Family Events ~ How to handle them?

By KJudson9 Latest Reply 2017-06-22 21:32:44 -0500
Started 2017-06-17 12:43:16 -0500

It is Father's Day weekend. Hooray! :)

Seriously though, family events. How do you deal with them? Recently diagnosed and still trying to get myself under control…

OMG! I forgot to mention in my last post but I hit a HUGE milestone for myself!!! 133 fasting BG!!!!! Lowest I've had. I was in the green zone!

…okay, back on topic. Had to get that out of my system.

Family events. I am coming from being newly diagnosed Type 2. Was pre-diabetes since I was 15. So I had always cut out sodium, the uber sweets and whatnot. Had gotten bad when kids were little and I was working so we did a lot of processed foods but we got rid of them a few years ago. I drink a lot of water, avoided pop unless it was all that was available, and kept the sweets to a min mostly.

But with the weekend, the family is getting together and they are having pizza. Like Pizza Hut pizza. Now I used to work there way back. That turned me off to their pizza pretty well forever. Seeing the amount of oil put in, the quality of the ingredients, etc…UGH!

Currently working on lowering the carbs in my diet. I am set with 11 serving a day by my Nutritionist. 1500 calories. So working within that. Now I have a nice list with all the stuff I can have that are like free foods. And it has helped! But going to be with extended family who, while they diet a lot, eat a TON of processed foods make it hard to make healthy choices. I am still working on portion control and hot to count the carbs.

So I am hoping for one Aunt to bring salad. Nomnomnom. I am hoping for cheese pizza too. I can work with having a slice, small, and a large salad. But then there is likely a cake. Again, small. The person who makes it is always trying some new health recipe they have found. But the stuff always seems to come out dry, without much flavor, and like super dense. Or, they use like diet pop or aspartame and my asthma goes off! But she gets super insulted if you turn it down. Usually I would have gone with a tiny piece and drowned it in ice cream, then taken a hit of my inhaler.

So how do you deal with it? I am still working on trying to get hubby to lower his intake on foods to get his weight down too and not have him go Diabetic. We have two teenagers who eat like locusts and I am working to replace some of the less healthy foods with better choices for their future health. But it is hard when you go away from home and are surrounded by nothing but processed, high fat, high carb, high everything foods. You don't want to seem rude by bringing your own foods and you don't want to insult by turning down food, ya know? But how do I keep myself on what plan I NEED to be on without doing that?

6 replies

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2017-06-22 21:32:44 -0500 Report

Hey` KJudson9,

nice to see you. What you describe here is something I talk to my clients about pretty often. It's hard to stay on your diet at a family event, with so many people pushing food in your direction. I always recommend to clients that they team up with their spouse/partner to help them stay on the path. Here's a link to an article on this topic I wrote awhile back:

So, Father's Day is behind us at this point. How did you do?


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2017-06-19 21:19:29 -0500 Report

How you handle it depends on how much backbone you have. You don't have to eat the pizza any more than you have to have a piece of cake.

I do not take food to family gatherings. Everyone who knows me knows I can't stand pizza. I stopped eating it before being diagnosed. I ask what is for dinner and then ask if I can bring something. You can tell the host that you can't eat pizza and ask if it is okay to bring something you can eat.

I have a cousin who thinks she makes the best Rice Pudding on the planet. I swear she puts 20 lbs of sugar in it. The first time I tasted it, I was not diabetic and I had a sugar high for two hours. Now when she brings it, i won't touch it.

It is your health not their's, it is your diabetes not their's you control what you eat. If you have to tell them point blank that you can't eat the pizza and will bring what you can eat. If anyone says something, tell them to concern themselves with what they are eating not what you are eating.

The first family Thanksgiving, my cousin called and asked what I could eat for dessert. I told him not to worry about dessert for me, I will bring something. Everyone wanted to taste my sugar free Strawberry Mousse. they loved it. The next year I brought a no sugar added apple pie. I took it. It was not until the pie was gone that someone asked about it. I said it had no added sugar. They never noticed.

You and only you will have to stand up for you. If you don't, your family gatherings are always going to be a problem for you. Thankfully, I can eat a little bit of everything including desserts.

msann 2017-06-19 13:03:30 -0500 Report

hey lady i am not being mean i had to learn only you control what goes in your mouth so you are accountable to your self ate family gatherings or any place else jsut dont keep saying you diabetic eat in moderation and excercise track your foods drink your water and slowly you will start feeling better good luck

Consueloj 2017-06-18 18:42:21 -0500 Report

To maintani the blood sugar control I've worked so hard for I must continue to do what Iam doing. I take my own food pretty often if Im not sure what is being served. I will not eat what I know Im not suppose to. Just cant bring myself to do it! For me - I'd rather go without than eating something bad for me just to avoid someone elses potential hurt feelings. But Iam hard on myself . My health - my decision.

GabbyPA 2017-06-18 10:29:59 -0500 Report

I just posted a discussion on "Standing up for Your Way of Eating". It has some good tips in the article there.

It can be hard, but you have to choose your health or maybe insulting someone. There are ways to be polite, but sometimes you have to put your foot down. Work within your comfort zone and remind people that just because it's "healthy" or "sugar free" doesn't mean it's diabetic friendly. Fill your plate with what you can have, splurge if you feel safe doing so, but knowing your limit, even if others don't get it, will save you in the long run.

w8chd 2017-06-18 06:04:25 -0500 Report

A 133 reading is great. If that is your lowest then you are moving in the right direction. My goal is to get my 30 day average down below 150.
Sounds like your family is quite a challenge when it comes to getting together. That is something you have to handle as you see fit.