Stress eating

By petals Latest Reply 2010-05-16 17:21:05 -0500
Started 2010-05-08 22:36:29 -0500

I have gained over 11lbs, in April. It started when my Daddy was diagnosed with stage 4 melonma ( skin cancer ), which is the last stage of it. How do I deal with the stress and not eat myself back up to 200lbs again?

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petals 2010-05-16 17:21:05 -0500 Report

Hi! sorry to hear that you have been so sick! My prayers are with you. I hope that you are cancer free now and stay that way. I have tried exercise to fight stress and it does work. My eating is almost under control again. I say almost because my daddy has surgery tomorrow, to remove the cancer that has came back and a lympn gland near his groin area. I am going to do my best to stay to my eating plan that I have already got set up. And thank you for you advise and the names of the books ,I will look into to those. Take care of yourself.

JourneySong 2010-05-16 10:33:27 -0500 Report

I understand how you feel. I had stage 3A colon cancer last year, and had to have a one foot long section of my lower intestine removed. I was so very glad that it did not go stage 4 before it was discovered. This year I had cysts on my ovaries and one was growing a mass, so they thought it might be back. Thankfully when I got my hysterectomy and oophorectomy it came back negative for cancer, but I get how it is to think of the end and be haunted by it, and feel the stress. I have had lots of depression, because I lost my mother to cancer just before I was first diagnosed. I remind myself that during the 25 days of my recent surgery recovery that I have survived without so much as a bite of the chocolate muffins that they sell for charity at my work, no trail mix bars, nothing bad for me. Of course as I recover my appetite I may have more trouble with cravings, but I will have to do what I did last night. I was feeling despondent and like life wasn't worth anything, but then I went out to the track and found a new friend in one of the people walking there, and somehow managed to walk a whole half mile. Exercise can make you feel better, there have been studies on it. I had to force myself to try it because when I'm depressed I don't believe that anything will help, but it worked. You can do this. I am sorry about your father. There are books that say that stage 4 can be fought too, though I don't know because mine wasn't that far along, I missed it by a hair. One book for your father is Cancer: 50 Essential Things to Do by Greg Anderson. Another one is What to Eat if You Have Cancer: A Guide to Adding Nutritional Therapy to Your Treatment Plan by Maureen Keane and Daniella Chace. Hope that helps some.

MAYS 2010-05-11 09:12:06 -0500 Report

Channel that stress into something positive !
Whenever you feel the need to eat, do something else, or that will fill you up if you must eat, but I stick to my original suggestion, find something else to do, get a hobby, don't fall prey to a weakened state of mind for the moment, the possibilities are endless !


petals 2010-05-11 12:14:32 -0500 Report

Thanks Mays, I will do that!! I have never thought of channeling it into something positive. You rock!!

GabbyPA 2010-05-09 14:51:41 -0500 Report

Distraction and discipline. That is what it takes for me. I have to stop it before it starts or I will do it and just get lost in it. So if I distract myself with a project or something to physically do, like take a walk, play in my garden even menu planning. Anything but thinking about what is stressing me out.

Then I still have to be disciplined. Oh, my dad was so good at this. I wish I had inherited that from him. He could just walk away, not qualms no regrets. Sigh...I have to work at it. I have to tell myself to get distracted sometimes. Then I have to stay in my distraction and get involved. If I just do it halfheartedly, I tend to give in.

Get involved with a cancer group with your dad. That too might make you feel like you are more in control of it and it won't stress you out so much. I know attacking the thing that is stressing me is a great way to make it go away.

petals 2010-05-11 08:45:38 -0500 Report

Like you , I should have stopped it before it got out of control, but I didn't. I am getting back under control now. I will take your advice and distracted myself with something, anything is better then feeling so bad about myself. So thanks, Gabby , your the best!

spiritwalker 2010-05-09 14:21:31 -0500 Report

Stress can drive a person to food. This I know from personal
experience. I agree with Harlen. Be good to your self in other
ways, Read a book, go for a walk,listen to music. Find a
way to comfort yourself minus the food. I will be praying for you and your family.

petals 2010-05-11 08:42:36 -0500 Report

It is awful isn't it. I have been reading alot. And this site has helped me alot. I feel silly gaining all that weight, I knew better. But it got away from me. Thank you for your prayers.

Harlen 2010-05-09 09:37:38 -0500 Report

I know what you mean .
For me I ask myself am I hungery or do I need comfert
Do I need to eat or am I stressed its the only way thats worked for me.Like having snacks near where I sit at the comp
I never do that any more lol
Its hard to deal with cancer and diabetes I feel for you we are here for you.
Best wishes

petals 2010-05-09 11:19:30 -0500 Report

Thanks for your advice and support. I will start asking myself whether I am hungry or if I need comfort. I hope that it works for me.

Harlen 2010-05-09 12:21:37 -0500 Report

If you feel that you need comfort be nice to your self like a foot rub a hot compress
over your eyes just any thing you like just for you .Sometimes is just a nice bath.
You are the only you there is so be good to you.
Best wishes

petals 2010-05-11 08:40:06 -0500 Report

Good ideas,Harlen! I am starting to get my control back. But I will be good to myself. You are right I am the only me there is.