diabetes and depression

By jadogg420 Latest Reply 2010-06-26 01:15:24 -0500
Started 2010-05-09 21:30:23 -0500

hi there im new to this site, basically i was diagnosed april of 2009…type 1…the whole family has diabetes and i thought i was just the lucky one…well…not the case, ive been fighting my hardest to keep on track because i see what diabetes has done to my mother over years of neglecting it…its soooo hard, ive tried numerous insulin/ pill combinations…now its humalog and lantus…basically i am so fed up with the lack of help i recieve at home, its always fast food, i work weird hours and unfortunately my other half wont cook EVER!!! lol i try but workin midnights just thros everything off…i constantly feel depressed i guess, talked to my doc and he put me on some depression med but its been 4 mos. now and i know its not working…i have completly stopped doin things i used to enjoy..and i hurt all the time which leads to me sitting on the couch during the days taking pain pills which isnt the way to go…im just venting here since im sure some of you have felt the way i am feeling now, and im wondering what helped you?? getting up and motivating is so much easier said than done, and ive lost 85 lbs since diagnosis last year…(unusual i know) i just feel like linus from charlie brown…blahh blaahhhh

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DonnaAnn 2010-06-26 01:15:24 -0500 Report

Okay, this is going to sound weird…depression is a state of mind. I know, I know…DUH !!!! I have been dealing with depression for a while now. It was so bad at one point, I tried to commit suicide three times. Luckily, my deacon was able to get me in touch with a therapist and she has really helped me a lot. She had suggested keeping a journal, and it really works. Writing things down is a release. Do not give up on doing what you love to do. I have actually forced myself to do what I love to do, and feel better after I do it. Start slow. If you are a gardener, garden for 15 minutes…pull weeds. Then, try it for a half and hour, and so on. the accomplishment you feel will be amazing. Also, do not compare yourself to others. Everyones life is different and unique. By sitting down and brooding over what everyone else has and you do not, or how great their life is, is a waste of time. Look at what you could be doing…gardening. learn meditation. sit in a silent place. close your eyes and envision something…anything. I like to sit by running water. Remember, life is not a race or a contest. its a walk, a slow walk. its not about getting some where, its about finding your place in life. Okay, I am babbling now huh? I have truly been in the void, the black hole. And I am not completely out of it yet by any means. That is why I say depression is a state of mind.

angelalouise 2010-05-20 05:01:10 -0500 Report

I know the feeling. Being positive is difficult but you have to try. You must get contol that is the only way to beat this thing. Charlie Brown even finds positive things for a time. Some of us don't respond to meds. You and your dr have to find what works for you.
I was on pills for a long time then decided myself to go on insulant because the pills were not working. The doctor would try different meds all the time.
As for the Fast Food; Stay away from that stuff. It is full of salt and fat. That is why it tastes so good but not good for you.
If your wife does not understand this, try cooking at home yourself. A piece of meat in a pan or grill and some veggies and salad (watch the dressing) will do the trick. She may get the idea.
Good Luck to you.

Anonymous 2010-05-16 14:34:10 -0500 Report

Hey man ,

i get it 100%. I am recently divorced, but my ex wasn't into cooking (not saying its a woman's job , she certainly was into my cooking though , ha ) she just was more of an open a can of che boy ardee person , and i like to make a meal seeing as i have a 5 yr old to keep healthy too , but enough venting about ex. I know about pain , i used to sit an dhurt and take meds as prescribed, i learned , and it took a year man that even the strong doses of meds i had didnt work nearly as well or at all if i didnt move around, i treid setting my alarm early , take a pain pill rollover and get up 45 min later hoping to wake up in less pain, never helped . I know what u mean too that its easy to say , not easy to do . I believe in depression , only med i found that didnt have sex side affects , and thats depressing too , or more hair loss , not good for ego … was forme man , i take andro gel , its for having a low testosterone level , mine was in normal range , but normal for me isnt same for you or some chart someone came up with .My doc is cool he said all guys are diffrent and androgel helped me , my mood, muscle tone , energy , sex drive , etc,, plus i take generic well butrin, i started w/ extended release , but 2nd dose in the day would over lap w/1st one and create anxiety like crazy , so i switched to plain old inexpensive generic well butrin and w/andro gel , and well butrin , i have more energy , happier , and it is easier to get outside and walk , it doesnt make you eat like prednisone and gain lbs and yet u arent suppressed either .its finally the "happy " pill i had been looking for and i took prozac , celexa, lexapro ,effexor ,zoloft , and i was an insoniac that had no sex drive , gaining weight , losing hair and was more depressed .You should ask your doc about androgel and also well butrin and if u are trying to quit smoking, wellbutrin helps with that as well, it lowers anxiety and depression and no drowsiness for me, I didnt check your age , if u are 20 , u might not get andro gel , its not the kind u can buy at gnc its rx only , so check w/doc , in the end i take those two meds , my pain meds due to ankylosing spondyltitis , and also clonazepam for anxiety and mettformin for blood sugar, like you i thiought i was going to get away w/being one family mmber to not get it , so i know how it feels to be stuck to that couch and in pain and in the beginning i swear a house fire wouldnt have made me want to get up . I wish u well

Janet Webster
Janet Webster 2010-05-15 15:35:35 -0500 Report

Hey Jadogg,
I understand what you are experiencing. I also deal with depression and a busy life style. I have learned how to order from fast food restaurants and still stay on my diabetic diet. I stick to grilled chicken salads and sandwiches , no fries, order side salad instead or even a small dish of vanilla ice cream instead. I always order Ice tea and sweeten it with Splenda or sweet and low. You can also cook out on the grill on the week ends or days off and put in serving size baggies and microwave when you come home, like chicken breast of fish or lean pork steaks or hamburgars. Package up your veges too and microwave, corn on the cob, broccolli, etc. I try to stay away from potatoes and the starchier veges. I drink soy milk , it gives my body protein in the mornings, I grab a banana or apples for my snacks too. You can do it, I have. Try Cymbalta for your depression, it works great. Walk or ride your bike or join a gym for your exercise. Test your glucose at least every morning and evening. good luck , don't give up!

nakedbaboon 2010-05-14 16:23:58 -0500 Report

Hey Jadogg,

I have had Recurring Pancreantitus for going on 3 years now. This is what has caused my Type 1. It is hard dealing with the pain all the time. There are times you just feel like giving up!! I have found that if I hang out with my brother-in-law (My Best Friend) and do things I would normally do like fishing and shooting it helps ALOT!!!!!!! I think just getting that sense of normalcy out of it makes it better. The pain pills do not help with depression either.

What is causing your pain?

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-05-14 10:17:07 -0500 Report

Hi, jadogg! Welcome to the site, you ARe Not Alone! We all have our moments, the two big D's—-diabetis and depression—it is rather like asking the question, which came first the chicken or the egg.

It stands to reason that a new, surprising diagnosis of Diabetis, especially when we feel like we have missed the ARROWS—-I was diagnosed at 74 yrs., after being Border Line for over 50 years—then—it got me too! That is a good reason for depression, plus maybe our coping skills arent the best—-and any body ailment can lower our energy level and ability to cope with ANything! I would say, ease your way up—like a balancing act, as your health improves, your depression should too.

I am on Cymbalta and it helps my depression plus my aching Back etc. I hadn't realized it was so impressive for Physical pain, as well as the emotional pain, too! I am also in therapy, helps so much to VENT to a neutral party. Best Wishes!! Pat R

chillwill080 2010-05-14 01:06:56 -0500 Report

hey my name is will i been had diabetes for 25 years and i got to say thats its been hard but you got to know one thing thats your body and you got to take contol of it meaning that the thing what get you depress need to be blocked out

Anonymous 2010-05-12 21:47:51 -0500 Report

Keep us posted, Jason. And free advice that is worth the price: maybe your doctor doesn't see your depression as a priority right now, but you may know better because you live with the effects of it. Also doctor may have personal reasons and biases for minimizing it: doc may not feel comfortable dealing with behavioral health issues, may be depressed him herself and not dealing with it, etc. As bad as I sense you are hurting (physically and psychologically), I encourage you on insisting that attention is paid to what ails you and that would include your depression. Just a thought 'cause I care.

jadogg420 2010-05-10 23:09:28 -0500 Report

hi guys and gals, back again today, in reply to the replys, my bmi is 20.5… im 5'10" 143 lbs…which is pretty good, but considering i lost 85+ lbs in probably 6 mos or so, and seem scrawny now, im just skin n bones not only have i lost fat but also a nice amount of muscle in my opinion…doc agrees lol… and is checking for possible wasting syndrome…the pain meds are for extremely bad leg spasms i have and also for a back injury which sets off pains down my legs sciatic nerve damage)…also take naprosyn as well…i agree with anonymous that the sugar fluxuations affect alot of the degree of pain, as well as being depressed, from what i read anyways..but their are alot of types of depression and i am not sure what kind i am suffering from and the doc dosent seem to think its a priority as of right now..after my post lastnight i was kinda feelin weird (fuzzy sight and a bad headache) so i went to take a shower…started feelin lightheaded and basically passed out …dropped like a sack of potatoes…now in the last post i explained how my sig. other wasnt too supportive but she came A RUNNIN!!! picked me out of the tub and tested my sug… i was 389…she gave me 5 units of humalog…( i confirmed the amount with her) lol..went to bed even tho i know i shoulda went to the hosp. and followed up with the family doc today..had a cat scan and eeg…waiting on results but the doc and i both agree the stress of things might be catching up with me…WHEW!!! fingers gettin tired!!!! lol sorry about the book guys!!!!
RAY T. …i have checked out some counseling places my insurance does cover a bit a VERY LIL BIT…it is well over 100 bucks a month just to have 4 one hour sessions a month…that isnt even with a psychiatrist…thats just the counselor…its an additional 37 a week to see the psych…crazy i know!!!!! i gave up on that route becuz between monthly bills child support and diabetes supplies theres nothin left!! so…lol…i want to thank you guys for bein here for everyone and i am sure things WILL get better, after all life is all about upz and downs right??!!?? i think ima stick around…i like ya guys and actually do feel a lil better after typing this small novel and venting off the steam…thanks again, Jason

GabbyPA 2010-05-11 11:19:39 -0500 Report

Hi Jason and welcome to the community. Good to see you using it to set yourself free from some of the heartache of dealing with more than diabetes. It is so often more complicated than carb counting and pricking fingers.

This might be a bit extreme, but can you get a different shift or a different job? I know, this economy we don't want to rock the boat much, but it might help to get you and your wife working together instead of living separate lives so much. Cooking is an important part of what you need to be doing, as it is one of our fist defenses. It can also be a bonding time. Beats bonding by pulling you out of the tub! LOL She probably just doesn't know what to do or where to begin. My hubby gets it sometimes and sometimes he doesn't, but he still tries and I am glad for that. But we work at it together and I share with him ways he can help me.

I hope that you can find a way thru the depression. Don't give up the fight and find a way to breath life back into your daily routine. Being here can help get you started. We are not professional counselors, but we are FREE. LOL.

Patty johnson
Patty johnson 2010-05-16 08:35:29 -0500 Report

Welcome Jason. Hang in there for all it's worth, LIFE! Things will get better but won't happen overnight, persistence is crucial. We are all here for you!

Anonymous 2010-05-10 22:28:18 -0500 Report

jadogg - You have been very brave in venting here and I hope you feel support from all of us. What is the source of your pain that you are taking the pain meds for? I was consuming a lot of OTC pain meds until I got my sugars under control. Then I guess the reduction in inflammation led to a (blessed) relief from the worst of the pain. Now I rarely take pain meds. Because I am in less pain, I also move more which helps the pain, which helps the sugars. It is now an upward spiral instead a downward one. I'm also interested in your weight loss. Where are you now in terms of your BMI? We can lose weight because we lose fat or muscle mass. We won't feel good if we are losing muscle mass we can't afford to lose. I'm rambling. Sorry. Just am concerned about you. Take care and best wishes that you perservere!

RAYT721 2010-05-10 20:11:11 -0500 Report

Jaddog: welcome to the board … and … Congratulations on the awesome weight loss. Now, don't take this wrong but antidepressants without some kind of emotional support probably won't do you a lot of good. Have you considered counseling? Check with your employer and/or health insurance plan. There may be resources that can help you beyond pain pills, fast food, and the vicious cycle you have of work, pain, work, and probably fighting with your partner. It's no wonder you're depressed. Support is truly important. Feel free to add me as a friend and message me anytime you want to chat, write, blahh blaahhh, or even have a few hahh haahhhs. We're in this together! You are NOT alone!!!

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-05-10 14:51:07 -0500 Report

Yep! Been there! It really is hard. But you do need to find a good motivator! Mine was my granddaughters. I want to see them get married and the oldest is only 6, so I have a long time to live yet!!! LOL. Things will get better. Hang in there.