Feeling hurt

By Cheryl*G Latest Reply 2013-01-01 19:29:12 -0600
Started 2010-04-22 22:47:58 -0500

Today has been a bad day. I am on a couple other sites and today most of the people that were suppose to be my friends have deleted me. They said because I have diabetes it is just to much for them to handle! What? What does that have to do with being my friend? Oh well guess I'll cry some more and just keep to myself! Thanks for letting me bend your ear!

137 replies

Type1Lou 2013-01-01 09:44:23 -0600 Report

Dear Cheryl, As most here have noted, those people were not truly your friends. DC is the only social network I participate in and it is a fount of knowledge and support. Last year, I fell into a clinical depression because my vitamin B12 levels were ridiculously low. (Test ordered by the psychiatrist I first saw for the depression.) Since then, I've been getting monthly B12 shots and taking a sub-lingual B12 supplement daily. The psychiatrist released me in June. No one else had ever tested me for B12. Your crying all the time (depression?) might be due to low B12. You might wish to bring it up to your doctor? It was a quick and easy fix for me and makes life SOOOOO much more pleasant. Hoping 2013 bring happier, brighter and healthier days for you!

Cheryl*G 2013-01-01 11:00:44 -0600 Report

That was 2 years ago after being diagnosed with diabetes. My life is good and I no longer cry except when something happens to one of my kids. This is for Type1Lou.

Type1Lou 2013-01-01 16:48:11 -0600 Report

Glad to hear that things have gotten better in the intervening 2 years and that you are coping well!

shorty31 2011-05-21 22:32:15 -0500 Report

most of facebook people are there to gossip i go there to play the games. here and daily strength are the onlu sites i visit the most . hang in there we are family here allways remember that.

Infinity1956 2011-05-17 14:34:52 -0500 Report

Hi jayabee ! On most blogs people only wants to talk about stupid stuff and most

of the supposed mature people are the ones that wants to play childish games.

Before I knew I had this condition' and was trying to blog with mature people

about my classes and what I wanted out of life , to this day I never did received

any support from internet people and that is one reason I do not care for

F———book. If people cannot or will not accept you for being you, you are better

off without these people up in your mix.

There are all kinds of toxic people in the world so the best thing to do is as the

disciples did in bible days when Jesus gave them their assignment to go preach

unto certain cities to receive the word. If they refused it , to shake the dirt-off

from under their shoes and he would execute judgement.

So as the Master was persecuted back them and even unto this day ,so will

others persecute you for no reasons at all. Take my advice from this day forward

anyone that cannot bring any value into your life , you do not need to waste

your time.

This is one of my motto ' God only gives you so many hours, seconds minutes to

live and you do not have time to fill your life up with certain people being a

distraction, wasting your precious moments, detracting from those hours,

minutes, seconds from your life.

Chin up and shout your praises to the Lord and keep it moving.

jayabee52 2011-05-19 11:33:08 -0500 Report

Howdy Jackie!
I thank you for your reply. However I am not the original poster, Dolphinlady is.

I have a profile up on FB, but I spend little time there. I had been getting invites to play games there but I don't respond to that, so the requests for play are tapering off. I think one or 2 of my acquaintences from FB has unfriended me because I don't respond to such requests, but I don't worry about it.

I MUCH rather spend time here where I can learn and share things about Diabetes and make a lot more friends.

I also like to offer my prayers up to God for the various situations which are shared on this site.


Thank you for your pep talk, but I am not the one whose feelings had been bruised.

I pray God's richest blessings be upon you and yours!

James Baker

Infinity1956 2011-05-21 22:14:47 -0500 Report

Hi and thanks sometimes I get mixed up in who is saying what. I feel you about games and all that , that is one reason I really hate f——-book, I just cannot get into what ever they are doing. I have a facepage but do not go there that often and only made it because I was trying to find some job connections or trying to hook with people in my same interests at school.

How are you doing and did you have a great day and weekend ? Talk with you later.

We must always put God the creator first because no matter what we go through, it's all for his glorification when he receives the praises.

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2011-05-15 23:00:58 -0500 Report

I was saddened to hear how you were treated. I know there are people like that. But you know what? It's their loss. I say to bad for them, because they just lost a wonderful person who I am proud to be a friend of.

melissa5786 2011-05-15 22:55:48 -0500 Report

No one needs to be around people like that. True friends know everything about you and are strong enough to stick around. Cry and let the pain and hurt out, but then hold your chin up high and move on. You're a beautiful, strong person who is dealing with what life has thrown at her. Yes, the reality of diabetes is scary, but real friends will hold your hand and help you through it, even if they can't handle it themselves.

When I was in a coma and almost died my best friend came every day, talked to me and held my hand. She was the only friend my family allowed into the ICU to see me, but I learned a lot when I woke up about some of my "friends." One of them even handed me a get well card 6 months after I was out of the hospital for the last time and said "I meant to send you this a long time ago" and signed it right in front of me! I felt like someone punched me in the stomach. That hurt way more than I thought it could.

Living with this is a great eye opener into the minds of people around you. Who can handle it and who will be in your corner through it all. And just remember; even if you lose all those people you have each and everyone of us to lean on. We have to stick together. We are "blood" related after all :D

diabetesfree 2011-05-15 22:15:50 -0500 Report

Sounds like they were never really friends to begin with. Unfortunately, the world is filled with people like that. Think of this as an opportunity to discover who your REAL friends truly are, and discard the losers who were obviously not your friends like they claimed they were.

tweetydele 2011-05-15 22:30:30 -0500 Report

i would say they r the one with the problems. such small minds. i dont think anyone on this site will delete u for anything. we are here to help each other not to criticize or belittle. so hang in there and know u have plenty of friends here.

2011-05-15 20:29:52 -0500 Report

dolphinlady those people who don't want to be your friends, because you are a diabetic, should be no friends of yours. Your to smart & nice to be (excuse me 4 saying this) with dingbats like them. You have us, on this site, who will treat you like you want to be treated like the kind & sweet person that you are.

carithers 2011-05-15 20:21:07 -0500 Report

I understand t he lows and high. my doctor once told me it fine for me to stay home oand chill out from work. sometimes our body needs rest. Just watching tv and resting.honey we have too many supportive people on this site too worry about the mean people.hang in there

Jackie375 2011-05-15 18:48:06 -0500 Report

I know how you feel and I am so glad I have found somewhere and people that I can talk to about things that won't just say I am being over emotional. Talk to me anytime.

Armourer 2011-05-15 18:13:42 -0500 Report

Dolphinlady - you can bend our ears anytime!

2011-05-15 18:33:36 -0500 Report

Dolphinlady~~ This whole site is here for you. People who don't want to be your friends because you're a diabetic, is pure bull. You can bend my ear or any one's ear on this site. That's what were all here for. We're all here to support each other. Excuse my language, but screw those other people. We have what we have. If others don't like it, then they're not really your friends in the 1st place.

Nova69 2011-05-15 18:13:32 -0500 Report

What effort does it take to be online friends with someone who has diabetes? As most everyone else said, these people are not your friends, never were your friends, and do not deserve to be your friends. I read your profile and you seem to be an interesting, pleasant, and intelligent person so forget about them and go on with your life. You've found plenty of friends here who will stick by you.

Have a good day!


looney52 2011-05-15 17:12:16 -0500 Report

People can be very mean and very stupid!!! There could come a time when they get diabetes and could use the support and advice of somone who is already dealing with the disease. Then they will want to be your friend again. People do not understand what we have to go through and what we worry about happening to us. If they are really your friends it should not matter what is wrong with you. Good friends are hard to find. You need to forget about those so called friends and move on.

nzingha 2011-05-15 14:08:45 -0500 Report

I cant believe people can be sooo unkind…those were no friends. You dont need them Dolphin Lady. Get yourself some new friends. I am glad I also connected with DC because now that I have full blown diabetes ( i had the 'play play' one before lol! where readings were like 150-160 and I used to get annoyed..now its moving up to 200 and more and really scarring me) but I am bringing it down. I will not make it take control of my body.. think positively! you have friends on DC.. talk to people. Also there is Face Book. I love being on Face book. Just sharing with people makes you feel better! Try it!

Cheryl*G 2011-05-16 00:16:30 -0500 Report

I'm on facebook and thats one place my so called friends deleted me.

nzingha 2011-05-16 06:24:24 -0500 Report

oh thats so sad…the definition of friends and face book is really quite blurred..yes that's the word ..not quite clear and i wouldn't put too much trust in them unless they were people u actually know in real life and trust me thats where u see their real true self come forward. The true friends will celebrate with you, when you post good news, or they will cry with you when things are not right. The fake ones u never hear from either way..and yes they will delete you.remember too that friendship works two ways.

Somoca 2011-05-15 13:18:14 -0500 Report

I have had people tell me they can't handle the lows and highs and the diet that I adhere to. I have mentioned here on a previous occasion that I have had dates and boyfriends leave because they can't handle the possibility of me losing a limb or going blind, etc.

Cry now and purge your soul from that pain and ugliness and then move on.

Eleanor Roosevelt stated No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Do not waste your time on such things.

Ms Julie
Ms Julie 2011-05-15 11:56:08 -0500 Report

I had the same thing happen to me with a friend of mine . She told me to deal with it nd go on with ur life that diabetes isnt a big deal . She was a diabetic also but ate what she wanted , checked her sugar when ever she felt like it nd told her Dr. that she would deal with it her way . Guess what two wks. ago she went into diabetic shock because her sugar was to high nd she passed away .
She had no friends or family cause she chased them all away .
I told her about DC nd she wouldnt listen to me . DC connect is great place to find friend nd support .
If u ever need soneone to talk to were all here for u at DC .

Yasmina 2011-02-11 17:34:17 -0600 Report

Sometimes some people just don't get the big picture. It's what is inside of a person that counts…not what they think should…like looks or money or color. Every person out there has a right to make a friend or be one…I guess they just didn't think very much of themselves either!

blakeashton 2011-02-11 14:39:24 -0600 Report

come on , you don't have to border at all , this is the time for you to know those who love you or care for you . your sickness has nothing to do with them being your friend , those who deleted you did not really love you or care for you I think you have to be glad for noticing them

Guardianstone 2011-02-11 14:10:43 -0600 Report

Dearest dolphinlady, I know it has been a long time since your 'friends' (ha) rejected you. They were wrong for doing this. Karma has a tendacy to come around and bight you in the as*. When this happens I usually try to hide my smile and dance a jig inside.
If you want You can be my friend. Let me know.
Guardian stone

countrygirl59 2011-02-11 13:45:22 -0600 Report

Thats ashame those people are not worth the time a day. Anyone who judges a person for whatever instead of looking at a person as a human being first has some major problems of their own.

MewElla 2011-02-11 12:22:08 -0600 Report

This just makes me sad for you and angry at "them" who deleated you as a friend because you have diabetes? These are very cruel people who definitely need help. It is a good thing that this site is dedicated to a community that supports our friends with all the "good, the bad and the ugly days." You are not alone…we are here for you.

Angelcourtisan 2011-02-11 10:45:04 -0600 Report

I'm so sorry to hear that. When I was first diagnosed I was in jr high and a lot of kids treated me like I was contagious. But my best friend at the time is still like a sister too me and my boyfriend has been my friend for many years before the diagnosis. If people aren't willing to help themselves or even learn about diabetes and remain your friend then they aren't worthy of being your friend.

swanslake54 2011-02-11 10:25:24 -0600 Report

I am so sorry to hear that you considered such shallow people, friends. We're here for you on this site, I know I have received so much care and concern before and after my surgeries. People can be cruel and ignorant, we have to pray for them. Please don't dwell on this, embrace those that have your best interest at heart.

theladyiscrazy 2011-02-11 09:09:59 -0600 Report

Really? Wow, so sorry to hear that. You have friends here and if it is someplace like facebook, you can always friend me as well.

I have only unfriended two people ever. Both for nasty postings. That would be expected but because someone has a disease, that is a new one to me.

mimiof6 2011-02-11 00:51:40 -0600 Report

i always tell my kids they know who their friends are by whether they stay with you for good times and bad. i am grateful for my family and friends that stand by me even in the hard times. welcome to the group

Leedemp 2011-02-10 20:06:20 -0600 Report

I'm a Paraplegic and learned that you can't make people like/love you. Just "bloom where you're planted" and people will see the flower that you are.

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-09-10 22:22:58 -0500 Report

Happy day dolphinlady,
I love dolphins also I have them different places thru out the apt. & Winnie the Pooh. I feel honored that you have shared your hurt w/all of us. You know crying is a good thing it releases more than we can ever imagine. As God let us know that we may weep tonite but joy comes in the morning. Now we know He does not mean actually the next day but as long as you depend on God this too shall pass. I will stand on the wall in the name of Jesus concerning this situation. My pray is that you God gives you peace (like no other can) concerning this. If you really look @ this in a positive way you can see that your season of wasting your time love & patience w/them is over. Now you can pray for discernment & wisdom from God so you can stop listen & really feel true friendliness from a person. Stay blessed stay safe & remember you are highly blessed in the name of Jesus.

Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

bicker68 2010-09-10 01:31:04 -0500 Report

Real Friends stand beside you no matter what, I know how it feels to have a friend who turns their back on you. I'm sorry that you got so hurt, they are the ones who have lost out on a great Friendship. I would be more than happy to be your Friend, and here if you need a shoulder. Just send me a request. Take care and May God Bless You.


Kaiyle 2010-09-10 01:14:43 -0500 Report

I'm so glad that you felt comfortable in sharing your feelings with us, rather than keeping it all bottled up inside. You didn't lose in this situation, they did. They lost out on a friendship that could have made them better people for knowing you. Okay, so you've had your cry, you've released those emotions, now dry those tears up and focus on the real friends who realize the value in being and having you as a friend.

2004jeep 2010-09-09 21:20:15 -0500 Report

I sorry you had a bad day. You have friends here that will be supportive , encourage, in a positive manner . Diabetes is a lot to handle, I have cryed over and over. Diabetes runs big in my family genes.

But it is what it is !!! I pray to God every day/night help me.

With Gods help, good friendships from 'DC' we all just hope and pray things will be O.K. Just remeber you are awsome. Diabetes or not!!!!!! I'm your friend for life. You can talk to me anytime I'm here for you.

Thanks for being my friend

jayabee52 2010-09-09 20:59:50 -0500 Report

There's a saying floating around the internet, something like "True friends know ALL about you, but love you anyway!"

Cheryl*G 2010-09-09 21:02:17 -0500 Report

I am beginning to believe that! Thank you!

jayabee52 2010-09-09 21:03:54 -0500 Report

you're welcome. I think we here all love you like a sister

Cheryl*G 2010-09-09 21:08:50 -0500 Report

Sweet ! I don't have a sister to talk to anymore she was killed in 2004 by her husband and my mom passed away in 2006!

mimiof6 2011-02-11 00:56:19 -0600 Report

you have had a lot to deal with. i pray that GOD will keep you and that you can feel HIS love. GOD BLESS YOU

jayabee52 2010-09-09 21:26:58 -0500 Report

I'm sorry to learn of those losses. I just lost my bride this July, so I no longer have anyone to talk to here.

mimiof6 2011-02-11 00:57:56 -0600 Report

my sister just lost her husband a few months ago and she says the same thing. just remember if you find no one to talk to GOD is just a prayer away

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