By tholz Latest Reply 2010-02-21 22:40:10 -0600
Started 2010-02-16 22:20:37 -0600

My Gramdma Winfred is in a private nursing home. Its been since May 2009. She is 87. She has not eaten since june 09. she drinks ensure and that is all. Well I saw her 3-4 wks ago. She was ok. But now she is in a wheel chair and diapers. They got her a hospital bed to. I need to go see her this week end. It will be very hard for me. I almost lost it on phone when my Aunt called me. She is like a mom to me. Ya I still have a mom. But she a diffrent mom than most of us. Grandma has alzheimers and has gone down hill.How will I get through this and be there for my Aunt and mom. My Aunt has been there through thick and thin.

23 replies

tholz 2010-02-20 11:12:59 -0600 Report

Well she passed away at 230 this morning. I didnt get to see her before she die. I am so darn mad at my self.

BLC 2010-02-20 15:32:11 -0600 Report

So sorry, may God give you peace.

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2010-02-20 21:06:02 -0600 Report

Tammy, I'm sorry to hear of your lost. I
will be praying that the good Lord helps you and your family get thru the pain.
I know how it feels to lose someone and
with the support and prayers of my DC family and friends it made it easier.
My prayers are with you.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-20 21:38:08 -0600 Report

I am so sorry to hear that. I will pray for your family for peace and comfort. Try not to be too mad at yourself about not getting to see her before she passed; it's natural to find a reason to feel quilty about anything in such circumstances, but don't beat yourself up…

evbaker 2010-02-17 19:01:38 -0600 Report

Tammy I am so sorry to hear about your Grandma. Its funny how we always seem to find the strength to do something when we need it most. Just try to remember all the good memories you have of her and that will help to get you through this.

MAYS 2010-02-17 19:01:23 -0600 Report

When you visit your grandmother, bring a smile to her face, you will always remember that smile in your heart !

BLC 2010-02-17 18:46:07 -0600 Report

You are in my prayers. You are not alone in this. God will be there holding your hand.

tholz 2010-02-17 18:39:41 -0600 Report

Thanks so much guys. Got my self crying just reading this. Ya I am going to go. My son said to me did you just see her. I dont think he understands. Try to get my youngest daughter to go. She doesnt want to. I can under stand. My friend offered to go with me to. I will be going you can count on that. Love ya all Tammy

rankearl 2010-02-17 12:58:09 -0600 Report

hi tammy my grandmother will be 90 feb 25 we are planning a big bday party for her so far she is still doing well they diagonsed her with alz last year i dont belive it she is just getting older my grandmother brother just passed he was in his late 80 was in a nursing home for 3years i went to see him once it was hard i coulndt make myself go again now i really feel gulity do what you need to do my thoughts are with you hugs julie

spiritwalker 2010-02-17 12:54:42 -0600 Report

Tammy, I will be praying that the time you spend with your
Grandmother will be filled with love. She may not be able to
express it, But your touch, smile and presence with her
will mean a great deal. We are given what we need in difficult
times. You have all your DC family going with you in spirit.
We will be waiting to hear how you and your Grandmother
are doing. Hugs.

Blue Angel
Blue Angel 2010-02-17 11:04:40 -0600 Report

Yes it is hard to see a love one get ill and not them self. Even harder that we sometimes feel worst when we can't help. But have faith and pray. All tou can do is keep loving her & be there for her when you can. I'm so sorry for your pain. Hope thing start looking up.

BIRDY 2010-02-17 03:54:43 -0600 Report

Tammy , I'm afraid this is one of the unpleasant facts of life that we must face sooner or later.I think there is no "how" for that kind of situations cause they happen as how they are suppose to be.I can't say " do not worry or be strong" cause I know you will be living what you are feeling.As Mays say , maybe the best thing is trying to make this weekend special.Pls update us after your visit.
All the best

MAYS 2010-02-17 03:39:08 -0600 Report

Make sure that you visit her and spend that time with her holding her hands, smiling and keeping her close to your heart because when you are not there, she will always remember that, be her source of strength just as she is yours, tell her how much you love her, cherish the time together, make it special for both of you !
" Mays "

cc9 2010-02-17 00:59:49 -0600 Report

tammy, sorry to hear about grandma. you will be ok. you have faced many challenges in your life and you managed. we are here for you. if you ask you hubby to support and comfort you and he cant or wont…that will speak volumns for you. just tackle one thing at a time. love and hugs.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-16 22:28:21 -0600 Report

I am so sorry to hear about your grandma. It's amazing how you don't think that you will be able to hold up and be strong for other people and yourself, but something, like your inner strength will kick in and you will be able to keep it together while you need to. It's still hard, but remember, it is okay to cry - don't bury it inside or else it will backfire and hit harder.
I am sorry you are going through this. I don't know exactly what you are going through, however I have lost someone extremely close to me, so I think I have an idea what you are going through. So if you ever want to talk just msg me. I'll be sure to keep you, your grandma and your family in my prayers.

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