our temper

By pene1ope Latest Reply 2010-06-17 13:13:33 -0500
Started 2010-05-05 19:32:17 -0500

i have areally bad temper sometimes. when i started going to my diabetes classes (i was dx'd 11years ago), the instructor said that we may have really bad tempers. i'm really patient, but when i get upset, it really takes a horrible tole on my body. it has happed with stress, sadness due to the death fo my granny, postpartum after a miscarriage (4 to be exact), anything that makes me feel negative…

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meme63 2010-06-17 13:13:33 -0500 Report

I was never known for having a bad temper, but lately for some reason I have had a very short fuse. It seems that people have been getting on my nerves. I don't know if it is because my sugar count has been out of control or not, but I have tried to control it, but it is not working for me. I have a very supportive family that loves me very much. I have been married for 37 years and my husband is not use to my mood swings. I seem to be pushing him away and I don't want to, are there any suggestion that can help?

Katie17 2010-05-15 10:13:48 -0500 Report

Funny you should mention this…I have terrible mood swings, all the time. It usually happens when i feel "low" but it also happens when i feel sick but i don't think its low. We're working on getting a meter, but could you guys tell me how mood and just feeling sick is affected by your blood sugar. It seems like im really bad after a pasta meal but should i completly limit those types of meals? I've already almost completly gotten rid of sweets unless w a large meal w meat. Im still having tons of problems with this, and i get really upset when Im doing everything right and Im still really sick. There's days when I just give up and don't want to eat/ eat right even when I know that eating poorly will make me really sick. But then I eat right and I still feel sick. It seems like once I'm sick, I won't feel better till the next day, if not longer.

Here's my questions:
1. What should I eat, how to make me feel better?
2. How can I differentiate high/low mood swings?
3. What types of meals affect blood sugars, could you be really specific if possible.

Thanks a bunch, katie

pene1ope 2010-05-27 19:39:11 -0500 Report

i STRONGLY suggest you take a nutrition class, specifically for diabetics. they will teach everything you need to know. ask your doctor if he can prescribe that for you or refer you to a class. also, as far as getting a meter, you can get one free online!! i recieved one for free from one touch. pasta is something you should really try to stay away from. i know, pasta rocks, but its really not good for you. measure your portions. when it comes to meat, dont eat too much (approximately 4 ounces..about the size of your palm). when i have a little to much meat it affects my vision. i eat about 6-7 times a day. i have my meals…breakfast, lunch and dinner and in between i have my SMALL snacks. it may sound nerdy, but i eat every 2 hours. i am really insulin sensitive and there have been times when i get real, real low…even into shock. but that was due to my pregnancies and the babies taking all my nutrients. evne so, im sensitive to it but i HAVE to take it.
foods that will affect your blood sugar…bread, pasta, fruit, fatty foods. honestly, you'll have to take a class, or go online. there are a variety of combinations that you would really like. i despise when people say, "you cant eat that!" of course i can, just not in its entirety. good luck katie. i hope i was able to help you some.
take care,

Katie17 2010-05-28 07:36:40 -0500 Report

Thanks, I actually just had a doc appt and she said that it won't help if I have a meter because by the time I check the ephornephin will have already kicked in??? I don't understand this. She also said that Im prob not low when I feel low, because I don't usually pass out. (becuz I fix it before I get too low). My a1c was really low, 4.8 and had dropped a lot - because it was normal for awhiles. 4.8 is too low, I guess cuz she gave me the choice of going on cortisal steorids to attempt to bring my blood sugars up and keep them steady.

I realized that I do pretty bad with pastas, so I pretty much cut that out. Im trying to count the carbs, but I really don't know what number of carbs I should be having and when. My doc has told me no fruit and no juice, and I only have a little fruit on occasion.

One more question: she said no juice. Why can't I have juice when Im really really low and can't eat anything else?

Im gonna give the meds about two weeks to start helping me and if they don't then Im getting a meter. Can I still do to a class since I don't have diabetes?

Katie17 2010-05-28 07:37:49 -0500 Report

I also try to eat every three hours or else my bs drops. It also spikes sometimes depending on what I eat. Thats the main thing that im trying to figure out - what foods affect me and how?

GabbyPA 2010-05-06 08:51:23 -0500 Report

I am similar to you. I am very easy going and patient, but if you get me to my tipping point it is very hard to control what happens next. It s frustrating and I have found that if my blood sugar is not controlled and running high, that temper or flare will come out more often. It is a vicious cycle to be sure. Feel bad, act bad, makes you feel bad....you get the point.
Keeping better control of my levels helps me immensely to deal with emotions and stress.

Another thing that helps me overcome a negative mind set is to get myself away from the negative input. A lot of times it comes from outside sources like gossip, TV, or bad situations. So if I remove that, it gives my natural happy self a chance to get better and take over again. It doesn't always work, but it gives me a fighting chance and I would much rather be called "Pollyanna" than "Negative Nancy" LOL!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-05-06 10:11:28 -0500 Report

True, Gabby! If you are in a clinical depression, that too can twist your mind set, react inappropriately, till you can take it apart, ask yourself WHY, then re-live the situation in your mind and think thru how you can handle it the next time, what other options or tools do you have to work with——play a positive scenerio over and over in your mind, so if it happens again, you have already started forming a positive attitude towards what we perceive as personal threats. And aren't caught so "off guard", but are developing a good habit in communicating and getting along better with folks. Fewer surprises that catch us off guard. Best Wishes to ALL! Pat R

shorty31 2010-05-06 07:39:36 -0500 Report

you know that true i find myself flying off the handle sometime the lest little will set me off and when it end my heart is hurting. that not good fro me . i need to take a calmness class. i have so much built inside of me i'm ready to explode. i'm mad because i can't work. i'm made because i feel useless to people that i love and as the same with me when my father died in sept. of 2009 my husband was not supportive at all. but i learn to get a journal and write my feelings down. and it really helps. i write the good and the bad now every morning i get up and i tell myself that i'm going to have a good day,and nothing will get to me i'll deal with it in a good way . that easier said than done but it does work when you get up in the morning have your cup of coffee or tea or what have you if you read the Bible read a passage everyday and tell yourself today will be a great day and see that after a while the negative will leave and the positive will come in.

Pam from KCMO
Pam from KCMO 2010-05-06 06:22:05 -0500 Report

We're all wired differently and our coping mechanisms are, of necessity, different too.

My 'aha' moment came from one of those personality tests I occasionally have taken at work. One of the scales they measured was thinking vs. feeling. Turns out I was as far at the edge of feeling as you can get.

What did that mean? Well, it meant that my first reaction to a situation is almost always an emotional one. Sometimes that's good - it can help you relate to people. Sometimes, though, not so much. I'd been having to apologize a lot for my temper and suddenly realized what was going on with me.

My anger is like a flash - one minute I'm fine and the next I'm the Wicked Witch. I'm apparently wired that way and diabetes certainly can't be helping.

When that flash hits now, I'm trying to breathe, hold my tongue, sometimes I'll just remove myself from the situation, and wait for the emotion to subside so I can get back to thinking again. But when my emotions are triggered, there is no thinking involved AT ALL.

Good luck!

MAYS 2010-05-05 23:21:49 -0500 Report

Hormones affect our mental state and how we deal with stressful situations daily.
Unfortunately for diabetics this can be a double edged sword, we have to manage our diabetes which has an effect on our mental state emotionally.

A quick temper (in my opinion) shows a lack of self control which can lead to mental instability, but then again so can being too calm, what a catch-22 !

Keep a positive outlook on life, change what you can, leave the rest alone, live, love and enjoy your life !


Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-05-05 22:52:28 -0500 Report

It is OK to admit that you have a temper, or anyone else, as acknowledging such is the first step towards doing something about it. If you can stand the emotional pain, it helps if you ask yourself WHY you are so angry—-It may take therapy and meds, but believe me, it is better to find out WHY, then work THRU it, do NOT deny and bury your anger as it will eat out your guts. Pat R

Harlen 2010-05-05 20:05:04 -0500 Report

I do not let myself get mad and I am the only one that can let me get mad.There was a time in my life when I would take out my anger on athers . at the time I was 6ft 255 lbs X-mill
and what I would call meen I liked to hurt other men bigger then me and if I can turn it over and be a man that can love and never get mad any more then any one can I was not a nice man when I was yung had lots of problums to work out
I had to give it up for I too would get sick from it so I know what your going thrue .
Best wishes

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