stigma

DonnaAnn
By DonnaAnn Latest Reply 2008-08-01 12:03:40 -0500
Started 2008-07-31 21:52:29 -0500

Sometimes I wonder if there is a stigma with diabetes. When others find out that you are diabetic, they say things like, wow, you cant eat this and you cant eat that. Sometimes they do act different around you. If invited over they even make you diabetic jello! Not knowing of course sugar free is not carb free! But the kind thought is there.
We, ourselfs, sometimes carry the stigma. I cant eat this, I have been given a sentence.
I wish that instead of literature saying you can go blind, or you can loose a leg, or have a stroke, they would say it does not have to be.
It took me a long time (almost a year and a half!) to realize, its okay to be diabetic. I can be diabetic and still live a good life. A difficult one sometimes, but a good one.
I would love to know how others were able to conquer this stigma. How did you get over the fact that diabetes is not a death sentence and a awful way to live and nothing good to eat?


6 replies

LeighG
LeighG 2008-08-01 03:10:15 -0500 Report

when i found out i was not to shocked it runs in my family and i had it when i was preg. and it went away now 4 years after baby i have it.i let it get me just for a moment and then started to learn all i could.my doc. sent me to a class the very next day.it helped me alot he gave me tons to read and talked to me for awhile on about what i need to do and cut out and so on.my dad passed away from this nasty thing and i will not let it get the best of me.
i looked at it as it is apart of who i am now and it will not take over mylife so i ran with that and i have the control.i keep posative outlook on everything as much as i can.
it helps so much to be able to come here and talk about everything.i am so blaessed to be apart of such a wonderful carring group .it sure does help tons to have wonderful friends to talk with about the everyday things on living with this .
hugss to all.
leigh

butterfly_8
butterfly_8 2008-08-01 06:42:58 -0500 Report

Hi,
It was not the worst day of my life when I was diagnosed. The old saying."today is the first day of the rest of your life", was so true. I realized I had to take more responsibility for what I did for me. Honestly ,before that I just took good health for granted. You see as a senior citizen, I had no previous illness.Therefore I did not expect any. Now I am paying attention to ME.

LeighG
LeighG 2008-08-01 06:54:26 -0500 Report

hello.
i so agree with you.before now good health was like whats that know its all i know to live yea know.
leigh

Dancehawk
Dancehawk 2008-08-01 02:38:36 -0500 Report

My doctor told me I want to see you in 20 years dancing with your hubby on a cruise ship.
That woke me up, then I fould this site after scowering the internet.
Best day of my life was comming here.
Then I met Toma here and between diabetic-diet-secrets.com this site and Amys I am well covered and eating right!
Plus it gives me websites to refer my freinds, family and Doctor to.
So not only have I found tools so has everyone I know.

huggles
Catherine

DonnaAnn
DonnaAnn 2008-07-31 22:24:17 -0500 Report

Well since I started this, I quess I should go first.
When I was first diagnosed, I remember crying all the way home from a clinic, thinking that the clinaticians knew nothing about what they were talking about. How could they? they werent diabetic?
I was angry, confused. But everytime I painfully picked my finger, the numbers told me differently.
I decided that knowledge was power, and that I should learn everything I could. as I read up on diabetes, I found out that it did not have to be a disease of death and loss of limbs or eye sight.
I became aware that there were foods for me to eat, and that shoes and socks were even made for people like me. that made me feel important and recognized. there were still things that I was angry about, like no open toed shoes, but found out that pumps and loafers could fit into my lifestyle and I could find purses to match.
But, there was still that stigma with people. They would hand out home made cookies(with M&Ms even) but say they had something special for me. And I would think, if they give me diabetic jello…or they would appologize and ask me if there was something else I could have instead. I would politely tell them that a half of cookie was good enough for me and would not kill me.
I soon realized that once I became accepted of my diabetes, and stepped up to the plate,(the base ball kind, not the dinner kind!)I would help others understand diabetes. Knowledge is true power.
I learned that I can eat good foods like cookies and food substitutes that were tasteful and be active and still garden and play sports. Once I learned to get over the fear of having diabetes, and get over the stigma of how dreadful diabetes is, I became happier and stronger. its true what they say, live, learn, be happy.
I also learned that there are others who have diabetes, I am not the only one! imagine that! And thru them, I also learned that I can be healthy and happy. I am not isolated. I have other birds to flock with.
My advice for anyone that has just learned they are diabetic: read, talk to other diabetics. You are not alone. You one of millions! that alone should make you feel better.
The true fact of the matter is, daibetes will make you a healthier person. Now you will have a reason to eat right,and loose wieght.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-08-01 12:03:40 -0500 Report

This is beautifully written. I love the heart of what you share. It is true, we are sometimes our own worst enemies through our fears and perceptions that we inflict on others. Bravo! Let's learn together and teach together.

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