It hasn't hit me

By cutedad1969 Latest Reply 2012-12-24 12:21:13 -0600
Started 2010-04-27 22:23:05 -0500

I was diagnosed with type 2 about 3 weeks ago. I have been doing the best i can my sugar now is still high 2's br apposed to almost 500. I have been taking my med eating better. But i haven't got real upset bout the whole thing. Yet. Does is take time to hit emotionally?

38 replies

landdez 2012-12-24 12:21:13 -0600 Report

My first 3 weeks were awful. I could barely see. I was in shock. I was 42 and very confused. Almost a year later, I feel like a different person, less weight more energy. I have learned a lot, thanks to a site like this. Life goes on…and can be beautiful, it is up to us!

emilyvoorn 2010-11-17 15:53:46 -0600 Report

I'm 43 yrs old and I just found out Oct. 24 2010 that I am diabetic type 2, I went to the hospital with what I thought was a yeast infection that caused me to use the bathroom often. It took less then 5 seconds to be diagnosed with diabetes my glucose was at 452. More test were ran which confirmed my worst fear. I always thought diabetes only affected obese ppl., yes I'm over weight but I've seen bigger. Well I was quickly informed that diabetes does not only affect obese ppl but all types of sizes shape and nationalities. I've been reading and exercising a lot!!! I frustrated at time b/c I want to eat what I want but know I can't. I find myself reading labels to be honest I never knew I was putting so much bad calaries into my body. But rather then continue to be mad I decided to walk and change my diet. Along with Metformin (I take 2 500mg morning and night) a health diet and 75 to 85 min. of cardio a day my glucose is down to 80 and I have lost weight. Every day is a batter and I wish I could eat what I want when I want but the truth of the matter is I can't! I'm a mommy of three and a grandmother of 2 and that is more important then going to McDonald's but I would be lying if I said I wish I could eat a Big Mac…LOL. It hard but I'm a fighter and each day I fight to stay healthy hoping one day I can no longer take pills.

Debra Austin
Debra Austin 2010-11-17 11:40:07 -0600 Report

I''m..going…If..nothing..else..I..owe necessary..changes!!

DocA 2010-11-17 11:16:11 -0600 Report

Cutedad it takes a little time to get used to it. You may have times when you worry about each high reading and then you have times when you get so bored taking your glucose testing so often that you wonder if it is worth it. I am a 61 year old male and at times think the same things. I have been diagnosed for 15 years and it sure gets to me mentally. some days would just love to "take a day off". Taking your meds, adjusting your meals, daily exercise ( I use the Wii), and just relaxing and remembering while serious it can be treated, helps! Keep going we are all here with you.

CaliKo 2010-11-17 10:27:36 -0600 Report

For me the emotional aspects come and go. Most of the time I handle it just fine. Sometimes I'm somewhere where I see a sweet treat I'd like to have, but don't, and I feel a bit sorry for myself. When I was diagnosed I was still scared and learning to deal with my therapy for an MS diagnosis three months before the diabetes diagnosis. I was just "really? Diabetes, too?" Then I took a class and got scared about the diabetes, too. I knew there were complications, I just hadn't realized how common and widespread they were among diabetics. So I follow my meal plan (in general) and exercise, exercise, exercise. I think the act of controlling the disease helps the emotional aspects, and exercise also fights depression. It also helps to have a virtual support group with this web site.
Good luck! And I notice that the original post was in April. Maybe you could update us now on how you are doing?

Pynetree 2010-11-17 10:06:10 -0600 Report

Yeah, I think for most of us it does take a while before your brain takes it in. I wasn't surprised by diognosis at all…had been thinking for a while that I had it…then when diognosed didn't really get smart about it right away…but after a Diabetes education class at the hospital, and a lot of journaling to see how different foods, times of eating, moods, stress, exercise etc. affected me I now have a handle on it. The surprize for me was that now that my numbers are in control…I feel a lot better…but didn't realize how bad I felt until I felt what in control numbers felt like. LOL! But as I get older I see the complications caused by years of lax control…so try to get a grip on this now…it pays off down the road!

bicker68 2010-11-17 00:03:37 -0600 Report

I wasn't surprised when I was Diagnosed in September of 2003, for I had Gestational Diabetes before the birth of my Son in 1998. I had just wished it would have been later in life.
You will get on track and get your numbers under control. My husband found out about 2 months ago that he has type 2, he didn't want to accept it at first but is doing fine now. Best of Luck to you.
Take Care and May God Bless You…


estheratarah 2010-11-16 23:16:26 -0600 Report

I am just coming out of the denial stage. I knew I would probably get this disease as my mom was struck with it at 34. My goal now is to eat right exercise, take my meds to as long as God allows without too many horrible complications so I can see my son grow up and have more years with my husband.

meemosa 2010-05-09 19:16:59 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed with t2 about 10 years ago and I don't ever recall getting that upset about it. I did ignore it for many years and didn't take the disease very seriously. I think I was in denial, plus I never felt sick. I remember telling my coworkers that I was glad that at least I got a disease that needed a gadget lol. D

greeneyedghost 2010-05-04 00:04:54 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed in November of 2009, but had gestational diabetes when i was prego with my last daughter 10 yrs ago. I have had to deal with this issue in my family for yrs, but when it hit me i was so disappointed in myself cuz I thought i had done betta at controlling everything.. i cried and got angry with myself, but now its just everyday working on things and trying to keep it under control and being a single momma of 2 daughters, working, health issues, etc…

i dont have time to be anything but positive and move on from the actual diagnosis and just keep going forward as good as i can. Just do what u need to, to keep the numbers down and take advantage of the helpfulness from others.. by all means especially diabetics… "we know best;)" lol. Even after knowing all i did for yrs.. this site has been the most helpful for me. Good luck with it and God bless… we are here for ya!!!


Ralph1 2010-05-03 16:33:22 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed back in 2006 and it took me a couple of weeks for it to really hit me. Once it did, I was able to concentrate on the disease - get a better grasp of it.

Candistix 2010-05-03 16:18:40 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed about three weeks ago too. It me a week b4 i started taking my meds and when I did…that's when it hit me. I cried like a baby. Now, I just do what I need to do to keep my numbers down. I've noticed there all over the place. But within the last week they were in the low 100's.

I'm learning to count carbs.

icefog 2010-05-02 21:26:58 -0500 Report

I have been a type 2 since 2005 and the hardest thing for me was the fustration of not seeming to be able to control the numbers. one of the most important numbers is your A1C I didn't learn that for a year. Even now i will get mad when i cant control my numbers and the constantly haveing to watch what ever you eat. Pasta is a bad thing.

firstflight800 2010-05-02 13:35:39 -0500 Report

Do yourself a big favor. Right now it's not a big deal, but it's also easy to be in a state of denial. I think that most newly diagnosed diabetics go through denial several times before things settle out. Things can be fantastic, but they will never be exactly like they were before. You've heard the term, "picking your battles" and this is no different. In my case, I know I can have some of that sweet stuff if it is the right time of day and I don't get carried away. Try having a dessert with or after a meal. Having the sweets by themselves seems to be worse. Keep a log of your meals with what you had and the portion, and follow your numbers. It may not make sense at first, but it will later. Before you know it, you'll have a good base of information to work with and things will be much more normal for you. And, of course, you'll get lots of "ideas" from people on this website too, some of which may help you a great deal.

Randoo 2010-05-02 11:36:39 -0500 Report

My name is Randy and I was just diagnosed 3 weeks ago as well and I am scared out of mind. I have appointments with an eye doctor and a dietician in the next few weeks, so I guess I will learn more then. I just don't know what to do or where to turn. I am with you Cutedad.

Rockerhobo 2010-05-02 09:55:12 -0500 Report

I know your feelings. The diet, no snacking between meals, and more activities. But what helped me the most, was drinking MORE water. I would drink the diets drinks, crystal light etc. But drinking MORE plain water my levels went down. Try it.

HEDDIB 2010-04-30 08:16:29 -0500 Report

Emotionally it depends on your personality - (ie if you take everything in stride) I was angry when at 22 I was diagnosed as hypoglycemic. I was just informed 2 weeks ago that it has now turned to diabetes. I'm still adjusting.

I've always controlled my sugar by diet, now I'm going to have to start taking meds (in 4 more weeks) - my doctor wants my thyroid under control first. It's an adjustment, but its a necessary one for our health.

monkeymama 2010-04-29 22:27:16 -0500 Report

Hello there Cutedad! I am a type 2 and have been since 2004. When I was first diagnosed, I thought I was dealing with it okay. Far from that. I am just now coming to terms with EVERYTHING and not just picking and choosing what I wanted to do. Than there were the moments when I would get so upset that meds were not working or I was getting another BAD reaction to it. After 3 years, I called it quits with messing with the pills while talking to my educator. I swallowed my fears and went on injections while waiting for my pump. There are times in a diabetics life when we could be doing everything right and our body is just not wanting to work with us. As diabetics, we are going to go through our highs and lows in our treatment. There is a such thing as people having emotional issues with their diabetes. The key is to picking ourselves up and keep fighting back. Not allowing it to beat us at the game. We never stop learning but gain a lot of knowledge to win the fight against diabetes.

SJBHrrs2003 2010-04-29 10:31:27 -0500 Report

When I was told that I have diabetes back in 1995, I took it in stride. My mother and youngest brother both had it and now an older brother has Type 1 diabetes. So, I knew there was a strong possibility that I would get it. I was 38 years old when I was told … I am now 53. For most of the last 10 years I have done nothing to keep my sugar low or to keep up with it (could not afford the meter and supplies, nor the meds). I do not exercise (pretty much a home body) but do watch what, when, and how much I eat. I take my meds regularly (now that I can afford them). My sugar stays in the 100's but has been in the 90's a couple of times since I have started going to doctor regularly … been twice in 2 months. I am now monituring my blood sugar and blood pressure twice a day, morning and evening.

I have corpal tunnel, neuropathy, diabetes, high blood pressure, tendenitus in right shoulder, cronic back pain, can not sit or stand for longer than 15 to 20 minutes at a time without feet going to sleep and hurting. During the night I wake from the pain in my legs when moving from one position to another. The meds my doc has me on has helped a lot with everything I have.

So just remember … it is up to you how you react when you are told. Family and friends can help, A LOT! Keep the talking lines open with everyone … let them know how you feel and that you need their support. Talk to others that also have diabetes, ask questions on everything and anything that worries you.

Lakeland 2010-04-28 22:37:42 -0500 Report

I think guys are different. My brother is at 400 & can't feel his toes, he absolutely refuses to see a doctor and his wife calls me & asks me about how she can cook differently. Sometimes it takes meds. I was 550 & it took me 3 weeks for the meds to get me to normal levels.

Being a girl, I was scared to eat anything. but now that I have understanding I cheat a little more now, but I do what I need to to make it up.

with understanding I've relaxed. It might be a guy thing. Please take it seriously, you don't have to fall apart to show acceptance, but I've seen other family members lose feet & toes, & kidneys. So get it under control & do your best to keep it there.

Good luck & good health

Harlen 2010-04-28 18:23:46 -0500 Report

Hello and welcome
It will when you know more lol
I was mad for three months
hope you dont get mad an frustrated I did and do from time to time
Best wishes

shorty31 2010-04-28 14:32:37 -0500 Report

some people react to the news differently when my husband found out his sugar was at 500 and has to take insulin when we come home from the doctor he turned over all the chairs in the dinner he had the worst tamtrum for a grown adult i had ever seen. when i found out i called my dad and just started to cry. so you see it's really nothing to get angry about you just have to figure how you are going to lower it now it takes a lot of self disipline. and a lot of support from your family and friends. and most of it is up to you how much longer do you want to be healthy. ridht now because of my type 2 i have to wear glasses and my eyes are getting worse i will need to get full bio just to see. i wish you the best and you have come to the right place. with Gods love and your friends here you will make it.

spiritwalker 2010-04-28 12:59:22 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC. Everyone's reaction is different. Seek diabetic
education and do what they tell you regarding meal planning,
carb counting,exercise, Rx and so forth and you will do well.
Its up to you now you live with you diabetes. This site is a
good place to learn and offers a good deal of information.
I have been a type2 for 25 years. You can hace a good
life if you take care of yourself. Again welcome.

GabbyPA 2010-04-28 10:34:36 -0500 Report

Welcome to the community CuteDad, you are in a great place. Everyone here is eager to help and give you any support you need.

Being diagnosed with a chronic illness usually causes us to go thru a grieving pattern. Everyone does it differently, and in their own time. You may never express being upset, but you do want to get a realistic understanding of what is involved. The fact that you are here is a good sign. Everyone's "light bulb moment" is different. For me it was seeing my numbers drop. It gave me hope to keep doing what I was doing. Then another one was having a really high day. 450! I was freaked out and redoubled my efforts (I had gotten lazy)

You will find your way. We are here to help and encourage you.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2010-04-28 13:24:18 -0500 Report

So true, Gabby. I always wonder why some folks just go off the deep end when given the news and seem to feel it's the end of their world. But we all do handle things so differently. No one way is right or wrong. Do take it seriously, Cutedad, because it IS serious business. Ignoring it or minimizing it only hurts you and can cause horrendous results. Educate yourself, keep the lines of communication with your doctor(s) open and just accept this as a life change that must be (and can be) done. God bless you!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-04-28 09:30:32 -0500 Report

I find that it depends on how many other issues are thrown at you in the same time frame. When I was told, I was JUST awakening from a knee replacement, the Dr gleefully (I THOUGHT) told me my BS was too high, "here is how to use the meter I am giving you—" Heavens' I was still too groggy to even SEE the meter—-His next words were, "and when are you going to have that hernia repaired?!" Hernia?? I didn't even know I had one——-what??? My poor mind was so bewildered, I was also fighting my way out of a clinical depression, had endless pain and oozing from getting Stinging Nettles in my hands and fighting that for over 3 years—at that time—-

I was so lost/bewildered/ TIRED—-and overwhelmed! BUT since I am regaining my general health, and on O2 for my lung problem—oh, yow, was also told I had COPD——I have regained my balance, and D is just another little ditty to keep an eye on, but now have the strength to do it—without too much thought. just better habits, better eating habits and exercise, which are healthy anyway, so , it is now OK. Pat R

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2010-04-28 13:19:34 -0500 Report

Wow, Pat! That was a load to be hit with even in the best of circumstances, much less just coming out of surgery! Holy cow! I applaud you for not letting it get the best of you and being able to deal with it all and come to the place you are now in. You must be a ver strong person. You are truly an inspiration.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-04-28 23:32:09 -0500 Report

I have been told that I am a strong person, but during the processes, if I could have cried, I would have bellered!! haha—-Then last Sept as I was working on getting myself sorted out, they discovered cancer on my left kidney, it had EATEN the whole thing, only my right kidney was functioning, and quite well—-The mass was 10 1/2 long and 4 1/2 in. wide, and I didn't even know that I had it—it was removed after 2 hospital stays to boost my general health—-and no sign since, so I consider myself VERY FORTUNATE—-even cancer seemed to hit me while I was numb from the depression—-and even tho it was a grade 3 and was eating on my BELLY FAT—-(I find that hilarious!!!) It just really didn't register, I guess, it was like—-whatever——-I sure must have a purpose yet in this world as I keep surviving STUFF!! As for the big D?? I am still in training for better eating and exercise habits, so—on it goes—-haha—PR

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2010-04-28 23:46:51 -0500 Report

You most certainly are still around for a reason. God's not done with you yet! You've had your share, tho. I pray that the future holds much better days - years - for you. I love your attitude and your sense of humor. I'm constantly amazed at what we live through and survive at times - things we never would imagine we could handle. Only God gives us the ability to do that!

GabbyPA 2010-04-29 09:54:51 -0500 Report

OMG! I knew you had gone through some things, but that is just so incredible. I think I would have just lost it completely. You are an amazing woman! Hats off to you!

Least 2010-04-29 16:09:35 -0500 Report

Wow, that is simply amazing Pat. It blows me away! God really took care of you and the cancer situation, I can't believe how well…

I'm so glad to hear that you are doing better, and that your depression is improving!

MAYS 2010-04-28 06:54:25 -0500 Report

Emotions prove that you are human.

You will experience them when necessary, for what ever reasons, the emotion that is necessary or required will surface.

Having a logical, " Mr. Spock," persona mentality has solved many problems but also created just as many in my life, would I change any of it, no.

It hasn't caused any tears or outburst in you because at this moment you can and are handling it realistically.

Acquire all that you can about diabetes, it's complications (very,very important) and what is necessary to live with it in harmony, it's a lifelong partner, your companion for life, embrace it !

Do what is required, but most importantly, don't stop living (!) the emotion to display right now is relief, relief in knowing that you can, and will control your diabetes.


Pam from KCMO
Pam from KCMO 2010-04-28 05:44:46 -0500 Report

We're all different, and so are our reactions. I wouldn't worry about taking the diagnosis in stride and not getting all emotional. Instead I say, good for you. Sounds like you're making the right adjustments to your lifestyle - and that's great!

You were only diagnosed three weeks ago, and, as you know, diabetes is a life-long condition. There's plenty 'o' time for emotions to come up! And you just deal with them the best you can when they do.

I got the diagnosis ten years ago - my doc immediately followed the news by handing me brochures on heart disease, kidney disease, blindness, amputation…etc. I went home and cried for two days! But she scared me straight (well, mostly. lol)

Elrond 2010-04-28 00:34:18 -0500 Report

It took me almost 30 years, one stroke, and one nearly fatal heart attack before I began taking my diabetes seriously. Up til then, I'd look at something and say: "I shouldn't eat that because I'm diabetic." then eat it anyway. My sugar was usually in the 400's and 500's. I still struggle but I've brought my A1C down to 7.5 and my endocrinologist is delighted. Being diabetic is a definite pain in the keister but you can live with it. The lifestyle changes certainly take a lot of adjusting but you can adapt. Consult with a diabetes educator. Most of them are experienced in helping you with changes that disrupt your normal lifestyle as little as possible.

MAYS 2010-04-28 00:15:55 -0500 Report

No, not really.

It depends on how you react to anything, some people take it to heart emotionally, others logically.
Some worry, others just get up and do, most a combination of both, if you want something to hit you emotionally, let it be known and shown whenever you see your numbers going down, your heart, mind and body rejoices knowing that whatever it is that you are doing, it's working !

~ Mays ~

Roy531 2010-04-27 22:38:01 -0500 Report

People take it different ways, myself I just took in stride as another part of life and it never impacted me like it does some people. Some get emotional the minute they are told other might take a while to sink in. Just depends on the person. Do you exercise, that will also help bring the numbers down. I have a treadmill and walk everynight plus the walking I do at work and it has helped bring my numbers down.

Sunny.Knights 2010-05-05 22:52:45 -0500 Report

Having been a Pre-diabetic for years, the diagnosis of Type 2 didn’t come as a complete surprise. What I didn’t anticipate is the total frustration with trying to keep my numbers in line and the reality of the disease itself.
I watch and record everything I eat. I count Carbohydrates, Proteins, Sugars and Calories. I tried for two weeks to eat a low calorie diet with no success in stabilizing numbers. I tried for two weeks to eat a low carb diet with the same dismal results. My numbers are all over the place.
I do take Metformin. My first education class is next week and I still have to see a Nutritionist. I have been reading quite a bit. Still, I am frustrated, depressed and feel like I have no plan. Exercise is difficult as I have multiple disabilities.
I was depressed before, but now I have hit a new low.
When I see something I would like to eat that I know I shouldn’t have, I just remind myself that I have already tasted it and I remember what it tastes like. That helps a little.
I know several Type 2’s and they have given up because of the rituals of testing, meal planning and the other hassles they associate with Type 2. I reject this and am determined to get this under control. It would be nice too have better results as these crazy numbers are driving me nuts. I just hope my resolve outlasts my frustration.
I may never fully accept this condition but I do have to live with it in some kind of peace.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2010-05-06 12:00:51 -0500 Report

Just remember that you are not alone in your frustration. So many - if not most - of us go through these periods over the years that we call ourselves trying so hard. Just makes you downright angry at times! But keep trying…do the best you can. Sometimes it takes a little while for the body to adjust and get in sync with all that you're doing, and it often takes several adjustments of medications. You won't be perfect, so don't expect that. Just do the very best you can do. Know that you are making every effort to stay alive and have quality of life. If you say to heck with it today, try again tomorrow. Wishing you luck!

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