Pre-Diabetic Neighbor

By joni55 Latest Reply 2010-04-08 08:17:00 -0500
Started 2010-04-07 07:47:45 -0500

My neighbor's daughter has been diagnosed as pre-diabetic. She will only eat canned and prepared foods. You can tell her something is not healthy, but she will always tell you, "I don't like it" to anything you may suggest otherwise. Any words of wisdom that I can give to her mother?

8 replies

Zimoss 2010-04-07 18:57:53 -0500 Report

This is a disease that you must do yourself…all the good intentions in the world are wasted if she doesn't want to listen.

I would say be there for her and when/ if she decides she wants to make a change in her lifestyle then you can help her.

joni55 2010-04-07 21:10:10 -0500 Report

I have told her mother to play up on anything she does like that is healthy. She does love salad, so that is a plus.

GabbyPA 2010-04-07 08:46:58 -0500 Report

How old is her daughter? It is sounding like mom needs to take control if she wants to help her child. Once she stops purchasing those kinds of foods and they are not in the house, things will change. It will be horribly hard in the beginning, but as she finds things that she can eat, it will change over. I know if it was me, my mom would have said "If you don't like it, you can go to bed hungry".
Old habits are hard, and unless the entire family is on board, it will be a nightmare to get her to comply.

Like Mays said, you can only show them and offer your help. It is up to them to take it and use it. Sometimes persistent caring will win someone over. Showing them that is it not all the things that you have to give up, it is things that you CAN do.

joni55 2010-04-07 21:15:26 -0500 Report

She is 13 and is very much overweight for her age. Her mom is not really helping. Her daughter asked her not to buy treats, because she knows it is a problem. But, her mom always winds up buying boxes of stuff or a cake or pie. They can't stop at one serving, but eat most of it withing 24 hours and will say it is not like they do it all of the time. Her mom eats way too much anyway. She was eating about 3 times what I ate, even before I started eating better. She is like my mother-in-law was, always insisting I am not eating enough. I have to tell her I only want a small amount of something and it is the truth. I have been looking at labels a lot. Maybe she will learn from that. I think she is amazed at how many carbs are in everything.

GabbyPA 2010-04-08 08:17:00 -0500 Report

Yea, when I started reading labels and counting carbs it was a shocker. It woke me up a lot, to see all of that. It is creepy. Sounds like you can just be a helper along the way. It will be very hard if the whole family doesn't do it. I know when I cleaned up our cabinets, everyone lost some weight, not just me. So it was good for everyone to do what I was doing. I think that is the key to their success.

MAYS 2010-04-07 08:13:17 -0500 Report

Use yourself as the example to your topic of conversation if it's applicable, the best way to associate with something is visually and virtually.

Information to read :

You can also direct her to and \ or show her videos related to diabetes and it's complications.

You can only inform someone, the rest is up to them.


joni55 2010-04-07 21:17:54 -0500 Report

Thank you for this. I will look at the links tomorrow, as it is late and I doubt I would digest it. LOL She did have a good example today, when I was shopping. I looked at labels a lot and even had her checking with me. It was fun, actually.

joni55 2010-04-07 07:48:54 -0500 Report

And, she also loves pizza with extra cheese. That is all she will order out. Or, she sometimes gets chicken fingers and they are fried.

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