Fair Waring and The Holiday Season

By beadmom Latest Reply 2009-12-05 14:02:49 -0600
Started 2009-11-30 15:45:49 -0600

It's so easy with the holidays to"fudge" here and there. So here's fair warning.

My husband's brother was an uncontrolled diabetic. He knew he was a diabetic but didn't want to do anything to control it. He ate a lot of junk. I say "was" because on Thanksgiving he ate a ton of stuff all day. By evening after dinner he said he wasn't feeling well and went to bed. Where he died. He was 52.

It's a sad and terrible way to kick off the holiday season and a sober reminder for all of us to be extra careful with all the tempting goodies out there.

21 replies

germanac 2009-12-04 13:25:22 -0600 Report

Sorry to hear this. We had a similar situation. Our daughter-in-law who is diabetic and has not been watching her diet lives with us. She had a stroke Tuesday night. She's ok but still hospitalized. Her speech is messed up but she is able to walk. This was definitely brought on by drinking coca cola and eating candy and anything else she wanted since Thanksgiving day. We had to call an ambulance to get her down the stairs and to the hospital or she may have died.
I joined this website to try to encourage her but she's never even looked at it. I hope this has caused her to wake up now.

Edie 2009-12-04 14:24:59 -0600 Report

What is her name and we will keep her in our prayers and hope that this is a wake up call for her. How Old is she?

germanac 2009-12-04 15:58:10 -0600 Report

Cindy and women don't tell their age. :) Thank you for your prayers. We just heard from our son that she will be released from the hospital tonight. So hopefully she's doing even better today. I'm so uncertain about what she can't eat. I try to be careful but one message I read here was about mashed potatoes being bad for you and then today I saw a potato recipe. So are potatoes ok or not?

Edie 2009-12-05 14:02:49 -0600 Report

All foods are OK you just have to eat in smaller portions. 1/2 cup for most foods Check with your Dr. and Dietation to be sure what diet they put her on. When I get hungry for something I eat it as soon as I can or I over eat it later if I have held off. There is only one food that makes my Blood Sugar jump real high and that is Pizza from Pizza Hut.
I will continue to carry Cindy in our Prayers.
I am 53 and have been a Diabetic since I was 16 that is over 36 years now. When my Mother Joyce found out my older sister Sue was a Diabetic she put all 4 of us younger Children on the Diet that the Dr. gave her for my older sister. Both Sue and I lost weight and Toni and Randy both gained weight. Since then I only know that us 3 girls are Diabetics not the 3 boys.
Sue, Toni and I have kept in touch to be sure we are all three following our Diabetic Diets So Far So Good. I am glad.

Edie 2009-12-03 00:32:56 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for your Families Loss. Please just remember we can only control ourselves, some people out there with Diabetes just don't care about their selves let alone their Family members.
I had a Grandma that died at the age of 86 that died of Diabetes and old age. She never checked her BS levels and she always had a glass of Seagrum 7 and Coke every night before bed. She was in the Hosp. for just over a week when she died, she was looking out the window and said this would be a nice day to die and with in an hour she was gone. That was back in 1987 she had a good long life and we enjoyed her while we all could. Just remember the good days with your loved one and it will get better as time goes by.
When the days get hard to get by talk about some of the crazy things that your loved one did while alive, like when my Grandma tied all 3 of my brothers to a tree when we were all young, she told them to stay in the yard while Mom and Dad were gone they didn't listen and she got tired of chaseing them around the neighbor hood, when she was chaseing them she didn't know what us 3 girls were doing. Boy did she get mad at all of us that day. I put black pepper in her drink and then put hot sauce on her chicken nuggets while she was after the boys.
Those memories bring back so much happiness about her and that is how we keep them alive in our hearts.
Hope Christmas is a better time for you.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-12-03 10:17:54 -0600 Report

Oh, Edie! You are a COrker!! One of my uncles made my grandma mad and she chased him around the house till he found a ladder, crawled up onto the house roof, pulled the ladder up after him and left his mom scolding him from the ground! I just loved that story as he was the slower, more droll of the boys, and I never would have thought that he would do something like that! Oh, yes, those memories!! Hugs, Pat

radioactivejheri 2009-12-02 19:51:27 -0600 Report

I am so sorry to hear about your lost. This should be a reminder to PWD that we must now always same on guard or else, allowing an exception to cheat only once in a blue moon. Diabetes can be such an ugly diease.

Tillielou 2009-12-02 19:21:03 -0600 Report

I'm sorry to hear about your Thanksgiving. I hope this is a lesson to us all. Everything in moderation and take care of yourself, first! Sounds selfish; but, I was a single mom for years. If I am not healthy, my family isn't. So, I attempt to keep myself healthy. :D

alanbossman 2009-12-01 07:53:48 -0600 Report

Sorry for your loss of a family member. I know how that feels. I lost a uncle to diabetes who did not keep his diabetes in control either. He past away in a hospital at a young age 52. We all need to try to keep ourselfs in control over our bs. If you dont keep control we all know what will happen. I do the best I can to control my bs, because of family and my granddaughter, she will turn one year old jan 2 2010 and I plan on being around a long time for her.

beadmom 2009-12-01 14:27:57 -0600 Report

Grandchildren are quite a motivator! I have a grandpa who's 88 and has diabetes. Obviously he takes care of himself. I have 3 grandparents still in good shape and I am very close to 50. I feel that with good attention paid, short of one of the many planes I fly on falling out of the sky,or being kicked to death by a wild donkey, I should be able to give my grandchildren as much love as I have received from my grandparents.

BLC 2009-11-30 19:58:31 -0600 Report

Really though it is not as simple as ignoring it. First you have to accept you have diabetes. I am here first hand. I implore those of you to not be angry at those in your life who are having trouble controlling their diabetes. It is so hard to wrap your mind around the fact that you essentially have to change everything about your self and your life. Support those you love. Support is the closest thing we have to a cure for diabetes.

Anonymous 2009-11-30 20:11:21 -0600 Report

I lost my cousin this Thanksgiving for what was probably complications of diabetes. I really appreciate your comment that support is the closest thing we have to a cure. Everyone, including myself, does the best they can with the resources they have. None of us is perfect. Compassion for ourselves and others will take us to a better place.

SuzyAttendorn 2009-11-30 18:47:01 -0600 Report

I am so sorry about your loss. I have a son in law who is diabetic. He weighs way over 400lbs and I know he doesn't take care of his diabetes. He caught hell from his dr the other day about it but I know it won't change anything. He is only 30 and they have a 2 year old. I am so afraid for this little boy, because I am afraid he will end up with no father. I just don't understand people who completely ignore their diabetes. Life is too precious…please my friends, take good care of yourselves.

Harlen 2009-11-30 17:02:36 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for your lose
I have been there my Mom was the same way
made me as Mad as can be that she left me for not wishing to work on or controil her diabetis
Best wishes

BLC 2009-11-30 16:25:40 -0600 Report

I am so sorry about your husband's brother. I am type one and I had a little break down in my doc's office the other day. I told the doctor that I just wanted to be like everyone else and eat like everyone else and live like everyone else. The doctor said, "That is never going to happen and you have to accept it." It was particularly hard during Thanksgiving, everyone eyeballing me to see what I would put on my plate and I swear if I heard, "Are you sure you can eat that?" once I hears it a million times. Diabetes is hard, its terrifying, its hateful and horrible.

Antique-Dave 2009-11-30 16:07:36 -0600 Report

So sorry to hear of your families loss.

There is a difference though in an uncontrolled diabetic eating everything on the table and a person in control that is monitoring their health and choosing to go outside their normal routines on those special occassions.

We have to be vigilant but we don't have to be fearful.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-11-30 16:34:43 -0600 Report

True, I went to our family thanksgiving dinner, but chose the least troublesome foods, then splurged on one peice of cherry cake——made with a cake mix and a can of Widlerness,Cherry Pie filling, so I know that it was sweet, but since I haven't been having to take my Glipizide on a regular basis, (Now that is just for ME,. I AM TESTING TO MAKE SURE—!!) my BS never got over 130—-so am thinking more and more that my slow weight loss, moving around more, walk short distances because of breathing—etc—-but still, it looks like I am getting closer to not having to take anything, but I will keep on checking, have gotten into a better attitude and habit of testing now—especially after some food that I am not used to eating—-so it may not look to others as tho I try—-but I am. If it goes over 150 I take 1/4 of a Glipizide, weaning myself off—with a good Dr still in the background—-but since it dumps me so easily, I make sure that I am in a situation where I can check it—-don't worry about how it LOOKS now!!

I am so sorry for your family loss—-but maybe it will serve as an eye opener to someone else. sadly—Pat R

Hinboyz3 2009-11-30 15:56:06 -0600 Report

Wow!! See what Im saying, life is already so very short as it is. We have to do the things that it takes to care for our own selves. You can't take things for granted or just ignore the important things that we go through. This should be a huge lesson to all of us. WE got to try to take better care so we can continue to be around as long as we can be. Im so very sorry for your family's loss.

beadmom 2009-11-30 16:00:17 -0600 Report

You are so right.. I am sad but also somewhat angry at him because we are the ones left behind picking up the pieces. It feels somewhat the same as a suicide… selfish.

I would very much like my old life back without all the testing and counting but I love my children and grandchildren and don't want to put them through the sadness.

rankearl 2009-11-30 15:49:30 -0600 Report

wow soo sorry to hear that everything in moderation no one is prefect at holidays i pick just one good thing and i taste it it works for me we all will die but i hope to see later than sooner hugs julie