Talking to your Children

By rj Latest Reply 2008-07-04 15:07:33 -0500
Started 2008-07-04 07:52:47 -0500

I have to admit I haven't been the best role model for a person having diabetes. I am now really getting on track with all this. My biggest worry is for my son. Any advise on how to get across to your teen that diabetes is a very real possibility for him…yet I don't want him to walk around like a murderer is stalking him, yet thats exactly what it is. We have very good dialogue and we have talked just wondering how some of you guys appoach it. CUZ I KNOW I"M JUST A NAGGIN DAD NOW lol he'will get over it

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JP - 14811
JP - 14811 2008-07-04 15:07:33 -0500 Report

I've always been honest with my kids regarding my blood sugar issues. They know that mine is a unique situation fluctuating between lows and highs all the time but they also know that they could go the route of diabetes. They are now 27 and almost 20 and they are both very health oriented. The oldest is a vegetarian because he always felt sick when he ate meat and now that he hasn't eaten it for 8 years he feels better, he still eats eggs, cheese and milk but for some reason can't tolerate meat. I taught them to listen to their bodies and the old rule "garbage in, garbage out", applies to bodies as well as computers. My youngest is studying to be a doctor now and is always interested in what my readings are… He cheers me on if I maintain an even level and don't have any 40's and 50's or any highs. He's learned along with me. We eat organic or at least all natural food and I taught them both how to cook so that they could take care of themselves when they were on their own. If you stay open about it and honest the kids will know it's a part of your life therefore it is a part of their lives. Mine were never scared of Diabetes but they are aware and have made changes in their lives to stay healthy. Neither of them have a drivers license by choice, because it forces them to walk where they want to go.. :) Anyway, as I babble on and on here… the point I'm trying to make is to be open and honest and have facts to prove what you are telling them.

Awareness is the first step to preventing an issue..

*Judy (JP)

GabbyPA 2008-07-04 14:03:50 -0500 Report

I feel the hardest thing is that diabetes is not such a visible disease. It is hidden and that makes the reality of it hard to convey. If you have a good dialogue, then it will work out.
My role as a step-mom with diabetes has been kind of hard to encourage my step-daughter to see that she could go down the same path I did. We are not related, but we have the same tendicies. Over eating, lack of exercise, poor diet. I am not doing the wagging finger thing, but we are all learning together how to eat better, to cook with more whole foods (processed foods are getting weaned out) and now we are working on portion control. I have taken some time to help her with understanding serving a meal does not mean: Meatloaf, Mashed potatoes with gravy and Corn.
Now, we are getting hydroginated fats out of the house too, and though we laugh about it, trying to keep it light, I hope she is getting the bigger picture.
Example will be the best thing we can offer, and training until they leave, then it will be up to them to decide.
All you can do is give them information. Show them, help them understand why. I don't do the "we need to talk" thing. It is all part of dinner table conversation just as "how was your day?". It will stick.
Your son may not listen at first because we all know that kids think they are "indestructable" but he will remember what you teach if you are consistant.
While he is in your house, and if your fear is real that he may develop diabetes; the first thing I would do is work out a way with him to keep the bad things out of the house. Involve him in the choices and give him some decision powers. I cannot control what my step-daughter does out of the house, but while under my care, I try to make it as healthy as I can for all of us. She fights it, but then she fights everything until she thinks about it for a while. So don't give up, and just be real. Find out what makes him worry about you (and he does) and take time to thank him for trying to understand or making efforts to change, no matter how small.

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