What's the most annoying question you've been asked about your diabetes?

balthiraz
By balthiraz Latest Reply 2013-01-12 22:51:28 -0600
Started 2010-04-19 19:21:48 -0500

For me, it would have to be "Have you taken your insulin?" after I have made the comment about having a "sugar crash". I end up having to fight the urge to scream "OF COURSE I'VE TAKEN MY INSULIN YOU IDIOT! WHY DO YOU THINK I'M HAVING A SUGAR CRASH?! GO TAKE BIOLOGY FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!", and I just go eat some bread or potatoes.


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Nana_anna
Nana_anna 2013-01-12 22:51:28 -0600 Report

How do you feel? Just in general from the Dr. especially. I get the feeling from him, that he doesn't believe me when I say I am fine. I know my body. If I say I am fine I am. If I have pain where I need to call him I do. Please take my words seriously. I know when I don't feel good. I get this allot from my husband, "what's your BS number?", I say, look it up hahaha!

marla50
marla50 2010-09-27 18:12:43 -0500 Report

For me it's not the question. It's,my friends cousins uncle's wife, went blind and had to have both her feet amputated. Yes I'm very much aware of the complications that can occur from diabetes. I feel bad for those that have suffered. But how about let me hear about your cousins son that is getting along quite well living with diabetes. I like this site. There really is other people that have the same challenges that I do.

gregsteele
gregsteele 2010-06-22 01:38:34 -0500 Report

Ive only been diagnosed for5 mos and i think ive been asked all the questions everyone brought up but i think ill agree with ELROND it bugs the crap out of me when people want me for something when its time for me to eat and act put out when i tell them so (itll only take a few mins.) very irritating the only place i get abreak is here with my DC friends love to all GREG

ccritch
ccritch 2010-05-28 09:06:48 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC! I read all the comments and I am not surprised about the reactions of people who have no education on diabetes. My mom is in denial that I am a diabetic and she does not know how to deal with me being a diabetic but to hurt my feelings everytime saying things like lose weight, don't eat this don't eat that or you need to exercise or if you diet you will not be a diabetic anymore! OK! I am a diabetic and live with Diabetes 9 years now I say and I will never not be a diabetic and I will not lose weight and be diabetic free and I watch what I eat, but who can go cold turkey from sugar intake to none! it's like taking the last cigarette from a chain smoker! Diabetes comes in all shapes, forms and sizes, ethinic groups no one is excluded! If everyone in your family history has it you are doomed to get it. You need to talk to your sister she works for a cancer doctor! is she an endorcinologist? She she a diabetes specialists educator? Oh she is not then I don't need to waste my time.

Thanks to DC and my friends here that they are my friends and show me they care, understand, support me, and try to help me with great information especially my emotional needs, It is very difficult being a diabetic and changing your lifestyle, taking pills then insulin then insulin pump, not to mention changing eating habits, (exercising what is that), I thought I did enough chasing after my dogs, children, work etc … but knowing I have a caring network of friends from all across the world I am blessed to have even if it was only one person I am bless and now you are blessed to have all of us!

Good Luck! stay strong, be happy and ignore the ignorance.

When someone says Did you take your insulin! Say, Did you register for diabetes education? need not to say anymore, I just learned this from my Insulin pump educator. Answer a question with a question and they will not ask again.

BeckyJ
BeckyJ 2010-05-27 21:56:51 -0500 Report

Mine is probably a fairly standard one as well. On my doctor's advice I sat my family down and explained the symptoms and risks of low/high blood sugars and what to do if I am unresponsive or acting strangely. This was after a severe case of DKA where I passed out at home and was unable to get help. My Dad finally broke into my house after 3 days of no communication. I am now on the insulin pump and needed to let them know what to do. I showed them the little pamplet they gave me as well as the Glucagon pen and how to use it. Now every time I am irratible or sleepy my big dopes of brothers pull out the emergency card and start tickin off syptoms and interogating me. Also since the "incident" I have only been allowed to be left alone when sleeping! The rest of the time I either have someone with me or calling me every 30 minutes. If I don't answer the phone someone comes checking on me. Last week was the ticker, my cell phone went dead while I was at the grocery store and I didn't notice. I was in the check-out line when I got paged over the intercom. My 16 yr old nephew was frantically searching for me and had security searching the store for me!!! I had only been incommuicado for about an hour. I am so tired of the constant strange looks and overprotective help and advice I'm getting. My mother had a liver transplant 8 1/2 weeks ago and gets more of a break than I do!! I am 32 yrs old and I have a 5 yr old checkin up on me…totally embarassing!

BeckyJ
BeckyJ 2010-05-27 22:27:43 -0500 Report

That was more of a annoying situation than an annoying question. The most annoying question I get is " Are you SURE you're ok? Do I need to call a doctor?"

frogqtie2
frogqtie2 2010-09-27 23:55:05 -0500 Report

OMG..i get that too…if not by soneone here..then they call…and ya better answer the phone…i never say anything about it to them…just means they care…

gregsteele
gregsteele 2010-06-22 01:44:22 -0500 Report

Isnt it great feeling like you are being babysat i have lows quite regularly and my 9 yr old has made himself my keeper tells me when to eat ,test ,take a shot,etc. he gave me my glucagon when i went down so im not complaining but what i wouldnt give for a few hrs. i could call my own love to all GREG

monkeymama
monkeymama 2010-05-27 21:03:51 -0500 Report

I personally hate it when I am asked "why I am eating that" followed by the "diabetics can not have that". Another is "Why are you using a insulin pump", type 2 diabetics are not suppose to be using insulin pumps". Who died and left them decided what I can and can not do along with what and and how I treat my type 2 diabetes. Grrrrr!!!!!

Blue Angel
Blue Angel 2010-05-27 20:35:03 -0500 Report

I'm the one always asking the questions on the subject of diabetes. I been getting alot of support from people with diabetes & the ones who don't.

RAYT721
RAYT721 2010-05-27 20:16:50 -0500 Report

I detest hearing, "but you're too skinny to be diabetic." (a) I am NOT skinny; and (b) diabetes is a disease not a side effect. My response to the skinny comment is "You've never seen me naked." Unfortunately most people agree and want to keep it that way.

Elrond
Elrond 2010-05-27 20:56:46 -0500 Report

Yeah, I'm terribly underweight due to my diabetes. I'm 6' 0" and barely 150 pounds. I constantly struggle to gain weight but diabetic gastroparesis makes that difficult. Add in the fact that I can't just pile on high-carb foods and you get the idea. My heart won't let me exercise either. People are always telling me to eat more but that is more easily said than done. I first learned about my diabetes when I dropped from 220 to 160 in 6 months without a change in diet or activity. I never regained any of that weight and I've been slowly losing body mass since. All I can do is try to eat the healthiest foods possible.

Elrond
Elrond 2010-05-27 19:21:16 -0500 Report

I'm constantly bugged by friends and neighbors who know my mealtimes but expect me to drop or delay meals just to help with their petty problems then act highly insulted when I try to explain that I MUST eat on schedule. I had a neighbor today call wanting me to reconnect her DirectTV (again) right at my lunch time. I told her I'd be there as soon as I ate. (I had already taken insulin). She hung up on me.

tay2008
tay2008 2010-05-08 17:14:08 -0500 Report

im a type 1 diabetic and the most annoying question is "how did you get it" or " did you get it from eating too much sugar"

Emma2412
Emma2412 2010-05-20 14:41:09 -0500 Report

I have Type 2, but I agree. The most annoying question is "How did you get it? By eating sugar constantly?"

RAYT721
RAYT721 2010-05-27 21:49:48 -0500 Report

Just start looking around the room with an evil grin. "I'm sorry… are you talking to me? I think I smell a chocolate bar… hold that thought." … It's hard to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person.

0tina0
0tina0 2010-04-30 11:24:23 -0500 Report

I'm new to this but I would really love to reply to this one! I hate when people ask me why I'm not immediately filing for disability, since I am now totally disabled from the diabetes "thing"…I hate that!

scribbles
scribbles 2010-04-25 19:34:29 -0500 Report

My most annoying question came when a motorcycle cop asked me my latest blood sugar. We were at a license check. Since he could not tell me why he needed to know, I did not tell him. (His senior in rank asked him why he needed to know and told me to leave.)

serenity_of_the_heart
serenity_of_the_heart 2010-04-23 14:07:39 -0500 Report

OH where to begin!!! LOL I have been type 1 diabetic for nearly 25 years. Sometimes you want to tell people where they can stick their stupid questions and advice, i know, i also realize and understand it is out of concern most of the time, even tho that doesnt make it any less annoying. I love it when someone says to me-well i dont know how you do that, i couldnt give myself a shot everyday…blah blah blah…well guess what genius, if yyou dont take the shot you DIE…so yeah im sure if it was do it or die u probably could.Or the people who ask "are u sposed to eat that?" or even better telling me what i am and am not supposed to eat, and i dont mean my doctors, dieticians or nurses, just ur average everyday NON diabetic. and when someone says to you "i know what your going thru, my grandpa, aunt, uncle, cousin, etc. is diabetic…HELLO?????? NO u have NO clue what im going thru…and people who say its not really an illnes…WHAT do u think this was a life choice????? PLEASE!!!! Sometimes the stupid questions and advice we are given can be more annoying than the illness itself, its frustrating and makes both my sister (she has been diabetic for 10 years) and I nuts…theres a lot of tongue biting and eye rolling involved…I try really hard to be patient with these people but its not always easy!!!

sheila7361
sheila7361 2010-04-24 12:04:40 -0500 Report

This is sooooo true it have type 1 for 28 yrs.i know for a fact alot of people dont have a clue. I have low blood sugers and they tell me to go take insulin..lol. even my family does this.Itry to explain but get tired of telling them the same ol same ol.

ginarb37
ginarb37 2010-04-22 12:01:40 -0500 Report

Mine isnt really questions, its statements by ppl! The one that gets me if ppl dont understand or arnt educated about Diabetes! They say " Ohhh.. its NOT an illness!" Well, Im sure that (we) diabetics will beg to differ! I Know that I have to bite my tongue and just educate ppl about the " non- illness" but sometimes its so hard!
Gina

MAYS
MAYS 2010-04-22 15:27:45 -0500 Report

The best educator to a non diabetic is an actual diabetic, first hand experience and show and tell works wonders, I agree about the statements that people make, many are nonsense that only a diabetic can correct by educating others.

~Mays~

Robbibird3
Robbibird3 2010-04-21 19:17:07 -0500 Report

1. Can you eat that?
2. Did you test your sugar yet?
3. Did you tell your doctor about this particular situation?

That last refers to a problem I have been having with vommitting, severe nausea and diarrhea. I discussed that with my gastro specialist and my primary because can only take 8 of the medications prescribed and I believe there is 10 that if I take all combined I'm vommitting within 24 - 48 hours.

Miminv
Miminv 2010-04-21 08:09:34 -0500 Report

15 years type 2. My mother says: Do you need to be so dramatic. You can have just one piece of choc. cake with ice cream, whipped cream, sprinkles and a cherry on top. lol lol, I just love it when my mother does this. The last time she did this I said well it could help me die earlier. Both sides of my family live till 98,99, still counting. She stopped short on that.

Least
Least 2010-04-20 22:32:15 -0500 Report

I was reading through all the other comments, which are all so true!

My number one most annoying question is "Are you writing your BG down in the log book?"

I don't know about others out there, but, this is my WEAK point! I try so hard in every area to control my diabetes, from checking all night if I'm high, to skipping sweets, changing basal stuff…In the end it seems like this is my one, teeny tiny, area to rebel against the system! Of course, with modern checking devices all the info is stored, so, I always end up writing it all down right before a doctor appointment anyways!
(And I mean RIGHT before, sometimes I squeak into my appointment on the edge of a dime!) It annoys my family who hate to see me scrabble at the last minute when a second here and there would save the trouble, thus the question all the time. Oh well, if it's my one "problem" area I guess it could be worse!

Harlen
Harlen 2010-04-21 05:46:51 -0500 Report

Well are you ??????
lol lol lol lol
My wife dose the same thing to me lol so for a month I did it every time lol now she dosent ask lol it worked lol back to the same thing again lol
Best wishes
Harlen

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-04-21 08:43:06 -0500 Report

I guess I am part of that issue because I am always advising people to write stuff down. I am a paper kind of gal and I like to see it on paper....oh well. I promise I won't ask you that on any of your posts. LOL!

Least
Least 2010-04-21 11:11:44 -0500 Report

Oops, had a problem with posting up there! I'll edit the others to just have …! Wish there was a delete option!

Least
Least 2010-04-21 11:15:51 -0500 Report

I do that too! I write it down for a couple days, then, when no one is looking, I stash it away somewhere and never look at it until I absolutely have too!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-04-20 20:34:10 -0500 Report

Mine is that most don't believe that I am diabetic, ridicule me for being so careful of what I eat, they were told to be careful too, but they go ahead and eat everything anyway—-like they are tempting fate. Lately I just do my thing, and ignore them, or say, "I am just doing what my Dr recommended—if I pay him, I feel that I should listen to him——" PR

Richard157
Richard157 2010-04-20 19:06:49 -0500 Report

I have been married 46 years and I have had Type 1 all those years. My wife asks me "Are you OK?" at least 50 times each day and about a dozen times during the night. It sounds like an innocent question, but more than 50 times each day becomes very annoying. If I act the least bit unusual, say something out of the ordinary, make a little noise while sleeping, etc, then she asks the question. Frequently she insists I test after she has asked the question. If I tested as often as she wants me to, it would be at least 20 times per day. I love her to pieces, but she is definitely an overprotective wife.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2010-04-20 20:29:00 -0500 Report

BUT better than her not caring at all. She obviously loves you very much.

Harlen
Harlen 2010-04-21 05:52:32 -0500 Report

Yep it greats on me too but I love her and it is better then Do you got to do that here?
heres the fix every time she dose that tell her you need a kiss even if it dosnt stop her from doing it look at all the love you get
best wishes Rich
Harlen

Richard157
Richard157 2010-04-21 13:12:37 -0500 Report

Great idea Harlen. I will eat a fresh spring onion and then ask for the kiss. That might be the cure! (Not a cure for D, just a cure for the …Are you OK?…Are you OK?…)

Least
Least 2010-04-20 22:22:39 -0500 Report

I'm sure that could get very annoying, but still, it's so sweet! I only pray that if I ever get married someday my husband would be as concerned!

dietcherry
dietcherry 2010-04-21 13:24:40 -0500 Report

Awwww, Richard! What a sweetie you've got there! I have friends that ask that a little too much but God love 'em for caring! Maybe you could ask her to do or say something else when she gets concerned that you're alright. I like Harlen's idea for some hubba-hubba, too! :)

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-04-20 18:35:23 -0500 Report

One of my most annoying situations is when I am testing and my husband takes my meter from me before I have even looked at my results. It's his curiosity and his concern, but it is my thorn in my side. LOL

Least
Least 2010-04-20 22:23:21 -0500 Report

That is FUNNY! though I'm sure it must be like you said, a thorn in your side!

Harlen
Harlen 2010-04-20 22:40:21 -0500 Report

love is great he loves you so much

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-04-21 08:39:18 -0500 Report

Yes he does, and I am blessed. I recently had a very high episode because we had all fallen back into some very bad habits. When I shared my meter reading with him then he was shocked. When I told him that I really should have gone to the ER, he was almost panicked. What he did for me the next day was precious. He went out got all the mixings for salads and made me a nice salad as a surprise (he doesn't cook much at all, and this was a huge offering) So yep, as annoying as that little habit of his is, it is out of love. So I don't complain.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2010-04-20 13:00:56 -0500 Report

And then there's "Are you supposed to be eating that??" But others are right. They're concerned and sincere in their questions, so having a sense of humor definitely helps. Fortunately (unfortunately?) so many people have diabetes these days that I do think people are becoming a little more familiar with it. Be thankful your friends and family care. It does us no good to get upset with folks who annoy us, etc.

nakedbaboon
nakedbaboon 2010-04-22 14:16:38 -0500 Report

I love that one. Seems to be the most asked question. My Diabetic Educator told me eat whatever you want as long as you take the Insulin to cover it. (Of course she recommended healthy eating) I just turn and say if I don't I will be in the hospital as I have taken the insulin for it!

Harlen
Harlen 2010-04-20 07:30:43 -0500 Report

for me its how did you get it ?,What did you do rong?
Dont you know how to eat right ?
ansser 1 I got it fron a hooker
2, I was eatting meals just like your doing
and 3,Dont we all?but like you I just didnt do it
lol lol lol lol lol lol lol
I get some great looks from them lol lol lol
Best wishes all
Harlen

ston3xc
ston3xc 2010-04-19 21:35:30 -0500 Report

Please, people you have to have a sense of humor! They try to act caring, they try to act supportive, they try to help, and sometimes we take it the wrong way. I have found that a little bit of humor goes a long way.My best friend once told me she was sorry that I couldn't eat doughnuts for breakfast like she does. I replied,"Now why would I want to eat fried death for breakfast?" Now we can joke about fried death all the time. When they know that you are not going to take offense over every little thing they say, it gets a little easier. Most of them truly just want to understand.

dietcherry
dietcherry 2010-04-19 20:15:29 -0500 Report

Too funny, Balthirez! That has happened to me, too, over and over and over! So, that would be the most annoying question for me, as well. Now, you want to talk about the most ignorant statement? "HOW CAN YOU TAKE SHOTS? I COULDN'T DO THAT!" I have to fight the urge to roll my eyes and then I go on to explain that I don't choose to take shots; it's necessary to my survival. Ids! :) P.S. Another one I love is, "You don't look diabetic". Yep, I'm slim, athletic, not blind and have all my limbs so I couldn't possibly be diabetic! Double Ids!

ston3xc
ston3xc 2010-04-19 21:18:50 -0500 Report

When people ask me "How can you take shots!?" I always reply {deadpan}, "The alternative is death." Then I give them a smile and a wink:)

MAYS
MAYS 2010-04-19 19:58:14 -0500 Report

It would have to be the uncertain question from others,
" Are you okay ? " with the look of despair and fear in their eyes, just in case that there is something seriously wrong with me and that they are unable to help out, I just reassure them that I am fine, even though they are not !

~ Mays ~

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