Dealing with emotions

By LoriJ Latest Reply 2009-04-13 20:11:29 -0500
Started 2008-08-01 09:58:16 -0500

I am really struggling with emotions around the diabetes. Denial, depression, anger to mention a few. And they change without warning. Morris has been wonderful letting me ramble. This is a great site but I'm not able to get the internet at home. I know I'm not alone & am looking forward to hearing what you guys have to say about dealing with emotions.

95 replies

dj7110 2009-04-13 20:11:29 -0500 Report

emotions can have a big effect on controling bg levels. last week this has caused me a good deal of problems. My grandson passed away on the 8th and left me a nervous wreck. I ended up forgetting meals. oversnacking & not only to test at night but I forgot to take my lantus. woke up with a 513 b/g reading.

lois hutchins
lois hutchins 2009-04-13 16:49:52 -0500 Report

very, very good disscussion!
Fantastic answers.
Am I depressed? hayl yes!!! but I got you babe for relief.
GOD first though! He is my strengh
smooches to all

maxcats 2009-04-11 21:37:52 -0500 Report

I find my emotions go up and down a lot. Of course, when my diabetes numbers are in the 200s or high 100s and I'm taking my insulin and following my diet, this gets me way down and I stop following my diet! Then the neuropathy strikes really bad and I can't walk too well and that makes me pretty lonely. But, I believe in life and living it well so I know I must get myself back into shape so my spirits will rise again. Now I'm low but I know what I need to do to get higher, except for all the pain. That I'm still working on.

2009-03-31 21:03:13 -0500 Report

I had thought I was over the denial stage, I guess I wasn't. I figured the pump would magically fix me, I was wrong, it does take effort on my part. For the last 3 days, I've come out of denial, and I hope it's not too late.

2009-03-28 21:36:58 -0500 Report

When I was diagnosed back in 92, I was in rehab, for prescription drug addiction and alcoholism. I quit prescription drugs, alcohol AND ice cream in 14 days!!! Talk about denial! After I got out of rehab, I used to go to a local ice cream saloon, and sit in the corner, mowin on a large banana split. There was NO WAY I was gonna have this disease, NO WAY!!

Now, I've accepted the fact I have it, but I haven't let it win. I fight a battle everyday, but I know I will never win the war. Battles are ok to win, and knowing you will never win, keeps you fighting!!

maxcats 2009-03-31 19:57:59 -0500 Report

Diabetes is a war and we won't win. But, in a way we can win everyday if we take good care of ourselves day be day. I see that as winning MY part of the battle, not the disease itself. So, let's just keep on fighting!!

maxcats 2009-03-28 20:33:16 -0500 Report

My emotions get the better of me when my neuropathy pain gets stronger or I find that I have forgotten an insulin shot somewhere in the last day. They also really get me down when someone tells me just to "go out and jog" or something I can't do anymore. Daily I work at trying to keep positive, take my insulin, watch my diet and getting in some walking. But I don't always succeed or my feet swell up or something happens to slow me down and then my emotions seem to follow. I hope that I can learn to stay on a steadier coarse with my emotions and my body.

lisawatson 2008-11-11 17:04:19 -0600 Report


msann 2008-11-02 20:04:04 -0600 Report

denial is a very powerful emotion, it can literally eat you alive you have got to get control of your emotions, do whatever it takes dont be ashamed, may god bless you all!!!!!!

Vanilla 2008-11-02 18:05:17 -0600 Report

I too have a MORRIS that is so supportive and it helps so much to have someone be proud of you when you do "good" and supportive of your efforts even when you "slip" a bit and help you get right back on track. I, too, believe like some of the other people here commenting have said that there is always a chance for a cure and I will never stop thinking that !

dtonovitz 2008-11-01 23:22:32 -0500 Report

ive had diabetes since i was 17 (now 39) and stil have problems with dealing with my emtiions and all. i stil get mad and upset very easily. at times i argue with my wife and say and do things i dont mean and hate myself for it. most the time im confussed and hate myself for it and dont know what to do. i mysely am looking for help n just a friend to talk to at times. someimeimes it get better by the next day n sometimes it just doesnt n i dont know what to do.

Carol11 2008-11-01 13:11:19 -0500 Report

Like all of us I continue to struggle. I just cannot get past this diagnosis. It has destroyed me. And I too cry every day. No matter what I do, it is never good enough, to get rid of this curse. and I have to get rid of it I have to. I cannot live like this. I was at the doctor's on Wednesday last and he says I'm obsessing. No one has ever put it that way before but maybe i am, but I can't get past the blow that has been dealt to me. I guess I'm not strong enough or mature enough to deal with this curse. I know what it is like to be free!. And no one will tell me how I got this, why I got this, why I got what is essentially a child hood disease at age 60. And more importantly how to get rid of this curse. I search and search the internet to no avail

redwingsfan 2008-11-01 14:42:39 -0500 Report

Hello Carol,

Can't get my mind around this either. No rice, tatos, bread, fruit, sugar, pasta. But I can still have cabbage! What a blessing! After a month of food denial and Actos, my numbers are still above 200, occassionally in the 300's. Broke down and had an almond joy and butterfinger last night for trick-treating.

Keep your spirits up as best as possible. I just had a break-up of what I thought was going to develop into a marital relationship. My little heart is dealing with a lot right now. Can feel God's presence through it all.

Take care, Lisa

JaredLahti 2008-11-01 10:28:10 -0500 Report

Last night was the first night I truly felt depressed. This was my first halloween that I could not eat candy like my kids. I usually take my kids trick or treating and eat some of the candy but this year I have been taking care of myself. I know that the next couple of months are going to be hard with Thanksgiving and Christmas coming up but i know that I have to stay the course. Do you guys ever just let yourselves go for like one meal to feel a little normal? I know if I can get through the holiday season without going crazy everything will be okay.

redwingsfan 2008-11-01 14:37:03 -0500 Report

Thank you - I couldn't hold off any longer and had one almond joy and one butterfinger. Took kindergarteners trick-or-treating in the morning, then with nieces/nephews in the evening. Couldn't handle it any more! Fortunately my glucose didn't spike any higher than I have been seeing. Glad to know someone else had a tough night!

Vanilla 2008-11-02 18:09:13 -0600 Report

I do let myself have a bit of everything on holdiay or special occassion ,now notice I said a bit. NOT the whole pumpkin pie which believe me I could have eaten in less than three days over the holidays! Ha! BUT yes, if you do not let yourself have a bit of everything you will crave something so bad you will go much wilder (now this is ONLY if your sugar is NOT wildly out of control on that particular day you understand) chin up! Shelley (Vanilla)

Ani 2008-11-24 13:34:09 -0600 Report

Actually I take so good care of my self the whole year that on the holidays i dont over eat I just eat what i want but in small porportions that it is okay. If I over indulge i make sure that i exercise untill the next holiday.

NamVet - 21894
NamVet - 21894 2008-10-08 07:50:07 -0500 Report

They are like roller coasters, ups and downs, twists and turns. I think when you get off the coaster your ready to get back on and go again. Emotions are the same. You just suck it up and get going again. You begin to deal with each and every emotion different and soon you will get it or them controlled.

Edie 2008-10-08 13:49:17 -0500 Report

Thanks Vet;
You are so right and today was one of those days for me up and down and all around. I'm not sure if the ride has stoped yet or if it will keep going till tomorrow for me. We'll have to see. Nite all.
Your friend

NamVet - 21894
NamVet - 21894 2008-10-05 08:18:53 -0500 Report

I hate to read you cry alot. Think happy things. Take your mind to the better things and times.
Think of me..ha

Goddess 2008-10-05 08:22:56 -0500 Report

I don't have anything or anybody to make me happy or laugh. But you just made me laugh which I haven't done in a long time.

Edie 2008-10-05 11:59:38 -0500 Report

Misery where are you at? Are you close to Kokomo, Indiana? If so we can get together as often as we can otherwise I'll gave to email you only or we can talk on IM in yahoo.

Edie 2008-10-05 14:00:37 -0500 Report

I'll look that up on my Atlas and see when I can make it over for a short visit OK.

sparkysmom 2008-10-05 03:53:40 -0500 Report

I have struggled with depression as long as I can remember.Finding out I had dibetes was just one more thing. There are days I just barely get out of bed. What helps me is my 2 Keets, dog and Parrot. They have to be taken care of no matter how I feel. Hubby usually feeds Chelsea(dog) but my Feather babies are mine to care for. MrJac and CJ(keets) and Raff(parrot). Raff stays out of his cage all day so we spend a lot of time together. When I an really depressed he seems to know and will sit on my recliner and murmur in my ear. It helps. :)

Edie 2008-10-05 07:53:58 -0500 Report

I'm glad you have a reason to get up in the mornings. I use Quilting to keep me going most days now. I took the last few days off as I did too much the other day and have been paying dearly for it since. Not as painful today so will not be on here first thing in the AM am going to be Quilting for anyone that wants one.

Goddess 2008-10-05 03:37:18 -0500 Report

Since I live alone I do a lot of crying. That is until I found this site. It really has helped me.

Edie 2008-10-05 03:44:04 -0500 Report

I like haveing you to talk too also. Do you work outside of the home at all? If so what do you do? I used to work as a Nurse Aide in a Nursing Home with the Alz. Patients and really loved it very much. I miss my Patients and some of My coworkers but not all of them. LOL

Goddess 2008-10-05 03:47:25 -0500 Report

I can't work according to my final disability decision.

Edie 2008-10-05 07:51:25 -0500 Report

I can't work any longer either. It hurts too much to get up most days but I do it any way that is why I started Quilting to take my mind off of the pain.

Edie 2008-10-05 08:08:47 -0500 Report

Do you have children? If so and you know how to block them out and their fighting you can also learn to block out pain. I use that same way to block out my pain most days but I promised my Drs. I would not block it out to the extent that I used to. Now I stop at 7-8 otherwise I can't feel when my chest starts to hurt and that is not good with me carring around Nitro for the heart. LOL

Edie 2008-09-21 01:16:13 -0500 Report

When I first found out I had Diabetes I was at home with my mother as a teenager. My sister Sue was also one then so Mom put us all on the Diabetic Diet Sue and I lost weight and our Brother Randy and Sister Toni gained weight. When I went to School they gave me the Diet Mom told them I had to eat and so they Started to follow that for everyone at School. The Head Cook was friends with Mom and she was also taking classes to become a Registered Dietation so she got the Meal Plan from Her Teacher and That is the way our Lunches were made. I had no choices to make and just followed with the flow. Alot of my friends back then were like me we never talked about our Disease and then when we finally came out of the closet so to speak found out we were all alike that helped us alot. No one making fun of the others. We found out at my house when one of my friends asked mom why she was cooking the way she was she told them Sue and I are Diabetics and she had to fix meals that were safe for us so as not to get sick and end up in the Hosp. I beleived that for years then grew up and left home and had to start making Disessions for myself, I changed the way I was eating and got sick so went back to it. Now when I get hungry for sweets and candy I buy it then wait for the Grandkids to come over open it up take one out for me and send the rest home with them, or with cakes and pies or Cookies I make them and don't touch till only the last piece is left and then it is mine. Now were even changing that I can have one piece on Sundays only. If my numbers are down all week then it is my treat for the weekend. If not I tell myself not to touch as I didn't keep my promise to myself that week. It was going good last week. So I got my little bag of doughnuts has 3 small chocolate and 2 nutty ones they are only one bite each.

2008-10-04 23:42:52 -0500 Report

Like I just said when I apologized on post Attitude/Denial (my post) and I am also bi-polar/mpd so now I truly know that no-one knows how they will wake up and feel on any given day. But, I have learned, as long as you can feel, and admit to any emotions, you are still aliv.

Edie 2008-10-05 00:15:48 -0500 Report

I always say aslong as I can get up and move in the morning its a good morning and day for me. I'm up and moving so it is a good day, I was told by Drs. in Michigan that I would be in a wheelchair by 1997 and I'm still on my feet by the Grace of God, and by his Grace I'll stay on them for years to come. Hope all is well with everyone here also. Love and hugs to all. Have a good weekend!

2008-10-05 00:19:50 -0500 Report

You just made my day, because my doctors say I could be in a wheel chair any day for a different reason tho', but what you said was great. Thanks

Edie 2008-10-05 03:29:44 -0500 Report

My Grandma Jones always said never give up, cause when you do start planning your own Funeral. I'm not ready to leave this world or place here with all of my friends so there is no question of what I plan on doing is there? While the kids were little I kept telling myself no Drunk was raising my kids and that is what kept me going then. Now its just that I want to live and see everyone of you I can next Sat. at Waffle House in Kokomo, IN. and then travel around these United States to meet more when I feel like I can make it for as long as my body holds out. Thankyou for being my friends and family on here.

sesalt88 2008-09-20 13:57:40 -0500 Report

i know what you are going though because of my dentle proble. because there is know help for us poor foke

Amy Tenderich
Amy Tenderich 2008-09-10 10:45:04 -0500 Report

I'm so glad you brought this up! I've been encouraging the developers of this site to add a Discussion category specifically for Emotions/Motivation.

I've also been writing about this a lot on my blog lately. Please see these two posts:


Best to all,

Edie 2008-09-21 01:25:04 -0500 Report

Thanks Amy for these two sites I will diffentely go there often and add my 2 cents when I feel the need or compeled to do so. I really love this site as it lets me be me again. Didn't have anyone to talk with for over 4 years now as both of my sisters moved to Alabama just a few months apart. Thanks for being a good friend hope to meet you one day soon.

Ani 2009-03-28 12:02:49 -0500 Report

Thanks Amy there are many times i myself feel the need to talk about my emotions.

Goddess 2008-09-10 08:39:52 -0500 Report

I just don't care about anything anymore. I sleep 16 hours at least.

Ani 2009-03-28 12:01:20 -0500 Report

I'm sorry you are feeling depressed. Think about your family and how they worry about you. Think do you realy want them to worry about you all the time. Think about them worry about them and you will see that there is a reason why they worrie about you. That is becase they love you.

Ani 2008-09-10 06:27:42 -0500 Report

My emotins are through the roof one day I could be on top of things and the next Im depressed at the thought that things are not going as they should.
I realy think that people with diabeties are more emotional than others that are healthier.

wendyjean 2008-09-03 15:20:20 -0500 Report

i have found that know matter how i'm feeling it's the higher power that gets me through that feeling and trying to think of others that are far worse off then i am'or i will pick up the phone and talk with someone that also could use a lift and try to get a smile an giggle over the phone from them an usually i will feel that warmth back

Edie 2008-09-04 00:47:59 -0500 Report

I agree it sometimes helps to call someone. Any one wanting to call me my home phone number is 765-459-8449 Call anytime before 8 p.m. My husband goes to bed then he has to get up at 4 a.m. and leaves for work around 5 gets home by 4 p.m.

Robert Owens
Robert Owens 2008-09-02 05:00:12 -0500 Report

Hi again, hope you are feeling well today, i had a good report from doctor and rejoicing in it. I will be praying for you each day. My wife and i are pastors and we know our help is in the Lord. Robert

wendyjean 2008-09-03 15:27:59 -0500 Report

praise that i know sometimes it takes drastic measures to see the light and these last couple years has brought me back to the saviors arms-if it was'nt my true belief in him i don't know where i would be,for awhile i was angree defiant just would'nt take care of myself made my medical worse but ended up awakening my heart and eyes,HE is who has been carrying me!!!!

Frustrated mom
Frustrated mom 2008-09-02 02:29:54 -0500 Report

I am the mother of a 16 yr old with type 1 diabetes, we both struggle with emotions…I think he bottles up his, where I do not. Having this disease is so very hard for anyone dealing with it…It is a daily struggle for me, because my son does not take the best of care for his diabetes, he is young and i try to help in every way, but he gets very angry with me.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-09-02 02:43:01 -0500 Report

I have no idea how you feel but my mother does. I din't want to be diabetic and just thought it would go away. My friends never knew I was diabetic because I never told them so I too could go out and be the "normal" friend. If they frank pop I drank pop. If they ate chocolate I ate chocolate etc. etc. etc. Boy I suffered for that. Make him take control of this now so it doesn't take control of him.

Frustrated mom
Frustrated mom 2008-09-02 03:29:37 -0500 Report

I try my best to keep on him about his high sugars…He does good sometimes and then there are other times when he is with his friends that he just let's things go. I struggle with this because he will be grown before I know it and be on his own, then what? I can't be around all the time. I worry about him so much…I am so blessed to have this site.Thank you!!!

Edie 2008-09-02 07:30:38 -0500 Report

When I wouldn't do what I was sapossed to mom took me to see the Pastors wife and she set me down and told me if I didn't want to live as long as my friends just keep doing what I want and they will be saying goodbye to me in the grave. I wanted to stay here with them and decided to tell them what I had. It turned out 3 others in our group also had it and didn't want to be different either, that left 2 that didn't have it so they ate what we had to also they started to lose weight with us and found out 2 years later they both had it also. By then we were all eating better and got to be knowen as the Healthy Bunch. We started to win all the track meets and our football team started eating better also for those that were Diabetic on the team. The Coach was a Diabetic also. Everyone got better health wise and the one that changed the most the School gave a Collage schoularship to. That was only in their senior year all the weight they had lost for a total of 4 years was used to decide how long the School would pick up the Collage Tab.

Lito - 18599
Lito - 18599 2008-09-02 08:30:28 -0500 Report

Hello there Edie!

Reading your reply really made me laugh, am happy with your story. Why don't you guys name your group something that connote the word DIABETES and invite others from outside your shcool to educate people who are sick with this disease. Say SUGAR FREE ZONE or ZERO SUGAR ZONE or something else that will ring a bell for diabetes wellness.

Imagine your original group who started seeing each other with total denials that they have it, then it turned out that most of you are sick and suffering with it. And imagine the help you can do to many people who keep on denying that they are diabetics by inviting them to be parts of your group.

lONG LIVE!, and may God bless you and your friends.

kooney 2008-09-01 04:51:54 -0500 Report

Emotions sometimes affect your diabetices worst than your eating. it has a direct affect becase it causes the heart to pump more because of the stress you are putting on heart. this causes the blood flow to get slower.

do not stress or worry think about what the bible saids about worry. It doesn't change anything tust in Him and He will fix it or send people from this site to help take away your situation. keep responding to the people here in this e-mail community and they will help you reach stress Free .


David H
David H 2008-09-01 06:49:07 -0500 Report

Denial was a big problem for me. It took me about 6 years before I accepted my condition. Now I am in renal failure. I wish I would have stuck with my diet 6 years ago. I know I caused my problems now and if I can help anyone to avoid my mistakes, please feel free to contact me

Edie 2008-09-01 07:55:08 -0500 Report

David sorry to hear about your renal failure. I lost my dad to renal cell cancer on March 3, 1997. Do the best you can and you'll be with us for years to come I hope.

DonnaAnn 2008-09-01 04:25:21 -0500 Report

One thing to always remember:you control your diabetes, dont let it control you. Eat right and keep active. Make yourself the priority, not the diabetes. do positive things for yourself. Be selfish about it too! You will find yoru depression will fade and become better to handle. I still get very depressed but am learning to turn things around. Practice! You need to practice living fun and eating right to find out what works and doesn't. but you will get to that happy place. Oh yea! smile!

Edie 2008-09-01 04:30:54 -0500 Report

Your right there I have been praticeing different foods and exercises to keep me going and dancing helps the most for me besides Quilting. My moods are getting better too. I do have one concern that still has me worried and that is why my sugars bottomed out a few weeks ago and are now staying down. Blacked out maybe 6 times during that time but not since. my BP is also down now too. Have to call the Dr. in the morning to see what he has to say about it. But my mood is better and I haven't snaped at any one in over 3 weeks now.

Lito - 18599
Lito - 18599 2008-08-31 18:03:43 -0500 Report

Most of us, diabetics, has experienced what you are experiencing now. Maybe it is because you are angry and still cannot take the situation that you have the disease. Take it easy and admit the fact that you are not a normal person now and work out for the better to bring you back to your normal life. You are not alone, there are people around you who are willing to help, your family, your healthcare advisor, the Diabetic-Connect, and most of all God is always there to see you through.

Smile, forget your worries and you will be dealing with your emotions perfectly.

Half Sunflower
Half Sunflower 2008-08-31 11:56:32 -0500 Report


I participate in a program that my employer offers, it's called the employee assistance program (EAP). It offers a wealth of programs and services. I am seeing a counselor that I have been assigned. I have eight free sessions and have used one thus far. It helped me to get it all out and be totally honest. I am also extremely angry, but working with my counselor to resolve. You will find a way whether it's through exercise, reading, theraphy,or researching; there are many paths to obtain the solution.

Good Luck!

sesalt88 2008-08-31 06:20:44 -0500 Report

i know what you are going thought. my boyfrien has got a proble with me she dose not what her with her dad.

Patti805 2008-08-31 03:59:40 -0500 Report

I deal with the denial all the time. The only time that I really take my meds is when my fiance asks me if I have taken them. I also can't affor to go to the doctor's and get more perscriptions.

nataschaG 2008-08-31 04:06:07 -0500 Report

Denial, denial,denial. I am there but i take my meds and try to eat right. If you cannot afford the meds you should check into vegetarian diet to manage blood sugars and take an evening walk every day. Remember you are not alone, I am in denial to.

sugary 2008-08-31 04:59:16 -0500 Report

I'm really sorry about your fear and your emotional struggles. I have a mate that is tore up with diabetes. We can't get him to a decent blood reading :(.

It's very important to have support with a group that can relate to your situation.

I am glad too that I signed up to this site. :)

I hope you do take advantage of the free local classes that are given in communities across your country.

I'm from the usa, small town, and we have a diabetic clinic here every so often.

Edie 2008-08-31 06:05:41 -0500 Report

When I couldn't afford my meds my Dr. gave me samples out of his office and told me until you have the funds get in here and get them your not doing yourself or any one else any good not taking them. Because I was so stubborn for years I am now paying the price for my stupidity, can't work, can't lift over 25#,can't walk like I use to, and have trouble taking care of myself most days now. Don't be like me get the help now and enjoy your life to the fullest.

wendyjean 2008-09-12 01:03:33 -0500 Report

please take it from me,take care if yourself.I used to do the same thing until i almost died because of a suvere infectin that went through out my body and my organs were shutting down,not only was i left with a huge hollow spot on my back but now i have severe heart trouble,neurothpy,arthirities,blood pressure and uterun cancer i only started out with diabetes alone,if i had taken away my fears and anger and took better care of myself i would be out still enjoying life,but because of that decision i can't hardly walk even at times with a wheeled walker shopping or anything to do with any amount of ecsersion is out if one wont get me the other will.My grandchildren an nieces an nephews can't understand why i can't play with them the way i used to-please teddybear don't allow this to happen to you,i'm only 45 with alot of life still before me i go in for my hyserectomy in a couple of weeks and they can't guarantee i'll make it cause of my heart you have someone there that loves you and wants you well,really listen to what i'm saying and he says then take a good hard look sure hope you will start loving an caring for you.BEST OF HEALTH!!!