I know that a lot of people are fighting this disease alone, and quite frankly (besides the internet help) I don't know how they do it.
For all of you people managing your health alone: I applaud your courage and sacrifices This is not an easy job. In fact, it is very hard work and time consuming.
People think diabetes is manageable with medication, food and exercise…Not. There is a lot more to it than that. You also have to understand the disease, the numbers, the values of food, everything to even begin helping someone. You have to study the disease, and find what directions you need to take to become healthier, and what can be risks if you do not do things right.
I am not a dumb person, I have the ability to learn, but I am also not a nurse who has learned and dealt with these issues. I have to start from the beginning. Again! For a time, he was pre-diabetic, and had an angioplasty and he became more healthy for quite a while. But, like most people who feel better, than begin to take risks. Sometimes, little risks turn into more and more risks that end up with more severe health damages. That was our case, and now the issue of his health is top prioriety.
First of all you have to have a good support system. If you smoke, you need to stop. If you are addicted to sweets, you need to stop.
You need to be up at certain times to take medications and eat meals regularly and on schedule. It needs to be controlled. Skipping meals does not help you. It makes things worse. It does not allow your body to distribute the proper medications properly and without the proper food, or no food and just medication the levels become erratic and uncontrollable. Not only your mind BUT also you body has to be on schedule.
Everything can spiral out of control in an instant.. How do you do it alone?, without giving up?
I am helping my husband and that is hard enough.
You have to live the same life, give up the same things to really make it work, and I am learning that. And if you need to smoke a couple of cigarettes a day, choose to do it elsewhere, not by him and not in t5he home at all. I did not even think about it this time. When my husbabnd came home from the hospital this time with more serious problems, I just did not even think about smoking, but I have to admit I asked for a little help from a higher power of my own.
The reason I bring all this up is because I have been told that he can take care of himself. That may be true , but I have been doing it for fifteen years now; the family thing, you know. And, I feel that he needs my help. He needs my experience and knowledge for cooking healthy meals.
He needs to have to focus on a mindset to believe he will be well if he does what he needs to do.
He needs our encouragement constantly and reminding at times, because I have always been here for him and he likes me taking care of him. It makes him feel loved and special, and we all need that. He treats me equally with my health situations, he is there for me.
My worse fear is that when he is not at home, that he not stay on schedule. He has done this before when he would go on vacation.
His weakness is a meal he should absolutely not have, Sausage gravy and biscuits, but when he can get it he will. I need to come up with a healthier way of making it. I use turkey sausage, ground or links, I think there a possibilities to alter this meal at home, but no chance of changing it when he visits family and eats it at restaraunts..Have to leave that to him and God.
I guess all and all, for everyone it is a learning experience and a new life commitment that has to be made in order to stay healthy, whether you live alone or with someone. It has to be worked out for the best of your survival. And, it has to be something the people dealing with this and other illness have to want to survive. They have to want to help themselves, even though they know there is someone there to help them.
They have to learn what the caretaker has already learned and be willing to put to use what they have learned.
And most of all, they have to make personal sacrifices. The hardest thing that anyone may have to do is to give up the past as you have known it, to learn a whole new way of living and stick with it, but there is no choice. You can enjoy life and extend it if you make some healthy sacrifices and add some healthy exercise. It does sound simple, but it is not.
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