trying to deal with grief

By mamaoak Latest Reply 2010-03-12 08:02:21 -0600
Started 2010-03-03 10:41:15 -0600

I am so upset my nice of 25 died in her sleep there was nothing wrong with her she did not commit suicid we just celibarted her babys first bithday two weeks ago.just finding it very hard to beleive this and except she is gone she was my conection to home on here cant go home the cheepest flight was going to be 19 hrs it only takes eight to get there bye car to a fraid to drive bye my self. pleas pray that i find the strengh to get over this.

19 replies

ptsparkle 2010-03-03 15:57:06 -0600 Report

Sorry for your loss, none are easy. Do you have any friends that would be able to drive with you there, so you wouldn't be alone? Prayers are with you and your family.

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2010-03-03 17:41:30 -0600 Report

I am very sorry for your loss, can you speak to your pastor and see if someone in the church can go with you? My thoughts and praters are with you and your family. Dan

spiritwalker 2010-03-03 15:48:44 -0600 Report

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Its always difficult
when someone we love dies. When we are very close, and there doesn't seem to be a reason its even harder. Your
family at DC is here for you. My prayers are with you.

KarenH 2010-03-03 14:07:23 -0600 Report

I am deeply sorry for your loss and also that you are unable to travel home…wish I had a solution for you. Please know that you are in my prayers…Karen

Anne56 2010-03-03 12:38:12 -0600 Report

Dear mamaoak,

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Not sure that we ever "get over" our losses, but we can (and do) get through them. I am so sorry that you couldn't get where you most wanted and needed to be.

On February 20, a beloved family member was found dead at the age of 22. I was "stuck" in another state — last minute, direct route airfares prohibited me from getting home until after the funeral. It was surreal; I felt trapped and very much alone in my grief — besides my trying to offer over-the-phone support to others.

I am old enough that my belief systems are developed and even convicted, and I get great comfort from those beliefs. My heart bled for the young people, the peers of the young woman we lost. It seems particularly impossible when the deceased is so young!

I hope that the love of those in your life, regardless of their distance, (including your DC family) provide you some comfort in your loss.

Loving regards,

Roy531 2010-03-03 12:24:03 -0600 Report

Grief is never an easy thing to deal with. All I can do for you is pray. I know how you feel, I have been there very recently. I will pray for God to comfort you, and that with His help you will find a way to get there.

John Crowley
John Crowley 2010-03-03 11:54:06 -0600 Report

How terribly tragic. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the best and hope that some way will be opened for you to be there with the family.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2010-03-03 11:43:53 -0600 Report

So sorry about your loss, momaoak…My, and my families prayers are with you…I know that this will not help your situation, or what you are going through, but something I would like to share with you…I lost a niece at the age of 23; she left a 3 yr. old daughter…She was like my little sister, and I miss her dearly…Like with your situation, we never found the reason for her death…I still grieve for her…And, she has been gone 30 years… It never goes away, but in time it does get easier… Love to you, your friend ~ Sue

MAYS 2010-03-03 11:32:54 -0600 Report

The lose of a loved one is never, ever easy.

My prayers and my deepest sympathy go out to you and your family in this time of need and comfort.
May God grant you and yours, the peace and understanding needed during this time of mourning.

Deborah L
Deborah L 2010-03-03 10:55:23 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for your lose and that you are not able to be with her anymore. I know that there are no magic words to help you feel better and time will have to help you with your grief. I will pray for you and your family and also for her child.