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bumblebee013
By bumblebee013 Latest Reply 2018-07-04 10:58:54 -0500
Started 2018-06-05 19:04:20 -0500

i was diagnosed with prediabetes last month and i've started running/walking and try to keep it up every day in hopes of preventing it. I'm not obese, a tad chubby at most and still in highschool. I feel like my life is over and no matter what i do i haven't been able to drop more than 2 pounds. I have a history with anxiety which makes me want to cry whenever i weigh myself only to find i haven't lost anything or i've gained back whatever i lost. The stress is getting to me, and i was told that raises my chances as well?? Sorry to be annoying but if anyone has any tips on how to cope with these feelings i would be v grateful.


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Stharpus
Stharpus 2018-07-04 10:58:54 -0500 Report

First, please take deep breaths and understand this is not the end of your life, but just another fork in the proverbial road. Another thing to keep in mind is understanding what type of diabetes you have. That has a big impact on your approach. Type 1 is an auto immune disease and ultimately causes your body to stop producing insulin. It will require insulin therapy to replace your body’s inability to produce insulin on its own. Type 2 is managed primarily through liefstlye choices and may also require medications. Notice I did not say diet and exercise. That is key to your long-term success. You are not dieting. That implies a temporary, short-term approach. We diabetics need to see these changes as lifestyle changes. How we approach food and exercise are key to long term health and happiness. Truth is, we should have been eating like this all along. The American Diabetes Association website has a great section on meal planning. I was recently diagnosed with Type 1. I am 56. I was completely overwhelmed by the diagnoses. I obsessed over my carbohydrate intake and was constantly stressed for the first few months. I have come to realize this is going to take patience and persistence to adequately manage my condition. You can do this. Take the excellent advice of the other commenters and be patient with yourself. You can do this.

onafixedincome
onafixedincome 2018-06-21 14:25:55 -0500 Report

Okay…First, your life is not 'over'. Honest. You have already done more than I had a chance to, and I'm cheering you on madly. :) Stress…oh, stress. Hate that stuff! May I suggest making an hour or so that is JUST for you, JUST to zone out somewhere quiet outside (no hiding indoors unless you really need to) where you can just sit or lie in the sun or shade and focus on…nothing. Just your breath, going in and out; just the wind moving the grass or leaves; not thinking much, just being. Sounds silly but it works for a lot of folks.

Second…You're NOT a 'mess', and the replies and post are great! Now…I hate goals. Surest way to make me fail is to set me a goal, so I just kind of sidle by and make changes I know can lead to where I want to be. I weigh myself maybe once a month. It's not depressing, it's just a number to take into account. (Ok I tell I lie—it's depressing when it's up. But focus on what needs to be done to bring it down, instead.)

Right now, the last thing you need is an eating disorder. The opposite of diabetes is NOT anorexia, okay? What you're aiming for now is to set up habits that over the long term will help you, not hurt you. Weight loss/change will come with time and consistent effort to make those changes into solid habits.

Weight is going to go up and down. Mine's been doing that over a six pound range (centered on around 240lbs) for YEARS. If I obsessed about it, I'd do nothing but sit and bawl and then eat out of stress. So I don't. It is what it is, and I focus on things like eating fewer calories with more protein, being a bit more active, and drinking at least a gallon of water a day—which for me, helps a lot.

Sorry to write a book, but YES you have tons of support here. Keep us posted on how you're doing—this group is a great bunch of folks!

suecsdy
suecsdy 2018-06-11 10:35:46 -0500 Report

Although I'm much older than you are, I've gone through exactly what you describe regarding weight. At 200 lbs and just a tad over 5 feet tall, I'm considered "morbidly obese". I'm actually not the humongous butterball that those words convey. (More of a dumpy pear shape). I was dxd 4 years ago and have been trying, mostly unsuccessfully ever since, to lose weight. I lose a little and immediately gain it right back. Last year it got to the point of obsession. Getting on the scale several times a day, crying every time there was no progress, berating myself for my failure. I finally recognized that I had a problem and it wasn't weight. I saw the dr, laid it all out and got help. I did make the changes when dxd with diabetes and have excellent control of that little beast, so just being overweight is not the only factor. You're lucky that you have been dxd early (I know it doesn't feel like it), because there's a good chance for you to turn this around and avoid serious damage to other parts of your body. It won't happen overnight, so be patient with yourself. You're on the right track already, just by not blowing this off as so many would do with a "pre diabetes" diagnosis. See if you can find a diabetes education class in your area. Many times you can find them for free or ins might cover it. Your life is far from over. You're just beginning an amazing journey, and you'll be doing it healthier than a lot of your peers. Good luck to you and I hope you check back with us from time to time to tell us how it's going.

Anyada
Anyada 2018-06-11 02:34:38 -0500 Report

All what I want to write to cheer you up… everyone already posted ;)
Its good you've started exercise.Exercise reduces levels of the body's stress hormones. You might split your goal smaller first like I wish to lose weight 0.2 pound then you just increase 0.4>0.6>0.8 its more fun to achieve small goal everyday :)
I would like to recommend to work out in the sun in the morning and afternoon at least 15 mins per day to get Vitamin D.
Vitamin D is the one that help insulin, pancreas and glucose working well together. Also good for your bone and overall health.

About diabetes you will be fine change your life style from now - change what you eat ( you can find recipe in this website) , eat more healthy food and vegetable ( I like to make it as smoothie), google which vegetables that help to balance/decrease blood sugar level then add in your meal, take a good care of your gut, eat more probiotic prebiotic etc. … Once your body get necessary nutrition enough it will help to reverse back naturally.

Here is a journal about Vitamin D.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC...

Gabby
GabbyPA 2018-06-09 11:17:52 -0500 Report

Don't make your life about numbers. Make it about feeling great. Doing the right things sometimes will take a while to show the benefits, but keep on doing things for yourself and don't stress the numbers.

Taking charge of it now will give you a HUGE head start over most of us here. Being proactive is a good feeling. It helps you feel control over a hard to control disease. You can do this.

Yes, stress adds to the mix. Find ways to find your zen place. It might with with music, it might be hanging with a best friend. Maybe just venting here and talking with others who understand what you are facing will help.

Be patient with yourself. Don't beat yourself up. Make some little goals and focus on those and you might be surprised what follows. Like when I was first diagnosed I dumped certain foods that were craving triggers and found after the initial struggle, I got over that bump and found some peace with it all.

We are all here to help you on your journey. It seems overwhelming in the start, but like every journey, it starts with one step at a time.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2018-06-07 22:30:55 -0500 Report

Hey bumblebee, it's great to meet you. Glad you found your way to this amazing community. It's good to hear that you are working on taking good care of your health. I am a therapist, and my clients have taught me a lot over the years about managing anxious thoughts. What I encourage you to do is not be hard on yourself. I think it takes time to figure out the best way to keep your weight under control. But when we're anxious to see results, it's only human nature to become impatient and self-critical, as well as to feel like kind of hopeless. I encourage you to be kind to yourself. Give yourself credit for deciding to take more control of your health. This may be a learning process. When you don't see results, take a step back and look at your approach to weight loss. A setback is just an opportunity to learn. It's only a failure if you decide to label as one. Instead, take a look at what you're doing to try and lose weight, and see where you can modify your approach. What else can you try? If you aren't sure, get some advice from your doctor about what you can do to lose weight in a healthy way. In other words, don't turn lack of weight loss into a catastrophe. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself. Change doesn't happen overnight, and neither do results. And yes, stress isn't good for anybody. Make it your intention to be give yourself encouragement. This is a process, one step at a time. I hope you will stay in touch with us. Let us know how you're doing.

Pegsy
Pegsy 2018-06-07 09:28:04 -0500 Report

Don't weigh yourself every day. That only adds to the anxiety. There are so many things that can affect your weight on a daily basis. Things like water retention from salty foods, that time of the month, etc. It's good that you're walking and running but you also have to control what you eat. Concentrate on real foods, not stuff that comes in a box, package or can. Eat meat, veggies and a little fruit. Avoid breads, potatoes, rice and pasta. Junk food like chips, candy and soft drinks will destroy any progress that exercise gives you. Don't expect to lose weight quickly. It takes time. Two pounds in one month isn't bad if you haven't yet made any diet changes. I lost a total of 97 lbs at about a pound per week and I have kept it off for 6 years. I'm glad you are trying to get control of the pre-diabetes now. I wish I had done that. I didn't get serious about my health until full blown diabetes kicked in. Be patient and don't give up.

bumblebee013
bumblebee013 2018-06-07 23:21:22 -0500 Report

That's really amazing that you did that!! I'll try to avoid the wheat based stuff as much as I can. I normally don't eat much processed food or soft drinks anyways. Thank you for leaving a comment. Means a lot :')

Type1Lou
Type1Lou 2018-06-07 09:26:15 -0500 Report

Being a teenager is stressful in itself…add your diagnosis to that and you are coping with a lot. Sorry about that but welcome to this site. Congratulations on taking the steps needed to better control your condition. Diabetes, as a chronic disease, can be well-managed and controlled with the right decisions and lifestyle changes. I'll be hitting my 42-year mark with diabetes this summer and am fully enjoying my now-retired but active life. Learn as much as you can about pre-diabetes and the steps you can take to control it. I found that by exercising regularly (for me that is now 55 minutes of aerobic exercise every other day) and by limiting my daily carbohydrate intake (currently at 110 to 115 total carb grams per day) I am able to successfully manage my diabetes and keep my weight steady at around 120 lbs. We are all different in the levels of exercise and carbs that will work for us since it depends upon many factors: age, gender, height, metabolism, activity level. Stress in any form can make it harder to control your blood sugars since stress hormones usually increase BG. Do you have a blood glucose meter? Walmart's Relion meter and strips are the lowest cost ones. Testing your BG and recording the results may give you some good data that helps reinforce that you are doing something right in your approach. If your numbers are too high, they will help direct you to where you might change some current habits. Is biology one of your current subjects? Can you incorporate learning about diabetes/pre-diabetes into some sort of science project that will help you and others around you understand what you and others deal with in trying to control blood glucose? Good luck…please keep us posted on what's happening.

bumblebee013
bumblebee013 2018-06-07 23:19:49 -0500 Report

Hi, thank you for the helpful tips! I've asked my mom and she said she'd look into the meters!! it's really dumb but all these kind comments made me cry… I'm so glad you're doing so great yourself! I will definitely try and follow your example. It's a little hard because most of our meals are rice centered and I'd have to cook something for myself if i don't want that, but recently my mom has been making an effort to make quinoa instead. I will be taking Biology in the fall and hope to improve my understandment of my body and it's state. I'm sorry this reply was a mess, I was a mess writing it. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Means a lot <3

onafixedincome
onafixedincome 2018-06-21 14:15:35 -0500 Report

Crying in and of itself is a release of stress. :) It can really help, believe it or not.

Kudos to your mom (and make sure she knows it) for working on the carbs in meals. Maybe the two of you can work together to cook lower carb and still get away with meals everyone likes?

Type1Lou
Type1Lou 2018-06-10 11:22:32 -0500 Report

One coping mechanism for people with diabetes is learning to find substitutes for the higher carbohydrate items in our diet (sadly, rice is one of them) There is "cauliflower rice" which I've tried (actually it's cauliflower that is made into rice-shaped bits) and I've found it works well as a substitute in rice dishes. There is a recipe section on this site that might be of interest. http://www.diabeticconnect.com/diabetic-recip...