Our Friend Judy

By spiritwalker Latest Reply 2010-04-07 09:19:05 -0500
Started 2010-04-06 21:36:12 -0500

Our DC friend, Judy Makowski needs our support. Her
husband passed. The memorial service is next Sunday.
I thought perhaps you would like to send her a message.
She gave me her permission to post. She is checking
the site. This is a difficult time for her. I am sure messages from the community would help.

11 replies

cc9 2010-04-07 09:19:05 -0500 Report

i am sorry to hear about your loss. there is no right or wrong way to grieve a loss and pay no heed to people who tell you it will get easier in time. or you will get over it. noone can stand in your shoes on this as your relationship and shared history with your husband is uniquely yours. you do what you need to do to re-member your husband and take care of yourself too. i shall keep you in my prayers. hugs.

GabbyPA 2010-04-07 08:49:59 -0500 Report

Judy, you know my heart is with you. Great BIG (((HUGS))) Cry all you want, laugh if it's funny and don't care about what other people think.

shorty31 2010-04-07 08:14:19 -0500 Report

sorry for yor lost my prayers are with you he's gone to a wonderful place now maybe my father will show him around i lost him last september. do you know i still talk to him. i feel him and at that monent i'm allright . might get hard some time , you will allways have those presous memories. i loved my dad as you your husband.

joni55 2010-04-07 07:34:15 -0500 Report

I have found that one thing that was helpful to me was to get things that would remind me of my husband. I had a little light catcher made with his name and his date of birth and death. I also got a necklace from the Bradford Exchange that had little blurb that started, "Gone but not forgotten." I wore this until it finally broke and then I was able to let go.

If you have photo albums, go through them and be happy when you remember how much fun you had with your husband.

I hope this is helpful. And, remember, I am here, if you want to talk. I can greatly appreciate what you are going through.
It has been 2 years, and I am finally able to enjoy the memories and not really be so much on how I miss him (which I do terribly).

joni55 2010-04-07 06:41:52 -0500 Report

Judy, I am truly sorry for your loss. My uncle died early Easter morning. I told a friend about this and he said, "What a glorious day to die!" Wow, he was so right. I am hoping that you and yours will see this as a time of celebration for his life and that you will find peace in Him. I know very well that the loss of someone close is very difficult and I don't mean to sound trite. But, with the death of my husband, I could rejoice because I knew, with all of my heart, that he is with the Lord. And, believe me that is a far better place.

I once said to my doctor that getting old was a pain. He said that it was better than the alternative. I said that I didn't know about that. He said, "Oh!", I am sure because he knew I suffered from depression. I said, "Yeah, I hear heaven is a pretty wonderful place!" It is and please take solice in that.

I like to think of myself as a prayer warrior and will definitely keep you in my prayers.

joni55 2010-04-07 06:42:34 -0500 Report

By the way, my doctor smiled! Which, I might add, he does not do often.

joni55 2010-04-07 06:45:34 -0500 Report

Please take the time to cry. It is important for your soul to grieve. Even Jesus grieved over loss. One of the shortest verses in the Bible said "Jesus wept." Grief counseling could certainly help and I am here, if you would like to talk.

Deb-G 2010-04-07 05:31:07 -0500 Report

So very sorry for her loss… :(

My thoughts and prayers are with you and may you find comfort in family & friends through this difficult time

xo ~ Deb

jayabee52 2010-04-07 03:58:57 -0500 Report

Judy you have our sincerest sympathy.

We pray that our loving heavenly Father surround you with His love and support. And that He send His people to minister to you in your time of grief.

Please be good to yourself and take it easy.

Jem just lost her mother a year ago this past Nov. It does get easier to cope as the loss gets further away.

I hope and pray that you have a person or persons who give you permission to grieve and cry and who are a comforting presence to you.

We continue in prayer for you and for your family.

James & Jem

imsuzie2 2010-04-07 03:35:08 -0500 Report

Judy, I am so sorry for your loss. As I too am awaiting the loss of my mother-in-law (in hospice and very near the end), I can offer you my sincere hope that as your husband has found peace from his cancer, that he had a gentle move into the light with angels and those that passed before him to welcome him to their love. May their spirits comfort you at this time.


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