Just found out

By DanaLynn Latest Reply 2009-10-23 20:04:37 -0500
Started 2009-10-02 08:35:56 -0500

I just found out Monday that I'm a diabetic. At first I just cried…then gathered myself and told my family. I'm still kind of in shock. I have known I was hypoglycemic since I was a teen…and thought I still was. I still want to hide it and keep it to myself. But it's out…not told by me so now I just feel like I want to sit down and cry all over again. Now I can't get in to see a Dr until Nov 17 and I'm left wondering what to do! I do get a meter on Monday. I just feel lost in all of this.

31 replies

mamaoak 2009-10-23 18:21:03 -0500 Report

Welcome to the sight it is agood place to start. i think we all go through this felling i did i went from crying to being mad angery. gradually i settled down and got myself regulated lost weight went from insulin to pill to nothing at all but really have to watch what i eat every day. good luck take care of your self and yoou will do fine.

tomrrrrrgh 2009-10-22 15:06:24 -0500 Report

No point doing anything until you talk with your doctor. If you test your blood sugar without the knowledge and ability to manage it, it will just depress you. When you see your doctor make sure that you ask for a referral to a diabetes coach or nurse.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-10-22 15:08:15 -0500 Report

True——at times it is just too much to think about, don't want to think about it, but guess that is being negative, isn't it, and i do try to avoid THAT route!! Thanks for the help!! Hugs, Pat R

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-10-22 11:23:26 -0500 Report

Hi Dana: I have a quesstion for you. How did you find out that you were a diabetic? Did you not see a doctor? What was your BS reading when you found out? I am assuming that you are referring to an endocrinologist that you want be able to see until Nov 17th, is this true? I know it takes a few weeks to get an appointment with them.

When I was first diagnosed, I had to make an appointment with my medical Dr. He gave me a meter when I went in to see him, so I didn't have to wait, or go out and purchase one. He started treating me as if I were a Type II, and I was a Type 1. Ended up in the hospital emergency room in full blown ketoacidosis. They had to get my BS down fast, and I was admitted to the hospital for several days.

Go ahead and cry if you want to, I did, and I still do at times. I was just diagnosed about a yr., and half ago so I am still in shock. I am trying to learn to except it. I am just trying to educate myself as best I can, I am trying to gather all the information that I can find.

I don't want to scare you. I am just concerned that you may need treatment now. And diabetes is nothing to be ashamed of, there is no reason you should feel this way. It is just something that happened to you. When I found out about mine, I didn't feel ashamed, I was MAD! Hang in there, everything will be ok. We are all here for you. Sue

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-10-22 11:46:32 -0500 Report

So true of all above—-like my BS became an issue 3 yrs ago, am adjusting, then whammy, cancer of the bladder, more Dr appts—-trying to post the dates on my fridge so i won't get lost and left behind!! BUT I can't help but wonder, why now, and what else——my hands have also flaired up with those burning stinging nettles—-can't sleep because of the pain——-

I get so tired of being STRONG and BRAVE! I am just tired today, so better go do something positive—-mail a note to a friend!! A dear friend, discovered to have breast cancer, she is 31 yrs,!!! Married and has 3 small children—-the youngest one is in the first grade!!! So how must this young woman feel??!!!!

Love and hugs to all!! Pat R

LoriAnne 2009-10-22 12:46:40 -0500 Report

You've always got to keep your chin and think positive! If you give in then all your problems have won. Thanks for adding me to your list. LORIANNE

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-10-22 15:06:12 -0500 Report

You are so Welcome!! We ALLL need a boost at times—-even those that don't look like they need it! You are right, do NOT give in ONE time to dispair or feeling TOO TIRED, as it seems to roll like a snow ball, gets bigger and bigger until it takes over!! Been there and done that!!! No—No—dispair, fatigue—go away and never come back another day!!!

I am focusing doing a bit at a time on cleaning my dining room, think I will move things around so I can place a chair in front of a big window!! Looking OUTSIDE always helps the droops——keeps you informed that others in this world get tired too, yet they are on the go—-and I can go—-tomorrow I think I will get out and go back to the Wellness Center to greet others—-it is time!! Hugs, to ALL, Pat R

DanaLynn 2009-10-22 18:24:29 -0500 Report

I found out when my OBGYN tested me. From the time I was in high school, I was hypoglycemic. I haven't had any testing in a few years so I didn't know I had swapped over.

They gave me a meter prescription at the obgyn and also put me on Metformin. Not for the diabetes, but for Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. So, bonus for the diabetes!!! My numbers are all in the normal ranges or near to it now.

I've been doing a lot of reading and looking online about foods. I've completely changed my eating. I'm feeling more positive about it all now.

Still a few weeks until the DR. visit. Until then, my OBGYN has been watching out for me.

Thanks for the encouragement guys!!!!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-10-23 10:05:54 -0500 Report

So glad that you are reading and learning, the one sure thing, I think, that cures fear, Best of luch to you in your lovely journey!!! Hugs, Pat R

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-10-23 10:34:34 -0500 Report

Glad that you have someone watching out for you and keeping things under control for you until you can get in to see a doctor. I was hypoglycemic for years, and knew that it could go the other way, and sure enough, it did. Relax and don't worry. Looks like things are going pretty well.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-10-23 10:40:56 -0500 Report

Bless your heart, Pat. I am so glad that we can all be here for each other. Things can look pretty gloomy at times, and we need to talk to someone who can cheer us up. And, it "does" get hard to stay positive all the time. It is hard work. I am seeing two therapists right now, so I am struggling with a lot of issues, and the diabetes just made all the rest worse for me, but I am trying to fight and stay stong. It's hard! Love ya, Sue

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-10-23 20:04:37 -0500 Report

Hi, sue!!! This is one reason that I love this site, as our church friends belittle those who complain, etc "count your blessings—-things could be worse" so I don't say much to them anymore, yet need to vent somewhere!

I figured out one reason I was a bit down, I have been helping my house cleaner clean——and have overdone, used my O2 the past 2 days and am better, but it is such a temptation to not delve into the remaining boxes!!! But what to do with the contents—-I will use most of it—-sometime in the next 10 years!! haha—Hugs, Pat R

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hookerz28 - 73874 2009-10-22 10:59:49 -0500 Report

I was one who was sure that I could beat this thing. I told my doctor that I could bring down my sugar level without meds. In 3 months I did. I was at 80 blood sugar. All with just the diet. What does that say for what we eat. Look around at the store, All you see for are fun foods. Everything that we like is bad for you. Go to your local conviense store thats all there is is sugar coated everything. No wonder why Diabetes is growing os fast.

VegasLady 2009-10-05 16:53:17 -0500 Report

Hi, DanaLynn. The first thing to do is to not feel alone. The second thing to do is go ahead and cry, if you still want to. The third thing to do is realize that there is a lot of life to live even with diabetes. Once I decided that this disease is a pain in the a—, I went out and got on with things. OH, and Listen To Your Body. Very soon you will know why you feel "like that" and what to do about it. You're in shock but you seem like an intellegent person. There is (still!) nothing you can't do; except overeat and who really wants to do that anyway?? Take care of yourself.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-10-04 22:20:39 -0500 Report

Lots to learn, but take just one day at a time, and we are all here to offer tips that have helped us, but remember, everyone is different. The one thing that helped me to get started in gaining control of my BS was to test the first thing after I got up, BEFORE breakfast, then 2 hours AFTER I ate.
Then jot down your exercise efforts, see how your BS reponds to each one—allow time in between meals and exercise, to help determine what works for you! I have been type 2 for 3 years and finaly am adjusting and accepting another facet of my life. Hugs, Pat R

Tess K.
Tess K. 2009-10-03 21:43:17 -0500 Report

Dana, Yes as everone has said this is indeed frightening, when you first find out and believe it or not even later on when you have dealt with it for while. But remember you aren't alone in this, you have this wonderful site to chek in with, friends here and family and friends at home. Reach out don't be afraid to discuss this with family and friends. If you are a believer don't forget to talk to the Man Upstairs. He works wanders in times of need. Try keeping a journal not only of your blood sugars,log the food you eat and put some thoughts you had that day whether it is about Diabetes, school, work, family or whatever. Always try to put one positive thought or note in each day. Take care my friend, we will all be here to help you wehn you need it, and who knows you might teach us a thing or to. Oh, by the way my great nephew is 12 years old and was diagnosed at age 3 with Type 1 Diabetes. He is just an amazing young man, yes he has his ups and downs but I would have to say he is on my "Hero's" list and has taught me a thing or too. So you see it hits us at all ages and we have to find the right way for each of us to deal with this. Also don't forget the Americn Diabetes Association. Take care my friend,and may God bless you every day of your life. Tess K.

Sue Turner
Sue Turner 2009-10-23 10:53:05 -0500 Report

Hi Tess, You are right, this thing does hit us at all different ages. I was diagnosed at 61 with type 1. Talk about being thrown for a loop, I was! I am still in shock, and am still trying to educate myself. My BS readings yesterday went from the 300s to 200s, then bottomed out last night at 46. So, it really is a struggle. I am so happy to know that your little nephew is doing so well. It seems like children handle things with a much better attitude than we older folks do. I will keep all of us in my prayers. Sue

Darron 2009-10-03 00:31:58 -0500 Report

Dana, I was just diagnosed in April 09. I was scared and terrified due to being the first in my family and not knowing what to do. John gave you some excellent advice. Remember, take it day by day. When you get your meter don't freak if each day your numbers fluctuate. I am a very competitve person and it killed me when my numbers was not good. I have finally got my numbers stable and it has been 6 months.
You can do it. You have alot of support from these guys, they have been an inspiration to me. If I can help ask anytime.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-10-03 08:45:15 -0500 Report

Yow, me too, getting upset if the numbers weren't exactly where I thought that they should be. I did not know at that time what numbers were acceptable before and after eating, just tried to MAKE them too low AFTER eating, really not giving my body enough time to adjust back downwards.

We had a Dr, when I worked at the hospital, that tried to NOT get into the yo-yo- effect, giving too much Insulin too soon after a high was reported—-give it time to adjust on its own.

Now, I am finally more used to it all, feel more COMFORTABLE and do not panic if those numbers aren't where I THINK that they should be, have learned to relax, back off and take a looser, but still firm, control of the whole situation. Now I feel impowered, a great feeling which helps to squelch the fear!
Hugs, Pat R

Tia Shirley
Tia Shirley 2009-10-02 14:52:06 -0500 Report

Welcome! You need to give yourself a pat on the back for starting to educate yourself on dealing with diabetes. This site is a great place to receive such info. It is definitely a challenge but a challenge that is worth it for your well being. Take good care and again welcome.

mamaoak 2009-10-02 14:06:19 -0500 Report

Welcome iam with you i still am up set with this deases well cried a river to and got angry as well thought it would escape me or i would be lucky not to get it as i thought it skips generation but not me. I have gradually excepted it. got down to the reality of diet and exersise watching the carbs these are not easy things to do but it is working for me good luck with this. if you need any help or suggestions just ask everyone is of great help here i could not have done any of this without them.

grizzy 2009-10-02 14:01:38 -0500 Report

look into melabic.com,i have been taking this and it"s doing me good cut sugar craving,and hunger attacks,and lower levals start out with two pills all nature cinnaman,and leaves just get one bottle and see if you notice a difference i dropped in weight and gained in energy and my levels also in three weeks began to drop,tell me what you think and keep me informed I have sinced moved up to the six month plan[which is just six onths supply] it's 2 tablets 30 min before food intake and 2 before bed to fight the sugar climb in your sleep doc say your sugar climbs in the early morning hrs around 3-6 am while you sleep so thats where i get this,,,peace and stay strong wher there is fear the faith stops working so cancell out the fear and beat this …please reply thks your new online friend grizz!

lipsie 2009-10-02 13:39:44 -0500 Report


Just wanted to welcome you! It can be a bit overwhelming I know, but believe me it really does get easier in time. You have come to a great community and have some great advice to follow up with. Just keep a smile on hun! Hugs! Sheila

Mom and boys
Mom and boys 2009-10-02 11:10:59 -0500 Report

I was finally diagnosed less than a year ago after having gestational diabetes (2 times) then being diet controlled for many years (11). For me the diagnosis of diabetes was relief. After being diet controlled after my first child was born I always took the attitude of when not if. I no longer worry when it is going to happen and I focus of control.

Doesn’t mean I don’t get angry, sad or even break the rules! But I do try to start each day trying to eat right, take my meds. and be happy. I am open about the diabetes because that is a part of me but it is not the whole of me. I am first a wife, mother, sister, friend then a diabetic.

I hope that the DC family can give you support help you to realize it is going to be ok.


DanaLynn 2009-10-02 12:08:28 -0500 Report

I think most of my thinking comes from my grandmother's diabetes. She is on a constant swing. However, she does not go to a doctor that gives her information and she is trying to wing it on her own. This will not be the road I'll be taking. And I realized these fears are unfounded in that I will have a doctor that gives information and will not do this alone.

I was just sitting here thinking about all this and decided to stand tall and do the best I can. It's not the end of the world and I'll be ok. Funny how you feel 10 times better when you look at it differently! lol

alanbossman 2009-10-02 10:23:40 -0500 Report

Hello,danalynn welcome to this site. You came to the right place everyone here will help you. As john said hang in there. And tell as how things are going

John Crowley
John Crowley 2009-10-02 10:01:21 -0500 Report

Welcome, DanaLynn.

You are certainly entitled to a good cry. It can be frightening to be diagnosed. But know this, diabetes can be controlled. You can learn all that you need to know to be healthy and avoid complications. It will take some work and you'll need to pay attention to your diet and your blood sugars every day, but in a short time it will become second nature to you.

Certainly part of why you're feeling overwhelmed is that you have to wait so long to see the doctor. We can help you with some basic information to get you on your feet.

First, when you get your meter, you should start testing your blood first thing in the morning, before each meal, and 2 hours after you start eating each meal. Here are the numbers you are looking for (according to the ADA):

Before meals: 70 – 130
After meals: Less than 180

As a note, our doctor recommends less than 160 2-hours after meals.

When you start testing, don't absolutely panic if your numbers are higher than these recommendations. You're just getting started. The most important thing is to be able to show your doctor on Nov 17th what is happening with your blood sugars. This will help him/her give you the right treatment plan to help you get everything under control.

However, you also are going to want to do what you can to control blood sugars before your appointment. So, first of all start reading food labels. All carbohydrates cause your blood sugars to go up. If you're running high, start cutting back on carbohydrates. Also, exercise will help lower your blood sugars.

So until your doctor's appointment, remember to test your blood sugar, cut back on carbs, and exercise.

And here are a few things to read that might help you out.





And remember, you can always come here to ask questions or get more advice. Hang in there. You're not alone in this.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-10-02 10:26:58 -0500 Report

I, too, am gradually finding out that all of the above from John, is true. In its entirety it seems overwhelming, but just take a bit at a time, become familiar with it, then move one. To me, testing before, then 2 hours after meals, was a great start in trying to decide which friends my body welcomed without shooting my BS thru the sky, then I gradually increased my activity, finding, that for mE, swimming worked wonders in bringing the average of BS down—but it takes consistencey—-forming better habits until it does become second nature, and you no longer are shocked if the numbers are higher than you want, they will come down, you can help that by drinking more water, eating a protein, like a spoonful of peanut butter, or a walke around the block!! I am older and just know that what goes up, does come down—-you will learn your own bodies reactions, which will give you the POWER to adjust your body and its habits as you see fit!! THus, in YOUR hands, lies your illness, to be guided in part by Drs., dietician, other diabetics (who all have different reactions but it does give you something to compare to so you will no longer feel LOST!!)

Welcome to this wonderful, informative, site!!! HUgs, Pat R