I RECENTLY BECAME AWARE OF WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE DIABETES!!!!

Monalisa
By Monalisa Latest Reply 2010-01-18 22:37:41 -0600
Started 2009-12-03 17:21:25 -0600

HI EVERYONE, I AM A DIABETIC FOR A VERY LONG TIME, I THINK FOR ABOUT 15 YRS, I NEVER EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT IT; I BECAME DEPRESSIVE WHEN MY MOM BECAME BEDRIDDEN 12 YRS AGO AND I WAS THE ONLY PERSON TAKING CARE OF HER, WELL SHE DIED THIS YEAR, AND THE DEPRESSION GOT WORSE…NOW I AM TRYING TO LIVE…I AM TRYING TO LEARN ABOUT DIABETES AND HOW TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF I ENROLLED IN A WOMENS ONLY GYM 2 WEEKS AGO AND I NEED TO REALLY BE MOTIVATED BECAUSE IT'S HARD TRYING ALL BY YOURSELF, THANKS FOR LISTENING…


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Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2010-01-18 22:37:41 -0600 Report

May I further add that we are too hard on ourselves, trying to CONTROL too much with diabetis plus EMOTIONS!! There is NOTHING wrong with having off days, the cause doesn't always have to be analyzed—-just take it with a grain of salt and keep putting one foot in front of another. UNLESS the depression takes a life of its own, then that is another story. Love and Good Luck! Pat R

rankearl
rankearl 2009-12-18 14:49:04 -0600 Report

hi find a good dr you can really talk too ask questions i belive everything in moderation start with little changes when you do them with your eyes closed youve got it made hope i helped hugs julie

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-12-18 15:11:43 -0600 Report

Sounds good to me, small changes, and now that I have been practising them for a few years, they are becoming more a natural part of me and even if I don't have to take meds for D anymore, I plan on sticking to my better eating habits. Taking no chances with that stuff!!! PR

Laurie Anne
Laurie Anne 2009-12-17 18:42:46 -0600 Report

Hi Monalisa,

Ihave has diabetes for 23 yrs and have been depressed mre thimes then I can count. Keep talking to other like us (diabetics) and your doctors. I an sure you will feel better soon. Good Luck!!

lovely irish eyes
lovely irish eyes 2009-12-16 12:33:21 -0600 Report

Monalisa: Depression as you can see is common amongst us diabetics. however there are many other triggers which will bring on the depression as well. Left untreated and the depression deepends.. I know been there, done that. First you must face, acknowledge and accept that you are a diabetic, which we all have as seen by being here on this site. 2nd, get on the right medications and STAY ON THEM. by not taking your medications on a regualr basis will trigger mood swings, and the depression. We may all deny it and say we are feeling fine (as we are tearing someone else's head off) but in reality we're not. Listen to your family, friends & co workers. If they are telling you something is wrong and your not your usual self do a self check. (Did i take my medications, do I need to test, is my bs too high, too low, what did i eat or not eat) and 3rd, find someone to talk to. Somone who can be objective, and this is a great start.
I wish you well in your journey and remember you are not alone in this are all in this together.

dietcherry
dietcherry 2010-01-18 16:02:40 -0600 Report

Your reply is just alot of good common sense! When I became diabetic 30 years ago, nobody told me what to expect, just what to do. I wish I had had this site then when it could really have helped me to feel less lonely! I am going to invite you to be my friend, lovely irish eyes! Renee :)

mommy010307
mommy010307 2009-12-15 18:56:57 -0600 Report

hey sweetie
im so sorry to hear about your mom. i lost my father when i was a kid and im 30 now and its still hard so if you need to talk your not alone…i just started on this site and i like it…if you have any questions or just need to talk send me an email.and good luck!

joybells
joybells 2009-12-15 01:07:03 -0600 Report

You are not alone. I think this site is for us to encourage each other. Anyone out there who has ever been depressed and you know it is from the D. ??? It is part of life for the D. , but you learn what triggers it so you can try to avoid the depression. It sounds like you definately have reason to be depressed, you recently lost your Mother and that in itself is very hard.Hang on Monalisa. You have to grieve first. then realize that you are a strong person. You did your best to make her last years as happy as possible Now it is time for you to take care of you. Do you know your sugar level can go up or down due to your emotional status?…I just signed on to this site. …Anyone agree or not?

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-12-18 13:14:28 -0600 Report

I most certantly agree, joybells. I too, cared for my mother most of my life, partly emotionally, then physically for 19 years, she just died 2 years ago at 98 yrs, so guess I did a good job, but I was overwhelmed with STUFF, making her care twice as hard, but others reassure me that I was there for her. I so wanted to MAKE her HAPPY and to accept her life in a more positive manner—-BUT I am finally coming to terms with—-you can NOT change anyone if they don't want to be changed.

Anyway, I am now "catching up" on my own health care, I was just too exhausted from other things to even care—but do now, the diabetis kicked in, I had another knee replacement, then a long overdue malignant kidney removed and other things, and am finally getting to see "the light" it just takes time, work thru your pain—-that is so hard, you might need a Dr and meds to help with that—-accept the fact that you are a good person, you did the best that you could, and no one can know what that means, the physical exhaustion, followed by the nerves——chronic fatigue—/depression. it is like, which comes first, the egg or the chicken——depression/diabetis—we are not robots, our inner lives are changing continuously as our circumstances change—-and I am sure that you are a GOOD PERSON and we are all here for YOU! Hugs, Pat R

Hinboyz3
Hinboyz3 2009-12-04 07:27:22 -0600 Report

Wow! wished we lived closer I would go to the womens gym with you. That would be fun. My dad has been a diabetic type 2 for 23 years, so I watched him go into the hospital when first diagnosed his sugars were off the charts. But he has been able to change his way of eating and his blood sugars are always normal now with the help of his insulin 2 times a day. So he has helped me open up my eyes to what I need to do and Im doing it weather I want to or not, I had to change up somethings and exercise too which I hated. But I feel better about myself now and feel better too. You can do it just take one day at a time like I do. We all can make it through with each others help. Please keep me informed of your progress.

lady "B"
lady "B" 2009-12-12 21:09:26 -0600 Report

I wish you well in your new "journey" ! Try to keep in mind as you ugo that this is a journey and not merely a destination. The changes yoiu make now will

lady "B"
lady "B" 2009-12-12 21:09:27 -0600 Report

I wish you well in your new "journey" ! Try to keep in mind as you ugo that this is a journey and not merely a destination. The changes yoiu make now will

sweething
sweething 2009-12-04 06:54:16 -0600 Report

Depression can be a reaction to any chronic illness. With the other stressors you have had, it's easy to understand why you would be depressed. You did an admirable thing to put your own life to the side to take care of your mother. And maybe food helped you cope with the situation.

Now it's time for you! It's great that you joined a gym. And the all-female membership may help if you have poor body image. And you may make some friends to have coffee with.

Start your life as a diabetic over. See a certified diabetes educator, and learn all over how to eat. You may get an extra dose of motivation with that. And above all—see your physician regularly.

Good luck in your new way of life!

lumpyduane
lumpyduane 2009-12-04 06:22:02 -0600 Report

The hardest thing is controlling the cravings for things that we either should not have or should only small amounts of. The diabetic class that I went to up at the University of Utah was extremely helpful. They teach you why your blood sugars go up and how to eat properly. My struggle is with self control more than anything. Look into the web site that John suggested.

MarineMomX2
MarineMomX2 2009-12-04 05:16:42 -0600 Report

Good Morning! Read everything you can get your hands on and educate yourself. John gave you a link for a great website above and you can browse through many of the sections here on Diabetic Connect and learn something new every day. Many things become easier to deal with over time, you just have to find the right fit for you! Good luck!
Nelda

riverrat
riverrat 2009-12-04 00:21:13 -0600 Report

Welcome to the group. You came to the right place. Any thime you feel depressed just talk to one of us. We all feel depressed sometimes. Take care of yourself and give yourself a big warm hug, I think you could use one.

angelstar
angelstar 2009-12-03 23:34:11 -0600 Report

Hi I am new to this group. My mom I took care of she died in a short time. after finding out she had cancer. And i never took care of myself with diabetes type 2. Im am trying now . but for somr reson I'm sacred.Hope to talk to you soon

sisson
sisson 2009-12-03 22:57:54 -0600 Report

Hi Monalisa
I to have had diabetes for the same amount of time when my kids were small I did my best to take care of myself and I did for many years. And did a good job and I was controlling my bs well but I doctor sold her practice and then the hole roof fell on me. The doctor put me on to many med and on ones that I should have never had ever been on. It took me awhile to get back to where I was and get off of them because they put 75pd on me which I'm still working on so far I've lost 45 but I'm off the med and I change doctors. You will get there it just take time. Take care Penny