By ccritch Latest Reply 2010-05-25 10:41:08 -0500
Started 2010-05-17 08:41:40 -0500

Here is how much support I get from my husband's family.

At church yesterday I had a low sugar and fell! my husband's family just looked at me and walked away and left. Church members stopped to help me and ask if I was ok. You know how that made me feel. Embarrased, and so sad to see that my husband did not even think that his family did anything wrong, by leaving me there, I could have hurt myself, not to mention my 7 year old was with me and scared. Is Racism still that bad I mean come on! we live in a free country USA Segrogation is over! let's move on, Ignorance is a disease.

But, I have told my husband you see they don't like me and never will. He said what do you expect you knew that already! at our wedding they said we knew you would go outside of your family Jon! how sad I expected after 9 years married 1st girl born they would change! what was I thinking!

Thanks to my fellow church members and my daughter who tried to comfort me she knew exactly what to do she grabbed my purse and took out sugar tablets and gave them to me. Bless her little heart.

11 replies

vmjensen 2010-05-25 10:41:08 -0500 Report

Hi my name is Vic I have been a diabetic for around ten years and had lost a leg in 2008 and I think your husband and family should a mind check. But I know how you feel since I lost my leg I have had family and close friends walk away from me like I'm some kind of freak now, so I say the hell with them because they were never friends or family. I fall some times and I get a lot of people wanting to help me get up. good luck and stay happy

Zimoss 2010-05-21 20:18:52 -0500 Report

I hate to suggest this, but if your husband doesn't have an issue with the way you are treated and won't stand up for you…maybe its time to consider getting divorced. Life is too short to deal with this crap.

tabby9146 2010-05-19 22:02:37 -0500 Report

real sorry you went through that. If my husband didn't care, I'd really let him cook his own meals, do his own laundry, and other things. I would give him the cold shoulder until he proved that he was sorry. I sure hope he comes around and treats you better and that his family does too.

petals 2010-05-18 14:53:51 -0500 Report

I am so sorry that you had to go through that. What a blessing your daughter is. Church going people should know to help others, that says alot for them.

monkeymama 2010-05-17 18:43:03 -0500 Report

I am so sorry you had to go through that. That is very cold and heartless of your inlaws. And I thought I had it bad with my inlaws. I know my inlaws have issues with me but they would NEVER stoop to THAT extreme level. Despite our issues, I would and can trust them with my medical before my mother. Does your daughter know what to do in case mommy gets sick? There may be a way to guide her through something like this and also make her less afraid at the same time. Here here about the whole racism thing. There is always good and bad in a person. Regardless of our nationality and color. I've had to do a unit in college on cultural studies & differences in sociology. It was eye opening and interesting. Try to hang in there and I hope you feel better soon; physically and emotionally. Ignorance has become a new norm in society all over but it does not have to be a norm of us. :) Hugs to you!

begonia 2010-05-17 17:51:37 -0500 Report

you're right racism is a disease/plague on society.shame on those people(church going i might add).so glad your daughter could help you.i'm sure god will bless her a little extra for that someday and also you for having to put up w/such horrific family members. p.s. your husband is the worst offender for allowing that without a word to your defense,your life was at risk and the best he can do is "what did you expect".he shouldn't burn for that but i hope is underwear catch on wishes to you in your fight against diabetes and your in laws.

dr8m1t4 2010-05-17 13:27:49 -0500 Report

Wow. That was a terrible experience - and there is no excuse for it. I am in a biracial and multicultural family, but, fortunately, all my family loves my wife.
Please, don't blame the church - unless it is failing to teach Biblical truths, such as "in Christ there is neither male nor female, slave or free, Jew nor Greek" (nor Black, White, Yellow, Brown, Red, etc.) If the church fails this test, it's time to find another church.
If your husband's family are indeed Christians, they have a long way to go in following Christ. But they may simply be "cultural" Christians, who attend church, but don't have the "heart" of a Christian. Pray for them.
I hope you will have the strength to show Christ's attitudes in all your relationships.

runthe 2010-05-17 13:11:37 -0500 Report

I am sorry that you had to go through that. Thank God that your daughter was around and she knew what to do. What kind of person whould go to church and then turn their back when they see that you needed help. I just don't get it

Harlen 2010-05-17 12:16:17 -0500 Report

I am so sorry for what your going thrue .
My wifes famly would have loved to see me over a pit of fire
I was the user I was after her money .
1 I dont use ,2 she doesnt have any money she spends it as fast as she makes it .I have and make my own money.
Well its been 10 years and they are still whating for me to use her and take her money lol
I just gave up on them.They will never be able to deal with me and I just dont care any more what they think.
Now if she didnt stand with me on this she would be out the door in a hart beat but that was a long time ago now I dont know what I do with out her.She sees her famly and some even come here and thats just fine I just dont go out of my way for them and would not let them go our of there way to do a thing for me .
I can go on and on lol
Best wishes

GabbyPA 2010-05-17 08:51:16 -0500 Report

Whoa, that is heavy. Just what kind of line did your husband cross when he married you? I guess really that is not even the issue...what kind of people in a church of all places would walk away from someone in need. I cannot even imagine how heart broken you must feel. Thank goodness for your daughter. She is a shining light.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-05-17 20:17:58 -0500 Report

Amen, and it isn't just with biracial couples—-I was never acceppted by my husband's family, and I really tried! Envy, maybe, but it still hurts, no matter what! Just know that you are not alone, a lot of us are in the same boat—as pathetic as that sounds, we can only strive to become stronger for it—-sigh—PR

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