How can you tell when you get depressed?

By Darron Latest Reply 2011-07-30 12:42:36 -0500
Started 2009-10-28 21:35:49 -0500

My father in-law just passed away with a long battle of cancer. He was my best friend. After his funeral I have been very fatiqued. My bg has been in 90's. I have not changed any of my daily routines. Another friend suggested I may be depressed. I see all kinda information on internet but I guess I could be in denial.

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catroter53 2011-07-30 12:42:36 -0500 Report

so sorry for your loss,, i lost my mother in aug 09 to lung cancer , she was 80. like other people are saying,, each day pass it will get better…

Edie 2009-11-02 06:59:54 -0600 Report

I too have lost loved ones and just found out about 3 of them after the fact. Two have been gone for a year and 5 years and the other almost a year just found out in Sept when I went home and tried to stop and visit with my Aunt and Uncle and then a step sister got in touch with me thru my oldest daughter also. I am making a Quilt for her to remember her husband by and and also to help me get over it quicker . My Aunt and Uncle I start to think of them and I cry as I never had the chance to say good bye so I wrote them both letters and have put them up and it did help but I still cry that has been almost 2 months ago now and it is easier each day. Pray to the Lord and if that don't help you then see your Doctor and talk it out with them.You are in my Prayers daily now and I will be here if you want to talk.

Hinboyz3 2009-11-02 06:43:24 -0600 Report

Like all the friends are saying we all have our good days and our bad days and all we can do is try to work through them as best as possible. I know it's gonna be had but you got to try to hold your head up and go on. If you don't you will end up causing yourself to become sick, and we don't want that for you and anyone else either. I will keep you and your family in my prayers daily.

imsuzie2 2009-11-02 06:28:19 -0600 Report


I am so sorry for your loss. It is never easy, especially when they are suffering and you love them so, and are torn between not wanting to lose them from your life and wishing they were no longer suffering. I went thru that with my mother and sister and was able to tell my father he did not need to keep a promise to wait around to see me for the holidays…on Aug 21 several hours before he passed two years ago. I was able to handle that loss well, but when my step-mom had a TIa last month, I had a lot of trouble with crying, even being sent home for work. I ran to a therapist, was diagnosed clinically depressed (surprised me!) and put on meds. Helped me get out of the funk the others are talking about and it took about 3 weeks for the meds to work and I am my old sunny, naive self. Talk to someone, it will make you feel better. Hugs S2

Minister SC
Minister SC 2009-11-01 18:32:59 -0600 Report

My father passed away 5 months ago from cancer and then my aunt passed away last week from cancer and my blood sugars have been really high, I also feel tired a lot I do ministry work but you must take time to go through the loss so I decided to rest and take care of myself when you lose someone close to you it takes time to allow God to heal your broken will feel depress at times when you lose someone but know that they are in a better place now they are no longer suffering the pain and the sickness any longer. you may feel as though you are the only one who feels this way but I come to tell you it happens to the best of us.Seek professional help from your doctor when my dad passed away I was really down and my doctor prescribed something to help me, God put the doctors here to help us. Stay encouraged and get professional help.

Judimar 2009-10-29 16:21:29 -0500 Report

Hi Darron,

My condolences on your loss. Losing someone you love is never easy no matter the circumstances.

Like John and the others have stated the best thing you can do is speak to a doctor or professional if you aren't sure you're depressed. Some people maybe reluctant to seek help but it's the best thing you can do for yourself and the people you love.

Please know you're in my thoughts and prayers.


Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-11-01 11:27:19 -0600 Report

Hi Darron,

I agree with all the above. I have been dealing with depression for years. You go through all of the feelings that John described, and if you just can't seem to pull yourself out of your funk, you really do need to speak to your doctor. There is no shame in seeking out help. You are in my prayers. Sue

lipsie 2009-10-29 13:05:05 -0500 Report


I am sorry for you loss! Loosing someone you love is very difficult and certainly could lead to depression. If you are queationing yourself, I would think maybe you should seek medical advice and get a opinion. I see professionals on a regular basis, it's not that bad. Good luck and best wishes! Hugs! Sheila

Crashnot 2009-10-29 10:39:22 -0500 Report

I'd be depressed in your situation! Good for you for looking at it and trying to figure it out. If it's plain old feeling bummed out, finding someone to talk about it to is great, and I've always found comfort in writing. Try writing a letter to him to tell him why you miss him so much. It can help you get those feelings out and get over them sooner. And it's a nice tribute to him too.

cussinwolf 2009-10-29 10:28:31 -0500 Report

I am so sorry for your loss. It is a good sign that your bgs are normal and that your routines have not changed. I went through the loss of a close friend to bone cancer a year ago. I talked to someone because I felt guilty because it was a relief when he finally died. No more physical suffering for him and no more physical and emotional stress on me. I had tried to be very stoic about the whole ordeal. Turned out my feelings of relief when he died were normal. I did not need extra meds just a good long talk with a professional. It does not hurt to seek help.

John Crowley
John Crowley 2009-10-29 10:18:34 -0500 Report

How long ago did you lose your father-in-law? Grieving is a normal, healthy, and natural reaction to losing a loved one. And the grief process can last for a while. The general guideline is that grief may have turned to depression if symptoms last for more than 2 months. Here are some other signs that it's depression and not just grief.

• Feelings of guilt not related to the loved one's death
• Thoughts of death other than feelings he or she would be better off dead or should have died with the deceased person
• Morbid preoccupation with worthlessness
• Sluggishness or hesitant and confused speech
• Prolonged and marked difficulty in carrying out the activities of day-to-day living
• Hallucinations other than thinking he or she hears the voice of or sees the deceased person.

Elrond 2009-10-29 04:43:11 -0500 Report

I am in no way an expert in mental health. But from what little I know, having survived a bout of severe depression myself, trying to diagnose yourself is not a good idea. If you think you may be seriously depressed, it's time to swallow your pride and consult a professional. If you can't afford help, there are almost certainly free clinics in your area. Don't delay; this can be life-threatening.

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