By London Latest Reply 2010-11-24 11:34:28 -0600
Started 2010-01-03 12:26:15 -0600

Does any one else have to buy double grocery's? I'm type 2 but my boyfriend refuses to change his diet. We have 2 kids who love sugar free things but he say's he shouldn't have to change because of me. Any one else with this problem? If so, what do you suggest?

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AddassaMari 2010-01-03 16:38:46 -0600 Report

Sorry for the lack of support on the home front. It is just me and my two boys (171/2 and 13). We have always eaten fairly healthy. I cook the same meals for everyone and modify my servings. My Mom is a diabetic and so was my Dad, so we are looking at genetic factors so I encourage them to limit sweets. In other words I buy healthier snacks and until those are gone I don't replenish.

I am with Harlan, may be time to trade-up in the BF arena :). Seriously, though, maybe he does not fully understand diabetes and the ramifications should it go uncontrolled. The announcement that one has diabetes has a similar effect as announcing that one has any other life threating condition. It may be hard for him to accept that you are sick, because you have no outward symptoms and if he did not have to make any changes then it does not exist. Not only that, this is not something he can fix. Try talking to him a little differently. Help him to learn more, you can get some good information here:
Hope things change for the better. But no matter what happens, you have to take care of you and don't forget you kids also need you to be around and healthy. Plus we are here for you with a cyber-shoulder anytime you need it.

Anonymous 2010-01-03 21:08:09 -0600 Report

thanks guys for your advice, and Skip…i love that site.

cc99 2010-11-24 06:37:30 -0600 Report

if only people would realize that the way we have to eat is the way we all should eat. that was very profound to me and oh by the way just saw that cinammon, B12 and cayenne pepper are the 3 immune boosters for EVERYONE!! sharing the good news!

Harlen 2010-01-03 15:38:13 -0600 Report

May be time of a new BF
I cook the meals in my home and if my wife dont like what I make she can cook her own lol she will never do that lol If he likes cookies and such Y not get them for him? As for foor if he dont like what you make he can cook his own lol
Best wishes

lady2gun 2010-11-24 10:02:00 -0600 Report

I have a boyfriend with type 2 diabetes. He refuses to test his blood sugar.I will find out on the 3rd how bad my blood sugar is , my problem is he does not want to eat healty. I am at a loss as to how to cook for both of us.

Harlen 2010-11-24 11:34:28 -0600 Report

Well then just make the food you can have and make it for two and if he wishes to eat then he will eat if not let him feed himself lol
I live with two non diabetics and they eat what I eat or they can cook the food they wish and you know what they havent done so yet lol
Best wishes

CaliKo 2010-11-24 11:09:12 -0600 Report

Do you do the shopping and cooking? Or is it a joint effort? Are you diabetic? If you are diabetic, you need to make sure that your meals have choices that fit into your meal plan. You probably can't make your BF eat properly, but at least have the good choices there. If he chooses to eat poorly, I really wouldn't say anything. He has to find the motivation and strength within himself, and hopefully he'll do that before he develops complications. Wouldn't hurt to have a subscription to something like ADA's Forecast or Diabetic Living laying around the house. Try to sneak in some exercise disguised as walks, hikes, biking, whatever you both enjoy. Think baby steps to changes, and keep taking care of yourself. Good luck!

JulieC 2010-01-03 15:53:19 -0600 Report

LOL! Thats funny Harlen…I too have a very unsuportive Husband…He eats very healthy…but really gross stuff and the same day in and day out…so he does his cooking…I do mine… and now and then we eat the same.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2010-01-03 16:55:35 -0600 Report

Harlen, I agree with you. You said what I was thinking, and wanted to say! Maybe "it is" time for a new BF. To me that just seems selfish, and inconsiderate. LOL

cc99 2010-11-24 06:35:19 -0600 Report

so with you but nobody can understand (even my Mother) unless they actually live it

Hinboyz3 2010-01-03 15:20:39 -0600 Report

Oh yes your not alone, my hubby is the same way. So I just buy certain things for me, when I fry chicken for the family, I bake my chicken for me. Cause no matter what I have to take care of myself even if he dosen't want to take care of his health. Just keep doing you soon or later I think the hubbys will catch on. He's already noticing I have more energy and exercising, and losing weight too. I love it so I got to keep it up.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2010-01-03 13:53:05 -0600 Report

I too have a husband who is very supportive of my eating style. If he wants to eat something that he knows that I love, he does it whenever I am not around so that I want be tempted. He does most of the grocery shopping and is always reading lables, and looking for foods that are low carb. Sometimes he spends two hours in grocery store because he "reads" everything. It is a shame that your boyfriend will not change his eating habits to help you,and it would probably benefit him as well, but some people just refuse to change. Like Skip said, sneak in a few of those special meals, and he may not even notice.

SkipT 2010-01-03 12:57:46 -0600 Report

Sorry about you predicament. I am fortunate enough to have a wife who supports my eating style. You can try cooking meals that are tasty for both of you though. Check out this website:
Sneak a few of these in, and he may not even notice the difference.

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