Extremely high glucose

Anonymous
By Anonymous Latest Reply 2017-11-02 10:41:12 -0500
Started 2017-10-28 08:49:24 -0500

I need advise and or help. My husband is a driver and can’t take insulin or he loses his job for the past 6 months his sugar has been 540+ he refuses to go to dr says he feels fine and can’t lose his job. During this 6 months he has been extremely mean and hateful to me and now has told me he doesn’t want to be with me. We have had a great marriage up until his sugar went high. He has no emotions about telling me to get out of his life. We have been with each other for 7 years been in love for 20 years What do I do? He says he doesn’t care how I feel or what I think he could care less about us. He has never been this emotionaless since I have known him. He has always been a caring respectful man to everyone but all of sudden he doesn’t care! Help me I Dnt know what to do. I have left because he insisted and I have never seen him angers since I known him which is 30+ years. Help please someone tell me if this is due to his sugar or something else.

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4 replies

Stuart1966
Stuart1966 2017-11-02 10:41:12 -0500 Report

Unsure what he’s driving, taxi, airplane, boat

they all have licensing procedures for diabetics to perform those jobs. CDL requires them. It is not epilepsy. Diabetics drive just like everybody else with a couple safety measures and some backup supplies.

Stuart1966
Stuart1966 2017-11-02 10:34:26 -0500 Report

Hello Anon

What do YOU want to do?

Last time I checked no job in the world can stop you from taking the medication required to keep you alive, period. Can he drive when he is unconscious? Only so long he can remain 540+ without him ending up in an ER.

The blind rage, the hateful things… they are not “ok”. I agree with Lou. That said, are you willing to set all that venom he’s heaped on you, and still love him in spite of it?! High sugar, sustained for this long 1000% certain is causing lots of this… but even so, does not mean you have to suffer for that. He can change, but it’s on him. Some of us you have to drag to do so.

For him, I gladly apologize.

Type1Lou
Type1Lou 2017-10-30 16:35:34 -0500 Report

My sense is that your husband is not angry with you but is angry with his diabetes, with the fact that he cannot/will not control it and so, he feels powerless and frustrated and you have become an easy target for that frustration. The sad truth is that you cannot make him be responsible for his diabetes. At best, he is on the road to serious complications and an early death…at worst, his actions as a driver while being uncontrolled, could severely impact others, as Joyce noted in her reply. Trying to understand "why" he is doing what he is doing doesn't make it any easier for you to deal with. You love him and this hurts… Legally, I would advise you to consult with an attorney so that you can review your options. If you feel comfortable speaking with a clergyman, that might also help you. At this point, you need to be strong for yourself and take action to protect your interests.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2017-10-29 15:13:58 -0500 Report

Since I am not a doctor and will not tell you what to do because only you can figure that out, my guess is that your husbands behavior changed because he is not treating his diabetes. No one can help with that because he is the only one who can change his behavior. If he refuses to go to the doctor, he will get there when he passes out and we can all pray that this doesn't happen when he is driving. He could kill innocent people because he is too arrogant to take care of himself.

If it were me, i would not be concerned with him at all, I would be more concerned about families he can destroy and I would go to court and try to get an Emergency Petition to have the police take him to a hospital to get treatment because he is endangering himself and other people and he is doing it deliberately. Then I would get rid of him and let him pick up the pieces. If he has an accident and is injured or kills someone, he is going to lose his job anyway. If he doesn't take care of himself, diabetes will eventually cause his death. The end result is that he loses all the way around. The only person you can change is you and you cannot help someone who doesn't want help. The first step to getting help is admitting you have a problem. Your husband is not going to admit that he has a problem.