Does anyone here know of a good diet to loose weight?

By neisey Latest Reply 2013-03-19 15:55:39 -0500
Started 2010-03-08 15:56:19 -0600

I am soon to be 39 and i am extremely overweight. I have tried everything that i know of but nothing seems to work for me. I live with my husband who is also overweight but refuses to stick with me on a diet so i always fall back cause i still have all those fattening foods and drinks in my kitchen. I also have 2 kids here but i feel i could control what they eat if needed. I just do not know what to do and my weight is affecting my health extremely. Any and all suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I just don't know how to do this on my own especially when i can not control the junk food that is in my house because my husband will not follow a diet regimen.

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change2013 2013-03-19 11:29:19 -0500 Report

Diets do not work that is why you are not getting the results you desire. Losing weight is all about how you feel and see yourself. To really see the benefits of this concept you must make a "Life Style" change. From your post it sounds like you are really ready to make a change. Do not let what you know is right in your heart for you be challenged by the decisions your husband makes for his health. If your husband were on some kind of medication for an illness would you automatically start taking the meds too? No…of course not! Let your husband eat whatever he chooses. You do what is right for you. If you start getting healthy and losing weight who knows what could happen. Your discipline and determination to loose weight may encourage him to do the same. Visualize yourself being 10lbs lighter…after that the sky is your limit.
Go For It! Just Do it!

Miss_Teal 2013-03-19 05:09:49 -0500 Report

I'm restarting Weight Watchers as I fell off the wagon. Ten pounds makes a big difference in my health and I need the group support. I too have people in the house that are not on a "diet" and I find I can cook the same meals on WW and just eat in moderation. I look at it as a life style - I have over 70 lbs I need to lose. WW has a diabetic plan as well.

good luck I am right there with you

Ambree 2013-03-19 11:25:27 -0500 Report

I to have restarted Weight Watchers with a purpose. I don't want to go to dialysis, I saw what it did to my mom and how she felt. She also lost a leg. This time I am doing it for me! I love my family and I have to do this so that I can be around for my kids and my grand kids. Its a struggle and there will be good and bad days but you have to keep trying. That's where I am I will continue to keep trying until it becomes a habit. Best wishes to you on this journey.

Miss_Teal 2013-03-19 14:44:16 -0500 Report

ambree - That's my motivation as well. I saw my mom go on dialysis and she gave up after 2 years. It was so horrible and not where I want to be. BW to you as well

jayabee52 2013-03-19 15:13:29 -0500 Report

I just started on dialysis last month, and I am doing well on it. Dialysis is not the end of the world (but you can see it from there, LoL!). If you can avoid it do what you can to do so as it can be inconvenient and expensive. But should you need it don't be afraid or not take the treatment just because you're afraid of it.

I am just thankful that such a treatment is avaible to me to extend and improve my quality of life.

Before dialysis I had such a hard time with not being able to do any thing more strenuous than walking more than 100 yards and needing to lay down to rest. I had a hard time not wanting to eat, and then when I did force myself to eat I would get nauseated and sometimes had to vomit, especially when I over exerted. Being on dialysis is a BIG improvement in the quality of my life, even thourgh it is inconvenient (4 hrs per treatment, 3 treatments a week).

By all means avoid dialysis if you can, but don't be afraid if the time comes.

If you are interested I have some suggestions for meal plans for renal disease patients. I could send them to you upon request.


Miss_Teal 2013-03-19 15:35:47 -0500 Report

After I posted I thought I should add My mom's frame of mind about the whole diabetes (and had HP) was denial. She had diabetes for years and ignored it - never went to a doctor. Her eye doctor told her and try to encourage her to go to a doctor at 60 and she wouldn't. By 70s totally blew out her kidneys probably the first time she went to a GP in 30 years as she ended up in the hospital She was doing well at the center and then decided to do it at home. For most people that would be excellent not my mom by then her frame of mind was worst… it was around the time dad passed and I can guarantee she did not do it nightly. A lot of family problems at the time and she just did what she wanted which was ignore it. Unfortunately she lived in Florida and I in Ohio so I couldnt' encourage her or monitor her.

jayabee52 2013-03-19 15:55:39 -0500 Report

that is a tough place to be, when a loved one is in adamant denial of reality about a disease. The distance between OH and FL may have been bad, but what would have the emotional distance have been if you were living in the same place and she refused to care for herself.

So sorry for your loss!

Lakeland 2012-10-30 11:36:57 -0500 Report

I lost 40 pounds by being scared. I seen my dad be on dialysis, my mom lost a toe, my brother got a sore that wouldn't heal & that was all because of dabetes. when I got diagnosed I got scared. my insurace co gave me a health coach & she told me there is 3500 calories in a pound the sooner I cut that I'd lose weight. so I did start a search on foods I liked with lower calories. I walked a short distance after every meal, & ate smaller meals, added snacks, if I kept the calories down then my walks were enough. for my sweet tooth, diet jello, pudding helped alot to get me through. it worked. my blood sugar numbers came down & now I don't need as much meds, my doctor cut me back.

try to start, losing the first few pounds is the biggest motivator to keep going. I hurt my knee & had hip surgery so I gained some back,but I know I lost weight & it wasn't a diet plan, It actually was a carb plan, I chose the carb I wanted, if I wanted bread, I skpped dessert, if I wanted dessert I skipped bread.

best wishes

jigsaw 2012-02-05 11:17:51 -0600 Report

According to my RD, portion control is a major factor! No miracles here, but healthy foods and healthy portions should do it for most people. Less calories will definitely help. Some doctors recommend a meal replacement to make portion control a bit easier. It's always a good idea to find out from an expert what your total daily calorie intake should be, and then stick to those numbers.

Miss_Teal 2013-03-19 05:11:06 -0500 Report

my RD too and Following the food pyramid - variety

jigsaw 2013-03-19 07:13:58 -0500 Report

Work closely with your RD, and I bet you'll see good results in due time. I believe healthy balanced meals and proper sized portions can solve can solve the weight loss mystery for many. The other big ingredient is to find ways to exersize control and restraint with ones eating habits.

mrs tisby
mrs tisby 2011-06-15 21:01:54 -0500 Report

hi neisey all i can tell u is that what i do is drink diet green tea in the bottle and walk 45 minutes a day, and i also stay away from friend food ,eat a ceaser salad for luch and half of it for a snack at night that what i do

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-06-15 20:13:57 -0500 Report

Hey Neisey,
Diets are only for short term weight loss. Lifestyle change will last over the long haul. Start small, give up one thing at a time, and cut those portions. Some days will be bad days but you don't use a bad day as an excuse to go back to the old habits. Don't expect to drop 10 lbs. in a week. It's about choices and face it, some days you will make bad choices. All is not lost if you have a bad day. Check out They support lifestyle changes and there is support every step of the way. If you sign up (it's free) say I invited you dianadamp and I get 10 points :) It really is a great place to start. Hope to see you there. Unfortunately, everywhere you go you will be faced with "food" and "eating" and sometimes it does take pure willpower and planning to make the right choice. You can live with the spark plan. Now go for it girl and good luck, good health, and remember..if you want it you will find a way, if you don't you'll find an excuse. Be Blessed

Emma2412 2011-06-15 19:39:25 -0500 Report

Hi, Neisey
I've been reading your story. I think, personally, that you need to take control of your own kitchen, and not buy anything that can even remotely be called junk food. This is the health of not only yourself, but your entire family, that you're talking about here.
If it was me, I wouldn't tell your family anything, but I would definitely start cooking very healthy meals (plenty of veggies, lean meats, lots of fish, and a small amount of grains and starches. In other words, a healthy diet, not leaving foods out, but controling what and how much you eat and your family eats.
If your family wants junk food, they'll have to go to a store and buy it because you're not going to buy it any more. Be firm, in other words. As for the kids, now is the time to get them eating the correct way.
For years, I ate junk food, too. Well, I wound up with Type 2 because of it, I think. So, it's up to us to take charge of our kitchens. Don't buy anything that is not healthy. Get, if you don't already have one, a really good cookbook with healthy recipes in it and start redoing your menu. Don't forget to include lots of veggies. They are the building blocks of health. Fish is wonderful, too.
As far as making your food tastier, try herbs and spices. I get all my herbs and spices from a mail order place called Penzey's Spices. I get periodic catalogs from them, too. I think they are the best because they don't put any additives or anything in their products, plus it's all very fresh.
Next, get your family out of the house and into playing ball with each other or some other activity that you can all do together. Don't tell them that it's exercise. You know that won't work and it won't work on you, either. "Exercise" is one of those words that one just doesn't like to hear. But walking is real good for you to try and maybe you can, with a little woman-ese, get your hubby walking with you. That'd be a good way for you to have a little time together, too.
As far as diet plans, I don't think any of them are good. Good, healthfy eating is what you should be doing, getting as many veggies, lean protein, limited grains, limited dairy and other things in your family's tummy as possible. Of course, if you have an allergy to a certain food, that's different. But get as many different kinds of foods as possible.

Lymy 2011-06-15 19:13:51 -0500 Report

Do you go to an Internist or an endocronologist? What calorie count do they have you on? One of the managers here as DC is a nutritionist, I'm not sure which one. I think it is Susan Sloan. I believe I would either start with my medical professionalist and then Susan. Between them I know they can come up with a suitable answer to your problem and may even be able to talk you husband into sticking to it too.

It is not wise just to go on any diet that a member may suggest to you without having a healthcare professionalist' help first.

Sorry I cannot give you anything more than that but it is a starting point for you and your husband, and afterall we all have to start somewhere. Of course the best place to start is at the beginning.

I could give you some different diets, but I do not think that would be wise for you or for me.

I wish you the best of luck in whatever you choose to go with. Just make sure you have the medical backing first.


jladytiger1979 2011-06-15 12:15:48 -0500 Report

My husband also refuses to eat healthy. He of course eats what I cook but then does whatever he wants in addition to that. Also, he doesn't like to exercise with me (which I have been struggling with cause I hate doing it alone). Have you seen the plate diagram? 1/4 protein 1/4 carb 1/2 veggie?? Have you seen a nutritionist/dietician? If your endocrinologist doesn't suggest it, look into it through your local hospitals. They can teach you WONDERS! Mine even had a diabetic cooking class I was able to attend! I learned so much!! Reading labels is EVERYTHING! Read the nutrition! Start by counting carbs. that is what I did. I'm on the verge of losing 85 lbs in a year. After I had the carb counting down pat I worked on portion size, the "plate". Then after a while grams of fiber and fat. Then calories and exercise. DO NOT FORCE THINGS ALL AT ONCE! Your family may rebel or you may just rebel against yourself! Educate yourself also! I have learned SOO much from forums and online research. I read all the material I can get from my doctor or throught the mail regarding diabetes. You have a doctor but you are the caretaker for your own body! GOOD LUCK!!!

Antique-Dave 2011-06-15 16:42:42 -0500 Report

I agree with this, also I don't believe in diets, diets fail, ladytiger is promoting a way of life here, count carbs, use the plate for protioning, make changes gradually, all good stuff.

imho opinion you can't blame hubby, if you do the shopping buy what you know works for your diabetic control. If he wants something different let him go to the store and let him put the junk in the refrigerator in the garage with the fishing worms.

We have some control over the disease, but its really one of those change or die situations, and unfortunatley not much inbetween. I love my life, love my wife and my kids, its all about choices, and whats important.

If being healthy is important the choices are easy and there is a lot of support in the forum here even if you don't have it at home. A lot of us are the lone rangers of eating healthy in our families and the forums provide the only place to talk about our success, and everything else that goes with liviing with d.

Type1Lou 2011-06-15 08:35:49 -0500 Report

Dear Neisey,
You have within you the power to make the right choices. (Not making a decision is in fact making one.) It's not always easy. YOU control what you eat and how much. YOU control how much you exercise or not. Making the wrong choices may ultimately lead to complications…just re-read Wanda54's reply for inspiration to make those right choices. LEARN as much as you can about Diabetes and how best to cope. This site and your library is a good no-cost resource for you.

You did not get to this point overnight; give yourself time to change those bad habits that got you here…take one small step at a time. Wishing the strength to make the right choices!

nzingha 2011-06-15 07:58:49 -0500 Report

its not as hard as people make it seems.. its called control… learn to control the mind… its about what u put in your mouth… change the size of ur plate…use the breakfast plate and eat what u like in small quantities… That is what has been helping and I see the weight just dropping.. and excercise!.. what do u do for excercise and when was the last time u did it? its NOT HARD… the mind.. its all about controlling the mind and the mind controls the body…! and take responsibility for ur health…does ur husband have diabetes…? let him eat away on his junk food.. y r u going down there with him…?

neisey 2011-06-15 08:26:23 -0500 Report

Thanks for your reply, no i am the only one in our home with diabetes & other illnesses. As far as exercise, i do try to do what i can but since i originally placed this post i have been placed on oxygen and i have severe arthritis in my knees. This makes excercise kind of difficult as i am limited in what i can do as far as being mobile. I was going to a gym close to home every morning at 7 a.m. and i would feel awsome coming out of there but i got sick and things just never got to much better for me. I have lost 40 pounds since i posted this in 3-08-2010. Although i need to lose another 150 pds. i am trying my best. I have changed my eating habits ALOT. I now eat salads when i want a snack instead of sweet fattening foods and i control the portions of food i am eating by measuring them out in my measuring cups.. So i am doing a little better with my weight but still have a long way to go. Thanks again for your response, i do appreciate the feedback i get.

shorty1965 2011-06-15 17:03:24 -0500 Report

That is great and if you stay with us we will always be there.i am having a problem doing my exercise everyday but i think i have everything else on track.sometime i forget my meds when i'm out but i'm trying to get better with's good to have you with us and if you keep coming back we will all work together and make it better one day at a time.

Gimpalong 2011-06-15 06:55:17 -0500 Report

How are you doing with your weight loss? It is hard, but make the commitment for you, even if your husband won't give up the junk foods. Have you thought of putting the junk stuff higher and out of sight? This was one of the things that I learned at the diabetic education class. If you don't find the support at home, then put the stuff where it is really difficult to get to. It will make the person have to really exercise to get to the "junk goodies". After awhile out of sight, then maybe some can slowly disappear. LOL Take care, and I wish you well. We're going to make it with our weight. It has taken me three years, but I've lost 100 lbs. and still going. Hang in there. We're here to support you. You didn't say if you had diabetes. You have to start out with baby steps, one day at a time. Good luck. I'll be praying for you.

neisey 2011-06-15 08:31:27 -0500 Report

Hi there, thank you so much for your reply as i do appreciate any and all feedback i can get. Yes i am a diabetic and have been for a few years now. Congratulations on losing the 100 lbs. That is awsome and i know it took alot of willpower and hard work to get where you are. I have lost 40 lbs. since i posted this but i have alot more to go, like another 150 lbs. to get rid of. I figure if i can just get down to 150 lbs. my health would be so much better and i would feel alot better. Well thanks again and you take care of yourself. You have come a long way and losing these extra pounds is one of the hardest things i have come across having to do. Goodluck with your continued success.

jladytiger1979 2011-06-15 12:18:49 -0500 Report

I feel for you. I have another 70 lbs to lose to be at MY goal weight. If I'm at the "medical" goal weight I would have to lose another 100!!

Wanda54 2011-05-14 08:55:27 -0500 Report

Come spend a day with me that willl motivate you.See I always had a weight `t keep it unde rcontrol witch resulted in my dibeti and a sever stroke witch left me with damage to my entire right side. Ihave this fo rmy life recovery. plese don1t follow my footsteps, be healthy.Wanda

AuntieBear 2011-05-14 02:37:57 -0500 Report

I have been given alot of advice. Some was good, but some was bad. The one thing that helped me a little was the replacement plan. In this plan you take 1 bad food habit and replace it with one good food habit. When you have the new habit good and formed and happening real regular, then you replace another bad habit and so on until you are having a healthier relationship with food. The trick is to start small and easy and work your way up to harder and bigger stuff. I started by drinking more water. In the beginning I was convinced I would never be able to drink the recomended amount of water. Now it is the main thing I drink. My second switch was from whoile milk to 2% milk. Then I switched form frying in alot of fat (butter, oil, margarine, bacon grease) to using those sprays like PAM. Alot of the grocery store chains have their own version that is just as effective but cheaper than name brand. This I figured would be hard to do, but once I got into it I liked it. Different oils provide different flavours to the meat. So it can be a way to experiment in taste keeping the meal from getting boring. Then I decided to switch form regualr mayo to low-fat. Ok so that one didn't go so well. I found I HATE low-fat mayo. So I learned how to limit the amount of regualr mayo. Portion controlling the mayo worked. So adjustments can be made to the replacement. It just takes a little time, a moderate amount of patience and a heap of will-power (patience and willpower grow and blossom like flowers if you work at them long enough). As for getting your family to eat right, I can't help you there. I am a never married and childless spinster. So good luck with hubby. It sounds like you are going to need it.
Hope some of this helps you out.

helen7898 2011-05-13 17:39:12 -0500 Report

I am looking too. I am having a hard time also with my long hours I am hungry but don't want to cook so junk food seemsvto be the eastiest. Good luck finding one and if you do let me know i COULD USE THIS ALSO.

Sweet Potatoe
Sweet Potatoe 2011-05-13 16:11:52 -0500 Report

I don't believe in diets. They have never worked for me. Instead I changed my eating habits, lifestyle and I cut back on sweets. I would eat something sweet once a month. So I wouldn't feel deprived. I joined Curves, which has been excellent. It's great working out with women and competing to see who would lose the most weight and inches in so many weeks. Just begin with yourself and your family will probably join the healthier lifestyle especailly after you start loosing weight. I know you will do what's best for you. Hope things work out.

jujeecat 2011-05-13 16:05:22 -0500 Report

I have had 3 friends that did this diet and lost a lot of weight. But they had to be careful of their bs's being to low. I just wish it had worked for me. Every meal they ate 3 oz protein, 1 cup of vegetables and 1cup or 1 piece of fruit, thats it. One of my friends lost 20 lbs a month for the first 3 months, then it went slower but she took off 150 lbs. Maybe it will work for you. I gained weight on it because the only thing that works for me is to eat one thing a day. Like one piece of meat or one piece of fruit or some veggies.

edvel54 2011-05-13 12:10:30 -0500 Report

It has been a while since you posted. How is your weight loss going?
I figure I would put in my 2-cents. I am diabetic..never counted carbs.
I am overweight, short, and look fat. I finally decided that I had to do something. Went to a diabetes class and learned some new things. Being a diabetic you have to count your carbs. Don't need to count calories or sugars.
I know it works. Have only been counting for a couple of weeks, but my pants are finally getting loose on me. My hubby is a meat & potatoes man. He is overweight also.
But he is willing to give up his potatoes for another veggie, even salad.
Get rid of all the bad foods in your house,
there are substitutes for almost everything. .
Eat lean meats, fish, turkey, chicken,. More veggies & fruits. Drink sugar free
Crystal Light is good, but Walmart has a brand that is cheaper. Want fizz in your drinks add diet lemon-lime to it. Don't have to give up snack..look for low fat, reduced sugar.
There are a lot of dessert and snack recipes on this site. Use them.
Join Obesity Connect vent your angry. We will listen !
Take your kids for a walk after dinner, dishes can wait, your health can't.
Every try water aerobics? It is easier for us fat people. There is a lot less stress on your joints, it is fun, and you stay active. Let me know how you are doing?
We can chat. I am here and on Obesity Connect and a few others. Vel

cc9 2010-04-04 07:46:02 -0500 Report

research has shown that people who go on diets can never sustain their weight loss. whats not been pointed out is that when you diet, the no of fat cells actually increase which means when you stop dieting you tend to put back all the weight you have lost plus more. it is also more difficult to lose weight as we get older as we lose muscle tone. and muscle tone is needed to burn fat.

instead of looking for a diet that is successful i think we need to look at our lifestyle and make a commitment for a lifestyle change. this encompases everything like the food you eat, drinks you drink, how you manage your stress, are you assertive or do you repress your feelings and then eat to make up for how bad you feel about yourself, are you living your life or are you hiding behind life's excuses?

noone is going to do it with you. or for you. you need to do it yourself for yourself. sorry neisey. its time to really do an audit of things that have not worked in your life. if you are like me where finding time to exercise is a challenge, build it into your life. take the stairs instead of the lift. park your car as far away as you can get when you go shopping so you walk. and it does not have to be a chunk of 30 mins. it can be three lots of 10 mins.

do it for you because you deserve it. and believe it.


Yesenia 2010-03-30 18:53:49 -0500 Report

I have a problem getting a good diet that is also good for Diabetics. Have you found anything

Sizzlechest 2010-04-13 11:49:45 -0500 Report

Yes. It's a low carb ketogenic diet like Atkins. It's the best for insulin control and improves cholesterol better than any other diet. You feel fuller, and there's no need to restrict calories. Eat until you're full. And yes, it's perfectly safe.

Kira_xo 2010-03-30 01:50:50 -0500 Report

Neisey, I feel your pain hun. I too have a hard time sticking to a healthy diet. My husband is not overweight, but he doesnt eat healthy either so yea, it can be hard. One way I try to stick to a diet is to do simple things. I drink a LOT of water. I fill up one of those big smart water bottles up 2-3 times a day (the big 50 oz ones). Having soda in the house can be hard, but what I do, is I buy what HE likes… mostly stuff I cant stand, that way I wont want to drink it.

When it comes to eating healthy heres my take on it. I cook it. If hes hungry hes going to eat it…if he doesnt like it, then he can go cook his own meal (which doesnt happen lol). You can also start by simple cooking things healthier. Bake your foods, or grill them, Don't fry them. (George Forman Grill is a godsend!) Buy fresh produce, instead of pre-packaged or canned. Also, try switching to whole wheat pasta, and low sugar pasta sauce (I can only find it at wal-mart). Start by doing little things. Don't try to change it all at once because that is the easiest way to fail. Small steps. =) I hoped I helped, even if it was a little bit.

MamaCass 2010-03-28 15:32:03 -0500 Report

Neisey, I feel your pain! However, if you don't do something about it soon, you can have a stroke or heart attack. I know the doctors always tell you this, and when I was given the diagnosis that I finally had diabetes after being borderline for 10 years, I did nothing about it. Everyone in my family ate junk, including me. Occasionally I would diet, but I always gained back whatever I lost because I always chose some sort of restrictive program. Well, one day while joking with my Endocrinologist about getting my exercise walking in to Dunkin Donuts instead of going through the Drive thru, I was telling him how I had felt just a few days before while watching tv, confused, had a headache, couldn't understand what the program was about, he was not amused and sent me for tests because he surmised that i had suffered a tia. I didn't even know what that was, but I do now! It's a mini stroke! I was 100 lbs overweight with blood sugars between 170's to 200, high cholesterol, A1C of 7.9. Within one month I had a stroke, even though I had begun a diet and exercise program. That was 6 years ago. I can only tell you to start small. Try to follow a Weight Watchers type program because it allows you to eat just about everything, but alot of their prepared foods are high in sugar content so you have to watch the nutrition labels. I had a doctor who helped me tremendously, and I managed to lose 104 lbs. In the past year and 1/2 I've put 35 of it back on due to a neck and back injury (I had to stop exercising because of 3 herniated discs), but I log what I eat every day, and I'm not giving up! I think if you make meals that are tasty you're husband may even come around too. I'm very short and can only eat between 900-1,000 cal a day, so if you think that's not a challenge, I don't know what is! All I can say is the thing that made it easy for me was to keep track of what I was eating. There are plenty of free sites with lots of information. Just remember to keep it simple, don't starve yourself, and even if you can walk for 15 min in the beginning, start out that way. I started with Richard Simmons tapes and in the beginning I could only do 5 min. But then I built up to where I could finish the whole tape! What an accomplishment that was! Good Luck to you! I hope to hear great things from you!

joni55 2010-03-28 23:21:31 -0500 Report

My husband died of a stroke. I don't think he was diabetic, but he ate a lot of things that were not good for him, i.e. fried foods with a lot of grease. His mom would fry steak in about a half inch of oil. (She was Italian and fried everything.) He ate a lot of pasta too. He died 2 years ago, so strokes are nothing to fool around with. I am 53 and a widow. He was 64 when he died. He had a bunch of mini strokes and totalled 5 cars inside of 2 months because of them. I am so glad to hear you are taking control of things.

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Zuftie 2010-03-27 19:57:58 -0500 Report

I am 56 and had lapband surgery. I weighed 301 and have lost 70 lbs. because of it. But, that was almost 3 years ago. I go back and forth between 218 and 226lbs. My husband also had lap band and has recently gotten back on the wagon again. He lost about 45lbs, but gained it back and has lost 20 lbs since. It's hard for him to resist foods that friends bring to work. I try to stay away from that, but it's hard when we have potluck every month at the school I work at. My problem is I love sweets, which are very fattening, as I'm sure you know. I belong to Sparkpeople with 50 or more lbs to lose and try to eat low carb, like Atkins, South Beach, etc. It helps me, as does keeping a food diary. This helps me see what I eat and where I go wrong. I live in Ft. Worth, TX and recently visited my family in another state. I was happy and didn't gain any weight, in fact that week I actually lost 3 lbs and have managed to keep it off this week. Anyway, good luck. I'll be rooting for you. My daughter is overweight, too, and 36 yrs. old. She's trying, too.

MclartPus 2010-03-27 18:01:40 -0500 Report

Have you tried the soup diet? Be sure you get a variety of soups. Soup makes you feel full. Your husband can have his snax in tupperware in a closet that you dont 'use.

lchil 2010-03-26 10:30:48 -0500 Report


this is my second reply because i hit a wrong button. I would not normally do this but since it is recommended in the book section here, I suggest you look at a book I published last year called The Weight Loss Plan for Beating Diabetes (Fair Winds) BUT i also am in your boat and you are too young to be at such risk. I have gained back 25 pounds because I am not active enough and love carbs.

I do know that you can't let your husband's failure to respect your problem and blame him. I gained this weight back when I got divorced and lost my "support" system. Since the my back has made it hard to exercise and a good handy excuse. But I'm trying to educate myself and add supplements to my 12 meds a day

I also have one other suggestion. Do a weekly menu. Make food that's healthy and freeze it for later use. When you shop make a list and only buy what you need. Make your husband buy his own junk food and keep it in the garage out of your sight and replace it with sugar free candy of your own. I found weight watchers to be helpful IF you partner with someone to motivate you to go to meetings.

This is all much easier to say than do—and i struggle like you do. but you can do it!


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holisticdebra 2010-03-25 18:11:37 -0500 Report

u should never diet but learn how to eat right start by getting rid of all junk n processed foods from ur house. then get back to eating live organic foods as ur body needs nourishment. all the processed stuff is dead food n we r what we eat. I've changed my whole family over to this way of eating my children look n act healthier n I have lost 32 lbs since January. I feel better but I have a long way to go 150 to b exact, but I can do it. if I keep losing weight at this rate I'll b almost to my goal weight by Christmas, can't wait. good luck stick to healthy foods n read label to stay away from HFCS.

RicardoOrtiz 2010-03-29 19:38:29 -0500 Report

I have to agree with Ms. Debra. You must learn to eat right. I have lost ~25 pounds in the last year just following good sense and some very basic rules: always eat a healthy breakfast (I try to include plain yogurt, which one of my dogs love, so we both have yogurt for breakfast). For the main meal, I always start with a BIG salad, and then maybe a vegetable soup. After this the main dish is always small. I try to stay away from restaurants as much as possible (not easy in my line of work), since they use too much salt and fat. I do not have diabetes myself but because of circumstances have found myself surrounded by people with this condition -mainly kids- and have severely cut out sweets as my own little sacrifice to support my family and friends.
After over a year of following these simple steps, I'm surprised how little food you actually need. I've had the opportunity to travel to other countries and it is amazing how much we over eat in America! In China a family of four eats on what we would consider a serving for one person over here! No wonder they are all so thin and live so many years. I also had the opportunity of visiting Haiti -before the earthquake- and some countries around Latin America, where even the middle class eats much less than what most people here are used to.

Bottom line: we must learn to eat right. Just listen to the little voice inside your head that tells you what you shouldn't eat.

santeangelo 2010-03-25 16:13:44 -0500 Report

diets never work …you have to make up your mind to change eating habits .such as portions …even a small change will be a new start …try to rid your kitchen of all but one or two fattening foods as going cold turkey is extreme…reward your self with better choices and try to eat natural products such as fresh greens fruits veggies …all those diet products cost a lot and are not the best …start excercising slowly… such as walking even 10 minutes to begin until your walking for an hour each day or even everyother day…go swimming if that is possible working out in a pool is fun and you wont even realize it…do you like to dance well there is a good workout …forget about your husband if he sees you changing your lifestyle he might join you if not focus on you …Good luck and God bless

sweetjenny 2010-03-25 12:28:31 -0500 Report

its always like that with men but dont worry about him do it for your self and your kids contiune to eat no carbs eat lean meat small portion and take a long walk and start slow and everyday go a little faster, i lost 85lb i was very heavy or my ht.5'2 and i started going to the park just walking and eating salades small position of meat..and it took me a year to loose that weight but i feel so much better..but im still struggling dietbis but one day im going to beat this..good luck..and rem. its up to you…

mwood 2010-03-25 12:15:22 -0500 Report

I know exactly what u mean!!! first u r not alone - make small changes - my dr suggested carnation instant breakfast for a morning shake - it was good i added bananas - or u can add any fruit u like- then i started packing my kunch to work - simple things i liked as in those chicken salad packet they are only $1.19 - lunchables that have a cookie with it - theni added snacks - those 100 calorie packets r good in moderation - drinking water - i prefer it cold and sometimes i add lemon to it - dinner was sometimes subway 5 dollar footlongs like chicken breast or tuna - i still eat my favs like pizza but its now thin crust light sauce pineapple n ham - excercise well i got a treadmill and a total gym i found at kmart for $188 - but just start with a small walk like a block or 2 and work your way up - get everyone involved for the walk its like family time - and remember small steps lead to changes - i have lost 25 lbs in a month and a half - i feel great

teststrips 2010-03-24 19:55:11 -0500 Report

I lost 30lb on Atkins. Only took about 3 months. Unfortunately I gained it all back.

santeangelo 2010-03-28 11:54:33 -0500 Report

hi …atkins and other diets sad to say do not work long term…we have to use our common sense and start to do what is right for us and not follow all the latest trends with paying for all these products and books …the best thing they have on the market is that W11 game its fun and entertaining at the same time…

FRANKT 2010-03-24 18:01:37 -0500 Report

The LOW- Carb. diet worked for me. I was 389 lbs and now I am at 206 lbs..
Count carbs (no more than 45 carbs per meal) and reduce your fat intake..

GabbyPA 2010-03-24 17:48:53 -0500 Report

I am in a similar boat as you. Hubby is a junkie, daughter is a junkie, mom is a diabetic and so am I. It can make meal planning tough. However, since I am the one who cooks, I take control of the menu. If they are not full when they leave the table it is up to them to fill the gaps with the junk they desire. I do sometime buy junk and I try to keep it in their spaces, so I know it is off limits to me. I have a post that shares some healthy "sneaky tactics" and ideas that might help.
Here is one on good carbs and bad carbs. Just changing some of these out can help too.

It is great that you sat down with them and talked about it. I did that too and it helped. We have since fallen back into some old habits, mostly due to finances. (Bad food is so much cheaper!!) But we are all getting serious about it again. I know I feel so MUCH better when I am eating well. It takes about a month to get over some of the withdrawls, so if your family and tough it out for a few weeks, it will be much easier after that.

Sizzlechest 2010-04-13 11:53:17 -0500 Report

Other than fiber, there's no such thing as a "good carb." Complex carbs are just long chains of glucose that get broken down very easily by the digestive system. Sure, they don't cause a big spike like refined sugars, but they all end up sugar just the same.

dawnloga 2010-03-18 08:39:40 -0500 Report

I had a terrible time with weight loss. I was taking 600 units of insulin daily - 6 shots and felt terrible. I finally decided to take drastic action and had gastric bypass surgery. Its not a magic fix and not for everyonem but it was great for me. I lost 118 lbs and feel great. I lost my job about 6 months ago and have noticed I've gained about 10 lbs, (probably due to being more inactive and hearing the kitchen call my name during the day,) causing an increase in bs and my doc putting me back on meds and a small dose of insulin. He's been my endo for years, and tells me sometimes this disease is going to hang on no matter what. I'm happy with taking a small pill and 1 shot at night, compared to where I was. I dont' eat anything with more than 5 grams of added sugar, no soda or alcohol at all, and very little bread. I have not problem with most foods, just can't eat much. It ahs been 3 years now, and I still have so much more energy, and my self-esteem is so much better.
Good luck with your weight loss. Email me anytime! I now struggle with motivation to get off the couch and get out walking. Nicer weather helps.

Justice 2010-03-11 08:42:00 -0600 Report

I am glad that your family is starting to understand the importance of making these serious lifestyle changes. I would also recommend that if you could if you haven't already start exercising 30mins a day cardo is huge for weight lost. And I am a witness exercise will also help to lower your bs. I have went the gym several times with a bs of 250 and after 45mins workout it was 100. I would really consider workout on a regular basis 30mins a day. I know it may be difficult to find time to do this but you will see a huge difference. It will get better stick in there.

veggie1962 2010-03-10 10:11:07 -0600 Report

Just some thoughts:

How are the fattening foods and drinks getting into the house? Are you buying them or is your husband bringing them home? If it's the former, you could always stop buying them or buy healthier substitions.

How are meals arranged? (e.g. are you making 1 healthier meal for yourself and one "unhealthy" meal for your husband/kids?). I'm assuming you have already tried negotiating with your husband on mealtime food choices compromises. Would he be willing to just eat his "unhealthy" foods outside of the home (like while at work)?

I can tell you from experience that it takes a lot of willpower to stay on a low carb diet while others in the home are eating "whatever". It's too easy to get tempted and get off track (I'm not saying you can't do it, but you might have more success with a smart carb diet vs a low carb diet-check out low glycemic index/low glycemic load foods to find out more). I was able to do it but it wasn't always easy and people are amazed at my willpower.

I know you will be able to come up with something that works!

neisey 2010-03-10 10:21:08 -0600 Report

Hello thank you for the advice i do appreciate it. Yes i have talked to the family as of last night and explained that i could actually die if we keep eating the way we are i mean i am at 312 pounds and have alot of health issues. I take 10 prescriptions a day every day. My husband is not far behind me in his weight and health so i explained to them that this is something we have to do as a whole a family. Things we are eating now will no longer be purchased while at the store. I am making some drastic changes in our living habits. It is the only way to get my husband and i off of some of these meds and healthier then what we are today. Thanks alot for your reply. I hope all is well with you and your family.
Take care,

veggie1962 2010-03-10 13:51:37 -0600 Report

I'm glad that you've been able to make some progress in starting a healthier lifestyle for your "entire" family! If everyone can be involved, your chances of success will be greater and your children will be the ultimate beneficiaries of your efforts.

dmk 2010-03-10 07:35:12 -0600 Report

stick to low carb diet and yoiur meds..if you take them…I lost about 40 lbs when i started on Metformin I have leveled off at 196lbs, but I still try to lose weioght by excerise

neisey 2010-03-10 10:14:43 -0600 Report

Yes i am also on Metformin and Glipizide for my diabetes. Thanks for the great information i really appreciate it.

Thank you,

BIRDY 2010-03-10 05:22:22 -0600 Report

Neisey , my husband followed low glycemic index diet and lost 48 lbs since Aug 09. He also exercises 3-4 times a week seriously ( swimming and cardio) . He never left himself hungary.He still eats 9-10 times a day.
You can have more info from :

neisey 2010-03-10 10:13:33 -0600 Report

Oh my thank you for letting me know i will check it out. I hope your husband is still doing well with his diet.

Thank you,

BIRDY 2010-03-10 12:14:14 -0600 Report

Hi Denise ,

Yes he is doing very well , thank you.We were talking about this weight issue yesterday.He says that now he feels full of energy.And he is very happy as he is able to see his feet again :)

neisey 2010-03-10 12:31:32 -0600 Report

Sounds great tell him i said congratulations on his success, and his hard work he has put in to this will all pay off in time. Have a great day

Germaine 2010-03-09 19:38:24 -0600 Report

have you tried alli or orlistat? i want to lose like 15lbs myself, but i cant afford the alli or orlistat. i was gonna try the all meat diet, then got concerned about my body not getting any sugar for brain.

SkipT 2010-03-10 05:10:57 -0600 Report

No need to worry about making sugar for you brain. The term is neoglucogenesis. Quite a mouthful, but it means that even if you don't eat ANY carbs you body will take protein and fat and convert them into what you brain will require.

JulieC 2010-03-09 19:29:57 -0600 Report

What do you do if you HATE vegtables? I can only eat then if they are freash..not cooked and then its a chore..I just dont like them…never have :-(

Kirla 2010-03-09 21:13:21 -0600 Report

I don’t care too much for vegetables either. When diagnosed all I could think about was having to eat healthy. To me eating healthy was eating vegetables. That’s why I started to eat a salad everyday and started to eat low carb vegetables. I notice that if I go a few days without eating vegetables my numbers start to raise. I believe that if I ate more vegetables I would never have gotten insulin resistance. No insulin resistance, no type 2 diabetes. David Mendosa posted this a while back. I’m not sure if it will work or not but if you cannot eat vegetables it may be worth a try. Click on the link below.

Good luck

dawnloga 2010-03-18 08:28:06 -0500 Report

What about drinks with veggies in them? LIke V-8 Infusion or something like that? I dont' like veggies much either, but I find if I roast them and season them, they aren't bad. I usually have a glass of V-8 fruit and veggie drink daily.

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