Diabetes police

By Zimoss Latest Reply 2010-02-11 10:50:10 -0600
Started 2010-02-09 00:53:22 -0600

I hate it when people tell ME how to manage my Diabetes.

28 replies

Antique-Dave 2010-02-11 10:50:10 -0600 Report

It depends on who it is

My 99 year old Great Aunt gets to skate, most anyone else is subject to

As long as we are getting personal about our health issues I gotta say

You're getting a little thick around the middle

The way your eyes just bulged out makes me to worry about your blood pressure

God! your lungs must be black from smoking all these years

You've really let yourself go, a good anti psychotic med will probably fix you up.

Someone expressing genuine concern is one thing but meddling is another, but then again I rarely mention that I'm diabetic which reduces unwanted intrusions into my choices immensly.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-10 02:43:07 -0600 Report

I understand why that could bother you after awhile, I hate when people are always on my case about something. Them worrying about your diabetes is because they love you and care about you. I never had that and I wish I did have people asking me how my sugars were or telling me that I cant eat piece of cake, instead they put it in front of me. But you have one extreme and I have one extreme, wouldn't a happy medium be nice!? Just remember they are doing it out of love and concern, and remember to breathe when you want to snap at them :)

jayabee52 2010-02-10 04:06:09 -0600 Report


A "happy medium" reminds me of the joke:
when the police asked the man why he hit the fortune teller, he told them, "well after she read my fortune, I crossed her palm with silver, and she broke out in a big smile. Then I remembered the advice 'always strike a happy medium' so I hit her."

I know, i know that was a real stinker!


2010-02-10 07:34:08 -0600 Report

jayabee..lmboooooo…you're sick fella…gosh I love that joke..lololololol

hop2it 2010-02-09 19:25:24 -0600 Report

Those comments can become annoying, but I figure they don't understand diabetes and use it as an opportunity to educate them. I explain to them that diabetes can eat anything as long as they fit it into their eating plan. If the person is not interested in learning more, I don't worry about it and usually they don't comment again.

spiritwalker 2010-02-09 15:50:08 -0600 Report

People will do what they do. They mean well, but 99%
of the time they don't know anything about diabetes.
I just let them talk, and go on with my life.

MAYS 2010-02-09 20:03:34 -0600 Report

So true !
We have to educate ourselves first on diabetes and others second, at least we know, they need to know !

ptsparkle 2010-02-09 09:28:54 -0600 Report

Know how you feel. I just consider the source or intention of where it's coming from, grin, and let it roll off me like water on a ducks back.

MAYS 2010-02-09 09:09:15 -0600 Report

It's always easier to be an expert in someone else's field of expertise or profession !
There is always a doctor in the land of doctors !
" Mays "

2010-02-09 08:42:53 -0600 Report

I love this topic Zimoss. I love it when they assume that they know me and my habits; dont eat fried foods ( I havent eaten fried foods in 15 yrs.) lay off the sugars ( I havent had sugar in 6yrs) or you have to exercise ( I have been a workout nut for 3 years) Pain in the butts… Of course there are the ones who are toxic; I cant have alcohol at all it blows my numbers through the roof, so when someone who knows me and my diabetes says , "oh..just one drink wont hurt" I have to look at them and walk away- morons.

Mantra 2010-02-09 11:37:16 -0600 Report

well said @samoca :)
it always annoys me too every time I hear someone told my Mom "oh it's just a small portion, that won't affect your bs level", though the person know how weak my Mom is about food, especially food which are dangerous for people with diabetes (and some complications). I always reminds my Mom: one lost toe and 5-months hospitalised is enough.

angela d
angela d 2010-02-09 07:59:22 -0600 Report

yes i undertand how u feel every since my husbands uncle found out that i have diabeties at his sons birthday partys now he says to me u had a pieace of a cake and i say yes u gave it to me and i will be ok maybe he means well but im a big girl i know what i can do we diabetics can have some sweats as long as our sugars are good and if i have soda at this party i get looked at even though it is asmall cup ,sometimes i just dont want to go to his partys one piece cant hurt after all we are still human…

Harlen 2010-02-09 07:45:01 -0600 Report

If I did what all has been toled me I would eat sand and drink goat wis and then I would not be a diabetec.lol
I just smile and ask how long have they been a diabetec ??? the anser most of the time is that they are not one wowand they know it all
Best wishes and dont let them win

MAYS 2010-02-09 05:05:10 -0600 Report

You know what you have to do, do it, stick to it and continue to live your life and survive !

We all go through this continously, it's our choice in how we choose to deal with this, do what's best for you !

" Mays "

Pam from KCMO
Pam from KCMO 2010-02-09 04:19:01 -0600 Report

I get tired, too, of unsolicited and uninformed advice. But I figure it's offered in a good spirit (well, usually) - and, if I feel like it, I'll explain that, no, it's not just sugar that I have to worry about - it's carbs. Most people only have a nodding acquaintance with diabetes, so I'll use the opportunity for a little education - if they're receptive!

But there ARE those few to whom I'd like to say, "Oh, piss off."

Kira_xo 2010-02-09 04:10:43 -0600 Report

I feel the same way at times. I have a cousin, who at every family function has to make the comment "Can you eat that??? It has sugar in it!!!" I have explained it all to her several times. Sunday, I had half a mini cup cake with no icing that I split with my son. It really was NOT a lot and didn't affect my sugars when I checked it later on. She turned it into this big thing so that a few people turned around to look at me and what I was eating.

At first I thought maybe she was just concerned, but now I feel more like shes calling me out to embarrass me since it has happened several times.

Elrond 2010-02-09 01:35:54 -0600 Report

It does seem that many people become instant 'experts' when they learn that you are diabetic. I've received a lot of bogus advice from strangers and casual acquaintance. I just thank them. Argument is totally wasted..

jayabee52 2010-02-09 02:42:51 -0600 Report

I agree David. People are either "You shouldn't be eating that" or way over the other way "Oh go ahead and have this pecan pie, It won't hurt you" Either way arguing with them is a waste of time.


Elrond 2010-02-09 03:10:13 -0600 Report

Right, I don't know how many times I've heard: "Just go ahead and eat it then take extra insulin."… RIGHT! The worst thing is the people who think I can just change my meal schedule to match their convenience. "Oh, you can eat a couple hours late." That doesn't work with long-acting insulin but try to convince somebody who just HAS to go to the liquor store NOW!

MAYS 2010-02-09 01:08:48 -0600 Report

Then It's fine with you if others stopped caring about you then ?
Why not walk around with a shirt that says this :
" Do Not Tell Me How To Manage My Diabetes or My Life "
I guarantee you that no one will bother you about it then, but will you still feel that way then when no one seems to care ?
Think about it !

" Mays "

Zimoss 2010-02-09 01:25:07 -0600 Report

not refering to friends or family…but to strangers or people whom I am only an acquaintance.

And yes at times I wish everyone would leave me alone… I kinda get sick of are you sure thats ok to eat? you shouldn't eat XXX, etc

MAYS 2010-02-09 04:59:23 -0600 Report

Understood and accepted, most people are ignorant about diabetes and assume that you cannot eat certain things, educate them with this statement :
" The last time i checked, I was still human and I can eat the same things that you can, just in moderation for my safety and well being " !
" Mays "

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