Children with T1

By donna13 Latest Reply 2010-02-22 14:17:51 -0600
Started 2010-02-22 08:22:25 -0600

In Ann Landers column today a mother of a teen-ager who had just been told he has T1 wrote about how do they treat the younger brother, should he be denied having ice cream, etc. because his older brother can't eat this. I haven't had the challange of raising a child with serious health problems, but I got to thinking about how I would handle this. If you were dx with T1 when you were a child, how did your parents handle this. Or if you are trying to cope with this disease with your child, how do you handle it. I didn't think Ann Landers answer was very good, but as I say, I don't have this challange.

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MAYS 2010-02-22 14:17:51 -0600 Report

No special treatment is necessary, you teach the children about the differences pertaining to one another and most importantly why there is such a difference.
Family , yet a family of individuals different by nature.
The jealousy and sibling rivalry will be present, but that understanding of diabetes, diabetic life and what is required is stressed to all because without that knowledge, nonesense sets in and will eventually cause major problems.

donna13 2010-02-22 13:44:16 -0600 Report

I like hearing about stories of what everyone went through, I'm really curious about people. But what I meant when I started this post was what is the dynamics between a child with T1 and his/her siblings who don't have it. Is there jealousy, resentment, normal sibling rivalry. Is the non-diabetic child supposed to give up all sweets, etc. because of his/her sibling's disease.

Crashnot 2010-02-22 14:13:14 -0600 Report

My younger brother had resentment because I had first attention as to how I was doing and how I felt. Didn't affect his diet, but he had to stay in school when I got to spend a day in the big city for my check-up and go to a toy store, etc. The healthy sibling gets taken for granted a bit, and the sick one has more attention. That was the biggie for my family. Otherwise we ate the same junk, did the same activities, got the same punishments, etc.

Crashnot 2010-02-22 08:50:17 -0600 Report

Well, I have been type 1 since I was 11 months of age, back in 1968. We didn't have blood monitors, we didn't even have disposable syringes at first. I grew up eating cookies, ice cream, milk shakes and whatever. But, it was in MODERATION. 43 years later I have no complications, and I should considering how high my sugars probably were. But thanks to some genetic fluke they are trying to figure out today, I am still alive and well and still enjoy an ice cream with my kids. The difference is now I can take an appropriate bolus to deal with the extra carbs. Kids today have a world of things to help them, and I for one am grateful for that. And I know it won't be until they are adults that they will appreciate that too :-)

MAYS 2010-02-22 08:29:15 -0600 Report

It tears your heart out and you began blaming yourself for it.
It's never easy, injecting your child, teaching and monitoring their progress, always worrying about them, this is normal in having and raising a child, but now it's elevated to another level.
Especially knowing that you won't be around forever.