Husband

Anonymous
By Anonymous Latest Reply 2008-07-31 21:42:21 -0500
Started 2008-07-31 06:05:32 -0500

My husband just got diagnosed with diabetes and is in denial. What suggestions can someone give me? He's hispanic and very macho…


5 replies

DonnaAnn
DonnaAnn 2008-07-31 21:42:21 -0500 Report

I understand the denial part. I was to when first diagnosed. I went thru the whole, why me, and its a mistake.
My personal advice is to seek out a diabetic clinic or support group and go.Ask someone about denial and see if they have any suggestions. Leave literature around the house like at the kitchen table and read it yourself. He ay secretly read it. This way he can learn that he is not alone and read about the complications of diabetes. If he asks about why you are leaving literature at the table, or on your bed stand, simply tell him you love him and that you care about him and want to help him all you can. He will learn to accept his problem if he knows he is accepted by others. Especially you!

Dancehawk
Dancehawk 2008-07-31 18:24:01 -0500 Report

Best I can tell you is go buy veggies and healthy things start making meals that are healthy, and get involved with him, tell him we are a team and we will learn together.
also go to www.diabetic-diet-secrets-.com
down load the book, it is fantastic, it really helps you understand about food.

start a little discussion about did you know? and make it light conversation.

I think with you involved and well educated plus really helping him to eat right and the family he will pull his head out of the sand, and remember for some folks it is terrifying being told there diabetic, because all of our lives we have heard it is a death sentance or amputations.

Here at this site plus diabetic secrets we are proving them wrong.

hugs hun bring hubby on when he is ready and show him he is not alone and there are so many of us here willing to be a helper.

huggles

catherine

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-07-31 18:30:28 -0500 Report

I totally agree with Dance on this one,but if he absolutely refuses to do anything about it, you can't force him to do it,just be supportive and let him know you're there when he's ready and we will be here for you and him.Take Care,you will both be in my thoughts and prayers.

JP - 14811
JP - 14811 2008-07-31 15:13:46 -0500 Report

That's a tough one. A macho man in denial. It truly is up to him to face it and do something about it by getting it under control. You can be supportive and if you are the main cook in the house, you can cook healthy food and encourage him to exercise but the bottom line is you can't do it for him. He will have to step up to the plate and fight for his life. Maybe if he learns about the consequences of NOT taking care of himself he'll see things in a different light. Maybe not. Good luck!! Maybe he has to see that being a macho invincible guy isn't going to help him much if he's blind, has heart problems or is missing limbs from not taking care of his Diabetes. Sounds like 'tough love' is in order here.

*Judy (JP)

patti
patti 2008-07-31 06:15:45 -0500 Report

So sorry to hear that! Just be patient with him. Learn all that you can learn so you know what signs to look for that he may be in trouble. Call your doc and ask for all written material he has on Diabetes and leave it where he can see it (after you have readit of course). Start cooking for a diabetic and stop buying the foods he can not have. Some people will just deny it but it will sink in. Just know that we are all here for you and there are great people on this site to help! Good luck!

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