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By MAYS Latest Reply 2010-02-21 11:29:22 -0600
Started 2010-02-20 06:17:04 -0600

What was your initial reaction when you were diagnosed as being diabetic ?

Surprised, shocked, upset, apprehensive, understanding, acceptive, realistic, deniable, drained, angry …

How did you feel about it, and why ?

21 replies

angie1963 2010-02-21 07:20:30 -0600 Report

I knew when i went that the doctor was going to tell me i was diabetic. I didnt want to go lol! MY dad is diabetic his father was and grandma etc. So i sorta knew but was still in denial. I had one cousin that had type 1 diabetes died of complications so i was scared. I have type 2 and controled it for a year on glimerpirade and exercise. But after the year i gain 20lbs back and numbers bad . SO im on metformin and walking when i can. I hope the weight comes off. seems it all went to my belly

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-21 00:24:34 -0600 Report

When I was 12 years old I was on a basketball team, the worst season ever; I couldn't even make it up and down the court without feeling like I ran a mile. Taking a 2hr drive we would have to stop every 45 min. so I could use the bathroom. I remember asking to use the bathroom in ever class. I would be so sleepy, that I remember falling asleep in our hallway. Than my mom finally took me to the Dr., he took blood and told me to drink a cup of water. They told me I was diabetic, he didn't admit me with a sugar of over 700, but instead wrote me out a prescription for everything I would need and sent me on my way. I had no idea what a diabetic was, my mom knew, but it apparently didn't make a difference. As soon as we got out of the pharmacy we went out to eat, my sugar was 89 and my mom agreed that 89 was a low sugar so I got to drink sweet tea. I didn't get depressed or scared or anything like that. It was as if I had some kind of flu, yet I knew I would have it forever, but I don't think I comprehended that.
A year later I had a stomach flu and wasn't watching my sugars nor taking proper insulin. I went to the hospital after a couple weeks and the Dr.'s told my mom if I made it than I would be in a coma, the pediatric ICU Dr. slept by my bed for two nights, but I never went into a coma, thank God. I was 13/14 weighing 77lbs…that should have all been a wake up call to me and my mom but it wasn't. I waited ten years to realize what was wrong with me and how serious it is and now I feel like a newly diagnosed diabetic and I feel hopeful, like I can beat this thing and kick it in the a$$ :)

Juliann1984 2010-02-21 06:54:27 -0600 Report

I completely understand where you're coming from… our situations are almost identical! Good to hear your new-found confidence too!

packrat2 2010-02-21 11:29:22 -0600 Report

You at 12 sounds like me at 21, all I could do is drink and urinate. I would drink Coke with ice {no diet Coke then} and that made it worse, but I did not know what I had…regards packrat2

SkipT 2010-02-20 20:35:45 -0600 Report

When I was diagnosed the Dr. said that I could take control if I really wanted to. Went home, found the 6-12-12 program online. Started the program that day. Two years later I was able to get off all meds. Also lost over 70 lbs in the process. I am still off medication for the past two years.

MAYS 2010-02-20 16:46:04 -0600 Report

Diabetes is only a, " Death Sentence," or " Planned Suicide " if after you are diagnosed you decide to do nothing or very little about it, knowing the consequences involved by failing to do what was or is right !

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-02-20 11:06:34 -0600 Report

When I found out, my husband & I had gone in for physicals. I thought they switched the test results cause it runs in my husbands family, but not mine. Well, when they told me it really was me I was really depressed. I thought of it as a death sentence. I still get down with it once in a while, but have learned to cope with it. Since I was dx have now have a cousin & an aunt & my daughter that have it. So I guess it now runs in my family also.

donna13 2010-02-20 11:03:33 -0600 Report

I was regularly going for blood tests as I had high cholesterol which took many different meds to finally control. Whenever I had the blood tests they checked a lot of things and bg was one. So when my numbers started to go up, my dr. told me and sent me to a dietician.. So it was no surprise, and I accepted gradually. The highest my alc has ever been is 7.1. It's been going down ever since.

donna13 2010-02-20 11:54:27 -0600 Report

About 4 or 5 yrs after I was dx my dil told me my son was losing weight, had lost over 30 lbs. He was not obese, but could afford to lose some weight. But he wasn't trying to lose. I didn't know this can be a sympton of diabetes. That's what it was, T2. I was shocked at this, he was just barely 50 while I was over 70 when I was dx. He just seemed too young. I felt guilty that it was my genes that precluded this. He isn't trying too hard to take care of himself. Doesn't take his meds regularly, and although his diet is better than it was, he should be more careful. I know my son, and know that if I say too much he'll just tune me out. For instance we went out to eat the other night. He got me a hamburger and fries. I had ordered the hamburger, but when I questioned why he got me fries, he just looked startled that I didn't want them. He had some for himself and ate all of them. I ate maybe 2 fries and passed the rest down the table to friends. I hope I made a point, but I think he is in denial. He worries me.

NewTerry19 2010-02-20 08:49:45 -0600 Report

I was shocked and denied it the first year, My eyes were the reason I found out, I just could see anything, it was all fuzzy, so 4 days before Christmas I found out, they wannted to put me in the hospitasl cuz my ketones were off the chart, I said no cuz I no insurance and 3 very small kids at home looking forward to Christmas, so the doctor gave me a very strict diet and insulin regiment to follow and a week off work, went back the next week and my ketones were gone, and my sugars were 150, way down from 500 the week before. But then I went into major denial, after a week in the hospital with DKA, I learned, got on track again. I think I was angry bout it the first 5 years, I somewhat accepted in thru the years, still had my problems cuz I just didn't wana give up what I really enjoyed eatin, all the junk foods, like candy, sodas, even though I went to diet sodas, and ice cream, fast foods. And felt a lot of the damange because of it but I have accepted that I am diabetic, still not liking it, but doing better.

Kira_xo 2010-02-20 07:07:08 -0600 Report

Well the first time (I say first because I was first diagnosed with gestational diabetes while pregnant). I was crying and very upset. I had taken the 1 hour glucose test and my sugars were so high the refused to let me take the 3 hour glucose test, for fear I would go into a diabetic shock. I cried because I was already having a hard, and high risk, pregnancy and this was like another blow. They sent me to gestational diabetes councilling, where the people were totally rude. I couldn't exercise because I was on bed rest for half my pregnancy and they made me feel like a bad person becaause I couldnt get up and walk around for half an hour everyday. My OBGYN told me I was only allowed to get up to go to the bathroom and get something to eat or drink. I felt like a crappy person, and honestly, a crappy mother because I felt like I wasn't doing right by the baby inside me.

The second time, I was at the hospital when my son was 6 months old because of these horrible rashes I kept getting that were painful as hell (I JUST foud out months later it's a staph infection!) Well I told them how exhausted I was, and a few other problems I was having, and that lead to me telling them I had gestational diabetes while pregnant. Well they did some tests and found out my gestational diabetes had turned into type 2 and I had not been treated for it for months. I once again, fell apart, was upset and crying because I felt like I had done all this to myself. I gained a lot of weight in a small amount of time, I didn't take care of myself.. and I certainly didn't eat right. We had a new baby, so most of our meals were take out, delivery, or fast food because I was at home all day trying to learn how to care for an infant.

All in all…It was upsetting. I am the only person in my family who has diabetes so no one really understands what I'm going thru and what I was going thru during my pregnancy. I cried a lot…I was very emotional, I felt like crap, and I felt like my body had turned against me.

Nova69 2010-02-20 07:11:00 -0600 Report

I wasn't the slightest bit surprised because many family members have diabetes. As a matter of fact, I diagnosed myself using a relative's testing supplies. Then I went to the doctor's office and told him I was diabetic. After that, I just did what I needed to do and kept on going.

Deborah L
Deborah L 2010-02-20 10:32:15 -0600 Report

Kira, I went through a similar experience when i was injured and ended up permanently brain damaged. The majority of medical professionals back then kept telling me nothing was wrong with me and to get back to work and get on with my life. They treated me like I was lying about it all, but you can't fake the changes that happened in me. I no longer had the cognitive abilities to sort it out and speak up for myself.
There was no excuse for their unprofessional behavior. It caused me to get very depressed and anxious until someone could help me sort it out and I could start getting the help I needed. I was able to start doing it for myself after awile.
Eventually I had to put that part of my experience behind me and get on with helping myself and finding new doctors, therapists, etc. I hope you can do the same.

Juliann1984 2010-02-20 10:52:31 -0600 Report

Yes! Doctors do not know what they're not faced with everyday, and most of them seem to push that fact out of their brains because everyone's a "normal" case, right? I have dealt with SOOOOOOO many doctors and specialists throughout my life, and I'd say about 85% of them are like that. You have to find the ones that "think outside the box". They're the ones who usually get the job done, and if they can't, they'll actually look for someone who can.

Juliann1984 2010-02-20 10:41:11 -0600 Report

I completely understand! I was diagnosed when I was 15, and told that I would never be able to have children. I cried and cried, but everyone else brushed it off like it was no big deal. No one else in my family has diabetes either, and no one cared to learn about it. I was on my own.

I got pregnant with my oldest son and had doctors and family members who told me there was no hope, to have an abortion and that I was horrible for even thinking I could try (that's what happens in small town usa, they're completely naive). I miscarried at 8 weeks, and they rubbed it in (I hate the 'I told you so's). I went back for a check up 3 weeks later and found out that my son was still hanging on, it had been twins. That gave me the motivation to find more experienced doctors and the courage to fight for him. I was placed on bedrest for the entire pregnancy, and he was 8 weeks early, but he has never taken no for an answer! He has cerebral palsy because of doctors telling me I wasn't ready to push, so he's faced with so many challenges, but he never ceases to amaze his therapists. Everything they've said he won't/can't do, he's done. I also have another son, who was 3 weeks overdue (making up for his brother, I suppose), and is completely healthy! I worked my whole pregnancy with him. So, never think it's the diabetes, because EVERY pregnancy is different. And, if you're family's not supportive, then you need a doctor who will be. :-)

Support groups like this are amazing too!!! :-)

veggie1962 2010-02-20 06:55:52 -0600 Report

Unfortunately not surprised as I was having bad problems with hypoglycemia for the previous 5 years but it was still a shock when the lab tech told me my fasting sugar was 170-something.

evbaker 2010-02-20 06:23:16 -0600 Report

Since there is no one else in my family with diabetes my first reaction was yeah right, this guy must be a quack and not know what he is talking about. I actually spent the first few years in denial thinking as long as a took my meds I could eat whatever I wanted. Then I went through a faze of thinking why me? What did I do so wrong that I had to have this disease? But now I've come to accept this a being a part of my life and I am not going to let it control me, I am going to control it.

MAYS 2010-02-20 06:56:37 -0600 Report

While pondering the words for a responsive comment I realised this :
Your story is the perfect one for the first comment here and the proper comment to you in return is a simple and polite, " Thank You, Thank you, very much ! "
" Mays "

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