weight lose

By Tammyjo0812 Latest Reply 2010-04-08 13:37:09 -0500
Started 2010-03-29 19:31:13 -0500

Does anybody else out there who is deiting have a husband at home who doesn't want them to lose weight? My husband and i met 10 yrs ago i was over weight then and thats what attractted him to me he likes his woman a little big i'm deiting and walking a mile everyday and it's working for me .but my husband keeps telling me it 's but i would feel happier if i lost more weight. ok to cheat on my deit i feel like he don't want me to lose any weight because he says he loves me the way i am.

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9 replies

GabbyPA 2010-03-30 08:14:02 -0500 Report

Hi Tammy,
My hubby has the same attraction and that was great for me. He loves me the way I am, but he also understands that I can't stay this way either. I promised him I will never have a "skinny butt". LOL However, weight loss makes me feel better and when I feel better, so does the rest of my family. As a diabetic, I need to loose weight to help with my control. So while his acceptance of me makes me feel good, I can't use it as an excuse to not loose weight. He encourages me as I loose so I suppose that comes from a security in his life too that I won't leave him if I am thinner. We both know I will never be Twiggy, so he is all good with that, and I am thrilled everytime the scale goes down.

Tammyjo0812 2010-03-30 19:51:07 -0500 Report

i love it when i step on the scale it goes down i will never be skinney skinney but if i can loose the weight i'm happy i think my husband thinks i'll leave him for somebody if i get thinner i wouldn't we've been together 10 yrs i'm not going anywhere we have a beautifull daughter together i've told him this countless times

MAYS 2010-03-29 19:54:11 -0500 Report

As a diabetic, if losing weight will improve your health, possibly allowing you to have an even longer and more fulfilling life with your husband, not to mention eliminating many if not all of the possible complications associated with diabetes, isn't it worth it ?

I think that he would love the new you, knowing the healthful benefits of the weight reduction, anything short of being in acceptance with knowing the good that can and will come from it borders on selfishness, in my opinion.

Heavy and sick, or slimmer and healthier, the choice is yours !


JulieC 2010-03-30 07:31:37 -0500 Report

My husband says he likes me to loose weight, but, then he tries to sabatosh me at every turn. His thing is if I loose the weight, I will leave him for some one else. Is that crazy or what? If I lost the weight, I would be so much happier and sex would be sooo much better like it was when I was slimmer..I tell him I have no reason to leave him…but hes allways tring to get me to get pizza or cookies or ice cream and cook big meals…but Im being strong and I say NO! Hes more on me to stop smoking..thats some thing Im not going to try right now…I want to loose weight not gain and I will gain if I stop.

Roy531 2010-03-30 07:48:43 -0500 Report

Julie, hate to change the subject about weight lose, but if you are serious about quitting smoking, talk to your doctor about Chantix, It blocks the nicotine from getting to your brain and you don't have those cravings, I have talked with people that used it, they did not put on weight because that nagging wasn't there. Some insurances pay for it some don't. But I know it works and those people I mentioned that used it have not started back smoking and it has been several years, they said they didn't crave it any more.

JulieC 2010-04-01 04:36:23 -0500 Report

Sorry guys…I tried Chantix 2 times…yes it worked…but the second time it made me so crazy i started writing a suiside letter to my son! I had the most vivid wierd dreams all night long…waking me up all the time…and the the letter…well that finnished that…because that is way out of character for me. I wish it worked for me…but I have to find another way. But i am glad it worked for you…some it does and some not.

shyozz 2010-04-08 13:37:09 -0500 Report

I am lucky in a sense as I was taking wellbutrin for depression and it took my cravings away and I was able to finally quit. I have been a non smoker for 9 months now and I do not even think about it and My Husband still smokes but not around me. I know it may not be so easy for other but I feel that if you really want to quit you will find your own way. I know I always said I wanted to quit but I never did because I enjoyed it until it started hurting to smoke that is when I ask the Doc what to do and since I was already on depression medication he just changed the meds and it totally help. Hope this helps you.

Miminv 2010-03-30 10:01:11 -0500 Report

Quit smoking now. Chantix works. It stops the nagging craving in your gut and head. I smoked for 22 years and tried quiting for 10 years and the Chantix worked. I set a date for January 2, 2008 and have not had or wanted one since. I set the 2 because everyone smokes up a storm on the 1st. I can tell you that if you don't quit smoking now with the diabeties you will not know what damage the diabeties is doing to your feet, legs, breast, and other sensitive areas on your body. Within a week of my quiting smoking the circulation came back into my feet and legs and that is when I found out just how much damage the diabeties had done to them. When I finally got to the right doctor the test showed me that my feet up to the middle of both legs are numb on the skin. The nerves are not numb but dying and it is extremly painful. Quiting smoking will make you feel better now. It will also help eat better because things will taste better and sweets will become too sweet and fruits and vegies are much more apealing. Good luck

Anonymous 2010-03-30 10:07:50 -0500 Report

As far as your husband and other people sabatoshing you at every turn. Just tell them you love them and then say no thank you. And if that isn't enough tell them you love them and say if you love me you would help me.