I don't know what to do!

By babysmama Latest Reply 2009-12-07 13:56:24 -0600
Started 2009-11-28 13:24:10 -0600

I have had diabetes for 2 years. My doctor told me but I have never had any help showing me what to do, how to do it and I have no idea what my numbers should be. I don't know what Ac level or whatever that is, is all about. I did have medicaid but my husband died,7 months ago, I have medicare now, I can't find a doctor, I don't have a car and can't afford to go to the doctor and sure can't afford medicine. I only have around $30.00 to live on a month, after paying rent and bills. I have bleeding varicose veins, I am bipolar also, can't get the medicine for that either. I don't know, my mouth is not producing saliva, my mouth feels like cotton all the time and I drink probably 3 to 4 gallons of water a day and I only get maybe 3 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period. I hope someone can help me,so I will know what to do.My doctor didn't tell me one thing so I am lost. I was checking my blood, but I don't know what the level are suppose to be. I get so depressed because I diabeties is serious. Also, I have a lot of floaters in front of my eyes. Thank you for listening. I don't go anywhere and I have no friends and I don't know but about four or five people in this town. I moved here with my husband 3 months before he died, now I am alone. I have always been a homebody. I can only hope someone reads this post. Also can diabetes cause you to have severe leg cramps?

48 replies

Susie624 2009-12-04 14:41:56 -0600 Report

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Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-12-05 20:18:57 -0600 Report

I wonder if someone isn't helping her on a personal level—-I have a few, it is more private but leaves us all out here, wondering. Oh, well, as long as she is getting advice or help from someone. Hugs, PR

BIRDY 2009-12-07 13:56:24 -0600 Report

I can't stop to think about her everyday.Has anyone heard something new?
Babysmama where are you???

MeiMei 2009-12-04 11:51:33 -0600 Report

See my reply under kdroberts reply. I am so sorry you have been having so many problems. You truly need help. So far all of the replies have been on the money. You have a lot of work cut out for you. Good luck. Hope you can have a good holiday in the midst of all of this chaos.

riverrat 2009-12-03 02:44:06 -0600 Report

you should check with family services and see if you can't get some medical assistance. If your Sr. didn't tell you anything I think I would be looking for a new Dr, There are so many programs out there that will help. I hope you find some of them. Sometimes the county can help with rides to the Dr. and that kind of thing. You might be elgible for food stamps and stuff too. Social services is probably the best place to start. I wish you luck cause it sounds like yo need some. I am so sorry to hear all the bad breaks you have had. Prayers are with you and please let us know how things go for you. Every one needs some support in their lives.

1pam2l 2009-12-04 08:08:07 -0600 Report

Has anyone herd from Babysmoma? I sent friend request, but have not gotten responce?

BIRDY 2009-12-04 08:14:20 -0600 Report

no , upto now I heard nothing.I'm guessing that she has no internet at home and she connects from an internet-cafe . At least I want to guess in that way.Hope she is fine.

Elrond 2009-12-02 22:58:23 -0600 Report

I know that security is important these days and most people would be reluctant to give their full names, addresses and other contact information when registering but I sure wish we knew more about how to contact her.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-12-02 12:48:05 -0600 Report

How are you, this morning, babysmamma? So hope that you are starting to grasp, one thing at a time—-we are ALL here for YOU!! Hugs, Pat R

BIRDY 2009-12-02 13:54:41 -0600 Report

oops where is she ???

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2009-12-02 16:50:23 -0600 Report

Babysmama please let us know what is going on. We are all worried about you,
please get back with us and let us know what you have found out. We are here for you. Dan

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-12-02 18:57:51 -0600 Report

Babysmom, I hope that we haven't turned you away—we all only mean to help, offer some of our own experiences in hopes that SOMETHING will get thru to let you know that we truly do CARE!! Warm Hugs, Pat R

BIRDY 2009-12-01 00:26:43 -0600 Report

Babysmama , how are you doing? Were you able to contact any place for help? Pls advise.

Elrond 2009-12-01 01:23:11 -0600 Report

I'm adding my voice to Birdy's. Please let us know how you're doing. You're now a part of our family and we all care.

Elrond 2009-12-01 01:23:12 -0600 Report

I'm adding my voice to Birdy's. Please let us know how you're doing. You're now a part of our family and we all care.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-12-02 09:47:22 -0600 Report

Yes, babysmama, please let us know how you are doing, and if you have found any help. We are all concerned. Keep us posted. Hang in there. Don't give up, you have too much to live for. We all want you to get the help you need, and we are here for you. Sue T.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-11-29 19:26:18 -0600 Report

Lots of good advice! In the "not knowing what to do", I would suggest to write all of your concerns down, pick out the most important ones, and slowly attack one situation at a time—with an answer written down in the plus side——

All of the above plus the loss of your husband, let alone his abuse—-doesn't always make life easier, only creates more emotional issues—-a lot on your plate!! Continue to write us and we all will help in any way that we can!! Diabetis/ emotions/ diet and exercise, and a plan, getting to know someone etc, you have already started here, making friends!! Diabetis is such a complicated, sticky situation—-for each and every one of us. I only hope that I may say SOMETHING that will help SOMEONE!! Hugs, Pat R

elaines 2009-11-29 16:59:47 -0600 Report

I read your post yesterday and have been following it. I have been a diabetic for 22 years with 2 recent transplants. I have been through it all, no money no insurance, countless health problems and several surgeries. If I can be of any help please ask me anything. I want to help others so they don't end up like me. I hope you are doing better today. As long as you stay here you will always have friends who will help. Good luck!

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2009-11-29 18:36:19 -0600 Report

Therer are many states that if you are on Medicare you can get Medicade. If you have a chid you need to get help with
Dr bills and meds. Contact the dept of
human services and make an appointment.
Make sure you take all your bills with you and see if you can get the help you
need. Dan

gregsDAD 2009-11-29 15:56:02 -0600 Report

sorry to hear of your trouble sas well. There has already been alot of good stuff said here. I don't know about where you live now but the county health dept. where I live has a program where you can see a nurse practitioner, noy exactly a doctor but they can prescribe meds and assist you with your diabetic needs such as education. Also there was a program through the health dept. that would provide you with insulin .. Wal mart has a $4 prescription program for certain meds such as glyburide and metformin. It is very important that you get this stuff under control before it does you more damage.
alot of your syptoms are typical of diabetes. I have those leg pains as well, it is because of nerve damage.
I wish i could be of more help, but that's about all I can think of.

Blue Angel
Blue Angel 2009-11-28 18:31:40 -0600 Report

Sorry to hear about your health problems & the passing of your husband. First Pray. Then I would ask my doctor to tell you whats next. See if you quailfy for any free meds from prescribtions from your doctor. You can contact the diabetic assocation in your town. Find out if anyone in your town that could help you with any information. Ask the feww people you do know to help you get infomation.here is a website: www.diabetes.org you can try.& ADA 212-725-4925.try:National Diabetes Infomation Clearinghouse 301-654-3327. Maybe they can help. I hope these numbers are still working I had them a while. Good luck. and I will be your friend anytime.

NewTerry19 2009-11-28 17:38:33 -0600 Report

don't give up! if you do that then diabetes will win. I have been there, broke no one but my young kids, no job and just bout homeless, but the rain went away and the sun shone thru. First thing FIND ANOTHER DOCTOR! Difinitly look around for a clinic, The ADA should be able to help you fin one. And welcome to TX!!! Good bs are usually between 80 and 120, different for every one, but a good place to start. Don't let the A1c scare you, it's just an average of the past 3 months bs, it gets easier, go on line and research the disease. We are here for you when you need someone to talk to about how your feeling, we've all had similar feelings, but you will succeed, I KNOW IT I HAVE FAITH!!!!
smile sweetie, just another chapter in your wonderful life.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-11-28 17:17:52 -0600 Report

I agree with kd, I would call the Diabetic Medical Association, then I would also call the the American Medical Association. I would call everyone and anyone that I thought could help in any way. I know what you are talking about with the eye problem because I have had problems with my eyes, with the floaters, cloudiness, the whole nine yards since I was diagnosed with diabetes. However, after seeing my regular eye doctor, and eye specialists, I did find out that there was nothing seriously wrong (no damage, per se) with my eyes due to the diabetes, for which I am very thankful. But, you really do need to have it checked out. And, with regard to the cell phones, there are places where you can get a cell phone so that you will have a phone in case you need to call 911. People donate their old phones all the time to places for abused women. That is all you can do, but that is one concellation to know that you can call for help in case of an emergency. Call all social services in your area. Call the churches, call everyone you can think of who could possible help or know of ways to get help. This is a very serious disease, and you can't just play around with it. I worked with a podiatrist for around 20 yrs., and we had a lot of diabetic patients, and now that I am diabetic myself, I don't want to take any chances, nor do I want you to. There has to be people who you can contact who can advise you and help you find the help that you need. Good luck to you, and keep us posted, and let us know how you are doing. Very concerned, Sue T.

P.S. Remember, we are all here for you!!!!

Elrond 2009-11-28 17:10:11 -0600 Report

babysmama, diabetes can cause a lot of serious complications that surprise many people who are not familiar with it. Your thirst is certainly caused by high sugar; your kidneys are trying to flush the excess sugar from your system through the urine. To do that, they are creating a lot of urine so they are draining your body dry. This puts a lot of strain on the lidneys too. In my case, I've suffered a stroke and a heart attack from not taking my diabetes seriously. Both of those nearly killed me. You don't give your age but I assume that you're a young mother. Take care of yourself so you can take care of that baby. The others have given you some excellent ideas for finding help. We're all here to help you too. We care. Your diet is very important and you can control that regardless of your financial situation. I know it's tough to resist the sweets you crave; I still have trouble passing up chocolate even after 30 years of struggle. But it's vital to get that sugar under control. Be sure to let us know how you're doing. If there are any specific questions, be sure to ask your doctor or ask here, none of us is a doctor but we've all been there, done that.

alanbossman 2009-11-28 17:09:18 -0600 Report

Hi,babysmama sorry to hear about your hardships. You need to go the hospital or urgent care unit. You can call or email drug companys tell them your not able to by meds. they will help you out,there is a web site needy meds.com they also may help.

Hinboyz3 2009-11-28 16:59:40 -0600 Report

Hi, Im so sorry your having all these problems and all this stuff on your plate. But I feel once you get the information you need about your bloodsugar you'll know how to take better care of yourself. It's not hard to do, If dont ask questions at the doctors some of them won't tell you a thing. But you should get a blood glucose monitor, they don't cost that much and sometimes you can get them free, if you get a script from your doctor. You have to eat good! A balance meal and include fruit, veggies. It will be okay, you can bet on this site someone will be able to tell you just what you need to know and how you should do it. Take care of yourself and keep all you new friends here on diabetic connect informed of your progress.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-11-28 17:27:28 -0600 Report

Hindboyz3, that is right, there are ways of getting monitors free. I know, I have three that I can't use because I am on the pump and my monitor is connected to my pump. And, I know that there are places who donates glucose strips, and probably monitors. Like I said, call everyone that you know. There are good people out there that I am sure will be more than willing to help you. Don't isolate yourself from you community!!!!!! If you have a baby, or small child, please, that baby needs you!!! Were there people in your community who help you when your husband passed away? If so, they probably know your needs and are willing to help with your health issues. Sue T.

Tia Shirley
Tia Shirley 2009-11-28 16:17:23 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for all the hardships you are facing babymama. There have already been many helpful suggestions for you on this site. Another one I would like to add is to see if the hospital in your area has a diabetic support group or class. Sometimes, the information provided can be helpful. May this time of hardship be a turning point for you so that your health can begin to improve. Take good care and check in often so we will know how you are doing. Hugs!! Take care, I care!

elaines 2009-11-28 16:41:23 -0600 Report

I just started reading all this and am so sorry to hear about your life. I to have been through all kinds of hardships and have had diabetes for 22 years. I sometimes think I know more than the doctors. Ha Ha. I hope I can help, ask anything.

Kirla 2009-11-28 14:23:02 -0600 Report


I was Dx on 26 Feb 2009 with an A1C of 14.1. Fasting Blood sugar 366. On Oct 5th I went for my latest A1C and it was 5.6.

I drink a low carb protein drink when I wake up in the morning. A few hours later I have one serving of peanuts or sunflower seeds for a mid morning snack.

For lunch I eat some tuna fish, coleslaw, stir fried vegetables (Broccoli, cauliflower, onions, spinach and garlic), VTP carrot cake and for the last few weeks VTP chocolate cake. Sometimes I may have some home made soup.

For supper I eat a salad with low carb dressing and I like to add some extra red wine vinegar and a little olive oil. I sometimes will eat more vegetables and have some chicken breast and at least once a week I have some beef and every so often I will have some pork.

At night I eat some almonds or walnuts for a snack.

I don’t eat anything made of flour or grains. No bread, Pasta, chips, cookies, cakes, or anything with more than 5 or 6 net carbs per serving. (the TVP cakes are made of soy & flax seeds)

I try and eat lots of vegetables and have been using a vegetable drink for several months. I read an article by David Mendoza

http://www.healthcentral.com/diabetes/c … nk-veggies

about drinking your vegetables and recently have been taking a fiber supplement.

I recommend exploring his site and joining his newsletter.


Best thing I have done to date.


When first Dx I ate lots and lots of vegetables mostly because I was afraid to eat anything else and my numbers went down fast. It only took a month to go from the BG in the 2-300 hundreds to around an average of 150.

Also stay away from anything made with potatoes and corn. My doctor said peas also, but since I don’t like peas, I didn’t have to worry about them.

I also tested 6+ times a day and tested everything I ate. Testing is the most important thing you can do to figure out what to eat. Find out what works for you.

Testing Advice

A great place to start. Spend a lot of time here.

A lot of people have found that following a low Carb diet with lots of low carb vegetables helps with blood sugar control.

Here are some sites that may help



I eat lots of broccoli and very little fruit.

Best of luck.


babysmama 2009-11-28 14:55:02 -0600 Report

Thank you so much. What is Dx? And what is BG? And what is A1C? I have never heard of those. My husband didn't take my diabetes seriously and thought I was concerned about nothing. So, there went my support there. I do not drink at all, and he was a alcoholic,so that was a big thing to deal with and if I worried about myself he was really mean to me. Now, since he died, I have to see what I can do for myself. I will follow up on all the links you sent me. Thank you so very very much!!

BIRDY 2009-11-28 15:38:02 -0600 Report

Babysmama , I don't know the system in the States but don't they help if you go to a church and explain your situation?At least they may contact to a diabetic center on behalf of you.Pls try , I want to receive good news from you.
Pls keep writting and let us know what's going on.
All the best wishes and many many hugs…

BIRDY 2009-11-28 15:53:02 -0600 Report

do you know how to eat babysmama? Did the doctor give you a list indicating the foods that you should / shouldn't eat ? If you have such a list , are you following? Pls advise.

Kirla 2009-11-28 16:34:26 -0600 Report

Dx Diagnosed

BG Blood Glucose or Blood sugar. When you test your blood it’s the number. Should be between 70 and 180. Over 200 not good.
Before you eat it should be 100 or less.
1 hour after eating should be less than 180.
2 hours after eating should be less than 140, I believe.
Follow the links I posted and much of this is explained in much better detail.

A1C is a test of your average blood sugar over a 3 month period. It’s a test your doctor orders.
A1C of 4 to 6 is great.
6 to 7 not to bad.
Over 7 not good.
The higher it is the worst it is. Need to get it as low as possible.

I think by the symptoms you describe you need to see a doctor as soon as possible. If you can’t find one, you should go to an urgent care center or emergency room. Medicare should pay for a check up. I believe that most medical facilities have to take care of you even if you have no money. I wouldn’t worry about the co pays. I believe you need to worry about your health more. I’m not a doctor, that’s why I suggest you see one soon.

kdroberts 2009-11-28 14:18:07 -0600 Report

You really need to go and see a doctor now, it will cost far, far more in the long term if you don't. Both in terms of money and your health. Almost certainly the dry mouth and eye issues are caused by high blood sugar. Your eyes are concerning because it sounds like you are not too far away from starting to lose your vision. Call you all the charities in your area, the american diabetes association for starters and then call united way to see if there is an independent diabetes association in your area. They should help you find low cost or free medical care and help you get low cost or free supplies.

babysmama 2009-11-28 14:51:18 -0600 Report

I live in a very small town, they don't have anything here. I live 20 miles from Abilene, Texas, so they may have some place there that may can help or direct me to a place to go. My feet and legs hurt so bad it is hard to walk. But, even if I have to hitch hike, if there is somewhere I can go…I will. I don't have a phone either, but there is a pay phone 4 blocks from where I live. Thank you so much for your help.

kdroberts 2009-11-28 15:05:36 -0600 Report

If you have pain in your feet to that's likely another sign that your diabetes is out of control and things will get very bad for you soon. You would be surprised about where you can find help and what kind of help people can give you. Call the american diabetes association and see what they can do. Also, check out safelink.com, you may be eligible for a free cell phone, voicemail and minutes.

MeiMei 2009-12-04 11:47:17 -0600 Report

You might check with local senior centers or disability programs for free or low cost transportation. Check with your local county for free clinics and the transportation to those clinics, sometimes they have transportation to and from. Ask the doctor that you see for samples (lots of them), and call the local rep for those drug companies for help in getting your meds. You should be able to qualify for medicaid in your state if your income is as low as you say. Check with your county social services for this and any other services you may be eligible for. Let your fingers do the walking by using your phone first, then plan your day. Do most of your appts on one or two days a week to save your legs. And yes all of your symptoms could be caused by out of control blood sugar, I've had them all. When my blood sugar came back into control, they went away for the most part. Need anymore hints let me know.

BIRDY 2009-11-28 13:35:08 -0600 Report

oh babysmama , I'm so sorry you are having such hard days.I'm from a very far country so that all I can do is listening to you and share your feelings I'm afraid.I wish I could do more.But there are many many good people in this site and I trust they will show you a way to get free medications.Pls hang on and I'm always here to listen to you.

babysmama 2009-11-28 14:47:48 -0600 Report

Thank you so much for your support. I need friends to talk to. Thank you for your kind words. You don't know how very much they mean to me. I will hang in there. Some days are harder than others. I will look into what you suggested. Thank you so very much! Hugs back!

babysmama 2009-11-28 14:47:54 -0600 Report

Thank you so much for your support. I need friends to talk to. Thank you for your kind words. You don't know how very much they mean to me. I will hang in there. Some days are harder than others. I will look into what you suggested. Thank you so very much! Hugs back!

Tess K.
Tess K. 2009-11-28 13:34:13 -0600 Report

Hello, Wow, you have a lot on yor plate. One thing you could do is write or call your local chapter of the American Diabets Association, they can send you guideline etc on testing and A1`c,. Also watch the local newspapers for any free health fairs going on, a lot of times the drug stores do the diabetes testing and blood pressure screening. I have to stress with your money situation check first if free. Sometime there miht be a hidden charge. Does your community have a county health center that would be able to help out? Go bak in some of these blogs, I can't remembe exactly what medicine company but there are some that offer assisance. I wish I could be of some more help, take care of yourself.

babysmama 2009-11-28 14:44:58 -0600 Report

Thank you so much to each of you. You are wonderful!! I am so grateful to each of you. I am so scared because I am so in the dark about diabetes. I will look in the phone book and see what I can find. I live 20 miles from Abilene Texas, they should have something there. Some days it is very hard for me to walk. My feet are bad. I have really been depressed to the point I was just going to let diabetes take over my body. But, I woke up and said, I have to try to deal with diabetes and find some help. I don't know if any of you know what it is like to be so very very broke and no car and nobody around to kinda help. But, I will look into these suggestions. Thank you so very much.

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