bobby 58
By bobby 58 Latest Reply 2009-09-29 17:13:28 -0500
Started 2009-09-25 18:55:49 -0500

Hi everyone hope everyone is doing well. I was wondering if your friends treated you diffrent after you were diagnosed. Since i have tryed to change my lifesyle and habits nobody wants to get together anymore they say its not as much fun anymore afew drinks won't hurt me but i can tell when i do. I try to exsplain it but i don't think they get it just wondering if this has happen to you

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Blue Moon
Blue Moon 2009-09-29 17:13:28 -0500 Report

Yes, I have this issue with one friend in particular. I finally had to tell her to chill, because she was making it worse and I know she means well. We have worked on our communication and now our friendship has grown stronger. I'm not a vegan and she is and I can see hear wanting so badly to say something, but she checks herself and knows that this is something we are working on. Now she just emails me information or talks to my hubby and he passes it along if he feels it has merit.

mamaoak 2009-09-28 19:47:52 -0500 Report

yes this did happen to me as wellwith some friends. but they where jelous i was doing so well. some can be so foolish i will pray for your friends and you take care of your self.

Judimar 2009-09-27 18:39:36 -0500 Report

You don't have to drink alchohol to be fun or have fun…

I'm sorry your friends are treating you like this. I'll pray for them, that's the only thing I can do.


lipsie 2009-09-27 15:36:20 -0500 Report

Most of my friends have it too so for the most part no…BUT my one friend I am sharing this place with right now is like a worry wart about my health…just cares is all. Just be careful not to drink over a couple drinks yanno cuz it's not great for us. Good luck though! Hugs! Sheila

Anonymous 2009-09-27 21:59:08 -0500 Report

Good to see you, Lipsie. I have missed seeing you and your posts, but I have had you in my thoughts even when I didn't see you on line. Hope things are going good for you (now).

Jesse82 2009-09-27 15:11:24 -0500 Report

I am a recently diagnosed Diabetic, and have found very quickly that it doesn't take long to figure out who your real friends are. I have to say for the most part I have some pretty terrific friends. On the other hand I have some I would just consider as people I thought I knew. I think I am very overwelmed at times cause my friends are always checking on me. I think you also will find over time the people who truely are your fiends will learn to understand, while those who don't will disapear.

MarineMomX2 2009-09-27 14:29:24 -0500 Report

Some do, but most just ask questions. Coworkers who also have diabetes have been the best support I could have found. The common 'diabetes' has become something daily we all talk about. And even ones who have been diagnosed for years seem to ask questions. It's kinda like no one had anybody else to ask either. Good part is we ALL learn and you never know until you ask. I do a lot of volunteer work and the groups I tend to work with have been known to drink more than a few beers on occasion. They all know I've struggled with bs problems the past few months and now they don't question why I usually order a diet Dr. Pepper instead. People usually understand, and if they don't…am kinda thinking they weren't too good of a friend before.

alanbossman 2009-09-27 08:59:59 -0500 Report

I can say all my friends have not treated me any diffrent now that i have the big D. I must say i have some great friends, they support me,and they know i have to limit my self to many foods and drink, and they are always there for me.

Anonymous 2009-09-25 22:11:39 -0500 Report

Any "friend" of mine who wouldn't support my making good choices regarding food and alcohol is no "friend". Those people are eating and drinking buddies - great to have if diabetes and alcoholism aren't in the picture, but potentially dangerous if they are. With so many people in the world no body has to hang with anyone who is hazardous to their health.

Jipwhip 2009-09-25 21:05:41 -0500 Report

Yes a lot of my friends treated me differently after finding out I had diabetes. All they ever hear is the bad things that can go wrong and they don't know any better. Also people don't like it when people or things change from the way they used to be. It scares them. Some of them will get it and others won't.