Is there anything to do about someone with 450 blood sugars.

By pandc Latest Reply 2017-10-17 07:09:52 -0500
Started 2017-10-06 18:53:33 -0500

My DH is going to be 65 & cannot control his eating. Since December he has had gangreen & lost his foot. He is blind out of one eye, had open heart surgery & is learning to walk with a fake leg. He still isn't controling his blood sugars & just wonder how much uglier it will get. Most days he is very mean & thinks everybody should wait on him. I just don't know what to do about him anymore. I am at my wits end. My A1c is 6.1 and his is 14.9

10 replies

Mallacai 2017-10-17 07:09:52 -0500 Report

Hi, you can do only so much. if only he knows how fortunate he has some one to be a support. Keep trying and hopefully he will see the light. My doctor says take them on the Urology ( renal failure ) Ward in a hospital and that will jolt them.

WASHED OUT 2017-10-12 11:04:33 -0500 Report

The solution has to come from your friend, if they are not receptive to trying to control their diabetes then you waste your time. It takes both commitment and effort to maintain good control.

baycityRick 2017-10-12 01:39:52 -0500 Report

A close acquaintance revealed his diabetes to me. He seemed reluctant to go to an endocrinologist and had high A1c's. He was dead after a stroke and heart attack. He just seemed to give up. He said he liked to eat, a big breakfast, for example.

Consueloj 2017-10-10 23:58:45 -0500 Report

A line from the movie The Shawshank Redemption, comes immediately to mind,
"Get busy living or get busy dying."
I hope he chooses life with you for as long as possible.

msann 2017-10-10 10:26:47 -0500 Report

sorry to hear of your situation but JustJoyce told you the truth if he has all that has happened and no change in his attitude praying for you

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2017-10-09 21:36:10 -0500 Report

There is nothing you can do to force someone to manage their diabetes or any other situation in life. The best thing you can do is prepare for his death because that will happen until he wakes up and decides he wants to change his ways.

Type1Lou 2017-10-09 08:42:12 -0500 Report

The sad truth is that you cannot make him manage his diabetes better if he himself is not committed to doing it. You may be able to limit his access to certain food items by not keeping them in the house, but, if he is determined to thwart you, he probably will. The only advice I can give you is to be certain that all legal papers are in order because his actions will hasten his meeting with the grim reaper. It is painful for you, I get that, because you love him. I'm so sorry you are going through this and sending you prayers for the strength you'll need.

pandc 2017-10-08 19:54:59 -0500 Report

He does take some insulin, but not enough & he doesn't care to control his carbs, he gets mad at me if I say anything…

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2017-10-12 14:37:20 -0500 Report

There you have it. He gets mad at you if you say anything. Stop saying anything to your friend. He is not receptive to you and odds are he isn't going to be receptive to anyone else.

My neighbors boyfriend was diabetic. Didn't listen to anyone. Lost a leg no change, lost the other leg, no change, she cried when he died a year later. Diabetes killed him. Sometimes it takes a building to fall on people to get them to listen.

Take care of yourself and stop worrying about your friend. The stress of worrying about him will effect you also.

Chris Clement
Chris Clement 2017-10-08 16:55:28 -0500 Report

Is he using insulin? If not, it may be a good discussion to have with his doctor. I don't know what to recommend when it comes to his mental health concerns, but 450 blood sugars probably need some insulin and reduced carbohydrates.

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