My husband was recently diagnosed

suebethea
By suebethea Latest Reply 2009-09-21 11:03:08 -0500
Started 2009-09-21 07:24:37 -0500

My husband was recently diagnosed with Type 1. I am no stranger to diabetes, my grandmother had it on my mom's side, as a kid I remember giving my grandma shots. It hurt and shocked that my husband got it, he was always on my case because of my grandma having it lol. It is different when you have to live with someone who has it day in and day out, I want to know more about it so I can help my husband. He has told me to stop "babying" him, but it is because I know what can happen that scares me. We have been married for 22 years and high school sweethearts.He feels that "IT IS ONLY HIS PROBLEM" how do I let him know without "babying" him that it is a family problem and we need to support him through this?


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80sgirl71
80sgirl71 2009-09-21 11:03:08 -0500 Report

I have been type 2 diabetic for 4 years. I remember what it was like on me and my family when I was diagnosed Diabetes. Right now your husband is angry, confused, and mad in general. He doesn't know how to handle all of these new feelings. In your eyes he has always been strong. He might feel like Diabetes makes him weak. He didn't ask for this, and he definitely doesn't want it. It will take him some time to get used to the idea. You are only trying to help him, because you love him. He just wants to be left alone and wants it all to go away. But it is not going to go away, & he is just going to have to work through it, & adjust to the changes. Just let him know that you are there for him. Learn as much as you can about the disease from books and the internet. It is a little harder to argue with the facts than a wife who is " babying" her husband. Just hang in there. I know this is a really tough time for your entire family. The adjustment will be hard on everyone. Maybe you could get him to sign on to Diabetic Connect, and he could talk with other men who have went through the same thing. Sometimes it can help if someone else knows what you are going through. Good Luck!
Becki

Harlen
Harlen 2009-09-21 10:57:23 -0500 Report

The same way my wife did it go to the classes with him to the Docs with him
And tell him that you have made a life long investment in him and you are just looking after it. Then tell hin you love him and you need him to be there for the rest of your lives.
Good luck us men are a bit stubern lol
Harlen

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