By Deb-G Latest Reply 2010-02-13 07:53:18 -0600
Started 2010-02-02 07:08:55 -0600

Wow…already a #3…lol…Love this thread though…

Anything goes…!! :)

220 replies

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-08 21:25:17 -0600 Report

Damnit!!! I am sick of scrolling down this page!!! This is freaking tedious, it's too long - get a new page already!!!

Deb-G 2010-02-08 19:47:09 -0600 Report


Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-02-08 09:52:06 -0600 Report

This really isn't a P-M, but the cancer Dr's nurse called this morn and the wheels are turning to see about getting a cat scan, then I "got called on the carpet this morn!!!" Hurt—-but can understand the other's points of view!!! Sigh—Oh, well, it is easy to offend some—-PR

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-02-08 18:00:53 -0600 Report

Update on scheduling my cat scan—the nurse wanted ME to tell my Dr what kind of cat scan to have done—-"with contrast if my Creatinine is normal"!! Told me to have them to call her if they had a question. I kindly stated, "why don't you just call them and tell my Dr" (last time I LOOKED it takes at least an RN to give orders!!!! She whined that she didn't know who to talk to, she didn't know who was taking care of me—-even tho I had stated his name several times, so I TOLD HER TO JUST CALL DR—office and leave the order!!! Chcee—zz it was like working there—AGAIN!! I DO KNOW THE RULES, and she wasn't going to cop out on ME!! I know her pretty well, maybe that is why she thot I would do it—NOT—She is the RN, not I!!! So guess one more person dislikes me—-guess I just wasn't put on this earth to be LIKED by EVERYONE!! This was the same type of STUFF that the nurses tried to put on me, WHEN I WORKED THERE!! News Flash!! I was a Unit Sec. NOT an RN and taking and giving orders are "Not in my job descrition!!" haha—Well, they really aren't—if anything went wrong we would ALL be in a world of trouble, and I am NOT going there, as long as I know what side is up!! PAT R

Deb-G 2010-02-08 19:46:04 -0600 Report

(((HuGs))) Pat…I'm happy that orders for your Scan are coming along…I am still holding you in my prayers that all turns out alright…

I've been a bit under the weather so not bitching as much as usual LOL…but tomorrow i'm back to work so hopefully getting out and about will help everything in general…Like throwing my mind into other things :)

Hope you are all having a great week xox

evbaker 2010-02-08 07:09:14 -0600 Report

Sick and tired of being sick and tired. Between the pain from my fibromyalgia and the way I feel from my sugar being out of control I just want it all to end. I have never been one to complain about the way I feel and now I feel like a freakin hypochondriac. I'm tired of having to push past everything just to be able to function. I'm tired of people telling me they know how I feel when they have no clue as to how bad I feel. I'm tired of shoving needles into my body just to have them do nothing. I hate having to take handfuls of pills every day and some days not being able to even remember if I took them or not. I'm tired of working for a boss that doesn't understand that he can't work me of first shift one day and then second shift the next day. Or better yet. let me come into work on first just to send me home and tell me to come back later for second. How in the heck am I suppose to get myself on a schedule and get my BS under control when I am doing that? Sorry for the rant this morning everyone. Hope you all are in a better mood than I am today.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2010-02-08 08:59:53 -0600 Report

Hang in there and hopefully things will get better for you…I know how you feel when people tell you that they know how you feel…I tell them, that they don't live inside of my body, so the DON'T know how I feel…I will keep you in my prayers…Hopefully there will be better days ahead…I hope you can get your work schedule worked out so that you can get on a better routine, and get your BS under control…I am having the same problem with mine, it is just all over the place; it is very frustrating, and rant away if you need to, that is what this thread is here for! Hope your day gets better…Hugs, Sue

donna13 2010-02-08 09:01:50 -0600 Report

Boy, do you have the right to rant! i hope things get better for you soon. There must be some sort of labor laws that address the problems you're having at work. It sure isn't helping your health problems. Just remember you can rant and rave (or piss and moan) here anytime.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-02-08 09:48:14 -0600 Report

I also went thru similar experiences at our hospital, workimg all shifts, "floated" including my mind, my bowels got upset from all of the "irregularity", either wanted to sleep ALL of the time or NONE of the time—I found no easy answers, but maybe if I had had a place to VENT about it, like here—-it would have helped!! Just know that you aren't ALONE even tho we don't know how YOU feel, we know how WE have felt and it ain't purty!!! Love and hugs, Pat R

evbaker 2010-02-08 12:56:03 -0600 Report

Thanks all. You're right it does help to have this board to piss and moan. My boss told me today that he is going to talk to his boss about leaving me on first and just letting me collect unemployment when they can't use me. Hopefully he will say yes to it.

imsuzie2 2010-02-11 06:31:31 -0600 Report

How about a doctor's note for a consecutive type of shift…no yo-yo shifts allowed due to medical conditions? Are you eligible for FMLA? Need to work a minimum of 1250 hrs in a rolling 12 months to qualify. I lost one of mine this 1/1/10 because of taking VTO (voluntary time off) when the phones were slow and they asked for volunteers. I cannot make up 12 days to qualify again (too much stress), so I have to work all shifts. It has been so hard these last 3 days…I took about 25 calls yesterday and 19 today (was off 1 1/2 hrs for a web based class/test) but it has been slow. We are thinking calls are being routed to off-shore sites…

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-08 05:49:24 -0600 Report

INSOMNIA!! Sleep has left me alone!! This has been going on for over a week now; in the past eight nights I've gotten about 18 hours of sleep. Last night and a few nights back, I didn't get a second of sleep, other nights I don't usually lay down until four or five because I know I won't sleep. My bodies antsy but my mind is going, going, going. I even took stuff for sleep last night and a few other nights, but I didn't get drowsy one bit. Yesterday I was extremely active too and I had no sleep night before either, I should have been tired. I just don't get what's going on. I'm irritated because I get headaches alot, even before I stopped sleeping. I just feel like somethings wrong with me, I can't explain it. I'm going to Dr. today but all she may do is give me meds for sleeping which I can't take because then I get that "hangover" effect and I have to be up at six every morning for now on. I feel like I am going crazy, which I may be lol. Anyone Else have this problem? Well, to look on the brighter side, at least my sugars are behaving - maybe that's the trick to good sugars: NO SLEEPING…
Okay, I'm done complaining - well I could go on, but I'll stop, for now…maybe I'll complain in another post ha!ha! Just kidding…Talk to ya'll later :)

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-02-08 09:44:00 -0600 Report

Sorry, but I too, went thru that, got so wound up, exhausted, body screamed. SLEEP, but just could not—-a Horrible feeling—it can be a sign of depression, but only a DR can lead you out of it——Best of Luck and LOve, Pat R

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-08 12:54:23 -0600 Report

I don't know Kira, I haven't seen it in awhile, I forgot what it feels like. My Dr. today gave me syraquil from it.
I do suffer from what they call "major depression", meaning it's like my shadow, but I take cylexa and that helps me. My Dr. today said that I was "mania" and "manic", I'm not bipolar but I've been feeling it. My body can be tired and the next thing I am playing soccer, jumping on the trampoline and in the middle of the night dancing around the house lol it would be amusing to watch, you all would get a laugh at me, the dog stares at me like I've lost my mind. And though I've had the most active week that I have had in awhile, I didn't loose a single pound. Nope! I gained a pound. Ha! I call it muscle lol. Ok, I'm done rammbling.

Kira_xo 2010-02-08 19:38:41 -0600 Report

Awee! Well hope you get some sleep! Maybe it will make you feel a bit better =) On another note, I took an ambien the other day at 9 at night… finally 8am rolled around and I was able to take a 2 hour nap before the baby woke up. Lol.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-08 21:22:03 -0600 Report

Well it didn't take it long to kick in, did it!? LOL. I came home at 5 today and crashed for two hours and i took half a seraquil, lets see how that does. Having a baby makes it a bit more of a struggle, right now I have the house to myself but I room with my friend and she has a one year old and a 7wk old, she'll be back in a few so I have to get ready for that. I made a promise to help take care of the kids while her husband is in Iraq. Anywho, if your up at 3am, call me lol!!

imsuzie2 2010-02-11 06:26:09 -0600 Report

I was gonna ask if you lost weight with all that bouncing around. Have a talk with that body of yours, and tell it if your gonna bounce around all day and night, the least it can do for you is drop some of those pounds! You are in control…

vgarrison 2010-02-07 15:20:27 -0600 Report

I have found that if I have a menu together for my hubby then he will cook it, but if I leave it up to him, then we have a tendancy to have take out food waaaay to much!!!

I've been gone from this site for quite awhile (my puter fried itself). It's nice to see so many new faces that are actually helpful for everyone. I also LOOOVE the idea of a P&M forum!!

Glad to be back, hope to see you all around!

Blessed Be

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-02-07 15:25:12 -0600 Report

I think we all LOVE the P-M site, where I can gripe and vent without being held too accountable, just a place to release some steam, without the danger of falling over from trying to KICK someone's a—WHewww——-PR

salmanda 2010-02-07 15:53:30 -0600 Report

Hi Vicki,
I may or may not have been here when you last were, but welcome back. I have been here a few months now, and I really enjoy the wonderful folks here. I laugh a lot reading some of the posts. Humor is the best medicine, and we practice that regularly here! lol
Sal :)

imsuzie2 2010-02-07 18:11:23 -0600 Report

Hi Vicki…glad to have you back. Wander the discussions and have fun. S2

tholz 2010-02-07 20:14:08 -0600 Report

Pat I would love to see my hubby clean like I do. Well dont as much. I have cut way back.funny thing is. I just dumped a big wate can of fat quarters fabric that is on the floor in his space the living room. All he did was look at me and if looks could kill. I wouldnt be here writing this

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-07 21:04:37 -0600 Report

Best advice I have for that one is stop cleaning up after him, unless he makes a mess, say in the kitchen and it's really going to drive you up the wall. But for example say if it's in "his area or space" and he makes a mess and if you usually clean up behind him, then stop. He will not only become much more appreciative of you, but also start cleaning as well (hopefully). That's worked for me with similar situations - but never with a guy. LOL like they say on commercials, "Results may vary" or "Results are not the same for everyone".

imsuzie2 2010-02-07 21:41:28 -0600 Report

And then after 3 or 4 days you ask him if he is gonna pick up after himself! LOL Been there, still there.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-02-07 23:47:37 -0600 Report

Oh, Danni, that was funny!! I love it when commercials can be applied to a real life situation!! hahaPR

jaclyncrystal 2010-02-08 17:23:54 -0600 Report

hey vicki i just recently came back too, best thing I have done for myself in a long time, i also had puter problems, glad you are home girl :) jackie

2010-02-07 15:18:57 -0600 Report

Are we still on the P&M?…Tried to file my esc claim for the second week and the problem still isn't fixed. I am down to my last week of metformin..I will have to skip some days to make it stretch while I fight with the unemployment office. I would prefer to work then go through this ever again. The next time I hear someone piss and moan about having to go to work on Monday- I pray that I don't strangle them. It beats fighting with indifferent people who could care less whether or not I receive my benefits.
I have been working 30 years and this is how I am treated..lolol can't do anything but laugh.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-02-07 15:23:26 -0600 Report

Yow, me too!! I gave the BEST YEARS OF MY LIFE to the work force, then my husband tells me I never did do any REAL WORK!! But like you say, that is so ABSURD one might as well LAUGH!! He actually did some housework for me yesterday—a FIRST and was he panting and sweating——boy—-I strained to keep from laughing out loud, inappropriately—-I guess——hahahah—PR

2010-02-07 15:41:16 -0600 Report

Pat your husband sounds like he comes from the same world as my son- The world of I can't believe he just said that. My son saw me testing my sugar level and he says, " You're still doing that?" As if I can just stop doing diabetes…sometimes you just have to laugh inside and keep on going…so you don't strangle them…lolol

salmanda 2010-02-07 15:50:21 -0600 Report

lol somoca…some people will never get it, and we all have to just let it go and laugh. At least here we all understand.
Sal :)

Roy531 2010-02-07 12:56:44 -0600 Report

Something that gets my goat is when we have a snack day at work and people bring all the deserts the will say something like sorry but you can't eat any of that or don't you wish you could eat some. I tell them I don't need it, but started baking my own and the last time made a Banana Bar type cake with creme cheese icing, all sweetened with Splenda, and guess what it didn't last they ate every bit of it then told them it was made with Splenda. So now when we have a snack day they ask me to bake something. I enjoy baking, I guess that's odd for a guy.

jayabee52 2010-02-07 13:40:27 -0600 Report

No. Roy. I don't think it odd for a guy. I do ALMOST all the cooking or baking in my household - due to my bride's "challenge". My mom taught me some of the rudiments of cooking and baking - I remember telling mom "I'll make someone a good housewife someday" and laughed. Little did I know how true that would be.

Good to see you here
hope to see you around on some of the other threads too. I hang around the thread "Good Morning, afternoon, evening #23. You might enjoy that too.


Roy531 2010-02-07 14:36:47 -0600 Report

Well, people I work with give me an odd look and say, You baked this? Are you sure somebody else didn't do it for. They seem to think I'm an odd duck

AddassaMari 2010-02-09 09:53:14 -0600 Report

James you are a very special person. How long have you and your "Jem" being married?

jayabee52 2010-02-09 17:07:08 -0600 Report

That depends, Gail~ Actually we were "married" 3 times. The first 2 weren't "legal"

In Nov of 2008, I was visiting when her mother got sick, and we took care of her together, so she could stay home. She was on hospice and the hospice nurse told us that she would be "going" within a day or two. We had planned to get married on New Years day 2009, but we deciced to move it up. So we got things arranged quickly called her family together and had an impromptu wedding ceremony (with a chaplain and everything), because we wanted her to see Jem get married. (Jem was in her mid 50s and was her 1st marriage - and her momma had waited so long to see her get married). Momma G was in bed and seemed unresponsive. But during the ceremony, our next door neighbor friend was there too and she saw Momma G open her eyes and smile. That encouraged us. Momma G gave us her blessing. That was our 1st wedding on Nov 23, 2008.

Then I had to go back to Las Vegas mid Jan 2009. We had set up a church wedding for March 28, 2009. But Jem got really sick, and it looked as if she might have to go into the hospital, so she called off the wedding service. But my mom and 3 of my cousins had gotten airline tickets, and were coming to the wedding. By the time I arrived from LV, Jem was feeling better, so we decided to do the wedding and reception here at the mobilehome. So Jem called most of the people who we had invited and let them know that the wedding was on again, just in a different location. So my mom & cousins got to see us get married and her friends & relatives too. That was on March 28 2009 (just 1 year since we had met in the "real" world)

But because of financial problem, due to medical bills I had to go bankrupt. Not wanting to drag Jem into the legal whirlpool of that we waited until the lawyer told us we could get legally married. We got married in Las Vegas at my church there with my pastor friend officiating. It was a small wedding with just 2 friends in attendance. But it was meaningful to us.

All 3 wedding services were meaningful to us. Whenever we are asked, which of the anniversaries will you celebrate? We tell them "All three", because all three are special to us,

So, to answer your question Gail, legally, since May 28, 2009.

As I was typing this up and pausing to fix lunch for us, I thought that I knew that I would need to do this for her for the rest of our lives together because of her blindness and medical problems. I knew that going into our marriage, because we lived together for the time after the 1st time we were "married" and could have split from her during the time I went back to Las Vegas without any legal consequenses. So I knew what it was like for her day to day care. I love her, and love being with her, and I love caring for her. That's just how I am made. I knew that my ex tended to be a bit sickly (she ended up having a heart attack & needed 5 bypasses a few months after she divorced me) and I was getting myself ready emotionally for the prospect of caring for her long term. So now my bride gets the benefit of my preparations. In exchange I get her love, and affection and her appreciation. (I didn't get the appreciation from my ex.)

I just read this to Jem, and she wanted me to add that she tries to be independent as she can be. She is an amazing lady, and earned her masters in Social work and worked as a LCSW for about 25 years. Outside of needing readers, and other adaptions for her "challenge" she is quite determined to live as normal an existence as possible. She is A REALLY SPECIAL LADY- IMHO. Of course, I am biased!


jayabee52 2010-02-10 16:01:35 -0600 Report

We were "Married" in our own minds and hearts on Nov '08. The subsequent ceremonies just sealed the deal.

imsuzie2 2010-02-11 06:16:02 -0600 Report

I want to know when you forget one of the dates! :) James, I am envious that YOU remember all three dates, and celebrate them. I need to leave hints…BIG, WRITTEN hints for my old man.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2010-02-07 13:43:26 -0600 Report

That's not odd at all, Roy! My husband cooks and bakes all the time…And, he has a son who is a chef…I love it! LOL
I haven't cooked in so long, I have just about forgotten how! LOL He is getting his menu together for dinner tonight for the big game…He loves it, and I just sit back and let him have at it…When we were first married, I would ask him if there was anything I could do to help him out, and he would pour me a glass of wine, and tell me to sit, prop up my feet and enjoy, so, I did!! :D It has been that way ever since…

dietcherry 2010-02-07 14:19:06 -0600 Report

You are one lucky lady, Sue! I am hoping for just that kind of scenario the next time around! LOL Renee :)

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2010-02-07 14:32:32 -0600 Report

Hey, Renee, it could happen! ;D I am very lucky…He brings my coffee to the bedroom in the mornings and sets it on the night table beside the bed for me…He lets me sleep in for as long as I want…He has definately spoiled me! LOL

imsuzie2 2010-02-07 18:14:30 -0600 Report

Is there a class to teach our other half the finer points of spoiling us? Haven't found one yet! Sigh. I want to sign my hubby up! (He will not eat or run out for fast food, waiting for me to come home from work to make dinner. Did I mention there would be food in the fridge to re-heat or things to make a sandwich? Easier for him to wait or run out then make it himself). LOL with a big sigh

jayabee52 2010-02-07 23:02:00 -0600 Report

It comes from his mother IMO. If mom didn't teach him to do it, I doubt he'll be teachable now, unless there's a reason for a "teachable moment" in his life such as you get terribly sick (I wouldn't like that, of course) and that was the only way he could get fed.

But I've almost always been the way I am with my wife.

With my ex I pitched in often to help her in the kitchen even when she was a stay-at-home mom. And when it became necessary for her to enter the work force (something she did NOT want to do) I frequently did the grocery shopping, and had supper on the table usually by the time she came home from work. (I had more flexible hours and got home earlier in the day). I don't EVER remember her thanking me or expressing appreciation to her friends for doing all that. That wasn't why I did it, but it would have been nice to have been appreciated just a little bit. She eventually showed her "appreciation" by dumping me when my diabetes MIGHT have gotten worse. (Hadn't gotten worse yet, but she was afraid I could become non-compliant again ( - I was for a while) and might get major complications and she'd have to take care of me, so she dumped me before that happened - so she told some of our friends)

My new bride, in contrast, thanks me for nearly everything I do for her.

please excuse my little rant about my ex. I don't like to speak ill of my sons' mother.

But IMO the classes should have come from his mother.

salmanda 2010-02-08 17:27:29 -0600 Report

What does IMO stand for…I am having a duh moment right now. I know when you reply,I will say…oh yeah! lol
Sal :)

salmanda 2010-02-08 17:43:30 -0600 Report

Okay, I have never even heard that one before so no duh moment…phew! Thanks for telling me. Now I can sleep tonight! LOL
Sal :)

jayabee52 2010-02-08 21:18:41 -0600 Report

FYI: (i think you syould know what that means) If you ever see IMHO it means "in my humble opinion" I forgot where but there' are many sites which have lists of these abreviations and acronyms. One I use from time to time is: http://www.aim.com/acronyms.adp . You could just search for "instant message abbreviations" and get other sites. I don't text message, but it is useful I am told, for text messaging too.


imsuzie2 2010-02-11 06:21:04 -0600 Report

Just bookmarked the page. Saw some other abbreviations elsewhere I didn't know either. Must be my age and no instant messaging or texting. Hugs

imsuzie2 2010-02-13 05:33:47 -0600 Report

Then there was the time I threw my back out when our son was around 7. I was flat on my back in bed, and he brought me some soup. He laid the tray down on my stomach and walked away. In trying to get up to a sitting position, I moved the tray and some soup sloshed on me. Ouch. When I started to cry, he said if I needed, he would put me in the hospital. Not one of his finer days. The kid was a big help, doing laundry (or at least carrying the basket and putting the clothes in and taking it out…). Oh, hubby TAUGHT me how to do laundry, and in the early years of marriage, when I worked and he went to school, he made dinner. I just love to bi**h about him!!! LOL

Deb-G 2010-02-08 19:38:20 -0600 Report

Funny thing about this I find Roy is a bunch of people you work with are probably pre-diabetic and shouldn't be eatin that shit either LOL!!

Good for you for showing them good food doesn't have to taste bad!

Maybe now they wont be so ignorant…

Roy531 2010-02-08 20:20:50 -0600 Report

Well I would say half of them should eat better, from looking at them anyway I know when I started eating the way I should and exercising I lost 75 lbs. and so far it has stayed off, Just finished my walking for the night. Good movie too.

evbaker 2010-02-07 06:15:44 -0600 Report

Why do people let others play with their cell phone? I sent a message to my cousin last night, with whom I am very close with, to tell her my oldest sons girlfriend is pregnant. Yah!! I'm gonna be a grandma. And who ever was playing with her phone sent me a text back saying pregnant with what? When I read that I just put my phone down and never bothered to reply. Well 6 hours later she sends me a message saying sorry that wasn't me earlier someone was playing with my phone. Ok so someone was playing with her phone and it took her 6 hours to say something? What some people consider funny totally amazes me sometimes.

Danni-the-diabetic 2010-02-07 06:56:36 -0600 Report

Well let me congratulate you on your grandbaby, that's exciting news! I know what you mean with the phone business. This guy at my work would take my phone from the shelf and text people, for example one morning I was extremely tired and he text my "friends list" if they could bring me some energy pills or a drink, I didn't know about this and the next thing I know my friend Dawn is coming in my work with some energy pills (I don't take those, but I did that day.). He did something like that two other times until I got the brilliant idea of locking my phone… Plus, when textng, I never know if it's the actual person textng me or not, esp if they say something bizarre and out of the blue.

tholz 2010-02-07 13:48:51 -0600 Report

Ya I hate it when that happens

Deb-G 2010-02-08 19:31:54 -0600 Report

Kick him in the cup! lol

Awe ok, seriously, your right its so annoying and people are warped in their ideas of funny…

Ev…Congrats on soon to be Grandma status! How wonderful :)

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