I lost a friend to Diabetes....

By KarenH Latest Reply 2009-09-28 11:44:38 -0500
Started 2009-09-14 17:47:24 -0500

Last week a childhood friend of mine passed away at the age of 53 from complications from Diabetes. He was Type 1. He passed away last Tuesday while his wife was out of town. I really don't know anything more specific than the coroner saying it was related to "complications from diabetes."

John and I have had a long distance friendship through emails for many years. He lived in Arizona and I live in TX. Our parents were neighbors when we were children so that's how far we go back. He was a very special person and loved by so many. His death hits close to home as a reminder of how serious this disease can be. I am very sad to have lost such a wonderful person…Karen

44 replies

aldrich0405 2009-09-27 22:37:44 -0500 Report

I'm so sorry for your loss!!

imsuzie2 2009-09-28 00:35:48 -0500 Report

Karen, I wanted to add my condolences and thoughts to you and John's family. Loss is never easy, and I can only hope that memories of your friendship help during this trying time. Hugs, S2

In memory of allen
In memory of allen 2009-09-26 21:25:38 -0500 Report

I lost my mother, and both brothers to diabetes. My brother philip was only 53
and allen was only 49. My mom was 74 I lost them all in 9mths, My older brother died on Monday and my mom on Fri, sixth
months later my brother allen died. My mom and allen both had there legs amputated above there knees, as well as bypass surgery, stents, retinal bleeding. And allen had kidney falure as well. This all happpened in 2006. RIP…

KarenH 2009-09-26 23:44:30 -0500 Report

I am deeply sorry to hear that you lost both of your brothers and your mother within 9 months of each other due to diabetes. That is almost too much for anyone to bear. I hope and pray that your health is good and that you are taking good care of yourself…I care and you will be in my prayers…please keep in touch…your friend, Karen

LisaLu 2009-09-27 05:53:17 -0500 Report

I am sorry to hear of your loss. I believe it is a major wake up for some of us. I my self know I do not take care of myself enough and I intend to do better thanks to all of the advice and love and careing i have found from the people of this site. Thank you all! and Hugs to everyone. And Karen my prayers are with you and John's family.

T&T 2009-09-27 08:27:01 -0500 Report

I'm sorry to hear about the lost of your friend. I'm also worried for myself inthe same matter … I have not really accepted my condition for the seriousness that it is … keep me in your prayers … thanks …scared

KarenH 2009-09-27 22:30:51 -0500 Report

T& T, I can understand where you are coming from. Diabetes is scary and you need to take one day at a time and try to make the best choices you can. It's not easy because I have bad days too. You will be in my prayers…your friend, Karen

KarenH 2009-09-27 22:28:12 -0500 Report

Thanks Lisa! I know all about it being a wake up call and even so I find myself making the wrong choices on some days…not every day but way more then should be. We can just take one day at a time…Thanks again…your friend, Karen

Frustrated mom
Frustrated mom 2009-09-21 12:44:28 -0500 Report

Karen I am so sorry for your loss and will keep you in my prayers..My son is T1 and this scares me, becasue he is not incontrol of his..I worry so much for him..He is only 17…

KarenH 2009-09-21 16:08:07 -0500 Report

Thanks so much for your prayers. I hate that your son has to go through this and I hope he will get in better control of his diabetes…Karen

lfaamom 2009-09-21 19:16:10 -0500 Report

I am so sorry for your lost. I was reading about your friend dying and I was surprise that he died when his wife was not there, thats so sad. Condolenses to you and your friends family. Take care, sweety,I will be praying for you. Lina

Alicia039 2009-09-21 23:10:36 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My mother passed away 4 years ago due to complications from her diabetes. She was 61. She did not take care of her diabetes. As soon as I was diagnosed I have made myself a promise to take control of this disease. My meds help a lot now I just need to lose the weight.
My prayers are with you and his family.

KarenH 2009-09-22 22:31:10 -0500 Report

Thank you for your prayers. I am so sorry that you have lost your mother to diabetes. I keep hearing more and more people who have lost someone to the disease. Keep up your good work…Karen

KarenH 2009-09-22 22:26:55 -0500 Report

Lina, thank you for the kind words. Yes, it was very sad that his wife was not there. She was out of state attending her niece's wedding so it made it that much worse for the both of them… Karen

BeckyJ 2009-09-21 10:41:15 -0500 Report

Sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my Uncle 2years ago from the same situation. His death certificate reads 'end stage renal failure' but it was due to diabetes. Strange that he was also 53. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Even today I am thinking of Uncle Phil and wishing that he had taken this disease more seriously. His story inspires me to take control of my own diabetes and take control NOW! Remebering the amazing times I had with him makes each day a little easier to deal with this.

KarenH 2009-09-21 16:06:47 -0500 Report

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. I am sorry to for your Uncle Phil. I know this has been a wake up call for me but even so I have my bad days with my sugars…Karen

DiabetesDiva 2009-09-17 12:49:43 -0500 Report

I am so sorry for your loss. My best friend of 25 years died last year suddenly at the age of 53. Her birthday was yesterday. I keep in contact with her family and friends and that helps me deal with the grief. John sounds like a wonderful friend and hope your happy memories bring you comfort. He died too soon and I hope & pray a cure is found for this difficult disease. Take care.


KarenH 2009-09-21 10:23:30 -0500 Report

Thanks for writing and I am very sorry that you lost your friend also at 53. Diabetes is so scary and I'm hoping someday there will be a cure too…Karen

GabbyPA 2009-09-17 11:44:40 -0500 Report

This is a sad time for you and many who cared for your friend. It is good that you are able to share it with others, it helps with the healing. At least it does for me in times of loss.
Our thoughts are prayers will be with you and all his family. ((hugs))

Thank you for also sharing because it is a reminder that we face a disease that is capable of taking our lives, even in our most asserted efforts.

Lovepo 2009-09-17 11:07:28 -0500 Report

I am so very sorry to hear of your sad news.Whenever anything happens like this we often think about our own health issues too. God Bless

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-09-17 06:33:57 -0500 Report

I worked in an Emergency Room for many years. I have seen alot of people die from diabetes. Yes you are right it is an awful diease. But these days it is somewhat controlable. Friends here need to sit down and think of what they want for the future. They can take control of their diabetes right now or end up in so really bad medical complications.
I am so sorry for youe loss. He was so young. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hearing stuff like this might be awaking call that we all need…Debe

KarenH 2009-09-17 10:57:31 -0500 Report

Thanks Debe, for the kind words it means a lot to me. Yes, he was young and well he's my age too so it is a reminder to all of us.

Judimar 2009-09-14 23:34:15 -0500 Report

Hi Karen,

Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and John's family. Losing someone you love is never easy, but as long as you keep your loved one's memory alive they will always be with you.



dyanne 2009-09-14 22:22:18 -0500 Report

So sorry to hear about the loss of your dear friend. I hope you are doing okay. My thoughts and prayers go out to both of your families. May God Bless you all and help you through this difficult time.

hbkunkel 2009-09-14 20:53:42 -0500 Report

My thoughts and prayers go to you and his family. What a shame his wife had to be gone when he died. God bless all of you.
Hugs, Betsie

KarenH 2009-09-15 13:18:39 -0500 Report

Betsie, Thank you for your prayers. Yes, it was terrible that his wife was out of state when it happened. And hugs to you too! Karen

BLC 2009-09-14 19:57:57 -0500 Report

So sorry to hear about your dear friend. You are right this is a very serious illness. This made me realize as a type 1 myself that I certainly need to be taking better care of myself. May God send you healing.

tholz 2009-09-14 18:02:08 -0500 Report

My prayers are with you and his family. How bad to pass with wife out of town. My Aunt passed 2 yrs ago from diabects to. She didnt take care of her self

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