for who i am

By shorty31 Latest Reply 2010-04-01 10:53:11 -0500
Started 2010-04-01 05:59:04 -0500

i was watching a video today, it was one of the jonas brother the one who is diabetic. some of you younger ones knows who i am talking about any way he sings this song and it made me think as people we tend to look down on people with disabilities and we are in the same boat. some might not be as bad as other some are worse. there was an athlet she was a women with only one leg and she still run, there was a little girl could not have been more than12 cancer serviver. just thinkall they want is to be treated like a human would feel if some judge you because your diabetic. you didn't do what right that why you have it but that night case if it was young babies and children wouldn't, even cats and dogs get it. the only reason i brought it up is because my mom blames me for being diabetic, why can't she just love me for who i am her daughter. go figure.

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GabbyPA 2010-04-01 09:29:16 -0500 Report

Blame is a tricky thing. We all want to blame something for things that happen in our lives. It is a way to make ourselves feel better or justified. It also takes away our own responsibility for what happened. It is hard when it is family and like the previous post, it could be her way of making herself feel better...overcoming a guilt she might feel for being the one who "caused" your illness.

Truth is, it is so many different things that go into a person becoming a diabetic, there is no one finger to point. Perhaps it is time to ask your mom if she feels guilty? Perhaps it is time to let her know that it is no one's fault? Perhaps it is time to tell her you love her, no matter what she thinks or feels?

shorty31 2010-04-01 10:10:10 -0500 Report

you know i have tried that i'm wondering if i did somthing in the past to hurt her maybe i need to ask her to forgive me and we just sit down to talk mother and daughter.

GabbyPA 2010-04-01 10:53:11 -0500 Report

You just might be surprised at the out come. My mom and I who have a really good relationship went thru a bit of a tiff. She was feeling sorry for herself and like a martyr. She had held something in that happened and sought council outside, but never talked to me about it. She was wrong to do that, and as we worked our way thru the issue we found we are now closer than before. It doesn't always work out, but you won't know unless you try.

Miminv 2010-04-01 08:37:55 -0500 Report

Ah, yes our mothers are complicated people too. She might be blameing herself. Or she thinks tough love will help you get on track. Or she thinks you blame her and she being on the defense with you. Or like my mother, has developed some mental problems that make it hard for her to understand that you have a disease (a disordered or incorrectly functioning organ, part).
What ever one your mother fits, all that matters is for you to understand that you have this disease and you need to take care of yourself accordingly. Your mother will either slowly start to understand (my mother understands now after 10 years that I can't have real sweets) or you will need to keep a little distance to maintain your health. Also stress from those who are close to you does not help your health.

shorty31 2010-04-01 10:15:22 -0500 Report

i agree i feel that somewhere she feel she let me down somehow or that i don't love fer enough. don't get me wrong i have toldrecently that i'm proud of her she took care of me my brother and sister by herself. know one gave her any praises they just critersized her she the type she will speak her mind no matter who you are. maybe if i had been a strong as she is i would not have made so many bad choices in my life but i learned from them. and maybe your right tough love is the best.

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