the book as a gift to your Mom, ccritch, the next time you can visit her or send it to her before you visit so that she can read it before you get there.

petals 2010-05-20 01:29:00 -0500 Report

Girl, your family sounds like mine!! Give your self some time away from them. You take care of yourself, no one else can do that but you. And your mom will just have to deal with it.

GabbyPA 2010-05-19 14:02:56 -0500 Report

Girl just need to get away from all the hassles of your family for a bit. Don't keep letting them beat you up. You are better than that.

Yes, you DO know more than your mom does about diabetes. You should not be afraid to tell her that. When people around us have misconceptions, we need to set them straight. Not in a mean or ugly way, but to correct the information. You live it 24/7. They watch it on TV? Come on. We all know how reliable TV is. LOL!

I want to see that spark in your eye...go get 'em girl!

ccritch 2010-05-19 14:20:21 -0500 Report

Thanks Gabby! :D

I emotionally am greatful for you and all my friends and everyone on Diabetic Connect I don't know how I would have coped without being able to share my emotions, accountabilities, and all the great thinks we can talk about and share with oneanother. It really helps me and I feel like I am not alone and someone out there knows what I am going through. Thank you all so much for the support and All your kind words, it makes going home to my family so much easier without the stress. I really Appreciate it! Thanks to whomever started DC It is a great website.

Thanks to Each and Everyone! My Diabetic Families! {:D

Guardianstone 2010-09-20 02:19:09 -0500 Report

I just made a comment to your May post. I didn't see when it was originaly sent It out. Sorry for the post.
Guardian stone

alanbossman 2010-05-19 11:38:22 -0500 Report

Sorry your mom is just not understanding about you being diabetic . Also Dr. Oz is a md. not a endocrinologist. Endos treat more people who have diabeties. I hope and pray that your mom will understand you and your diabetes.

ccritch 2010-05-19 11:50:30 -0500 Report

Thanks Alan. I know I wish she did understand. What is sad is my 7 year old understands more than my mom. She was looking forward to summer in NYC with my family. She said I rather have a mom that is alive and healthy there for me than go to NYC. She said I love you much and don't want to be an orphan. That has got to be scarey for a child. Let alone she has more sense than my mom. Bless her heart. I told her that is why it is important that I get these classes and the pump education I need so I can be here for you.

Emma2412 2010-05-19 11:32:42 -0500 Report

No, you can't get rid of diabetes by dieting. I only wish that were the case. I'm very sorry your Mom is not more supportive of you. She needs to educate herself. I never watch shows like Dr. Oz. Half the time they don't know what they're saying on shows like that. I myself get my facts from websites that really know what they're talking about — like the Mayo Clinic site or the American Diabetes Association site. People who don't have diabetes really don't have a clue about disease and most of the time conclude that we have diabetes because all we eat is sugar, which of course is not true. I'm sorry about your Mom and I sure hope she learns about the disease and gives you the support you need.

monkeymama 2010-05-19 10:41:49 -0500 Report

I am so sorry your mom is treating you like this. Please do not allow her to bring you down. There is NOTHING wrong or bad about being on a insulin pump. Being on one does not make you a bad diabetic. Sometimes our body just needs to use this form of treatment. I also fully agree with you that losing weight will not make you diabetic free. You will never get rid of diabetes, it will ALWAYS be there. It just means a person has it "controlled". I get upset when I hear this kind of stuff too. If I can ask, what kind of pump are you going to be placed on? I just upgraded mine but am going to be in need up a new pump in about a year or so (warranty thing). You can do this! Once you get the hang of using your pump and your on it, you will feel so much better. You can do this and I am happy for you in making the new journey with your insulin pump. With much best of wishes to you. Hang in there and know, "YOU CAN do this and YOU WILL do this.

ccritch 2010-05-19 11:40:13 -0500 Report

Thanks, Medtronic is the name of the company that the Insulin PUmp Educator told me about and Animas. I searched both websites and found that Medtronic has more informaiton and research than Animas. I decided to go with the most knowledgable. Thanks for your support I truly appreciate it. I thought maybe I took what she said harsh, thanks for the support and information about the pump I needed that assurance.


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