being a diabetic is hard!!

By bhyson1204 Latest Reply 2013-01-14 19:16:58 -0600
Started 2010-04-21 14:19:12 -0500

Ok so I am 18 and pregnant with my first child. I have been a diabetic for 6 years and never really wanted to manage it. I am 29 week pregnant and since i found out I have been busting my butt to make sure I'm doing everything the best that I can. I just found out that it is really paying off. My son's lungs are working and he will be fine when he is born. But I don't know if I could do this for the rest of my life. I will now because of my son but I wonder what everyone's motivation is? I feel really proud of myself for doing everything I can and I am so happy that it is showing but honestly I need a break. lol. I just wanted to brag a little bit. I've never had such good control of myself. my doctor said that I was doing better than a non diabetic.

36 replies

jimLE 2013-01-14 19:16:58 -0600 Report

congrats on the baby.and im glad to hear that your doing better for your self as well as doing better…kep on braging..

robertoj 2011-07-10 19:11:34 -0500 Report

Attitude is everything. Choose to accept it for what is. Take it seriously but don't take yourself too serious. Enjoy full happy life that is far greater than diabetes.

barbie51 2011-07-10 18:42:58 -0500 Report

Super congrats on your lifestyle changes!!! Keep it up!! Your baby will need to see how Mommie takes care of herself, and will grow up eating good, just like you! I was motivated just like you are now, for my children. Now, its for my grandchildren, and my quality of living. I feel great, most of the time, have a variety of odds and ends of things wrong, but I just turned 60 and want to feel the same, or better!! when those other years come along- don't want to leave this earth before my 90's if I'm in decent health( which I am praying for). Hopefully, you will live to be a good ole age too, in good shape, no complications!

MrsCDogg 2011-07-10 17:28:47 -0500 Report

My motivation is this, I want to live and feel at least partially good until I die. There are people who love me and I don't want to leave them too soon. I don't want to leave my husband a widower yet, we have only been married for 5 years. I'd love to see my grandchildren grow up. I don't want to leave this earth before my dad does, I know that would break his heart all over again. Besides I just have the feeling that I'm not done here yet.
As a diabetic I think we all feel like we'd like a break sometimes. I sure would. But we all keep on plugging along because we must!

SuziOJ 2011-07-10 09:03:01 -0500 Report

Congratulations on your pregnancy and your willpower to do what is best for your baby. I feel compelled to respond to you because I keep thinking " if only someone had told me" for years I thought I was diabetic only to be told that I was just hypoglycemic and that it was the opposite of diabetes. I had my first baby at 20 and he turns 30 this week! I was tested for gestational diabetes during both of my pregnancies but the tests were both negative. My GP told me that I was "being a paranoid about diabetes.
Eventually, I changed doctors and was told that I was a borderline diabetic but I changed none of my life style.
My point is that I wasn't diagnosed until I was suffering from severe neuropathy. I can't tolerate the pain most of the time. I have ulcers on my feet which have kept me from my career of teaching the past 2 years. I am only 50 and pray everyday that I get this ubdercontrol so I will keep my feet and be able to see my grandchildren grow. Have none yet… But again , everyday I think if only I took better care of myself, maybe I wouldn't be so bad off at 50. It's never too late to start, so just set your mind to "just do it"!
Best wishes to you and your family.

Gizmomey 2011-01-20 14:05:35 -0600 Report

it is very hard being a diabetic. i am trying to lose weight and get my sugars under control again. Why do i do this so if i become a grandma one day I will be here to see them and be able to take care of them as well as for my children so their mom will be here for a long time and watch them grow into to adulthood. you are only human and don't get mad at yourself if you eat a piece if cake. just go ok i can do this i am going to start eating healthy and exercise for my son. Maybe you can use your son as your motivation. I say a small pray evry morning to help me get thru the day. here it is: "praise you Lord Jesus Christ God ALmighty." I am not sure of what faith you are but this always helps me when i have a bad day. Even when I am not having a bad day it buts me in a good mood and i feel more accomplishe when i say this pray. Congrats on having a baby. Good luck with your journey thru Diabetes. I have had it since 1990 and i have my good days and i also have my bad days!

CaliKo 2011-01-20 13:42:09 -0600 Report

Congrats on getting your diabetes under control for your pregnancy, that is so good for your child. Your motivation after his birth is the same. You want to be around (and healthy) to see him grow up, and then there's grandchildren to think of. I know, that's a long way off, so that's why its important to do your best every day. Good luck.

mo91108 2011-01-20 12:19:18 -0600 Report

I have only had T1 Diabetes for a little over 9 months, and the whole time managing my diabetes all I could think, was I don't wanna lose a foot. Or I can't work in the hospital if I'm blind. But most importantly I think to myself, I'm only 20 I don't want to die yet! Good Luck and Congrats

bhyson1204 2011-01-18 22:41:29 -0600 Report

my son was born on 6/29/2010 at 29 weeks. heweighed 7 lbs 12 oz and was 21 inches long. no health problems at all so far knock on wood. i successfully breastfed him him for 5 months with no supplements. he is very smart and strong. he tried to start crawling at 2 months lol. today he is such a joy. i have had no problems with recovering from a csection my diabetes is still under good control. not as good as it was becasue now i am very busy at work and do not have a set schedule but definitely no problems with rest because my baby boy sleeps all night since he was a month old 7pm to 8am ummm… i dont really know what else to say if you would like to know more please feel free to ask me

countrygirl59 2011-01-17 17:01:35 -0600 Report

Keep up the good work. Please never take your diabetes for granted it is nothing to play with and now with a new one on the way please pay special attention to it not only for you but also for the baby. Good luck and take care.

PetiePal 2011-01-17 12:40:18 -0600 Report

Please keep us updated. I'm very interested to hear how a diabetic goes through the pregnancy process and how and if it's challenging for you!

MewElla 2011-01-17 07:49:50 -0600 Report

Good for you, you should brag about you just did for your baby boy. Keep up the good work, Mom.

valeriebst 2010-05-28 23:26:23 -0500 Report

You have just proved that hard work and desire equals success. Kudos to you!!! Keep up the great work when the baby gets here even when you are sleep deprived. Heck, you won't have the energy to do things wrong anyway :o) Stay well and teach your baby some great things about health, food, diabetes, and the strength of a GREAT mother.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-04-23 23:02:46 -0500 Report

That's awesome! You should be very proud of yourself. Your son will be very lucky to have you for a mother, for you have already showed how much you love and care for him by changing your life style and now you are doing better than you have ever done. You have the right to brag! :)
I don't have any kids, however, I do have nieces and nephews; three nieces I claim as my own and I am their constant and it is because of them I realized that I needed to step up to the plate and take better care of myself so I can be there for them. They are definately my motivation!


serenity_of_the_heart 2010-04-23 14:17:01 -0500 Report

I can totally understand what you are saying and going through! I have been diabetic for 25 years. I have 2 healthy beautiful children and am lucky i got them…i spent most of my childhood and teenage years being the most non comolient diabetic u could imagine, i was also told i had screwed around so much id never have children because of it-guess they were wrong about that! but i also had to be under good control for 2 years before i was able to get pregnant, and like you the thing that keeps me motivated to stay this way is that I have brought 2 children into the world that need their mommy around, not only just to be here but to be healthy and active…it took a lot of soul searching but I have managed to keep myself healthy, my kids are 4 and 7 now and i cant imagine putting them through watching me die because i didnt work hard to stay healthy…sometimes i am so angry at my illness i just want to say F*#K THIS and forget about it…but I am not only hurting myself…i put my mom through hell for years by being a non complient diabetic i see that now, when ur a child it doesnt always sink in that you are not only hurting yourself…but i see things a lot mroe clearly now…i want to be around to see my grandchildren someday, i want my kids to have a fun, healthy momma…not to say "i soent my childhood watching my mom be sick all the time…So I guess they are really my biggest motivation to keep myself under control…Your son will be yours if you let him be…Good Luck and Great job on doing what u need to do so ur son is healthy!!

Chanease 2010-04-22 15:06:35 -0500 Report

I applaud you. children tend to push us to do better. When I was diagnosed I knew right then I could not leave my children prematurely over something I can beat. So they are my motivation. Keep doing your best and pretty soon you will not have to work so hard at it, it will become second nature.

Armourer 2010-04-22 14:19:26 -0500 Report

Way to go girl! Keep it up, and not just for him but for you too. I wish I had stayed with the control I had for a year over six years ago. Now I try to go back to that way, and diet, and it is to late, it doesn't work, I've gotten worse. If you do it for you, you do it for him too, and you will be around for a long long time.

Least 2010-04-22 12:52:55 -0500 Report

Its so refreshing to hear from someone who cares about their baby enough to change their lifestyle and habits to ensure what's best for him! All of it will be worth it, for him, and for the life you will have together!

Keep up the good work, I know it can be really hard at times, especially at first when your sort of "getting things in order", but, persevere! Once you are holding that bundle in your arms, I'm sure you'll have the motivation to keep up your efforts - knowing it's on his behalf as well as your own!


shorty31 2010-04-22 08:50:36 -0500 Report

congrdulations allways know that you will be a good mother the best you know to be and the of taking good care of yourself so you can be there for that bundle of joy. when the baby come and is in your arms just look in those eyes and you will know everything will be allright best wishes. my motavation is my granddaughter she is my beautiful betterfly.

jayabee52 2010-04-22 02:29:57 -0500 Report

My motivation is my new bride and my sons. (No grandkids yet — that I know of at least LoL!) I want to be at my best for my bride. Since she is blind and has multiple medical "challenges" I want to take the best care of her I possibly can. And to do that I have to take good care of myself
And my three (now adult) sons. I don't want them to see their dad give up on life even though i have a number of serious medical challenges.

BH, you have a lot of years ahead, and they can be good years IF you TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! Please do it for your son and for future children (if any) and maybe you can enjoy their children (I am certainly looking forward to seeing my sons' children). Who knows what will be discovered later in your life which may help you with your T1 DM or maybe even cure it? But you gotta take care of yourself to be able to get there!

Blessings to you and yours

GabbyPA 2010-04-21 15:16:56 -0500 Report

Lots of things motivate me. Sometimes it is my family. Sometimes it is knowing that I am accountable and I hate to give a bad report. Sometimes it is fear and sometimes it is pain. Mostly though, I like how I feel when I am doing a good job of taking care of myself. That feeling takes me very far.

I know that now you are doing it for your baby boy. And that is a great motivation indeed. Just let him continue to be that motivation. He is going to need his mommy for a lot of years and being motivated to be there for his needs is something that I bet you find will come pretty naturally after a while.

Roy531 2010-04-21 15:12:07 -0500 Report

My biggest motivation is my granddaughter. I would like nothing better than to be able to see her graduate from high school then college if she chooses to go, would like to be able to see her get married and possibly be there when her first child is born. If I don't take care of myself those things will be lost to me forever. I want to be there for her as she is here for me as my motivation to do my very best to stay healthy. She as is her mother is my pride and joy. My Greatest Motivation. Roy

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-04-21 15:18:39 -0500 Report

Roy, how old is your granddaughter? I have a 6 and a 5 year old. My motivation is the same as yours. I want to see them grow up and because the beautiful young women I know they will be!

Roy531 2010-04-21 15:35:15 -0500 Report

My granddaughter is 11.

Harlen 2010-04-21 21:55:04 -0500 Report

I need to be there for the grandbaby that lives with me and has for the last 5 years
She needs me to be there for her.Yes its hard to do all the things right but you get to live longer and better with out all the side afects of diabetis if you just take care of it
best wishes all

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2010-04-21 14:53:24 -0500 Report

First, congratulations on your pregnancy. I personally wish you had waited until you were a little older, but I hope you and your family are happy and excited about the prospects of a precious new baby in the family. May God keep you both safe and healthy and provide for you. I pray you have a good support system.

As for motivation…staying alive is a good motivation for me. Staying alive for your child should definitely be your top priority. You will need to be strong and healthy to care for and provide for him. While he'll bring unbelievable joy to you, he will also bring a lot of stress and hard work.

Your mind set really has to change altogether in order to stay on course. You will get very sick of doing all the "right things" at times, but you can't give up. You have to pick up and get back on track as quickly as possible. We all do that at times. Not one of us does a perfect job, unfortunately. But it is so important that you work with your doctor and stay focused on being as healthy as you possibly can. The alternatives are horrendous (i.e. losing a limb, blindness). Giving up just cannot be an option.

Good luck and God bless you!

MAYS 2010-04-21 14:49:34 -0500 Report


Be very proud of yourself and your accomplishments, you are going to be fine as a diabetic, as a person and as a mother, knowing that you can do it, that it's not as hard as it seems and that it is necessary, makes you a better person now, much more than ever before.

A true inspiration to all, so brag, toot your own horn, you have earned it, congratulations !


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