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By phatgirl Latest Reply 2011-05-06 09:17:55 -0500
Started 2009-12-09 17:41:57 -0600

I need your opion's please. I have applied for gastric bypass.And waiting approval.Anyone have this done? and what are the complications? pros and cons?

27 replies

LabRat90 2011-05-06 09:17:55 -0500 Report

Hi - this is just my opinion - Gastric bypass scared me because of the mal-absorption problems. The Lapband also turned me off because of the amount of adjustments that need to be made. I had the Gastric Sleeve done on Oct 5, 2010 (7 months ago and 86 pounds). It is permanent but the stomach can be expanded just like before; so you have to have your head in the game. That means things like: no more carbonation, no caffeine, no straws, portion control, exercise, 60g protein per day, and at least 64 oz fluids per day. As with every procedure; this has to used as a "tool" and not a miracle. It works but you have to make it work. If you go back to no exercise and bad eating choices; you will not lose or you will gain it back. Good luck on your decision. I tried it on my own for over a year while I researched what my doctor was suggesting. I only lost 15 pounds and it was hard. The sleeve has helped me with my diabetes, my blood pressure, cholesterol, sleep apnea, and asthma. I hope you the best.

1cookie :)
1cookie :) 2011-03-27 19:15:14 -0500 Report

Hi, I 've had a few of my patients who have had it. Over time the weight comes back. Problem is (in my opinion) is that if you don't evaluate what makes you over eat or make bad choices then eventually you go back to what brought you there to begin with. If you have ever kept a food log, it teaches you to document your emotions; to see if that might be why you make a bad choice. Your stomach can be made smaller but if you over eat it will stretch again. If you bipass the small intestines you absorb less calories, but less nutrition too. It was suggested to me also to think about getting it done. I decided not to do it. Best of luck to you, whatever you decide to do!!!!! Anita

nanaellen 2011-03-27 11:03:47 -0500 Report

Hi, My best friend had gastric bypass and she DID lose alot of weight but she went through hell! In the hospital for weeks and now has problems with gastrointestinal stuff. AND she's depressed again. She went from 400+ lbs to only 145ish (and she looked sick) to now @ l60 and still gaining! Now she's refusing to eat anything for days at a time and then pigs out on cookies and sugary stuff till she's sick again. And she doesn't have D!! I can only imagine that the complications would be more serious because of the D. Just my opinion. MY Dr. says the same thing about my weight too!! "If you lost weight all your problems will go away." Yeah right. Easier said than done!! I'll be thinkin' about ya whatever you decide! Good luck!

gbc43 2011-03-27 11:41:44 -0500 Report

Another one for the zipper club , had mine done in 85. this is a different game , with the bypass ,meds don't act right,have to take a double amount . She will gain most of her weight back if she eats to much, is she taking shots for the diabeties ?

nanaellen 2011-03-27 18:15:56 -0500 Report

No she's fortunately for her NOT diabetic! She seemed MUCH happier when she was big!! She's unhappy about all the extra skin and such. But her eating habits are going back a long time!! She either starves herself or binges. (Which is most likely the cause of her gastrointestinal issues!! I try to tell her but you know how that goes!!

gbc43 2011-03-27 18:45:36 -0500 Report

That is part of process, lose weight and get to a stable weight and the get the skin fixed ,that can be hide unless your going to get friendly … You know this before you start if they did their job and its just as bad for the men .

jayabee52 2010-02-06 01:28:11 -0600 Report

Howdy penny.
Ultimately you have to decide whether or not to do it.

I have a friend who had the surgery done, and at first the weight loss she experienced was phenomenal. But she was limited to 3oz intake per meal. And she told me the same thing etedmusa said. She had to take special vitamins for the rest of her life. She even had surgery to remove her extra skin. I think she lost something like 200 lbs altogether. And she looked GOOD!

But I hadn't seen M for about a year now, - we had been regulars together at a dance class in Las Vegas, but the class broke up, & I moved from Las Vegas. Went back to Vegas recently and saw M while there. She's putting weight back on. I suspect she's fallen back into her old eating habits - didn't really have time to talk to her about it, so it's just conjecture on my part, but she's definitely putting weight back on. All this within the course of 5 or 6 years.

My opinion FWIW, unless and until you can get the personal issues which cause the eating disorder dealt with, where you don't feel compelled to eat ( I know - I have similar issues) then perhaps you MIGHT think seriously about the surgery. But if you get your eating under control, maybe you could lose the weight WITHOUT the surgery. The weight loss would be slower, but it could be healthier for you . JMHO FWIW

imsuzie2 2010-02-06 04:17:50 -0600 Report

Penny, it sounds like you don't want to have this procedure. Listen to you "gut". I agree with James that you need to be invested in the procedure or in time…like the Nutrisystem I went thru in the 80's. Over time, I have gone back to my lazy eating habits and put the weight back on. Harlen had a good idea to look into the Lapband and see what the differences are. Still can be complications with that procedure too, please think on this very carefully. And, it is nice to see you are back. DON'T isolate yourself from your friends here, ok?

donna13 2010-02-06 08:42:16 -0600 Report

Dr. Oz interviewed Carny Wilson on his show. She had weighed well over 300 lbs. when she had gastric surgery. There was a lot of publicity when she had the surgery and the media followed her as she lost the weight. It's been a few years and now she has gained a good deal of weight back. I really think it's your mind set that determines if it is successful.

dietcherry 2010-02-06 08:50:17 -0600 Report

Donna, I watched that show, too. It was chilling when he told her the worst of the bad news he had for her was that she was pre-diabetic! Renee :)

sisson 2010-02-06 00:00:35 -0600 Report

Hi Penny
I am so glad that I deside to check up on the site to night. June of last year my daughter friend had the same operation done on her. I haven't seen her in a while but it has been hell for the both of them because they are room mates she has gone threw dpression, dehidration in and out of the of hoapital about six times it's not fun we thought we were going to lose her. You need to sit down and pray on it and talk it over with your love one because you with need a lot of love and sport and help from them even it you don't want it. Penny you are always in my parys your frined the other Penny

etedmusa 2010-01-06 13:12:53 -0600 Report

I have a friend who went through the procedure. Went well with weight loss for a year or so for her. Then she started to put weight back on. Her diabetes went well for a while also. But did creep back on so she had to take meds again. Lots of complications for her. One thing that is done in the procedure is the first 18 inches or so of the small intestine right after the stomach are removed. This is where the body absorbs almost 90 percent of vitamins from absorbed food i understand. This 90 percent is now not absorbed anymore Only about 10 percent. So vitamin supplements will be needed for the rest of your life. Also, because of lack of vitamin absorption, lack of mainly iron, she was hospitalized twice for a week each time with no iron in her body/blood. I also understand that there is around an eight percent mortality rate from this procedure. I know I read that somewhere. Her husband went through the same procedure. He ripped his sutures somehow and had his insides hanging outside. Till he was rushed back to surgery. That may have been his own fault though. My personal advice is try dieting. Good luck in whatever decision you wind up making.

phatgirl 2010-01-12 13:32:57 -0600 Report

WOW!! I read you lost over 100 lbs! That's great. I read all you wrote about the gastric bypass. It scares me!! I am having second thoughts about it now.Maybe you can give me some pointers on how you did it.Let me know. Penny

Anonymous 2009-12-12 00:38:05 -0600 Report

Missed you..where have you been? Glad you are back!!!!!

phatgirl 2009-12-20 19:04:13 -0600 Report

I get depressed and just quit. stupid? yes,I know. I need all my friends on here.I thank ALL of you for your support.I'm very confused on the surgery still.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-12-20 19:12:25 -0600 Report

I think, from what I have learned anyway, that we all have our struggles with depression. When you start getting depressed, that is when you need your support group the most. Don't isolate yourself during those times.

phatgirl 2009-12-20 19:51:20 -0600 Report

Well my husband of 21 yrs. is 16 yrs older than me.And he doesnt like to do hardly anything but set home and watch movies.I love family and friends he doesnt.I live 75 miles from nowhere and noone.I get so lonely and depressed.

Anonymous 2009-12-20 20:04:58 -0600 Report

There have been times in my life when I was so isolated and depressed that having a grocery clerk tell me what i owed for the groceries was a major social exchange. I still tend to be off by myself and my hubby is always on the move and calling people and enjoying hobbies with them, etc. I do try to maintain contact with some people some of the time. Not easy to be honest with people about myself - diabetes, eating disorder, depression, etc., etc., but it gets a bit easier over time. Thank goodness for the internet!!!! So you are back with your friends and please try to stay in touch even when you take a nose dive into depression. Do it for us, if not for yourself…LOL

phatgirl 2009-12-22 20:04:19 -0600 Report

So you know how it feel's to be isolated from people.My husband wouldnt do anything if it were his choice.Which it usually is. I get so tired of it all sometimes you know. I feel I deserve more than this. But..I can't leave him.And yes I have Compulsive overeaters whatever.I eat when i'm sad,bored ,mad disgusted, and even happy.And all i'm doing is killing myself.Which I don't think he would care.

Anonymous 2009-12-23 17:49:38 -0600 Report

Yup, I sure do know. One day at a time for all of us. What seems impossible or like it will never change proves not to be or changes so fast in totally unexpected ways it makes our head spin. I can't wait to compare notes a year from now. I bet we won't recognize ourselves!!!

imsuzie2 2010-02-06 04:10:57 -0600 Report

Then, try to control the urges to SPITE him! It sounds like he is using a passive-aggressive behavior to "control" you. Can you get in the car and drive someplace where there might be a support group, Weight Watcher or OA meeting? If not, I know Weight Watches has a web site you can join or e-diets has a sight…and there is us.

dietcherry 2010-02-06 08:46:51 -0600 Report

It almost sounds as if your husband may be depressed, too. His inertia and isolation are major red flags! Renee :)

Anonymous 2009-12-12 00:36:54 -0600 Report

Had it when it was experimental (1977). Lost weight but over the years have not kept it all off. Where there is a compulsive drive to eat, a way will be found!! Also developed binge-purge behaviors and nausea and vomiting is very commonplace with me. I did quit smoking before the surgey and have never gone back to that. If I had it to do over I would not surgically alter my body in order to lose weight.

phatgirl 2009-12-20 19:05:52 -0600 Report

I know some that say the same thing. And it scares me !! I'm so confused. I need to lose ALOT of weight though.My doctor is REALLY,REALLY pushing it on me.

SusanJ 2009-12-09 19:27:53 -0600 Report

I had it done back in 2000. I have lost about 150 pounds. When I had mine done I was not prepared for the big change in eating. I was sick for a month with it. I was on nothing but liquids for the first month. I have had friends that had it done that has had no problems with it. The only thing I can say is talk to a dietitian as well. After the bypass you can only eat a very small amount so you have to watch what you eat. Let me know if I can be of any further help. Let me know what you decide.

Harlen 2009-12-09 18:00:02 -0600 Report

Hello and welcome back
Have you looked into lapbands?
Gastric Bypass is so invacive I would not do it
Best wishes