You want me to eat what????

By rj Latest Reply 2011-03-17 07:03:35 -0500
Started 2008-07-08 12:52:56 -0500

Just wondering how some of you guys talk to your kids or well this case your TEEN about eating habits that will benefit him/her later…diabetes on both sides of family…I don't want him to live life like a murderer is stalking but actually itis…Just a naggin ole Dad ya know

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Toma 2008-11-23 10:53:57 -0600 Report

I want to revisit this topic. I am thinking back to when I was diagnosed and all the restrictions I was given. I hated it and thought I was never going to be able to enjoy foods again.

Since then I have been able to see how a different mind set really helped. Instead of looking at the restrictions and what I can't have, I changed my mind set to how can I optimize my diet for maximum health benefits. By focusing on the positive aspects of a healthy diet rather than whats wrong with a food and why I should not eat it I was able to easily transition to a much healthier diet.

The end result is the same but is much easier to stick with since the focus is now on what is going to help improve my health rather than what will destroy it. The host of one of the shows I was on remarked on how I have made it a competition. She was right, I look at my shopping cart and those around me to see if anyone has healthier selections than I do.

Kids tend to be competitive. See if you can get them involved in the competition of who can shop the best and who can prepare the healthiest tastiest dishes. I becomes a very competitive game but one where everybody wins. To win the game we have to become very knowledgeable about food. Knowledge is power. As we become more knowledgeable and begin winning the game we are also setting up attitudes and practices that have life long health benefits.

Jh862 2008-11-22 18:29:32 -0600 Report

I think you should talk to him about it - and be a positive role model. Have healthier foods around the house, eat together, get out and have fun together biking, playing basketball or whatever.

Growing up, my mother was a diabetic. While she drank Tab (yuck!), the rest of us had sweet tea (cup of sugar per pitcher), koolaid, lots of potatoes, etc. My sister, brother and I were all overweight and our family activity was to watch our favorite shows on tv together.

My dad is now diabetic as am I, my sister has serious health issues too. I really wish we had known more about diabetes earlier and learned to be healthier when I was younger.

My Mom still eats tons of carbs, takes more insulin, then gets shaky so she eats a Little Debbie cake. When I tried to get her to look at the info I rec'd from the diabetes educator, she refused saying they'll change their minds in 3 years anyway.

Amy had posted a website to get some free info recently. I checked it out and was able to get some great info on how it can affect your eyesight, health, etc. It was free to get the info - you may want to order some info and read it together.

cograndma 2011-03-17 06:58:00 -0500 Report

she is like my mother in law. She grew up in the era where they only had primitive, expensive, not covered by insurance methods to test your sugar and at that they were very inaccurate. ( the pee stick). So as a result they didn't consistantly test their sugars and if they did they were not very educated about what the results were and how to make good choices to make changes…as a result she died in her early 80"s from kidney failure…very sad. that is why I get on my soapbox to my family…the kids all say " there she goes again" but I don't care. I just think that some of the info they hear from me will sink in someday.

maggie56g 2008-11-15 17:26:56 -0600 Report

Dad if diabetes runs on both sides of the family then you need to sit down with your teens and explain to them that because diabetes does run in the family you may worry about their eating habits. Let them know that they can eat almost anything they want but they need to remember what they eat is important but the amount is more important. If they go to a party let's say, it is alright to have a piece of cake or some ice cream or whatever is being served as long as they remember one piece of cake or two normal dips of ice cream is ok but watch the limit. Explain that you are not trying to control their every move but are trying to keep them from getting to many problems if they do end up with diabetes. It is important to sit down and explain diabetes to them and how important it is that they learn at an early age the safety rules for diabetics. Hopefully it will by pass them but they need to know what to look for. Maggie56g

Toma 2008-11-15 11:10:16 -0600 Report

Hi rj,

You really hit the nail on the head. Thinking back, I never listened and contributed to my own problem. Now I cringe when grandma wants to give the grandkids candy and other sweet treats. When we are out I am very aware of all the negative messages we are bombarded with at every turn from TV ads, to media ads, to all the highly sugared and other bad foods at events and stands.

The key to turning the tide is going to be getting the message to the kids. Even now type 2 diabetes is being diagnosed in younger and younger people. I do not know the answers to how we are going to get the message to our kids or the public in general. Most of us did not pay any attention until after we had a crisis and then many are still wanting to stay in denial and continue bad dietary practices just because that is what we were used to.

I think all we can do is do what we can individually to set a good example by getting all the highly processed, over sugared, inflammatory foods out of our homes. With the kids maybe a little straight talk about the risks and down side of a bad diet. It isn’t just type 2 diabetes. Most of the chronic diseases that are increasing rapidly all have bad diet as a cause factor. The common element is the inflammatory element of the diet. There is some awareness and educational campaigns going on but too much of it has mixed messages. ADA says sugar is not the cause, ignoring that it is defiantly a contributing factor. Same with highly processed grains. There is the simplistic message to cut down on fat without including the message that there are over 48 different types of fat. Some of the fats are very bad while others are essential to good health.

Type 2 diabetes is a very complex problem and just good nutrition is a complex subject. I am constantly struggling with how to get the message out. The biggest complaint I get here on this site, on my own site, as a volunteer public speaker for the Canada Diabetes association and on my radio show is that I need to simplify so people will not tune out or that I might be scaring them. I obviously do not know the answer, just the problem. If anyone reading this thread has a good answer both for how to get through to the kids and the public in general I am all ears.

Until I find better answers about how to better communicate the message that has to be delivered, I will also be a nag. It is frustrating.

cograndma 2011-03-17 06:59:49 -0500 Report

as i have said, my kids think I am the biggest diabetic nag there is and I don't care. I will keep nagging until the message gets through…

DonnaAnn 2008-07-18 21:55:09 -0500 Report

Be a pal! start playing sports together,like frisbee or shooting baskets. This will get him moving. Be a example to him. Eat good and drink good fluids in front of him at meals. And its good bonding time also.

rj 2008-07-18 14:48:49 -0500 Report

thanks for the feedback…I have definitely been using the girl magnet routine LOL. I will see about getting him to see WALL E with me. Thanks again

GabbyPA 2008-07-18 14:15:16 -0500 Report

This is very unconventional, but I suggest going to see Wall-E together if he can get into an animation. It shows how poor eating and exercise habits can chage us. It is kind of frightening in a way, but it does have a happy ending...Anyway, it can open up a discussion that might be less nagging.

butterfly_8 2008-07-17 06:25:00 -0500 Report

I talked to my Teen grandson about eating healthy. I remind him of my diabetes and at the same time I talk abou his keeping his weight under control.I mention he should Keep his energy level up.He loves to play basketball. He has gained more than I think he should. The idea of being cute and a babe magnet helps to get his attention
Talk to him on his level.

cograndma 2011-03-17 07:03:35 -0500 Report

my dad is 92 and skinney. He thinks we should all be that skinney and every time we see him, the first word out of his mouth is " have you lost any weight" This is very demeaning. He should have said, I love your new haido, or your new shirt. He keeps saying that he needs to loose weight, and we keep telling him that we know we need to loose weight and are trying and that he is too skinney…My sisters and I have just told him to get off the weight kick, because he always says it in a hurtful way. Last time he saw my son, he made a rude comment, so that my son will not even call on birthday and christmas because he does not what to hear the weight thing, eventhought my son has lost a lot of weight in the past two years…

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