Diabetics and their family members

By forrest3s Latest Reply 2011-10-22 19:45:44 -0500
Started 2009-10-25 19:50:27 -0500

I have an issue with my husband and I would like to know if I have the right to be upset. I am a diabetic and have been for the past 4years. The problem is that I would like my husband to be able to give me shot and learn how to test my sugar. He refuses and tells me that if something happens he can simply diall 911. I told him that if something did happen timing is important. If he would learn to do these things it would really help if something was to happen. Am I wrong for wanting him to learn these things?

10 replies

KE5ICS 2011-10-22 19:41:19 -0500 Report

I am in the same boat my wife refuses to learn anything as well. I am type1 with a medtronic pump she did not want me to have it and when i was taking the shots by needle she refused to learn anything just in case something happened. I am on my own with this one so I have to stay on top of my game.

alanbossman 2009-10-26 20:19:04 -0500 Report

Well I do agree with jayabee52 all family members and friends should know just in case you go into a diabetic coma.

Sarguillo 2009-10-26 17:14:42 -0500 Report

Im sorry but I am going to take the side of the husband. My wife does not know how to test my blood sugar. She wants nothing to do with that. I understand that. One of her phobias. So I wont force it on her. She does understand that if she ever finds me passed out, to dial 911 and if im able, to get me to drink some Apple juice or take a glucose tablet.
Knowing that my wife cannot stand blood and wont learn to take my BS, we have settled on a plan on what she needs to do and what is effective.
Dont try to push husband into learning somthing that he is against or it might push him away in ways you might not imagine.
Sorry, Just my view and 2 cents.

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2009-10-26 18:51:13 -0500 Report

My wife and I are both diabetic and we showed our daughter how to check our BD's
and give us our shots. It didn't bother her one bit. Now she is diabetic and has
no problem checking her BG's or taking her shots. But I believe that your husband should learn how to do this. Dan

Judimar 2009-10-26 15:44:34 -0500 Report

I don't think you're wrong at all. Have you asked him why he doesn't want to learn these things? Maybe he's just not comfortable doing them.. perhaps he needs some reassurance? He maybe afraid that he will do something wrong and hurt you or make things worse. Do you think that's possible?

SuzyAttendorn 2009-10-26 11:01:43 -0500 Report

I agree, he should know what to do and how to do it case of an emergency. My husband is a First Responder, and I know first hand that it can take time to get a FR and then an ambulance. In that time, who knows what could happen to you? He should know how to handle the situation until help could come. Good luck! Suzy

jayabee52 2009-10-26 00:20:02 -0500 Report

NO! you are not wrong at all! Unless he wants you to pass out and perhaps die due to a diabetic coma before 911 can get to you! You can become unresponsive if you go too high or too low, and he should WANT to be supportive, if for no other reason than financial.

To have the paramedics come and take my wife to the hospital [she's diabetic, but the trip was not diabetes related] cost about $2000.00 all told and I have learned that that is not unusual anywhere in the country.

I am wondering what is behind your hubby's refusal? Is he squeemish about the blood and giving shots? Or does he think that somehow caring for you is not MACHO/MANLY? Or is there something else going on? ~~ I sincerely hope not!

In fact you need to alert ALL your friends and family about what to do if you slip into a diabetic coma & how to tell you are having a diabetic reaction, and your closest friends should be aware of how to at least operate your Glucometer.

Harlen 2009-10-25 22:30:09 -0500 Report

I dont think so it is what you need.
but He may be afrade to do it you know men dont like to admit that they are unable to do something.I am a man so I know lol.It may take you telling him how you freal in a sweet nice tone ant tell him you need him to man up.But do it nice.If he needs to give you a glucagon shot he needs to know how?
Best of luck hon

Hinboyz3 2009-10-25 19:56:55 -0500 Report

I don't think your wrong at all, he should know how give it to you just in case somethings happens to you and you can't do it for your self. But we also have to understand how family members deal with the things we are going through. Sometimes they say they understand and they can handle it, but deep down inside you really don't know what they are going through. But yes he should know how, cause in this life you just never know when you might need him.

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