death of a loved one

By rain Latest Reply 2010-03-26 14:01:46 -0500
Started 2010-03-25 15:30:58 -0500

My mom recently passed away it was very unexpected and very sudden. I have found this to be hard on my soul as well as my body. My sugars have been out of control because of my emotional state. I am not sure if I should ask for medication or try therapy or both. I have delt with depression before. I have been told that greiving is a real emotion not an emotion brought on by suffering from depression,so I should consider that before I decide going back on anti-depresants.In any event I am still amazed how our emotions have a huge impact on our physical self.

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jayabee52 2010-03-26 14:01:46 -0500 Report

Howdy Lorriane,
I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and yours in this time of grieving the loss of someone dear to you. That the loss was sudden and unexpected heightens your sense of loss. It is a shock to your system and as you said your sugars are out of control because of it.

FWIW my general attitude toward the medicacion or therapy question is to be gentle with yourself, and give yourself time to grieve your loss. You may feel the loss so deeply that talk therapy may be needed, so it may be good to speak with a trusted friend or pastor or therapist who may work on helping you through your grieving. Only if your mood continues for more than 2 or 3 months or seems to intensify would it be time to seek medication, while continuing with talk therapy.

Things will never be like they were for you before your mother passed, but eventually you should be able to get adjusted to what I call your "new normal".

Please know that my bride and I are praying for strength and emotional healing for you and yours, and I suspect many on this discussion are also.

Blessings to you

GabbyPA 2010-03-26 13:23:53 -0500 Report

Hello Rain and a big ((hug)) from all of us here.
Grief is such a strong emotion and so very personal that no two people are going to grieve the same. I am sorry for the loss of your mom, as that is often such a special relationship. Those stresses play havoc with our sugar levels, but don't despair. If you have not been on anti-depressants for a while, I would let your doctor know what is happening. If you can stay off them, then allow yourself to grieve naturally, you might find greater strength in that. You can be quite strong when you need to be.
You may have to be a little more careful with what you eat, as everyone is going to want to comfort you and they almost always do it with foods. Keep a close eye on things, and think back to the things that worked for you before to keep you on target. Don't spend time beating yourself up, that will just make you sink lower. Find that spark. It might be in a photo of your mom and you or maybe her favorite flower. I see that smile in your profile will be back again soon.

imsuzie2 2010-03-25 19:26:12 -0500 Report

Rain, I also am sorry to hear of your loss. Having lost my mother when I was 19, and my daddy 2 1/2 yrs ago, I know how difficult loss can be. I still have some anger at the loss of my mother, even after all these years, and am at peace with the loss of my father, as he was almost 88. Time goes a long way in the healing process…a great book "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" is a great source of comfort, whether the loss is a loved one, a job, a pet or more.

I send angels to surround you and your family at this time. Stay with us here in DC. We care and will support you as needed.



Harlen 2010-03-25 18:47:05 -0500 Report

As one that has lost there MOM I feel for you
Yes its reel and it takes time to ajust you never get over it, I havent
A little less sun shines in my life .
I am so sorry for your lose

Alyssa512 2010-03-25 16:43:42 -0500 Report

Hey Rain. Sorry to hear about your mom. It's a hard loss. Talk, cry, scream, kick and whatever you need to do. Dont try to stay tough, it's ok to break down and get up when you are ready.

MAYS 2010-03-25 15:58:09 -0500 Report

Rain, I am very sorry to hear that, and very well stated Roy.

Our emotions and emotional state both play a great deal in our health and well being, our emotions can be controlled. uncontrolled or masked but either way they will have an effect on our health.
Although it's easier to say and at times harder to do, we must try to relax and be at peace with ourselves which will help to promote good health because one of the biggest factors with diabetes, in a negative way, is stress, whether it's from our bodies and diabetes in and of itself or from the outside sources of every day life and living, stress, diabetes and negative emotions will take their toll, weakening us and leading us towards self destruction !


Roy531 2010-03-25 15:40:41 -0500 Report

I am sorry for your lose. It is hard on a body, it will get easier as time goes on but you will never forget the lose. I will be praying for you. I lost my Dad in 1983 and it still bothers me but not as bad as it once did. Time heals and God comforts.