afraid to find out

Dawn Bielz
By Dawn Bielz Latest Reply 2009-12-22 21:13:04 -0600
Started 2009-12-21 12:24:49 -0600

I'm worried to go to a Dr and find out what is wrong with me what should I ask,, 1st off I'm a transgendered woman ok got that out of the way

13 replies

spiritwalker 2009-12-22 21:13:04 -0600 Report

Dawn, it took courage to share with us. Now know that we will
be here for you. Its a crazy feeling not knowing exactly what's
wrong. Be as open with your Dr. and he or she will do all
they can to help you. Hang in there. Keep coming back to us
with questions and concerns. We are all here to support
each other. Merry Christmas.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-12-21 23:07:44 -0600 Report

Use us as a testing site to form your thoughts into a list of things to ask your Dr. We are here for you, we all have our battles in various forms, so who are we to criticize?? My burden is having been in a psych hospital so many times that I doubted my own sanity—as did the whole town—-IT WAS SO HARD to hold my head high to walk down the street, as there was gossip following me everywhere—-no safety net anywhere—-so I had to learn to stand straight and look folks in the eye.

If I had had a particular "hairy " expereince, I openly just told everyone about it, the stay and what they do to help us—-gives us a place to recuperate from the so-called "Normal" folks!! After 40 years, I can truly know that I am OK, and so are you!! Now I can look them all in the eye, know that they probably would have folded for good if they had been in my shoes, my psychiatrist kept telling me that I was a strong person, but there wasn't too much demand for one—-(MY THOT!!) Love yourself and others will too, or at least cut you some respect!! Best Wishes! PR

Elrond 2009-12-21 23:27:37 -0600 Report

You're probably much too young to remember a popular quote from WW II. (I am too) It was "All we have to fear is fear itself.." Don't let fear stop you from taking proper care of yourself. Doing nothing is a very bad idea. You could learn that nothing at all is wrong which would be a 'best case scenario'. Or, it could be a miror problem and easily corrected. If it's more serious, the sooner treatment starts, the better. In any case, find out. In all cases, welcome to our family.

DiabetesDiva 2009-12-21 19:54:26 -0600 Report

What courage you have! There are lots of kind & compassionate doctors out there. Do you have a local LGBT group near by? Perhaps they can recommend a doctor for you. We are all God's children!


alanbossman 2009-12-21 19:51:04 -0600 Report

Like every one said your health is important. Dont wait until something bad happens go and see doctor and have a blood sugar test done. Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Deb-G 2009-12-21 18:46:45 -0600 Report

Welcome aboard :)

We're all just people in the same big boat…Best to get a full workup at the Dr's and find out…maybe it wont be that bad? :)

Better to know and take care of yourself…

Good Luck! and Merry Christmas

BLC 2009-12-21 16:21:31 -0600 Report

I hope you can find the answers you need but you have to go to the doctor. If there is a problem then you can get medicine, or whatever you need. If there is no problem then you will have peace of mind in knowing everything is okay. Best of luck to you. Let us know how everything turns out.

Judimar 2009-12-21 15:29:12 -0600 Report


Thank you for being so open with us… now you need to do that with your doctor. Take the courage you have shown and face your doctor… tell him or her exactly how you're feeling and what's going on with you. There is nothing worse then not knowing. If you continue to worry and not find out what's going on, it will only make whatever's going on worse.

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Remember you are a strong, brave woman who's already been through so much.. you can handle whatever else comes your way!



ptsparkle 2009-12-21 14:37:22 -0600 Report

To be a transgendered woman means you have probably been through the wringer with everyones opinions you have known . If you have gone through that, going to the Dr. will be a breeze. Then there won't be any mysteries, but you and doc can form a plan of attack with whatever ails you.Keep your chin up, it could just be a minor thing. Welcome to the site and good luck.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-12-21 13:30:13 -0600 Report

True, it doesn't matter who you are, illnesses can hit anyone, and the worst thing is the FEAR of NOT KNOWING! One wastes a lot of energy in worrying, go to a Dr, and find out, then get a plan to FACE whatever! Best Wishes, and Merry Christmas—-whatever your religion! PR

kdroberts 2009-12-21 12:46:37 -0600 Report

Regarding health, it's better to know even if it's not good news. If you know you can do something about it, if you don't know you wait until something really bad happens.

Hinboyz3 2009-12-21 12:32:43 -0600 Report

First of all it don't matter what we are or who we are!! Diabetes don't pick and choose it's carriers it just happens to us. Are your type 1 or type 2 diabetic?