PISS N MOAN #7 ~fun continued~

By Deb-G Latest Reply 2010-02-22 00:46:30 -0600
Started 2010-02-17 14:39:17 -0600

Started as a joke, now a whole lot of fun :oP

196 replies

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-21 00:02:40 -0600 Report

Roommates!! I love my roommate, she's my best friend. She has two babies and a husband, who is also a very good friend, in Iraq, we are all like a family…however, she keeps hitting on me. When I first met her she would hit on me and when she admitted she had a crush on me, her husband was also deployed then too. He came back for a few years and she cooled down and I forgot all about it, not that it bothered me much anyway. But as of the end of Jan. he has been gone and she is starting all over again and it is different now that I am living with her. She knows my general rule of dating, "I don't sleep with friends (cause it'll ruin things)". I understand that she may be feeling lonely and she doesn't have any guy friends to hit on (which would be messed up, still), but none of it fits or makes sense. She knows I'm not like that with her. Drama! Girl drama!!! I thought I have spoken my mind, but I guess I suck at that more than I thought or she either doesn't get it or she doesn't care. Any advice, input????

imsuzie2 2010-02-21 00:54:15 -0600 Report

Danni, you have my admiration. You have a code, and you live it. If your room mate is making you uncomfortable, maybe she needs to HEAR what you are saying. There are several things in this…1) infidelity and 2) your right to say no. Sounds like she might be bi-sexual, which is fine. You have a right to tell her no for any number of reasons 1) I don't not get involved with someone in a committed relationship…I believe in fidelity. 2) I don't get involved with friends, my friendships are special to me and I don't want to do anything that can mess it up. 3) I am not bi-sexual or homosexual. 4) I don't "love" you that way. or even 5) No, I do not want to. Harassment is harassment and your are entitled to live without it. I hope you are able to stick to your guns, and none of us would love you less for what ever you decide. Good luck, sweetie.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-21 01:23:57 -0600 Report

Thanks Suzie. Yes, she is bi-sexual, she said she had a girlfriend before and that doesn't bother me, but I do try to live by my rules - 1)Don't mess with friends 2)infidelity 3) I especially don't mess with someone if they have feeling for me and they don't, that messes with their head and it's not fair to them.
I'm trying to tell her the best way I know without hurting her feelings…

imsuzie2 2010-02-21 01:28:16 -0600 Report

I'm sure you will figure it out. You have a great head on your shoulders for 24…altho I look your niece's picture and think it is you :) Remember we love you and are here for you.

jayabee52 2010-02-21 03:04:14 -0600 Report

Yes we are here for you Danni.

I wish some of us were closer to you so you could have some tangible support.

If we were closer I would suspect that Jem would invite you to stay in the extra room we have. Unfortunately we are in the San Francisco area, quite a ways from where you are.

I respect you a lot Danni. I wish I had been as together as you are when I was your age.


Pam from KCMO
Pam from KCMO 2010-02-21 07:22:44 -0600 Report

I second that, James! I was nowhere near as together as you are at your age, Danni (even tho you may not FEEL like you are - we're always our own harshest critics.)

I know you're worried about hurting a dear friend, but sometimes our gentleness in approaching a difficult subject can be a detriment. The other person continues to think there's still a chance. Hope continues.

My dad gave me this advice when I told my ex I wanted a divorce. He said, "Cut it with a surgeon's knife. It's the kindest thing you can do. Don't give him any hope. Finish it, if that's what you want, and let him move on with his life."

Maybe a little dramatic for your situation - the image of a knife and all - but I think it's relevant. If and when you're ready, I'd be very direct with her - maybe a conversation where I'd let her know (1) she's a dear friend but that's it, (2) I enjoy being roommates, but that her advances/suggestions are making me extremely uncomfortable and if it continues, (3) I'll have to make other living arrangements.

Hopefully she backs off and it doesn't get to that point.

Does she have anyone to talk to, professionally I mean? Sounds like she could use it…

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-21 11:01:35 -0600 Report

Thank you Suzie, James and Pam for your kind words and support. I don't want to lead her on or give her hope, I hate when people do that to me, so I know it wouldn't be fair to her, in fact it would be selfish to give her hope just to make the situation easier on me because it's hard for me to speak up all of the time. I will wait until she tries to make a pass again and use the advice y'all gave me.
Suzie, thanks for the compliment towards my niece :) I will take it as one because she's my beautiful princess, a flawless angel now :)


Pam from KCMO
Pam from KCMO 2010-02-21 13:56:18 -0600 Report

My husband shared something with me once that his therapist had said to him: "When you're trying to set a boundary with someone, you may FEEL as though you're screaming at them, but what may actually be coming out of your mouth sounds very different. Nothing near what it feels like." (Does that make sense?)

I'm like you - sometimes it's easier just to go along and try to make the best of it because I HATE conflict. But that usually doesn't solve anything. Just postpones it.

Sounds like you have a plan, though - good for you!

tholz 2010-02-20 11:17:35 -0600 Report

My grandma passed away at 230am this morning. I didnt get to see her like I wanted to. I had no gas to get there. I am so ———mad at my hubby right now I could exploe. He has money any dam time he wants it. And where the h—- is he right now off to a friends. So ya he put gas in car so—- what it doesnt do me any good now. I just want to die to

2010-02-20 11:23:09 -0600 Report

tholz, I am so sorry…I can't say anymore than that because I know you are hurting…But I am so sorry for your lost. Prayers and hugs to you.

tholz 2010-02-20 21:52:44 -0600 Report


imsuzie2 2010-02-20 23:23:11 -0600 Report

Tammy, I am also sorry for your loss.

But, I am a bad person…my first thought was to put some sugar in his gas tank, but I think that will do lots of damage to the car, and not worth what might happen.

I think it is time for you to be squirreling away some money…the change you get from grocery shopping, etc. If you have a Discover credit card, when you use it to buy groceries at the supermarket, it asks if you want cash back, and it looks like part of the grocery purchase and it is not counted as a cash advance. If he doesn't look at receipts… Or, buy a few expensive things you don't use or need, then return them and pocket the money. Find a safe place to hide it, so if you need a little gas or some meds, you have money for it. Do it every week, then you won't feel so helpless.

tholz 2010-02-20 23:49:36 -0600 Report

That wouldnt hurt his car cuz its a piece of crap. I hid money when I get it in my quilt blocks. Well under them. I do have some there now. Kids know but would never say a word.So i have put pictures on card to go print. Now he is trying not to get them printed cuz he knows they are making a slide show and a cd. For crying out loud. He will not get away with this. They have to be printed and he thinks I can give them my card dont think so. It cost me $30. And now i want to go on bike ride when snows all gone 4hrs away. ANd trying not to go. But if it was for him he would go. I need to run away now

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-20 23:51:35 -0600 Report

tholz, I am so sorry. In the other discussion I didn't realize that was the reason for you not making it. I don't have anything positive to say about your husband, so I'll keep shut about that. But I am so sorry about your loss, like I said, I will keep you in my prayers for strength and comfort.

tholz 2010-02-20 23:57:24 -0600 Report

If I would of had gas I could og gone in the early part of the week. He is a tight wad. When I first thought of her passing. I told my self I was going to tell him and go by my self. Its what I wanted to do but I didnt. So my 2 boys and hubby will be pallbears for her. At least he good for some thing. Hubby was for my grandpa yrs ago to. Thanks for caring. I love ya all
Tammy Ann as grandma called me

Nova69 2010-02-18 19:22:49 -0600 Report

Question for the ladies…

If a man speaks in the forest and there's no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?

Deb-G 2010-02-18 21:16:14 -0600 Report

He's wrong…and lonely :D

rankearl 2010-02-18 22:00:49 -0600 Report

god created man first but then he thought let improve this the he made women hugs julie

jayabee52 2010-02-19 00:29:38 -0600 Report

What you wrote Julie reminds me of the story that really the Bible got it wrong at the creation account of the human race. Actually God created Eve first, but rather than having 2 breasts she originally had 3.

As time in Eden went along, Eve was getting more and more irritated with the 3rd breast. She thought it unsightly and kept bumping it almost every time she turned around.

Finally she got so frustrated with it she complained to God about it. God said, that's too bad child, I'll take care of it. So God put Eve into a deep sleep and when she woke up, she found the 3rd breast in her hand. When she looked at herself in the lake, she was overjoyed! Much better! she told God. But what to do with this useless boob? she asked..

So God took it and created man.

jayabee52 2010-02-18 17:25:28 -0600 Report

Here's another one for the girls:

The 10 Things a Man Will NEVER Say

1. I think we're lost, we better pull over and ask directions.

2. Honey, do you need any help?

3. While I'm up, can I get you a drink?

4. Sometimes I just want to be held.

5. We haven't been to the mall for ages, let's go shopping and I can hold your purse.

6. Who cares about Monday Night Football, let's watch Opera.

7. Sure I'd love to wear a condom.

8. I think hairy butts are really sexy.

9. Her legs are just too long.

10. I think he is one cool guy.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-18 18:19:09 -0600 Report

Wait a minute…I have a male friend who has said a few of those…but he's gay.

cc9 2010-02-18 18:45:16 -0600 Report

hahahahahah danni. love gay guys.

JulieC 2010-02-19 04:27:08 -0600 Report

My 22 yr old daughters room mate is gay…he cooks cleans and works…they are the very best of friends…and I know she isnt going to get knocked up!! :-)

imsuzie2 2010-02-19 05:02:23 -0600 Report

I like gays too. When I worked for the welfare department as a phone operator, several of the welfare workers were gay, lots of fun and friends. I think I was very lucky with parents who never showed bias or racism, only acceptance for the person until they gave us a reason not to like or trust them. I think that is why I get along with so many people…i try to be that way too…I like you until you give me a VALID reason not to…and I don't mean a petty argument.

Deb-G 2010-02-18 21:15:30 -0600 Report

LOL…#5 makes me think of the commercial where the dude has a purse his wife gave him (european shopping bag) lol

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-18 21:55:52 -0600 Report

LOL The progressive car insurance commercials?? I love those commercials, she is so funny.

My all time favorite commercial is the geico pothole commercial, I have it posted to my facebook, makes me laugh everytime..

Pam from KCMO
Pam from KCMO 2010-02-19 04:40:38 -0600 Report

I like the talking babies on the Etrade (?) ads. The line that cracks me up: "I really underestimated the creepiness of clowns…"

Deb-G 2010-02-19 11:20:31 -0600 Report

I am embarrassed to admit the Jimmy Dean commercials just bust me out laughing…I really am not sure why…they are just so rediculous…I totally love the one with the moon, when he's not full and says he's "not feelin it"…why is it funny to me?…I'm such a freak! ROFL

Deb-G 2010-02-19 11:21:24 -0600 Report

yeah i love the progressive commercials too and the talking babies…the new one with the Milkaholic girlfriend HAHA

Nova69 2010-02-18 16:10:04 -0600 Report

Another funny for today.

A ditzy young lady calls her boyfriend and says, "Please come over here and help me. I have a killer jigsaw puzzle, and I can't figure out how to get it started." Her boyfriend asks, "What is it supposed to be when it's finished?" The girl says, "According to the picture on the box, it's a tiger."

Her boyfriend decides to go over and help with the puzzle. She lets him in and shows him where she has the puzzle spread all over the table. He studies the pieces for a moment, then looks at the box, then turns to her and says, "First of all, no matter what we do, we're not going to be able to assemble these pieces into anything resembling a tiger."

He takes her hand and says, "Second, I want you to relax. Let's have a nice cup of tea, and then."

He sighed…"Let's put all the Frosted Flakes back in the box…"

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-02-18 16:14:11 -0600 Report


Deb-G 2010-02-18 16:27:17 -0600 Report

OOOOOOOO now that is so wrong…

Ladies…we need some jokes directed at the MEN for a change!!!

I'm gonna work on that lol

Nova69 2010-02-18 16:33:03 -0600 Report

Deb, That used to be a blonde joke, but I changed it a bit seeing as there are so many blondes on here and I don't need any verbal abuse :) As for the male jokes, bring 'em'on. There are plenty of good ones around.

Nova69 2010-02-18 16:42:20 -0600 Report

OK, Here's a joke just for the ladies.

Why men don't write advice columns.

Dear Walter:

I hope you can help me here. The other day I set off for work leaving my husband in the house watching the TV as usual. I hadn't gone more than a mile down the road when my engine conked out and the car shuddered to a halt. I walked back home to get my husband's help.

When I got home I couldn't believe my eyes. He was in the bedroom with a neighbor lady making love to her. I am 32, my husband is 34 and we have been married for twelve years

When I confronted him, he tried to make out that he went into the back yard and heard a lady scream, had come to her rescue but found her unconscious. He'd carried the woman back to our house, laid her in bed, and began CPR. When she awoke she immediately began thanking him and kissing him and he was attempting to break free when I came back. But when I asked him why neither of them had any clothes on, he broke down and admitted that he'd been having
an affair for the past six months.

I told him to stop or I would leave him. He was let go from his job six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant.

I don't feel I can get through to him anymore. Can you please help?




Dear Sheila:

A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the vacuum pipes and hoses on the intake manifold and also check all grounding wires. If none of these approaches solves the problem, it could be that
the fuel pump itself is faulty, causing low delivery pressure to the carburetor float chamber.

I hope this helps.


2010-02-18 17:33:27 -0600 Report

Girlfriend sent me this a while back. No she's not a manhater but I do Love it.

Four Lessons in the class, WOMEN 101.
1. Size DOES matter
2. It doesn't happen to every man .
3. We will tell someone as soon as you leave the room.
and 4. You're not always the best we've ever had…

I need to give her a call, lord I miss her..lololol

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-18 21:09:21 -0600 Report

literallly LMAO Thanks!!

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-18 02:46:40 -0600 Report

Like I was explaining to Roy on the blood sugar discussion, 4 out of 7 days I have bad nights and I hate to lay down and even try to go to sleep. I have flashbacks and nightmares. Afterwards I am in physical pain, like I said, it's called "body remembrance flashback". I can't think of a word to tell how I feel about it, but I hate it and wish it would stop. I feel so alone when it happens…my friend/roommate Brittany would tell me to wake her up if that happened and I didn't want to be by myself, but she has babies to wake up to and I feel so embarrassed and ashamed. UGHH!!! That's why I wrote that discussion about wanting to give up, because this is painful every night and my sugars aren't as good as the effort I'm trying to put into it. That's why I am on here alot at night and talk alot. I'm afraid to go to sleep so I fight off the pills that cause drowsiness and it makes me want to talk alot lol anyone else up at nights alot msg me and call me…GOOD GRIEF!!!! I feel like I will go crazy if i don't keep busy and talk but there's only so much I can do in a house with two sleeping babies…I stay on the computer- here on DC mostly, quietly clean around the house, exercise, and lol snoop through her not private stuff, but I'm too anxious to lay down or watch tv, I hate to fall asleep, I hate the flash backs.
I'm sorry, I have alot stuck in my head and I need to get it out somewhere, somehow, so I turn here where I don't/hope you won't judge me thinking I'm crazier than y'all thought lol but if you do that's cool, I just say, "It's fun to be crazy, you should try it sometime" - my famous line.
Don't feel obligated to respond lol I'm just letting it out :)

Sorry I took up so much space…

jayabee52 2010-02-18 03:43:10 -0600 Report

Well, you just let it out Danni. That's what this thread is here for.

I haven't heard of a "body remembrance flashback", sounds really horrible and that something really horrible happened to you some time ago. Is it anything like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder?

I don't judge you as being crazy, and though I can't speak for anybody here, my feeling is that nobody else who regularly posts here will either.

Not wanting to sleep or being afraid of sleeping must be the pits. There are times I try to sleep but cannot, but I've always wanted to sleep. Sleep was an escape for me. In fact I need to be going to bed soon. Jem has been to bed for about 2 hours ago but has been out here with me at the computer wanting me to come to bed. So unfortunately I need to leave and try to sleep. Sorry! I wish I could stay up and keep you company all night. I wish I could do more than say Be Blessed!

imsuzie2 2010-02-18 05:22:20 -0600 Report

Danni, none of us think you are crazy, or even quirky! You have a legitimate fear and lots of people are afraid to go to sleep. Do you have this problem in the daytime? Could you reverse your days and nites…sleep after the sun comes up and stay up at nite? Just a thought…and do the side effects of any of you meds mention this as a side effect? P&M all you want and stay with us!!! Hugs

Roy531 2010-02-18 06:54:20 -0600 Report

Danni, Babydoll you just keep on talking, it helps a whole lot to be able to talk about it. If you think about it all of us are a little bit crazy, that's what makes it so wonderful. We are all in the same boat, diiferent problems but the same boat. So just keep talking.

Susie624 2010-02-18 07:13:51 -0600 Report

Amen we are in that boat,and sometimes it seems like it is going nowhere,and then other times feels like we are going over the falls,and sometimes we just get smooth sailing,which I wish we all could have all the time.

Deb-G 2010-02-18 07:42:36 -0600 Report

Danni, your so not alone…

I think its interesting and heartwarming to read all the various complications, or factors in everyones diabetes or just life…and I love that when someone is feeling down the rest of us understand, even if its different, just the need for reassurance or good thoughts from others…

Let it all out all ya want here Danni…we're all here listening :)

cc9 2010-02-18 09:46:31 -0600 Report

danni you have our unconditional love. write and let it out all you want. i understand what you go through.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-18 14:18:02 -0600 Report

Daytime is pretty good for me, even if I am by myself doing nothing. I think nighttime in general triggers stuff. Switching my nights and days is a good though, I actually tried to find a job so I could work all night, but no luck, so now I work during the days.

roger 2010-02-18 11:10:28 -0600 Report

have u tryed going on facebook i do farmville to take up my time try one of thoes app to keep mind going on other things if u go there or if any one goes there send me a friend invite and will gladly add u but being home and not being able to see much the farm i can inlarge so i can see it and u can turn the sound down or off so it does not bother others hope this mite helplots of kove roger

imsuzie2 2010-02-19 00:09:27 -0600 Report

My husband began "farming" when he went as far as he could in Mafia Wars. Plays in the Pirates and then there is something with a fishbowl. I do not have the time to play like that! Our son got him started in all of that…sometimes at 2 or 3 in the morning the phone rings and the kid asks dad to send him a "horse shoe" or "guns" or "untraceable cell phones". I told them once if our phones were bugged, we are in trouble!!!

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-18 14:13:48 -0600 Report

Oh my goodness, thank you all so much. Your responses make me feel so much better. I was feeling kind of embarrassed when I realized what I posted last night and was going to erase it (if you can even do that), but seeing how understanding and accepting everyone here is, I guess I don't need to. You don't realize how good that makes me feel, so thank you :)

Deb-G 2010-02-18 15:54:41 -0600 Report

Trust me…we've all had things we'd like to erase later!! LOL

speaking of which…where do the threads go…yanno…do they keep building up and taking up space? or is cyberspace limited and old stuff is falling off the end of the cyber world somewhere? lol…

Helloooooo outtttttt thereeeeee


Deb-G 2010-02-18 16:24:59 -0600 Report

Danni, I actually do…I totally know what you mean about the night mind racing…I problem solve all night long and dwell on things and think think think…but see i'm also also multitasking in my mind during the day..so I may not always be on subject all the time LOL

Deb-G 2010-02-18 16:26:14 -0600 Report

seriously…like this website…the "space" has to be limited right? so do old posts automatically delete?…or is there infinite space so our pissn and moanin is there for all time? lol…always wondered! lol

Roy531 2010-02-18 17:12:21 -0600 Report

Depends on hard drive size or how many hard drives, Our server room at the school has several hundred hard drives and now they are looking at virtual space. Don't ask me to explain that it would take forever.

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