Newly diagnosis and truly hating all these symptom

Bertlette
By Bertlette Latest Reply 2010-02-14 00:15:18 -0600
Started 2008-07-14 11:02:14 -0500

I was diagnosised in April of this year, and I have been weak and dizzy almost every morning and when I'm trying to clean my house or cook me a small meal my body, knees and hands shake uncontrollable. I can't do the normal everday tasks, I have a fiance who's a good man and is such a big help, but this illness is wearing on my relationship, I'am truly considering saying goodbye to a good man, so he could live his life the way he should. We are in our forties and I'm always sick when he wants to do things. I was wondering are them any remedy out there that will help me with energy.
Thanks,
Bertlette


33 replies

Fire
Fire 2010-02-14 00:15:18 -0600 Report

The best that I've found 2 do in the situation with Ur finance' is 2 get as much rest as possible while he is working or away from the home. That way U do have some energy 2 do the things U both want 2 do together! I have the same issues so I'm speaking through experience. Hope this will help U. Another thing…don't feel guilty if U get a lot of sleep. If he loves U like it looks 2 B then he will B patient & things will change. Don't let "Diabetes" rule Ur life. U have control in so many ways!

laural
laural 2010-02-13 22:02:28 -0600 Report

ITS SHOCKING AND HARD AT 1ST BUT IT GETS EASIER, I WAS DIAGNOSED LAST NOVEMBER, I'M LUCKEY TO HAVE A HUSBAND THAT IS SUPPORTIVE, HE EATS WHAT I EAT, IT HELPS WHEN HE READS LITITURE ON DIABETIES IT HELPS SO HE UNDERSTANDS WHAT I'M GOING THRU AND WHAT TO WATCH FOR, AND IT HELPS HIM UNDERSTAND IF I GET MOODY AND WHAT THAT MEANS OR MY GULCOSE GOES UP WHY I'M TIRED, BUT THATS GETTING UNDER CONTROL, TAKE CLASSES, IN OUR TOWN WE HAVE A FREE CLASS, A RN IS GIVING IT, IT'LL HELP YOU UNDERSTAND YOURSELF, SO I WOULD GIVE HIM 3 MONTHS GET HIM INVOILVED, AND AT THAT TIME IF HE HASN'T GOT SUPPORTIVE HE PROBLEY WON'T AND AT THAT TIME MAKE A DICIDTION BECAUSE THE MOST IMORTANT THING IS YOU HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU FIRST, AND IF HE ISN'T WILLING TO SUPPORT YOU IN THIS HE WON'T IN THE FUTURE EITHER, TAKING CARE OF YOU 1ST IS TAKING CARE OF HIM BECAUSE YOUR SYMPTOMS WILL DRAMATICLY REDUCE IF YOU STAY ON A DIABETIC DIET, ALL MEN ARE NOT LIKE THAT AND THERES MANY MORE FISH IN THE SEA

tinahall1980
tinahall1980 2010-02-13 11:23:39 -0600 Report

i have been diagnosed since 2004 but it is easy once u get control of it . i only feel weak if my blood sugar is to low then i drink milk or something with sugar to get it to go back up. Just keep a eye on it and u should get a handle i am 29 and my husband is completely understanding

Meme55
Meme55 2008-09-26 12:24:59 -0500 Report

Hi Robinlee and everyone, My numbers still run high and sometimes in the evening too. Although I think I am doing better. This afternoon it was 92 and I was surprised.I feel pretty good lately. Not as tired most days. I think I am accomplishing much more even when I have all my little ones.

warren
warren 2008-08-18 09:26:00 -0500 Report

sounds to me that you are having low sugars. How ofton do you check your sugars. It would be a total shame to end your relationship when it might be a simple salution. Being a new diabetic can be a frightful thing especially when you don't know much about it. Thinking back 49 yrs. ago I was first put on PZI insulin and went through the same things you are going through. After three months they realized that insulin was the wrong kind for me. I was switched and things got better immeadiately. But it is very important to know what your blood sugars are running so you can adjust what is necessary. You might need to increase your food intake a little. Sounds like low blood sugars to me. Please find out what your problem is first before making any other decisions.I would like to know about your blood sugars, and what they are running. warren

warren
warren 2008-08-03 06:00:31 -0500 Report

I have gone through what you are ..many times in 49 yrs. of it. I always came up with the same answer and that was, I without knowing it out of control. Now that works both for low and high sugars. How often do you test your blood. I went through the same thing when I first got diabetes. It turned out to be low sugars for a long time. When I got that corrected and went back to normal I felt great. It also did the same thing to me when I had high sugars for a long period of time. Again , when it was corrected everything came back to the normal mode. The important thing is that you have to know what your sugars are running so that you can adjust for them, and that is by testing. I would much rather test between 5 to 10 times a day just so I know what my sugars are so I can adjust. When your sugars are running low or high if you don't adjust for them you will be inviteing trouble.Diabetes is a real bummer and hard at first. But you will catch on pretty quick and when you do you will look back and realize that , that was a piece of cake. Be a fighter and don't give up especially if you have him there fighting with you. Stick it out and you will see that it is well worth the effort. I am have tremendous problems with diabetic convulsions, 99% of the time only when I am sleeping. I will never give up on finding out why it happens this way becouse if I can find an answer I will then be able to help others some day who come down with the same thing. I never gave up on anything for I always found out that it was a piece of cake to begin with, and not very much to it. So please, stay in there and be a fighter, for it does get easier in time…

Meme55
Meme55 2008-08-17 03:31:29 -0500 Report

Hello all, It's taken me a bit to get on here again. I plan on spending more time here and less on frivalous places.
I have a serious question. OK every morning when I take check my blood it is high. Today it was 145. My numbers I am told should be below 110. So why is this and what can I do to change it. I am starting classes this week for 5 weeks and bringing my husband with me. But until then can you help me with an answer?

robinlee5
robinlee5 2008-08-18 12:57:43 -0500 Report

i have high readings in the morning also . they call it the dawn effect .i run betwwen 130 and 150 every morning but i am controlled thru out the day . as my A1C count is 6.1. so i must be doin something right .r u just high in the morning and then lower #s thru out the day . my doc isnt concerned about the high readings in the morning i guess as long as my A1C stays where it is .take care.hugs to u.
robinlee

2008-07-24 12:17:10 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed in Dec. of '07 and had the same symptoms.
I would get dizzy just turning around in my kitchen! BS was 300. I tried to control it with diet, with very small success. Went to the Doc and he prescribed Actos. I was on it one month with a little more success. Then I found out about the alkaline water. I was told that diabetes was the first disease to respond to the alkaline water. I began drinking it after purchasing a small unit, which I hooked to my own water tap. It changes the water to alkaline. It was delicious! My blood sugar and blood pressure both went down to normal within two weeks! They remain at normal readings ever since! I got my unit through www.aqua2health.com. Their phone number is on that site. Sincerely, Marilyn

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-07-24 12:28:51 -0500 Report

Very interesting. We have a reverse osmosis filtration system on our home, and it softens, as well as removes all the minerals and chlorine of the city water. (our water is REALLY yucky) The filter allows us to drink straight from the tap with wonderful water. Is this similar?? And if alkaline water is good, why does acid vinegar work for people to reduce or stabilize the numbers??? Hmmmmm

dolymi
dolymi 2008-07-20 17:15:58 -0500 Report

Hang in there, It takes time to get life straight after you get hit with the "D". everybody is saying the same things and I am agreeing with them. :) My husband is my biggest support and it does get rocky at times. We have been married a year at the end of this month. He has seen me when I wasn't taking care of myself and now that I am doing better with it he says he can really tell and is glad that I am doing right. Take care and talk to your doc.
Blessed Be

Meme55
Meme55 2008-07-21 05:20:24 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes a year ago and now I am on Metformin 1,000 mils a day. Is that alot? I know little and guess I never paid alot of attention to it till now. MyMother had it as well as now my sister, neither whom was ever over weight. I am and try so hard to no avail to loose weight. Both my daughters had there first babies at 28 and 29 and both add gestational diabetes, I am scared for them as they both are a bit over weight. Anyway I can't really tell when I have low or high blood surgar symptoms.

kdroberts
kdroberts 2008-07-21 06:37:29 -0500 Report

1000mg isn't a lot. The official prescribing info says this "In general, clinically significant responses are not seen at doses below 1500 mg per day."

Personally I take 2000mg and the max dose is 2550mg.

Bertlette
Bertlette 2008-07-20 11:35:49 -0500 Report

Hello,
This is to all of you wonderful people who personally responded to me. (I THANK YOU DEARILY, I truly realize that god have put beautiful people on this site to help me deal with this disease. I was talking to my fiance last night about this site, I'am so glad that I have friends out there that could relate to me.

Today I'm having a alright day, and that's good enough for me. You guy's have giving me so much hope and thanks for the advice about my fiance, because he truly is a damn good man, who has my back everyday.

Thanks Again,
Bertlette

lhpowell
lhpowell 2008-07-20 06:18:32 -0500 Report

My advice is to find yourself a good endocrinogist, that is their primary goal, to care for diabetics. I have had type 1 for 44 years, and my doctor treats me just fine. I take 5 tp 8 injections a day, but my blood sugar is under control. Please find a good doctor and, and see him at least every 3 months

ladydi2
ladydi2 2008-07-20 05:23:40 -0500 Report

Everyone is right. You should talk to your doctor. I get what I call shakes too. I get some B complex vitamins, and it helps me. I usually get it at night in bed. Every diabetic is different I am finding that out. I am in now for 14 years. I have learned a lot in the last year. Now that I am in my 40's I find it is harder to keep my sugar under control. I now have to really get serious about exercise. I really could use some help everyone. Thanks

Linda Simmons
Linda Simmons 2008-07-19 17:00:22 -0500 Report

Okay, first thing you do is to call your doc! It sounds like you are experiencing low blood sugar episodes. I've had them and I know they are not fun. Secondly, if your fiance is such a great guy, give him a break! Surely he loves you for you, not for a medical condition you didn't ask for! Folks with diabetes can live fairly normal lives. I've been diagnosed with Type 2 for over 20 years. I found out about it 2 weeks before my wedding! My husband is kind and supportive. We have 2 wonderful kids (yes, even with diabetes).

Again, back to my first suggestion: Have a serious heart to heart with your doctor. Get a hold of a dietitian and work out a meal plan. TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE! Seriously, of all the medical conditions out there, diabetes is one of the few where you can have some control! Also… Don't let anyone call you a "diabetic". Don't let them define you by your disease. You are simply an individual with diabetes.

God bless you! You CAN handle this!!!

Helena - 19070
Helena - 19070 2008-07-19 18:11:29 -0500 Report

All these comments are good ones and have helped me too. I needed some place to go where I could get others' ideas, and this is it. I have most of my trouble with hypoglycemia and those feeling always scare me, especially the dizziness. I took a class at the hospital taught by two knowledgable ladies who also had Diabetes and I realize eating properly is the key to it all. It takes a while to get used to the whole routine but once the blood sugar is under control, things do not seem as bad.

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-07-19 11:01:25 -0500 Report

you aren't giving enough information for energy. what is your daily health routine? when do you see your doctor? what does he tell you? do you take vitamins? etc.

MysticPaige
MysticPaige 2008-07-19 10:17:25 -0500 Report

Dear Berlette,

There is really nothing more that I can say that hasn't already been said but I'm a chatter so I'll add my point of view, which is the same as everyone else here. I haven't been diagnosed for that many years with type 2 but enough to know there are ups and downs.

I eat right but advantia was what put my sugars better but now they go too low. Just last night I woke up to the shakes and still have been shakey all day. I also have fibromyalgia, arthritis and Gerd and a few other things. The GERD is what gets me because I have to eat a tablet before I anything 1/2 hour before. I also don't care to eat too much anyway but I also don't like stuffing food in my face when I am shaky. Sugar tabs don't always do the trick for me. My system is off however I keep a bright attitude and keep trying and love life. When people say to live life to its fullest sometimes that means very different things. There are adjustments to be made and we can't always feel perfect but the more we work at it the better we get at figuring out what works and what doesn't. Having multiple problems just expounds the issues but there is a way around everything.

I'm so glad that you mentioned something because support is something that we all could use a big dose of.

Take care and remember you are supported. It is just silly to give up a good man who cares. Prayer is key.

Hugs, Paige

Fluffy - 14380
Fluffy - 14380 2008-07-19 10:13:48 -0500 Report

you want to eat peanut butter sandwich before going to bed.. that will keep B/S up all nite..hang in there and always ask God for His help I am doing that everyday.I am on my third year now..it takes time to learn about your self…God Bless,,,

Ms. Lizz
Ms. Lizz 2008-07-19 06:27:14 -0500 Report

Hello Berlette,
I am new to Diabetic Connect, but not so new to the feelings you describe. I have been dealing with my disease since 1992 and I have gone through many combinations of symptoms. I never separated them, but referred to the way I was feeling as "I just feel bad". I found the glucose tabs available to regulate our sugar, that are "huge" seemed to put me to rights almost immediately. In the fall of the year when Clementine oranges are available, I always keep a couple in my coat pocket when I leave home. If that ugly bad feeling tries to ruin my day, I just peel one and eat it. I feel better then too. I keep my glucose tabs in a keychain container in my purse or hanging from a belt loop all the time. My favorite flavor is English Toffee and I always want a second one, but never really need more than one. I just let it dissolve on my tongue (trying to make it last).. Walmart sells them in lots of flavors and they are not expensive either. I bought the keychain pill box container at the pharmacy counter too and it was a good idea. Sometimes it takes time for you to understand your disease and how your system is affected by it during your adjustment period. You will be just fine. Stop trying to push yourself too fast. If your knees get wobbly, sit down and take a breath, thank the Lord and ask Him for help and get up and finish fixing yourself something to eat. Check your glucose to see if you are extra high or extra low and by all means let your doctor know. You may have to go on some low dose insulin to regulate yourself. I was in the hospital with a Fibromyalgia flare up and they were pushing IV steroids into my body and it drove my sugar through the roof. They had to inject me with insulin 3 times a day for each of the 3 days I was hospitalized to keep my blood sugars within "reason"… Many factors contribute to "feelings" and the longer you work at understanding "your" symptoms, the easier it will be to deal with it and live an ordinary life like the millions of us who do this everyday! You are among a great bunch of people and we all want to help. Be well blessed and I hope my comments help you in some small way.
Ms. Lizz

Evilannie
Evilannie 2008-07-19 06:04:54 -0500 Report

Have you been eating some protein before going to bed? Such as a sanwich of some meat and cheese? That might help the early morning shakes. Protein tends to level out the blood sugar especially after having something sweet. You should be eatin small meals and also snacks. Especially at bedtime. Your fiance wants to be with you and to help you. Don't push him away.

Dancehawk
Dancehawk 2008-07-17 09:24:53 -0500 Report

Darlin you ll feel this way till you get your sugar under control, then every now and then you ll have a off day.
Eat healthy, cut out all junk and sugar.
You can still do things and have fun just remember to test, and carry your orange juice or tablets with you if you have a low.
Your going to find having a great man in your life is a true blessing because your going to want someone to dance with under the moon, to talk to, try out new foods with, go for walks, laugh and enjoy life with.
Do not give up… things do get better, but it takes some work on your part.
make your meals 6 small meals, get him to eat like you do that really helps and it is healthy for him.
Eat 3/4 of your meal veggies and talk to your doctor if your meds are not working for you,
It can be a hit or miss on the meds in the beginng, see what works what does'nt.
and if your feeling crumy come talk to us e make you smile, so your guys see's the beautiful sunshine he is in love with.
Hugs
Catherine

Charish
Charish 2008-07-14 16:00:59 -0500 Report

Hi Bertlette,

It's a wonderful thing to have someone in your life who is standing with you through all of this, so don't look for trouble if it really doesn't exist. We all have times when we ask ourselves if something is worth it, but the fact remains that you are blessed to have someone who is there for you let him be there for you and don't let him get away. I don't have anyone and it would be nice to have someone that I could lean on for support and love. Even though I don't want to rely on others, I still would like to have someone to tell me that it's okay and let me be strong for you. It's the idea being alone and never having that support is what makes it horrible, but you have that gift don't waist it. Let him be there for you and give you that much needed suport that we all need. It's nice to have my friends here but it would be even nicer to have that person or life partner that would be there to reassure me that I will be alright and that I can make it. Hold on to your gift and don't push him away okay.

Take care … Hugs snad Kisses

Charish

morris.js
morris.js 2008-07-14 15:27:49 -0500 Report

Ok, I'm single, so lets look at this from my point of view… I would love to have someone besides my son that is willing to be there for all the ups and downs this disease puts us through. I think because I am single and miss having a life partner to help me through is why I love this site so much. I get the support from all of you. The point is, do not feel guilty about having someone love you enough to want to stick it out with you. If you start to think better of yourself and the positive things that you do bring into the relationship, your overall stress level will go down, which in turn will help with your control of this disease, which will then let you begn to start living your life again. Cherish the fact that there is someone who wants to be there…accept it and do not push them away. you both will be happier.
John

liz2857
liz2857 2008-07-14 15:13:21 -0500 Report

I have to agree with everyone else here,I have been with my fiance for 10years now,he has seen me through the death of my 18 year old son,I have fibromyalgia,depression,severe arthritis,and now I have Diabetes.I am also facing total knee-replacement.I also had the thought that I was such a burden he should move on and live a life without all of my problems.his reaction was,he was not going anywhere,he is right where he wants to be,And boy does he get mad if I even say I just a burden!He loves me,and he accepts all that comes with it,and I have to say he has been a God send to me,I don't know wwhat I would do without him.Don't let go of a great love,you may never find it again,if he didn't love you he wouldn't be there.Take care and ((((hugs to you))),Liz

DiabetesDiva
DiabetesDiva 2008-07-15 04:57:54 -0500 Report

Liz-

I'm so sorry about the loss of your son and the medical challenges in your life. I'm glad you have such a supportive and loving partner.

I knew my husband was the one when he met my mom for the first time. My mom was bi-polar and was addicted to pain pills due to several surgeries on her back and neck. It also was the first time I had made dinner for my husband. Things were going ok. Then I looked over at my mom and she had fallen asleep with her face in the mashed potatoes. My husband never said a word and carried on like it was the most natural thing in the world!

Take care and good luck-

Kate

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-07-14 12:27:45 -0500 Report

Your future husband is going to be your life saver if you let him. My husband is just now catching on in the "help me" department and I have been dealing with this since March of 2008. We had a sit down talk, and I try to include him in my efforts of control. He has really helped me see that controlling my disease is just as much for him as it is for me.
Just as DiabeticDiva said, once you start getting your sugar under control, it is amazing how much better you feel. Then you have to work on the emotional part and realize that without your special man, you would spirial down if you're not careful.
I am not saying that you can't do it alone, I am just saying that it is much more comforting to know that someone still loves you even when you have crappy mood swings, and don't feel so hot. It motivates me to exercise that extra 5 minutes when I know he is there. We explore cooking so that he can enjoy the meal as much as I need to eat healthy.
If you are so fortunate to have a man who is willing to stick with you thru the tough times, Love him enough to change what you can to make him happy too.
Don't walk away, you will only regret it.

bluerose2
bluerose2 2008-07-14 14:46:16 -0500 Report

Gabby - I know this was meant for DiabetesDiva, but I read your reply and it gave me inspiration to keep going and not walk away from my marriage. We pay $600 a month for my health insurance and i keep thinking he would be so much better off if he didn't have to put out that much money a month for me… He gets mad when I talk like that. And to deal with all my down days and being sick and always worried if I am sleeping too long if its because i crashed and didn't know it, etc. But like you said "in sickness and in health". But i think you said somewhere else in a post about self esteem and losing your job and that is me right now - my 3 month medical leave is over and my dr won't release me to go back to work, so my job isn't there anymore. Any my husband just went back to work finally last week, so i have lots of guilt i put on myself right now without working and not feeling like i can go out and try to find something else, especially since i can't stand right now.
Any way, what i was saying to you Thanks for you inspiration even though the post wasn't written to me!

DiabetesDiva
DiabetesDiva 2008-07-14 11:28:12 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed as a type 2 last year when I went to the doctor because I was so tired all the time. Within 2 months of being on Metformin, changing my diet and losing weight I had so much more energy. There's many things that can affect your energy: depression, sleep apnea, etc. Please check back with your doc and enlist the support of your fiancee. Managing diabetes has been easier for me with the help of my husband. After 30 years of marriage we have been experienced many highs and lows of life together. I believe in the vows of "in sickness & health". This was really tested when I had such severe sinus infections I was unable to work. I am almost 58. Don't give up! You can do this.

Kate

Next Discussion: If anyone's in distress »