I feel like I am loosing the biggest battle of my life

By marthajo Latest Reply 2010-04-23 12:08:39 -0500
Started 2010-04-22 09:49:16 -0500

My poor doctor she tries so hard to help me keep my sugar down but I love food and I have the hardest time with this issue. Whenever she sees me she always ask me how sweet are you today.LOL She knows…I will be really sweet any day of the week.

12 replies

GabbyPA 2010-04-23 12:08:39 -0500 Report

Hi Marthajo!
Glad to have you here. We are all foot (or should I say finger) soldiers in this battle together and it is good to have you here in the foxhole with us. The battle rages, but you are not alone.

Being diabetic doesn't mean you have to stop loving food. You just have to find new things to love. When I first was diagnosed I started focusing so much on what I couldn't have it was depressing. I am known for my baking. Breads, cookies, sweets and savories. So it was a huge part of my life.

Once I realized that there were a ton of great foods that I CAN have, I began to change my focus. I found ways to make many of the things I enjoyed with a diabetic conscience and it worked out pretty well.

I found great joy in vegetarian dishes. They explore wonderful flavors that I don't have to feel guilty about.

I found baking with stevia and no flour recipes can taste really, really good.

I try to use recipes from our recipe section at least once or twice a week and experimenting with those has been a lot of fun.

So maybe next time you go visit your doctor, you can take a package of sugar with you and tell her, here is my sweet, my BG is good today.

alanbossman 2010-04-22 21:02:20 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to dc. You really need to listen to all who posted here, they are all correct. All these good happen to you if you dont control your bs.

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LadyDi - 26259Miller 2010-04-22 18:42:55 -0500 Report

It is very hard - no denying that. But one thing I try to keep in mind is how much worse off I could be. There are so many things I could have that I would be less able to control and that would be so much more painful and deadly. Just try taking it a day at a time, then see how good you feel about what you've accomplished. You're going to slip up at times, as we all do, but just keep trying and thinking about those consequences if you don't control it.

shorty31 2010-04-22 17:37:51 -0500 Report

i know how you feel when i had to give up certian foods i got angry. i love subs and pizza and fried chicken with gravy and the worst thing is soda. so at first i was hard head and i started to gain wieght. then i couldn't breath well now i allready have a respotory problem. so i should have listen now do you now my eye sight is going i have to wear bio glasses i can't walk to far without stoping. sweet heart listen to me good don't play with your health like i did i wish i had listen when the doctor told me to lose wieght a long time ago. i don't know how old you are but most of my family died from some type of kidney failure due to diabeties my aunt went blind ,my cousin is on the machine. i'm one of the blessed one i haven't gotten that bad yet so please there is nothing wrong with bake food or wheat bread orwheat pasta. or even walking you get use to it after a while. take it from me don't let something scare you before you do what right. please take care of your self it reall takes every ounce of your being to be strong ask a family member your close to, to help you and you will make it i'm counting on you.

jayabee52 2010-04-22 17:01:38 -0500 Report

Dear Marthajo
I am wondering if you REALLY WANT to win this battle.

Most of us here struggle with food too. Not knowing what type of DM (diabetes mellitus) you have & for how long and what your BG#s (blood glucose numbers - aka: blood sugar numbers) usually run it's hard to talk to you about specifics.

It's good you seem to have such a good relationship with your Dr. That's important. The Dr is like a coach of your DM team but YOU ARE THE CAPTAIN of your team.

But YOU (not your Dr) have to live in your body EVERY SECOND OF EVERY DAY, YOU have to SUFFER the complications of DM: the burning, pain and numbness of Diabetic neuropathy, not to mention the damage DN does to the nerves leading to any or all your organs (can lead to a loss of bowel and bladder control - then you gotta depend on Depends), the loss of vision due to cataracts or Diabetic Retinopathy. Uncontrolled DM can also lead to Charcot foot, a breakdown of the bones in your foot, where your bones in your foot just break under normal use. Uncontrolled DM can lead to heart problems, and Kidney problems (believe me you don't want to have to undergo Dialysis if you can avoid it - I've been there)

I could go on about complications of UNCONTROLLED DM. Just go to the discussions page and type a term of a symptom or condition into the search box and you'll find many discussions of what people with DM go through.

But the news isn't completely bleak. Please notice I wrote UNCONTROLLED DM. If you keep your BG#s in control, you will hold off the onset of most complications. You can live a good long life if you control your diabetes rather than it controlling you as it SEEMS to be doing now.

I pray you get your DM under control.

Blessings to you and yours


Harlen 2010-04-22 15:18:48 -0500 Report

Its up to you
I have gone thrue the same thing I love sweets ,cake,bread and any thing yummmy
but its up to me to stop it and keep my BS inline
I did it by slowing down ask myself if I can holed off for 1 hr till I have it {I hate to sey no to me lol } and sometimes I eat it after the HR and some times I sey no I realy dont need it and befor you know it I have cut them out 99% of the time
Best wishes

Roy531 2010-04-22 14:20:15 -0500 Report

If you go into a battle with this mindset you will lose the battle. The doctor can not baby set you and feed you what you need to eat. Only you are in command of your body and only you can make the decission if you will win this fight or go down in defeat. Time for you to realized that if you want to live a normal as possible life you have to grow up and take responibility for your actions. When you lose a foot, your eyesight or your kidneys are you going to blame the doctor because of it. You can do what needs to be done. All of us here are here to support you and help you anyway we can, but it is up to you if you want to win this battle.

ginarb37 2010-04-22 11:28:48 -0500 Report

I so know how ur feeling. Since Dec Ive been very depressed, destructive and just being a child! I finally had a BIG wake up call.. my girls! They finally confronted me about what was going on and with that I have been getting up and trying to do what I need to. I still have days that I dont wanna do it and am in denial but than I think about my girls. I cry when I think or talk about it becuz IM only 37 years old. I know that it is hard but ur the only one that can do anything to make it better. I am here to do the best to encourage you in ur endevaur to get better. Please know that everyone here on DC are concerned and are family. ;)

MAYS 2010-04-22 10:35:48 -0500 Report

Only you can do this, not your doctor or anyone else.
Be really sweet to yourself, do what is right and reap the benefits of good diabetic health, manage your blood glucose levels !